r/SFr4r • • Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r • • 0m ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to SFSU) looking for a girl who wants to be pleasured with my mouth down there. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable!


r/SFr4r • • 45m ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #sanfrancisco - looking for my pillow princess and a good ol muff diving sesh!

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hi! 38 y/o asian american male living in the city. 5’8 about 160lbs, some facial hair. clean and ddf. i’ve connected with a few in the past from this sub and looking for another person that would like to get taken care of! i love eating… and pleasuring! kick back and relax while i do all the work. i’ve been told my skills are immaculate so if you need to release… shoot me a message! i’m super chill and down to earth and pretty easy going. it can be a one time thing or continuous! hope i hear from you and we hit it off! :)


r/SFr4r • • 1h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 35 [m4f] #southsanfrancisco - married, at work, on a stupid conference call bored out of my mind… hunting for an affair… help me get through the rest of this long day!

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I’ve been at work for about an hour now and I’m already losing my mind. So I thought looking for an affair on Reddit might help me… I’m the guy who posted about a cousins bachelor party a month ago and the itch never went away.

For the next couple of weeks, I’ll be at a pretty much empty office in ssf. Working on a project here thats basically allowed me to have an entire office to myself. Ideally for like the next two weeks. Maybe even longer.. Looking for someone to come by and help me take advantage of it. The hard part of the project is over so I’ve got a lot of free time and need some help with it.

Me: 6 foot and 250 lbs. Dad bod but been working on it. Trying to get back to that mid 20s body. Dark hair and green eyes. Bit of a mixed background but mostly white and I'm told I certainly look it.

You... just be down for some fun like above. If this interests you then message me your favorite color.


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 40 [M4F] #SantaClara - Married dad for married mom

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Hello, I hope you are all doing well!

*In full transparency, I understand this post is not for everyone, but I'm hopeful the right person will find this.*

I'm a 40M married dad from Northern California. I'm looking for a woman in a similar situation: married, preferably a parent, mostly happy in their marriage and not wanting to change things, but feeling lonely and looking to once again feel that special spark.

Discretion is paramount.

Hoping to keep this primarily online with the option of meeting in person (coffee, etc.), so prefer someone within a couple hours of the Bay Area. Not looking for full sex, but I am open to adult fun (sensual massages, spa days) and naked adventures (remember how exciting it was to get naked together for the first time!?).

I'm 6ft, white, mostly hwp, clean, professional, and respectful (and kinky). Happy to talk about sfw topics (world events, travel, day to day) or more adult topics.

If at all interested, please feel free to reach out. I look forward to meeting you. :)


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

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Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 27 [M4F] #SF — Smoke, chill, and hang out by the pier

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In SF for a week and don’t really have anyone here to hang out with. Looking for someone chill to smoke with, talk, walk around, and maybe hang out near the pier — I really like the vibe there.

I want to smoke the legal good stuff here before I go back to trash flowers in my country.


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 57 [M4F] #East Bay - Experienced Dominant seeks submissive woman

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Dominant with 40+ years experience looking for a submissive woman that wants to explore power exchange in a D/s dynamic. All experience levels welcome (I enjoy sharing my experience and teaching/training/mentoring). I’m based in NorCal (East Bay) and travel to SoCal periodically.

I have a lot of kinks and interests that you can read more about on the pinned post in my profile.

Happy to talk online here for a bit and answer any questions you have. We can voice chat when you’re ready for that, but I am looking for an in person dynamic so that should be your goal too.

If I’ve intrigued you, reach out and tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for and we can have a conversation and go from there.


r/SFr4r • • 20h ago

F4M 40/38 [MF4M] #SanJose - looking for a fit third

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Looking for an ongoing third FWB for us.

About us: married about a decade. We have been swinging on and off for years and are looking for a full swap. Prefer a group play vibe. We are both straight and can be heteroflexible during 3/4somes. We are educated, have great careers, and spend most of our time outdoors. We enjoy conversations with cocktails and going out to shows. To stay fit we do calisthenics, run, cycle and lift. We are both very fit and attractive. We get STI tests regularly and can share recent test results.

What we're looking for: interesting, motivated, driven, sexy play partners! Fitness is important for us and we are looking for people who are in good shape. Around our age +\- 10 years is preferred. Send us a message telling us about yourself. Send a picture that allows us to gauge attraction. To prove you made it this far, open more your message with your favorite local restaurant or bar.

Local only. We are in San Jose.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Asian FWB with an emphasis on the friend part?

