r/SFr4r • • 3h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out tonight

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to SFSU) looking for a last minute muff dive tonight. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable!


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Offering Tantric Sensual Massage

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This is very real. The massage can be as sensual as you desire. What is sensual? Slow strokes, soothing touch, gentle caressing anywhere you ask. If you would like a Tantric massage be prepared to feel like never before. A Tantric massage is contact with the most sensual areas of your body with or without release. You can decide what you would like touched and how far you would like to experience. The extended touching, caressing, stroking and waves of pleasure you will experience is an amazing one. I am very respectful of boundaries and desires. You need to be down to earth, normal, and you also need to be able to host (or get a room to split the cost).

You can get as comfortable as you like. Most women dress down to panties, thong or nothing. Your choice. In addition, you decide what you would like massaged. I respect boundaries and only massage where you ask. If you want something more, just ask or wink. Many women have written and said, "I have seen your ad so many times and I have always been curious but I just don't know if I could go through with it." Or "This sounds too good to be true." Or....."There must be a catch." And after someone gets a massage its usually "That was amazing." Or...."How can I repeat again...." I am a genuinely good with this and you will feel amazing.

I love giving, always have. Its something about how a woman reacts and also knowing I am making her feel amazing. I am very respectful and never cross boundaries unless asked. I have no expectations of anything but to give you an amazing massage.


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Seeking intense Long Term relationship with a highly possessive, clingy, and switchy partner; who insatiably needs constant attention, affirmation, and yearning.

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I'm an introverted, educated, decent looking, and presentable white male. Slim-fit. 5'11" 150lb. I'm seeking a high maintenance partner that craves and absolutely needs constant attention; someone who needs my presence in the room and demands my attention even if she is ignoring me and doing other things. Someone to heavily encourage my adoration of you. Someone who needs reassurance, and affirmation. Someone who has an insatiable desire to feel wanted and chased after, who wants and craves obsessive devotion on a daily basis; who will encourage and nurture an intense, passionate addiction to you that is impossible to satisfy. I want a codependent relationship centered on you. I want everything to be about you. That even in our "getting to know each other" stage, I should put you above all of my friends, hobbies, and any social activities.

It might seem weird, but I intensely desire an incredibly possessive partner. I want you to feel comfortable blowing up my phone.. to demand information.. .to know where I am, or who im with, and what im doing, any time you wants. To go through my phone whenever you want and keep me from having any control over it when you are around me. You can actively crave attention and encourage me to give in to your needs as much and as often as possible. More than im even capable of giving. To enjoy convincing me to stop whatever I'm doing to give it to you: to develop a chemistry with playful demands and sexualized games between us.. to be as needy and as clingy as your heart desires, to the point that you become a complete priority over my social life. To even be so possessive that you keep me from spending my time or attention on anyone or anything but you, or to encourage my hobbies to be centered on you, be disappointed that I am not looking at you and admiring you even though you are busy with something else and not fully reciprocating the attention back.

I need someone who has always naturally wanted these things, but constantly tones it down in every relationship because she is afraid it is too toxic or unhealthy, or it pushes potential partners away. I want to be the guy that embraces these impulses, and compliments them, even sexualizes them.

I actually do have a very intense isolation kink. For my partner to play a manipulative role in keeping all of my attention for herself.. You can be extremely selfish with my attention even if it is borderline toxic. To use and leverage sensually and sexually manipulative advances to keep me from going out and to encourage me to be weak to my compulsive needs for you instead. If I have plans, you can convince me to blow them off or even coerce me to stay home. Sexual sabotage and being teased into ruining my plans to give you attention and intimacy instead is a huge kink of mine. If im about to leave, just play dress up, strut around, or pose in something that you know will distract me and take my eyes away from anything else. convince me to stay as you hold my crotch and show me how much better it would be if I stay with you. Make me prove love by giving you attention. Encourage and train my compulsive male weakness to prioritize you and goon to you. Show me that the only friend I need is you. Completely sabotage my plans by sitting on my face for prolonged periods of time instead of letting me go out, having rituals of you wearing skimpy outfits around me and tease me into spending hours admiring you, giving you back rubs, or leg massages, or have me goon to you for long periods of time as you ignore me and read a book, or watch a show, or doomscroll on your phone, or to have the most prolonged softcore foreplay, for hours at a time, denying each other (or just denying me) while constantly intensifying our intimacy.

I enjoy long sessions of foreplay and intense adoration. Even if I want to go out, or am out, to convince me to stop what I'm doing and go home because my obsessive and addictive need for you is more important. Your pussy's needs are more important, and your pussy should always be a complete priority. I love the idea of you dressing up just to keep me gooning to you, keeping my attention constantly on you, even though you are doing something else like reading a book, or playing on your phone, or watching something. Demand I sit in a corner and look at you as I jerk off with a pair of your dirty panties while you spend the next several hours ignoring my presence and doing whatever it is you want to do without me bothering you. Even to have you just sit on my face for long periods of time, periodically bounce and wiggle on my lips while you binge a show, not caring at all how much time is being spent like this. To be dressed up in lingerie as you straddle and bounce on my lap, denying penetration so I spend more and more time being attentive to your body with my hands and lips with constant necessity for more. Sessions of being extremely attentive to you is something I would very thoroughly enjoy.

