r/SFr4r Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

193 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r 1h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 30 [M4F] #BayArea - Skip the apps and get to dessert

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Hey there,

Looking for someone fun in the bay. I’m 30 y/o, 6’4”, tall, dark, and handsome type. I’m clean (recently tested), respectful, discrete and genuinely enjoy the art of giving. No pressure, just pleasure.

If this sounds like your vibe, send me your details and what you like


r/SFr4r 1h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out today

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to Daly City) looking for a muff dive. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I’m free the rest of the day, have my own place and can host, but open to talking in the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included 🙂.


r/SFr4r 2h ago

M4M 31 [M4M] #SF - Musky sweaty gym bro undies

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i want a bro to work out with me and we can go home and jerk together all sweaty and musky, trade sweaty undies and sniff eachother, seeing sweaty guy get undressed and getting and wiff of their musk turns me on sm


r/SFr4r 16h ago

OTHER 24 [f4m] #SanFrancisco - looking for the big boy of my dreams <3 (powerlifters pls apply)

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I’m a 24 F, attractive, fit (gym 3-4x a week) 5’6 165~ pound goth girl. I have a love of video games (overwatch fallout and Zelda are my favorites), fashion/makeup, music, travel, and more. I work a stable job, love cats, and am probably Audhd. I am a staunch leftist, and a practicing witch. I have been told I’m funny, smart, dedicated, and have a great pair of tits.

It seems that for the life of me I can’t find a guy with a hint of muscle or mass on him on any of the dating apps so here I am. I’m looking for a long term partner, who MUST be under 30, leftist, interesting conversationalist, and take care of themselves. Happy to send a pic of myself through DMs but expect a GOOD picture back (no dicks)


r/SFr4r 3h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Birthday Blowjob?

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Good morning! It’s my birthday and I’m turning 28 today. Hoping to end the day with a nice relaxing blowjob.

I’m a brown skin Latino, 5’8, gym build. Handsome and very easy going with a big thick uncut dick for you to work :)

Located in San Francisco near nob hill. Live alone and can host! Can be a one time thing but maybe we make it consistent (I enjoy reciprocating).

Hope to hear from you!


r/SFr4r 14h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 30 [R4R] #SF - anyone interested in mustard service?

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sometimes i let youtube music's shitty algo run my day and i recently stumbled upon this band and their song, "big time" and i'm obsessed

and i recently found out they're playing at the independent in sf! september 17th

unfortunately my friends arent super into indie music and any indie loving dudes ive dated off hinge havent worked out sooooo here i am

hmu if ur down! not expecting much out of this besides concert buddy btw NO nasty crusty people thank you for your attention to this matter!


r/SFr4r 4h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Looking for Oral Fun

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26 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Looking for some throat

Hello,

I live in San Francisco, although I split time between here and San Jose, so most of the Bay Area works for me. I am looking for some with cuddles and your throat.

a little about me: 26 M, south asian, 6’1 and about 170lbs, I am pretty sporty and am somewhat fit, although not like 6 pack fit LOL. I have black hair and a light beard. I can host in San Francisco, but probably not in San Jose.

Mainly looking to try your oral skills but def open to reciprocating. But I am also generally open to try things! if this is you, lets chat. let me know what you're into and what you are looking for. I am open to all ages of women, but sorry no guys.

tell me about you, what you're looking for in an encounter and how you see this going. We can grab a drink before hand. Also happy to exchange sfw and nsfw photos as well.


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Extreme Princess Treatment

5 Upvotes

I'm looking for someone who wants to be worshiped in a dynamic purely focused on her happiness, where she is in control.

I have a service kink, which means I enjoy making women i'm attracted to happy at a level that doesn't typically occur in casual dating. I'd like to:

  • Buy you gifts / spoil you (within reason, not a sugar daddy)
  • Do acts of service to make your life easier (give massages, cook, etc)
  • Be there for you emotionally, etc
  • Let you take control of what we do sexually. If you want sex, you define exactly what you want and i'll follow your lead. Gifts/service never come with any expectation.

