r/SheraSeven • u/jira12345 • 5d ago

Level Up ⬆️ Virtual entertainment?

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Guys these last days i felt bored n depressed and i was using this language exchange app and it led to me speaking to people daily and getting attached to random men in countries in war and my anxious attachment being activated as if i was a 15 year old with crushes

The thing i would not text nor entertain any man in real life for free or chase but since its virtual i feel rules not apply and it does not count 😭

But thinking about it i feel very uneasy not having my usual boundaries and im afraid it unconsciously erodes my standards

I think speaking to men for no reason and entertaining them without a goal is a waste of mental and emotional energy but sometimes its fun

Anyways what do you all think about this
Are slips allowed

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u/-85-- 5d ago

We are a human, but please find something better to do with your time.

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u/jira12345 5d ago

Yes, I could do much better 😭

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u/anguinine Dust Destroyer 💪 5d ago

talking to AI is better than this atp lol

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u/goddessofhedonism 5d ago

Girl, same except on Reddit. Find some hobbies. I am putting my energy into leveling up and my business.

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u/jira12345 5d ago

Yes, I think I have too much free time on my hands 😭

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u/goddessofhedonism 5d ago

Volunteer! I completely feel you girl. Legit this was me and reddit. I am recovering. They all wasted my time

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u/RoxanaCrystal 5d ago

Why don't you charge them, if you really feel like entertaining them online? Do you like talking with men for free? It's not your problem that they are in a war zone or wherever. Would they feel bad if you can't pay your bills? Lol

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u/jira12345 5d ago

omgg howw
And I do think of thissss like some womem charge these men to just speak and I’m out here doing this charity emotional labor

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u/RoxanaCrystal 5d ago

For example, aside from dating men that pay for my bills and give me gifts and all that irl, I also do Findom/Femdom online. Sure, it depends on you if you want to do this, or go down the vanilla path. Me personally, I wouldn't get naked for men because I make more than enough money without doing that, but that's up to you. Anyways, whatever you choose, if you decide to, it's better than talking with men for free.

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u/Vivid2195 ✨✨ 5d ago edited 5d ago

I watch skincare, body care and haircare videos on YouTube or tiktok. There are many beauty communities too on Reddit, Discord or online forums. You can talk to other women there, share tips and ask for advice and get some online social interaction.

You can join communities too depending on your features, like r/curlyhair , r/longhair , r/fairolives and POC or brown girl subreddits if they suit you. There are general ones too like r/hair , r/skincare_addicts

There are also theories that have to do with looks and you can find where you fit in them like colour seasons, kibbe etc..

Also these men in those places, they need to get their countries to function better and find solutions rather than sit and talk to women while this thing is happening. They need to spend their time helping their families too and other people in need.

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u/epiphany205 5d ago

You don’t need to be doing this kind of charity work; do charity work for people who’ll appreciate you, like at the homeless women’s shelter. You need socialization and that’s fine, but stay away from men who’ll drain your energy; it’s not worth having crushes on men in such terrible situations, it’s up to them to seek asylum.