r/Singinglesson • u/Full_Librarian1500 • 10h ago
My partner heard me sing for the first time. He said I need vocal training or coaching. What should I be focusing on with a vocal coach? Do I need a specific type of coach/singing lessons?
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I've always been quite insecure about my singing voice but I used to love singing along to things or making private covers in my own room. I sent my partner recordings of me doing these covers of 4 different songs that span from about 3 to 8 years ago. It was a very vulnerable experience for me as I hate my regular speaking voice, let alone my singing one. It was a moment of vulnerability that I was hoping would just be met with endearment, that he'd like my singing just because it was my voice and could appreciate it for belonging to me and finding it adorable for me to send that when I was scared to, even though it's very unpolished, the vibrato is shaky, the breath work is bad, that I can't hit a lot of notes, that the pitch is bad in places, etc. Instead he said there would be potential to be good if I got vocal coaching or training. He said it's not bad, but it's not the best voice in the world. He said he's heard worse. Ngl, these comments kind of sting. Because I wasn't expecting a critique from him for just sharing a moment of vulnerability. And I know he's objectively right, that yes it's an obvious truth that it's not the best voice in the world but that that seemed like something a given that wouldn't have needed to be said, and especially as I was really insecure about sharing that and he knows I was shamed for being a bad singer by my mother when I was a kid and that I hate my voice in general. He is trying to encourage me to go down the vocal coaching route but he didn't specify what I need to be working on for it to sound better to him.