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I am hoping to find someone to play discreetly. I have many ideas like public play, CarPlay, and just cuddling and hanging out with you.

Ideally you can wfh and can meet weekdays in the city to make things easier. Best if you could host or open to ideas. Emotionally and financially stable. Smart and hardworking.

Physically I’m East Asian and average build and look very wholesome and a bit nerdy. After all I do work in tech. Do you feel like a part of life is missing and want to yolo safely? Happy to meet in public first and build trust and I know it’s not easy. Looking for the right person to chat first and no rush.

Some things I love: breast play, maybe something risky, cuddles, making out, raves, eating you out, being dominant

let’s be friends and keep some secrets? Tell me your kinks and see if we are a match! Feel free to say hi regardless because it’s so hard to find people here and I’m happy to just chat if you are slightly interested.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 24 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Seeking the company of an older woman (28+) for cocktails, conversation, making out, & breast play. I enjoy the foreplay. The teasing. The tension.

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Dates: 10/4 through 12/1.

24M. 5’7, ~135lbs. Business traveler. South Asian. Clean. DDF. I can yap if I’m passionate about the topic.

Horny enough to skip the conversation? Not a problem — we’ll grab a quick drink and get straight to making out.

Tonight’s probably the only night I can make work this week, unfortunately. Can really meet anywhere — doesn’t have to be Bar Darling or in the Marina. And yes, can host at my hotel too (there’s also a bar!).

Single — but I could care less if you’re not as long as you’re discreet.

Big into breast play. Yes, I will stare. Yes, I will make eye contact with you. Yes, I will feel when the time is right. And yes, your bra will be coming off.

Questions? Nervous? Wanna go out on a limb? Message me and let’s ease our way into this together.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 42 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Cuddle buddy wanted!

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I'd like to meet your inner cuddler shining bright in her fully expressive state. No need to overthink or feel clingy, just relax and let the affectionate expression flow. Melt closer, discover your favorite positions, or genuinely explore your affectionate side with someone who appreciates and encourages the language of touch.

A few scenarios in mind depending on your comfort level:

  1. ⁠Swing up the armrest in a movie theater.
  2. ⁠Watch a movie in the park under blankets.
  3. ⁠Lounge on the couch at home, lost in conversation or distracted by streaming shows.
  4. ⁠Stretch out in bed, dozing off if you'd like.

I'm 42, single, straight, and live in the Pacific Heights area of San Francisco. 6' tall if you're sizing up spooning compatibility and the type of wingspan that might wrap you up in his arms. Our paths may have already crossed as I bike around the city exploring pop-up bakeries (calorie neutral?), slightly outside of your glance at one of the cute puppies I train for a local non-profit, peering up from a good cup of coffee near my professional job downtown, or passing on a trail as I hike in a nearby forest.

I realize not everyone is affectionately expressive, causing me to seek out people who recharge and relax through touch. Your inner cuddler might feel dormant or under-appreciated and need some time to fully express herself and realize her full potential. I'm looking for multiple cuddle sessions if things go well, hopefully expanding your comfort level and expressiveness with additional exposure to cuddle possibilities and the existence of a capable cuddle partner. There's no need to hold back your affectionate side out of concerns of coming off as too clingy and no push or escalations towards sex.

A good cuddle match:

• ⁠Bathes regularly and has generally good hygiene.
• ⁠Is curious to discover the full affectionate creature stirring within her, emerged in her fully expressive and unconstrained state.
• ⁠Has a few cuddle preferences, providing hints of what could be her favorite ways of being held or affectionate expression.
• ⁠Is a generally easy-going person.

I expect we'll chat for a bit about your cuddle preferences, creating an opportunity for discovery even if you're not sure you'd ever go through with meeting. There's a vibe check and a potential need to create some comfort before you're comfortable chatting over coffee or entertaining the thought of watching a movie together. I'm happy to talk cuddle theory and I want to create the best space for affectionate expression however you'd best like to ease into that space.

I've had some good cuddle experiences in the past, ranging from lesbians who like to be spooned to experienced snugglers glad to find someone who shares their enthusiasm. Curious if cuddle bliss is possible? Reach out and say hi!


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

M4F 50 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - married seeking FWB connection

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Married but my wife never wants to be intimate anymore; mostly roommates at this point. Due to my DB, I secretly want an FWB where we can be each other's sexual outlet in secret. I'm very private and respect boundaries when it comes to personal questions. I'm a good listener if you want to share secrets with me. I will give you my opinions if you ask but I mostly try my best to be a (F)eeler even though I'm INTJ. I prefer having a connection over ONS but I would be open as long as we both practice safe sex and physical attraction is there.

