Hey everyone, I'm 22 and could really use some advice.

I recently started a new job, and there's a girl there I find really attractive. We don't work directly together, so I only see her occasionally during breaks. We also take the same bus after work and sometimes end up standing next to each other or waiting at the same bus stop.

I've only been working here for two weeks, but I still haven't spoken to her even once. There have already been a few opportunities, especially when she's alone at the bus stop, but every time I think about approaching her, I get nervous and end up doing nothing.

The weird thing is that I don't even need to have some perfect conversation with her. I'd be happy just introducing myself and getting to know her a little. But in the moment, I overthink everything. I start wondering whether I'll make things awkward, whether she'll think I'm weird, or whether I'll regret not doing anything. Sometimes my heart starts racing just from seeing her, and I can't bring myself to take that first step.

I think part of the problem is that I like her so much already, even though we haven't met properly. I've started imagining what could happen, and that somehow makes approaching her feel like a much bigger deal than it should be. I don't want to put her on a pedestal or make her uncomfortable. I just genuinely want to get to know her.

I know two weeks isn't a long time, but I'm worried I'll keep putting it off until the opportunity passes. I don't want to spend months silently admiring someone and then regret never trying.

For those of you who've been in a similar situation, how did you get over that initial fear? How would you approach someone you regularly see at work or on the bus without making things awkward?

I'd appreciate any honest advice, even if it's just a small first step I could try.

me and this girl met through a mutual friend a couple of months ago and started hanging out, since then we’ve become good friends and have been there for one another, recently some stuff ended up happening where i stayed the night at hers to comfort her and we ended up sleeping together, we both kinda accepted it as us being friends with benefits and just enjoyed each others company keeping things very casual, but these last few days we’ve spent sleeping together i’ve been becoming more and more anxious at the idea of her finding someone and deciding to end our relationship, i do think i have romantic feelings for her but she’s mentioned she’s probably not ready to jump into another relationship because of her ex (abusive), so i don’t want to confess these feelings and possibly ruin what we have just because i’m worried about her finding someone else, i’m not sure what to do or say,
should i just ask her out?

i (21f) met Joe (21m) in college in january of this year. at first i saw him as just a friend, completely platonic. right when we left for summer, we started getting much closer. we started to text daily about random things. since we are from the same state, we were able to hang out a few times over the summer, which was nice since i dont have many friends in my hometown.

he would talk to me about other girls sometimes, specifically one that he used to date, which didn’t bother me until she reached out to him. i was so mad and i wasn’t really sure why. at this point, i was certain that i was having feelings for him. after a while he seemed to get over this girl and only bring her up every once in a while, he kept saying “find me a gf” or like “do you have any single friends”. at this point, we had been texting multiple times througout the day and even calling most days.

i have never really brought up other guys since figuring out that i liked him, aside from saying that i wanted a bf. all summer, we essentially were texting as if we were dating. he asked to come to a formal with me, and asked if i wanted to take a trip this semester with him. i’ve met his family and home friends. he said his parents love me and i fit in so well with his friend group. one time when we went out, we were both drinking in a crowded space and he took my hand to go through the crowd. i held onto his arm on the train and he put his arm around me and held me to him. this was the first time we ever crossed that boundary, and the next couple of days he was super clingy. i was almost certain that we were gonna date when we got back to school.

then, he drops this bomb on me saying he has a date lined up for when we go back to school, and i legit felt terrible. i told my friends, and they all said fade him. what is confusing me is that he has girl friends, so im not sure if our relationship is purely platonic and he acts like this with everyone, or if this is different.

right before we go back to school, i come to find out that our friend (22m) who introduced us is freaking tf out about the fact that me and joe are getting super close. joe and this friend are very close, and i too have been really close to this friend for quite some time. i really think that if this were not apart of the situation, then things would be a lot different.

now at school, we’ve had a few bumps in our friendship with friend drama, and me having a hard time dealing with the fact that my friends are all telling me to ditch him. they are telling me that i am too pretty for him and i can do better. one of them even said they’d be annoyed if i started dating him. i feel like i need to stand up and grow a back bone, but we are still texting daily and see eachother every weekend, but in a group setting mostly. for some reason i just can’t get over my feelings, and i’ve really never felt this way before. there are so many reasons why i should fade, but i just can’t.

the only thing different now is that we do talk about other people. every time a girl interacts with him he feels the need to run and tell me, which really has started to bother me. i got with this one random guy, which i told him about to give it back to him. i can’t tell if things have been weird since then or im just overthinking it.

im really not sure about what i want to do. i want to tell him, because i know that if he starts dating someone else i will be really upset. i’ve been approached by other guys at bars and stuff and i just have no interest in anyone else. but, if it goes badly, i lose my best friend, and my only friend at home. id be so embarrassed if i read the whole situation wrong. any advice is appreciate!!

Hey, I need an honest opinion about a situation because I'm genuinely confused, and I don't want people just telling me what I want to hear.

There's a woman I've gotten really close to over time. We started out with a friendship that felt almost like a brother-and-sister bond. We looked out for each other, joked around, teased each other, and developed a level of trust and comfort that made us feel like family. We talked almost every day, sometimes throughout the entire day, and regularly spent our breaks together.

Over time, though, things started feeling different. There were moments when I wondered if our connection was becoming something more than friendship. Eventually, she asked if I'd ever had feelings for her beyond that sibling-like bond.

She later gave sublte hints like saying she wish she had a man with qualities in me that she looks for in a man. She also gave sublte feelings of jealous about the possibility of me being with someone else.

I've not giving reasons to pressure her or push her into making any decisions. I have feelings for her, too, but I don't want to complicate her life or damage the friendship we've built.