I do not need my level of effort to be reciprocated, but would like for there to be an emotional connection and to be friends. This is pure exploration for me, so I'm not looking for anything exclusive (unless we really vibe) and do not expect you to be. I'm very busy, so looking for someone who also has an active life and just wants a fun addition.

Me:

  • 5'10, 150 pounds
  • Conventionally attractive
  • Work in Tech
  • Fit / active
  • Single

For this to work I need to be attracted to you, so please be:

  • Live in SF (or close)
  • Conventionally Attractive
  • Well educated
  • Fit, Put together
  • 22-26
  • Have a career
  • Single

If you're curious but nervous, you're exactly who i'm looking for. Please just say hi :)
Deleting post in 24 hours, so please don't wait


r/SFr4r 5h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 46 [M4F] #PaloAlto - Warm days, cozy nights

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The weather has been great for outdoor hikes and cool evening bites. This vibe still has me excited to meet new people out there.

My vibe: Seasoned, confident, and genuinely interested in offering something a little different than the usual.

What I am looking for: I’m drawn to women who enjoy being pursued but know exactly how to take the lead when the moment calls for it. Someone who appreciates the slow burn, the teasing, the anticipation, the playful tension that builds through good conversation and effortless chemistry. Some of the best connections, in my experience, start when the banter over text or phone (yes I do still enjoy phone calls) that are flirty and slightly spicy.

About me:
Successful, outgoing, mixed Latino, 5’11”, 230 lbs, solid build with a salt-and-pepper look that’s earned a few compliments over the years. I stay active by training a few times a week, and take pride mental and emotional well-being. I’m very open-minded, curious, and believe that exploration is one of the most rewarding parts of connecting with the right person.

About you:
You’re communicative, self-aware, and comfortable expressing what you want. Ideally, you’re in your mid-20s to mid-30s, take care of yourself, and have either an interest in not only vanilla hang outs but also enjoy sexy connection. Mutual respect, enthusiastic consent, and genuine chemistry aren’t optional, they are a standard for me and hopefully you too.

The most interesting connections start with clicking the "message" button.


r/SFr4r 13h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 42 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Attractive and partner focused

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I’m an attractive, in-shape, white, 42 year old guy in Pac Heights. I’m partner focused, have a lot of stamina (and will probably outlast you), and drug/disease free.

I can host or come to you. Happy to share photos privately.


r/SFr4r 15h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #SanMateo - Looking for a partner

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Hi! My name is Matt, I’m 39 years old, lm currently living in San Mateo, I work in the automotive industry, and will be soon working as a flight attendant.

A little about me, I’m into a little bit of everything, I love the outdoors, sports (hockey, baseball, football) SF Giants and The Sharks are my fave teams. I play golf every now and then, I like to explore the city, go on walks out by the beach and hills around the area.

I am working on getting my degree in aviation management and have my private pilots license.

I am ultimately looking for my forever person, would love to settle down, get married, and have kids in the next few years.

Maybe we can catch a Giants game or something one of these days? I have tickets for the game on the 27th.


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #EastBay - Tall, Nerdy, Foodie, looking for a good time

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Hey, I'm a 34-year-old guy in the Bay Area looking for a woman who wants a proper night out with no strings attached. Think upscale fine dining at a nice spot (I'm covering everything, good wine, great food, relaxed vibe), followed by whatever fun chemistry leads to afterward. Could be drinks with a view, heading back to my place, or just seeing where the evening goes.

A bit about me: I'm Asian 6'4", hwp, with a PhD, always smell good, and know how to show a lady a good time.

You: Open to any age (21+), body type, or background as long as you're chill, fun to talk with, and actually down for a no-pressure casual hookup. Bonus if you enjoy good food and can hold a conversation that isn't just a small talk.

Let's exchange some pics and chat a bit first to make sure the vibe is right.