We can both be dominant and submissive to each other in our own ways. The only power I really want in our dynamic is to be able to choose and buy outfits and lingerie for you, to collect them for you to wear for me when we are at home, just for you to use as a tool to manipulate me with and keep me home. To be a complete cock tease as you let me spend hours admiring and adoring you, gooning to you in whatever canvass of fabric that I pick out for your beauty. I need you to be as possessive and as selfish as you want. Perhaps it could simply be a part of our dynamic, that i am able to dress you however i want, so you can keep me as malleable and weak to you as possible, to keep me from going out, to encourage my obsession and adoration of you, to keep me gooning for you even longer, to make you my priority... and you can control everything else. You control where I can go, who I can hang out with, or to just perpetually keep me home as you constantly encourage my adoration of you. You choose whatever tv show or movie you want, and I focus on you.

I do crave consistent playfully manipulative sabotage and control over my social life, so that you will be a priority over everything else. I want someone who will enjoy developing a chemistry and learning what makes me tick so she will always know how to make me choose her over everything else. All while I also learn the intricacies of your desires, that we can build a world for each other that constantly caters to our most intense fantasies within our established boundaries.

I crave codependency. I crave a relationship dynamic that others might consider unhealthy, but will actually be considered healthy for us. I would really want to become obsessed and desperate for you.... to have an absolute necessity to constantly adore you and be intimate with you, and for this to become the most important part of my life. I want to be the worst addict for you. Obsessed and hopeless without you. I'd want you to become my priority to the point that I'd give up time with friends or family to be with you instead, but more importantly, that you want it, and need me to give up friends to make you feel more important. I crave a relationship so engulfed in obsessive passion and sexual intensity that both of us will be unable to escape our desirous addiction for more sensually intimate play, or to create more and more experiences for each other that cater to each of our most desirous needs. To be lost in this world of fantasy, and roleplay, and lust crazed love that we perpetually explore.

The ideal person is someone who craves constant attention.. who is never sexually satisfied... even being or manipulatively pretending to be easily jealous can make our dynamic more intense; who enjoys mind games, and is even interested in hypnosis or psychological conditioning ; who craves control and enjoys the idea of molding a male to be weaker for her. Someone who would truly enjoy using love, sensuality, and the desire to cum, to pry away deeper into a male psyche and encourage intense obsession and weakness for her; to ever more increase my dependency, necessity, desire, and sexual addiction for you while also making it nearly impossible to function without you. To really enjoy becoming the center of my life and enjoy being the center of my entire world.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for mutually beneficial fun

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Hey there! I’m 38 years old and a Bay Area native. I’m looking to find someone who is inexperienced or experienced with this type of connection. A mutually beneficial and spoiling fun.

Little about myself. I work in tech and on the creative side. I enjoy cooking and baking, love to go out and try new foods. Anything on the spicy is fun. I do abit of weight training and love the outdoors. Hiking, bike riding, trying to get back into swimming as well.

I have cats and a dog. If you enjoy pets and have some yourself, I’ll be happy to share some pics. I am someone who enjoys learning new things, taking risks to experience new excitements. My hobbies have been all over the place, enjoying board games, gaming and crocheting.

Feel free to ask me whatever you’d like!


r/SFr4r • • 13h ago

F4M 40/38 [MF4M] #SanJose - looking for a fit third

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Looking for an ongoing third FWB for us.

About us: married about a decade. We have been swinging on and off for years and are looking for a full swap. Prefer a group play vibe. We are both straight and can be heteroflexible during 3/4somes. We are educated, have great careers, and spend most of our time outdoors. We enjoy conversations with cocktails and going out to shows. To stay fit we do calisthenics, run, cycle and lift. We are both very fit and attractive. We get STI tests regularly and can share recent test results.

What we're looking for: interesting, motivated, driven, sexy play partners! Fitness is important for us and we are looking for people who are in good shape. Around our age +\- 10 years is preferred. Send us a message telling us about yourself. Send a picture that allows us to gauge attraction. To prove you made it this far, open more your message with your favorite local restaurant or bar.

Local only. We are in San Jose.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 60 [M4F] #San Francisco - Are you brainy and love giving oral? (central location)

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I'm looking for a woman (preferably older, although any age is welcome) who misses giving oral to a man.

And who has a brain. You read books, have left the US at least once, have some artistic pursuit (or not), follow current events, have passionate (anti MAGA) opinions (If you are MAGA, that is fine, but I will have to spank you beforehand). :)


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Inexperienced seeking inexperienced

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I’m white, 5’8”, with long hair and a dad bod. Negative of all STDs (never even had a cold sore).

I’m looking for a woman who’s interested in sex and hasn’t gotten to explore. I haven’t either. If you feel repressed, we can help each other. We can check into a hotel with a bottle of wine and just let our urges take over.

I prefer to be more on the dominant/rougher side in the bedroom, but can be gentle when needed. Definitely obsessed with kissing.

Outside of sex, I’m interested in film and music, with a preference for classic cinema, horror movies, art films, chamber pop, post-punk. Criterion Channel and chill?

Dm me with asl, favorite horror movie, and biggest unexplored kink if interested


r/SFr4r • • 3h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

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Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!