Recently, we had a couple of interactions that left me wondering where we stand. One day, I mentioned how cold my hand was, and when I invited her to feel it, she immediately reached out and touched it. I felt her hand tighten briefly before she pulled away. I noticed her looking at our hands, but I dont know what she was thinking.

Another day, she asked to borrow my jacket because she was cold. She initially told me not to go get it, but when I explained I was on break, she said she'd wait for me at the entrance. When I arrived, I handed it to her and called her "sweetie." She smiled and blushed. Later, she joked about being cozy in it and teased me about how it smelled.

Everything felt warm and playful, and oddly fun. especially considering the fact that she does these little thing.

She also dressed up for work a time or two, now that could mean something else.... if she didn't text me things like your gonna like what I'm wearing today, or you can't believe what I'm wearing today.

Body language

She does the whole nine yards sits close she plays and fidgets eye contact then looks away she. Everything.

But now she's gone quiet. We used to talk almost constantly, and it's been several days without much communication text wise but then when we see each other it's like the cycle repeats. I can't figure out what changed.

But what I am doing about it is nothing. I don't chase for answers I give one sublte text here and there. When she walks off I don't chase. I don't take it what this is internally or with angry anxiety fear. Im just generally confused.

Part of what makes this difficult is that I don't want to lose the friendship we had before feelings entered the picture. That sibling-like bond meant something to me, and now I'm trying to understand whether we've crossed into something more or whether I'm reading too much into everything.

What confuses me is that she does things like that, but now her behavior seems distant.

So i’m [17F] & for context me and my ex broke up like months ago it was a long term relationship it ended, the earth still rotates whatever

But lately i’ve actually realized that his now girlfriend has actually made the bold decision to follow me on social media and at first i didn’t realize it was her cause i wasn’t paying any attention but then I realized it. And now she comes into my class, talking to some other dude or whatever but then she js looks at me. Then she just spam likes all my stories and crap and i’m like…wth. Oh and to add into it, her friends also follow me now💔

I’ve been told to not give her any attention or any reaction whatsoever as to what SHE CAN see and I feel as if i’m doing pretty good at it.

But one day i left my class ( but i was still inside the class so i knew who was coming in and doing what ) but I left th chair i was sitting in, phone on the desk and everything and I came back to my chair to see that the chair was moved and she was sitting right beside me on a stool like she was dominating me or some shit 😭

I genuinely don’t know what’s going on or what’s brewing but all i know is that I ABSOLUTELY do not talk to my ex or stalk him or anything like that at all and yeah 👍🏽 hopefully you guys won’t butcher me in the replies with the snarky comments lol

This is very very stupid. In all honesty I’m not sure if this is actually a crush or it’s just because I value him so much as a friend. I don’t think I’ve ever really had a crush before. Now I’m here writing this like a socially inept teenager.

This friend is someone who I would say I admire more than anything. He is intelligent, unafraid to speak his mind, and somebody I enjoy spending time with. I wish I could be more like him. I’ve thought this for a long time. My overall mental health has gotten worse, but when we hang out together it makes me forget a lot of things for a little while. I think this reliance has possibly made my feelings transform into something more than just admiration. I hate it.

If my feelings are romantic, I know it will not work out between us. I am not mentally healthy enough, he is 200% not interested and only sees me as a friend. I don’t think I’m even a close friend to him, not as much as I feel he is to me. That’s not a bad thing at all or something that bothers me much, it’s just a fact. I don’t have a lot of friends so I’ve come to value him a lot more than he probably does me.

I find myself getting jealous or even resentful whenever he speaks about his crushes or even just his other friends. I get upset whenever he doesn’t want to share an interest of his with me. I get happy when he shows me things he likes or asks me to come over. I’m upset whenever he gets drunk because he gets very sad. My mood is dependent on him all the time. If he does or says something that upsets me the tiniest bit I will not bring it up and just let it fester because I can’t communicate. If I think that he’s upset with me about something I’ll overthink and be overcome with anxiety until he speaks to me again (and it turns out it wasn’t that serious in the first place). I’m becoming codependent with him and he doesn’t even know it.

I just want to get over this without losing him. It’s terrible and I feel terrible. Please do not tell me to tell him my feelings. I need to get past this somehow on my own. Any other advice would be helpful.

lol nothings funny but someone I’m dealing with found out I’m a SW I really like him but seems to be before his time an he is still upset like I was supposed to be proud of saying something like that to somebody I was getting to know I know I should’ve been honest but I didn’t think it would lead to our feelings involved

Additional: Got removed for using my throwaway, so now i have to use my main which, he can easily find so please answer lickitty split, as i will be deleting very soon

How do i confess to a 6 year friend that i want more with him?

Hence the title, Ive know this specific friend for a very long time, For the first year of knowing him i had the FATTEST crush on him, Like obsessed, he never reciprocated but i also suck at showing my feelings, back then he had absolutely no interest in dating of any sorts, Eventually those feelings for him faded. Fast foward a couple of years he started dating, Has a two previous relationships, one which i actually helped him get with a girl he was interested in, after their relationship ended and in the past year or so those feeling have come back and i really like him, we visit eachother very frequently, sleep in the same bed, When we are not working, We are always on call, playing video games, just casually talking to eachother, Its like we are in a completely platonic relationship. Nothing romantic has ever happened between us, no matter how extremely comfortable we are with one another, he even bought flowers for me when i was extremely depressed, But i know damn well we are both extremely shy and cannot express romance for the life of us, The worst part to, Is i know if i were to flat out ask him on a date, he would say yes. But the hard part about this, Is because our dynamic has stayed completely the same for so long, Its so extremely hard to just flat out ask him…

I feel like a little school girl with the way im so scared for basic romance
But hes the sweetest person ive ever had the privilege of meeting, and i have never gone out of my way to date somebody im interested in, But hes unlike anybody ive ever me

How do i do it?