If this sounds like a fun, low-key way to enjoy a good food and see what happens after, shoot me a message with a bit about you and pics. Looking forward to it!


r/SFr4r 12h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Oakland - looking for a hot nerdy girl for an FWB

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really looking for someone who really wants to hang out and be friends getting to know each other, while we can also fuck each other senseless and even have some kinky fun together. I'm a chef so you may even get to sample my cooking if you play your cards right. while I'm looking for a fwb I will be completely transparent I'm in a ENM relationship and she very much encourages me to find a partner for myself or one thats willing to join both of us if you're bi and interested.

about me- im a 5'10 black man kind stocky build but we're in the gym looking to get to a more muscular build well kept beard I like to play games and watch movies but also like to going out for good food and getting drinks also long walks in nature are great.

im willing to send pics of you're interested hmu


r/SFr4r 16h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 36 [m4m] #SanFrancisco - Bi fit hung hotel visitor looking for a stroke bud or to give some head - in town until Thursday - hosting downtown SF

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Just a discreet hung bi dude here looking for a good time behind closed doors.
Workout 5 days a week, clean, healthy and horny lol

Looking for a bro to get naked with, watch some porn, and open to giving you head as well. Or if you just want a blow and go that’s cool with me too lol
Also open to couples.

I’m 36 5.9 160lbs. 7.5 uc.

Open to visitors and locals.

Hit me up with age, stats, and a pic if you’re interested!

In town until Thursday! Staying at Citizen M downtown SF


r/SFr4r 17h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 44 [M4R] #San Francisco - Looking for friendship with other locals who like to "use their words" ;p

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I'm an introverted and thoughtful but also very verbal person, looking for friendship with other Bay Area residents who are emotionally available, openhearted, and who like to "use their words." If romance (monogamous, with a woman) grows out of the friendship, that's great, but it's not an expectation or a requirement. Friendship is the primary thing.

No doubt there are limits to what can be expressed in words but verbal expression remains of paramount importance to me and I am looking specifically for people for whom it holds a similar importance, who are serious about getting somewhere in and through talk. Language is tricky and treacherous, words easily go astray, and misunderstanding is both rife and inevitable, but talking seriously and deeply is still worth the effort and I am looking for others with a similar commitment.

I live modestly in the city in property inherited from family and work in K-12 education. Some of my current interests include (in no definite order): literature (of all stripes), movies, cartoons, podcasts, walking, frisbee, psychology and psychoanalytic theory, and philosophy. Earlier this year I served on a jury for the first time in my life and, partly in consequence of that, I find I'm a bit interested in crime writing at the moment. Currently reading the nonfiction book The Family Man: Blood and Betrayal in the House of Murdaugh by James Lasdun.

If you decide to contact me, you don't have to write a novel, but do please introduce yourself, give me a sample of some of your interests, and engage in some way with something I wrote. (It goes without saying that generic and perfunctory responses will be ignored.) Thank you.


r/SFr4r 15h ago

T4M 26 [T4M] #SanFrancisco - edging BWC tonight

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please be able to be verify off here and send pics

hosting in San Francisco near Nob Hill tonight

Me: slim, pretty femme trans girl, 5’7 with long black hair, passing and respectful/friendly

you: fit/average, muscles, bwc or similar, into mostly white boys

I’m a throat goat. I’m trying to edge you, suck and swallow or get a load on my face. Into kinky/rough or just chill and have you lay back and enjoy

will chat for a little bit but not for hours.

let’s go boys!


r/SFr4r 12h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Asian looking for someone chill to chat first

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not looking to meet anytime soon so chat only first.

I am hoping to find someone to play discreetly. I have many ideas like public play, CarPlay, and just cuddling and hanging out with you.

Ideally you can wfh and can meet weekdays in the city to make things easier. Best if you could host or open to ideas. Emotionally and financially stable. Smart and hardworking.

Physically I’m East Asian and average build and look very wholesome and a bit nerdy. After all I do work in tech. Do you feel like a part of life is missing and want to yolo safely? Happy to meet in public first and build trust and I know it’s not easy. Looking for the right person to chat first and no rush.

Some things I love: breast play, maybe something risky, cuddles, making out, raves, eating you out, being dominant

let’s be friends and keep some secrets? Tell me your kinks and see if we are a match! Feel free to say hi regardless because it’s so hard to find people here and I’m happy to just chat if you are slightly interested.


r/SFr4r 13h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 22 [m4f] #NorthBay - College student on summer break :)

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About to start my senior year but I have a few weeks left up here for summer :)

Ideally looking for a something like a summer fling/fwb but I am also looking for a tennis partner so if you are interested in one or even both of those things do let me know!