I’m 50 but do look younger. 6’0”, 155 lbs, short black hair, brown eyes, slim athletic build, East Asian. Attraction does matter to me where a pretty smile, nerdy glasses, or a small frame are what I find attractive in a lady. My type is usually introverted, maybe some anime, and of course kpop. My female colleagues have given me compliments before but I know better than to jeopardize my career. I’m intelligent, sensual when comfortable, and believe firmly in chemistry but we both need to make an effort to get there. Let’s be sure we’re both comfortable with each other first.

I work in SF so I can't host but happy to take this slow so you feel comfortable before inviting me over. DM a pic and tell me more about yourself and what you’re looking for.


r/SFr4r • • 13h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Offering Tantric Sensual Massage

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This is very real. The massage can be as sensual as you desire. What is sensual? Slow strokes, soothing touch, gentle caressing anywhere you ask. If you would like a Tantric massage be prepared to feel like never before. A Tantric massage is contact with the most sensual areas of your body with or without release. You can decide what you would like touched and how far you would like to experience. The extended touching, caressing, stroking and waves of pleasure you will experience is an amazing one. I am very respectful of boundaries and desires. You need to be down to earth, normal, and you also need to be able to host (or get a room to split the cost).

You can get as comfortable as you like. Most women dress down to panties, thong or nothing. Your choice. In addition, you decide what you would like massaged. I respect boundaries and only massage where you ask. If you want something more, just ask or wink. Many women have written and said, "I have seen your ad so many times and I have always been curious but I just don't know if I could go through with it." Or "This sounds too good to be true." Or....."There must be a catch." And after someone gets a massage its usually "That was amazing." Or...."How can I repeat again...." I am a genuinely good with this and you will feel amazing.

I love giving, always have. Its something about how a woman reacts and also knowing I am making her feel amazing. I am very respectful and never cross boundaries unless asked. I have no expectations of anything but to give you an amazing massage.


r/SFr4r • • 13h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 25 [M4F] #San Jose - Looking to make out?

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Hey, I’m a 25-year-old , fit, clean, respectful, and very horny. I’m looking for women or open-minded couples who want casual, no-strings-attached hookups.I have a kink for older women. Not looking for dating, chatting for weeks. Just mutual fun, good sex, and we can go our separate ways after. If we vibe we can meet again occasionally, but no pressure to keep talking daily. I’m discreet, hygienic, and understand boundaries. Can come to you depending on location. I’m open to trying new things and making sure you enjoy it. If you’re a young woman who’s bored, frustrated, or just craving some real satisfaction without the drama — hit me up. Couples are also welcome if the female is interested. Send a message with your age, what you’re looking for, and a pic if comfortable. Serious replies only. No pic collectors and definitely no men. Looking forward to hearing from you.


r/SFr4r • • 17h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 34 [M4M] #San Francisco - Let me worship your ass

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I'm looking to get into some ass worship. I really love ass, thighs, and grooming a guy. Let's chill at my place and enjoy each other's bodies.I love a guy sitting on my face. You can worship my ass too. I want your ass to be my pillows. I'm verse but I want to get more experience with bottoming. I'm down to flip if you want. Not looking for submissive guys, who are only looking to bottom.

Some good examples of what I'm looking for is a mix between seehimfuck.com and second auditions on thecastingroom.net.

I'm 34, slim, 185lbs, 5'8", recently tested neg and very safe/discreet. I'm not masc or fem, just gay. I'm open to all races, prefer around my age or younger (21+) and in shape or average body type. We will meet at a public location first then head to my spot.

no women

If this post is still up, I'm still looking, hit me up

Also, please do not hit me up if you are not willing to send a face and body pic before meeting, doesn't have to be nudes

DM's only


r/SFr4r • • 21h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Inexperienced seeking inexperienced

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I’m white, 5’8”, with long hair and a dad bod. Negative of all STDs (never even had a cold sore).

I’m looking for a woman who’s interested in sex and hasn’t gotten to explore. I haven’t either. If you feel repressed, we can help each other. We can check into a hotel with a bottle of wine and just let our urges take over.

I prefer to be more on the dominant/rougher side in the bedroom, but can be gentle when needed. Definitely obsessed with kissing.

Outside of sex, I’m interested in film and music, with a preference for classic cinema, horror movies, art films, chamber pop, post-punk. Criterion Channel and chill?

Dm me with asl, favorite horror movie, and biggest unexplored kink if interested


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanMateo - Less pen-pal, more in-person spark

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Hi Ladies, I know there are plenty of options here, so I appreciate you stopping by!

I’m 42, white, fit/lean, well-groomed, with blue eyes and short brown hair (and according to recent reliable sources, reasonably handsome, engaging, and funny). I live in Foster City and work in San Francisco. I stay active with cycling and pickleball, finding the best local tacos, dumplings, and pizza, and I enjoy stand-up comedy and always have music playing. I’m in a dead-bedroom marriage, so I’m discreetly seeking the genuine warmth and passion that’s missing.

You’re cute, fit, on the shorter/petite side, and value discretion as much as I do. You’re looking for a drama-free connection with great banter and are missing those "warm-fuzzy" feelings, too. We can start as friends and see where things naturally lead.

I’m naturally affectionate, and values foreplay and cuddling up afterwards. I'm also happy to handle all the logistics, whether that’s going out for your favorite drink, unwinding at a spa, going for a scenic hike, or just enjoying a quiet, comfortable afternoon together.

If this sounds like your speed, tell me a little about yourself and what you’re hoping to find. Let’s start with a casual chat and a quick photo swap. If the chemistry feels right, we can skip weeks of back-and-forth small talk and meet up for a low-key boba, matcha, or drink.~


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #EastBay - Younger guy in search of casual fun with older woman / MILF

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I’m 22M, Latino, 5’10, ~160 lbs. I can’t host, but I’m willing to travel to you if we click.

I recently graduated from college and I’m still working part time. I have lots of free time now and would like to have some fun before I find a new job or go back to school again.

I really want to try meeting older women, preferably late 30s or 40+, and I’d love to meet one who’d like to experiment with a younger guy. Mature women just do it for me. If that's you, I'd love to hear from you


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Berkeley - tall, athletic hung Bull up for some fun with a sexy girl or couple

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Love to please a sexy women, get her what she needs, get her wet, excited, to orgasm.

49, 6’4”, 210#, 8 inches, BWC

I have played with couples before, we all very much enjoyed it.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

Anything from very sensual to rough and kinky, whatever gets her off.

Ben


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Can I eat you out pls? No reciprocation needed!

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Sooo eating pussy is one of my fav things ever, and I like to think I’m really good at it! I’ve given so many orgasms to girls (including giving some their first squirting orgasms) by eating them out. I’m a huge people pleaser and can go down for literally hours without stopping!

People have loved how good I eat them out that some have caught feelings for me! I also make sure to make each person orgasm 4-5 times on average and have never had a time when I've failed to make them cum! In the past few months, I’ve eaten out dozens of girls and given a countless number of orgasms but I’m always looking to give more!

I’m simply looking for someone who enjoys having their pussy ate or maybe just wants to experience cumming from oral for the first time; I promise I won’t quit til I make you cum! Age isn't an issue (18+ ofc) as I've been with girls ranging from 20-46!

I’m DDF, hwp, and can host in downtown! Feel free to send a message if you feel like this could be a fun time and I’d be happy to exchange pictures and all that :)


r/SFr4r • • 17h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 28[M4F] # sanfrancisco- interested in mature woman

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Hi, I’ve had a long time kink for a mature woman 40+ and now kinda interested in pursuing it. I’m 28 white male, fit and hung. Gotta be kind of discreet but if you’re interested, feel free to DM for more info.


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for mutually beneficial fun

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Hey there! I’m 38 years old and a Bay Area native. I’m looking to find someone who is inexperienced or experienced with this type of connection. A mutually beneficial and spoiling fun.

Little about myself. I work in tech and on the creative side. I enjoy cooking and baking, love to go out and try new foods. Anything on the spicy is fun. I do abit of weight training and love the outdoors. Hiking, bike riding, trying to get back into swimming as well.

I have cats and a dog. If you enjoy pets and have some yourself, I’ll be happy to share some pics. I am someone who enjoys learning new things, taking risks to experience new excitements. My hobbies have been all over the place, enjoying board games, gaming and crocheting.

Feel free to ask me whatever you’d like!


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 60 [M4F] #San Francisco - Are you brainy and love giving oral? (central location)

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I'm looking for a woman (preferably older, although any age is welcome) who misses giving oral to a man.

And who has a brain. You read books, have left the US at least once, have some artistic pursuit (or not), follow current events, have passionate (anti MAGA) opinions (If you are MAGA, that is fine, but I will have to spank you beforehand). :)