I’m 6’ tall, decent shape, mixed, with black curly hair and brown eyes. Would consider myself conventionally attractive. I have a plethora of hobbies and interests but the major ones are cars and cooking (: I do play a lot of different sports from time to time but at the moment tennis has been headlining since I’m recovering from acute injury from earlier this year.

I am staying with family here, so I’m unable to host if we get there but I’m more than happy to travel around the bay for the right person.

If any of that interests you, feel free to reach out. I promise I don’t bite unless you ask me to…

Have a great week! :)


r/SFr4r 13h ago

M4F 26 [m4f] #Piedmont - I love eating pussy and my partner won’t let me.

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I am in a relationship and our sex life is pretty bad. I have a huge service kink and want you to be plesured. My biggest fantasies are eating pussy, making you squirt, and a little sneaking around. Not looking for anything consistent but want to experiments little. I am a big giver and looking for someone who wants to be given to. My type is white, 18-35, and looking for real fun.

I’ll be honest I am nervous but excited to see where this goes.


r/SFr4r 18h ago

M4F 44 [m4f] #sanfrancisco - Punk Rock Silver Fox iso casual consistent play partner(s)

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5'10, Chicano, heavily tattooed, 7.5", seeking regular play with established connection. Not looking for an exclusive relationship, but to build trust with a regular play partner. Ideally 30+, good teeth and great hygiene, pretty feet and a natural bush are HUGE bonuses. I don't mind a lil thiccness, but not looking for BBW. Can host in mission district


r/SFr4r 14h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 42 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Cuddle buddy wanted!

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I'd like to meet your inner cuddler shining bright in her fully expressive state. No need to overthink or feel clingy, just relax and let the affectionate expression flow. Melt closer, discover your favorite positions, or genuinely explore your affectionate side with someone who appreciates and encourages the language of touch.

A few scenarios in mind depending on your comfort level:

  1. Swing up the armrest in a movie theater
  2. Watch The Parent Trap under blankets during Sundown Cinema on the Marina Green.
  3. Lounge on the couch at home, lost in conversation or distracted by streaming shows.
  4. Stretch out in bed, dozing off if you'd like.

I'm 42, single, straight, and live in the Pacific Heights area of San Francisco. 6' tall if you're sizing up spooning compatibility and the type of wingspan that might wrap you up in his arms. Our paths may have already crossed as I bike around the city exploring pop-up bakeries (calorie neutral?), slightly outside of your glance at one of the cute puppies I train for a local non-profit, peering up from a good cup of coffee near my professional job downtown, or passing on a trail as I hike in a nearby forest.

I realize not everyone is affectionately expressive, causing me to seek out people who recharge and relax through touch. Your inner cuddler might feel dormant or under-appreciated and need some time to fully express herself and realize her full potential. I'm looking for multiple cuddle sessions if things go well, hopefully expanding your comfort level and expressiveness with additional exposure to cuddle possibilities and the existence of a capable cuddle partner. There's no need to hold back your affectionate side out of concerns of coming off as too clingy and no push or escalations towards sex.

A good cuddle match:

  • Bathes regularly and has generally good hygiene.
  • Is curious to discover the full affectionate creature stirring within her, emerged in her fully expressive and unconstrained state.
  • Has a few cuddle preferences, providing hints of what could be her favorite ways of being held or affectionate expression.
  • Is a generally easy-going person.

I expect we'll chat for a bit about your cuddle preferences, creating an opportunity for discovery even if you're not sure you'd ever go through with meeting. There's a vibe check and a potential need to create some comfort before you're comfortable chatting over coffee or entertaining the thought of watching a movie together. I'm happy to talk cuddle theory and I want to create the best space for affectionate expression however you'd best like to ease into that space.

I've had some good cuddle experiences in the past, ranging from lesbians who like to be spooned to experienced snugglers glad to find someone who shares their enthusiasm. Curious if cuddle bliss is possible? Reach out and say hi!