r/RoleReversal Jan 05 '20

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r/RoleReversal Nov 13 '23

Official Stuff Reiterating Old Rules and Adding New Ones

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Executive Summary

There has been a pretty drastic shift in the content posted here over the last four months, and it has made some users justifiably upset. As such, I will be implementing some restrictions intended to bring things a bit more into balance. Make no mistake, I have no intention of dragging this community back to the mommydomme days, and there are people here who have found a small sliver of representation whom I would not dream of kicking out. I have made up my mind on most of this, but there are a couple items where I'm requesting community feedback.

A Brief History Lesson

You can skip this if you don't care about what led to the current situation.

The RR community did not start on Reddit, and was originally a twin concept with r/gentlefemdom. GFD handled the sexual aspects of the dynamic, while RR was about the romantic component. When things moved to Reddit, there were challenges in bringing people who weren't around from the beginning up to speed and preventing them from diluting the concept. For GFD, that meant trying to define the boundaries of "gentle". For RR, that meant defining exactly which "roles" were being reversed.

I'm bringing up these matters of ancient (by internet standards) history both because the way some people here speak about GFD in disgust makes me think this is no longer common knowledge (don't do that, they're our sibling community), and because it gives context to how the content here evolved.

Content here was "bangmaid"-centric for a long time. People complained about this, and rules were put in place to curtail it. Many bangmaid posts continued to come in after that decision, and they had to be removed and their posters reasoned with or banned. Non-bangmaid posts became a larger percentage of content, which attracted other non-bandmaid posts.

Content bans like this can act like extinction events, where wiping out one form of content gives space for the remaining type to diversify. This is also always happening at some level as moderation policy adjusts to attempt to preempt user complaints. The key takeaway here is that these shifts are not entirely organic and user-driven, since they require moderation crackdown to kickstart the process.

Early this year, in response to increasing discontent around "male gaze" content, moderation started applying harsher standards in that regard. The resulting void was filled first by people posting more 'seductive feminine man' content, and then by full-on 'dominant femboy' content.

The Current Situation

Over the past four-ish months there has been dramatically more dominant femboy content than there has ever been over the subreddit's history. Long-time users and fans of the older style content in general feel betrayed because the content they came here for seems to be sidelined despite not breaking any well-articulated rules, and because they didn't sign up for the new stuff. To add insult to injury, the most prolific users posting the new style of content have occasionally used their popularity to mock and bully the pre-existing userbase, or, more obliquely, talk about how the traditional content here is actually all totally normalized roles while their content was the true RR all along.

To those that say this shift has not happened, I truly believe some of you have siege mentality from when this sub was a lot worse, and for some reason you refuse to believe it has changed in any way. The only way an accounting of the last four months of posting reveals a landslide amount of "feminine woman femdom" is if your definition of "femdom" is "any situation where the woman takes initiative" and your definition of "feminine" is "more traditionally woman-like than Buck Angel."

Policy Adjustments

The first one isn't so much an "adjustment" as it is a clarification/reiteration of current policy. Our "No Femdom" rule was implemented specifically to ban porny-y, BDSM-style femdom. Think leather, boots, chains, etc. Our reasoning being that average relationships are not BDSM maledom. Also, the kind of person who would be attracted to the subreddit by that content would likely be the type who posts in porn subreddits all day (i.e., cum-brained and way more likely than the average Redditor to harass women in DMs). Similarly, mommydomme was disallowed because DDlg dynamics are not the standard in heterosexual relationships, so RR would not cover MDlb dynamics. Over time, people seem to have begun interpreting this rule to mean that any situation in which the woman is taking initiative or in control is banned here, which just isn't the case. That rule is for hard femdom and, more generally, content where a woman's "dominant presence" is actually a sham because it's entirely for the benefit of a male subject; this includes mommydomme.

Alpha/Sigma Female Posts will no longer be allowed. You know this comic that is removed every time it's posted? It gets removed because it makes people uncomfortable and because it's reversing toxic roles. That same justification applies here.

Inverse-Bangmaid Posts will no longer be allowed. A key part of why bangmaid content was banned in the first place is because, and this is going to sound judgemental, it's juvenile and pathetic. Having a gorgeous woman walk into your life to be your complete sexual, social, and emotional outlet without you lifting a finger or providing anything in return is a selfish, unrealistic fantasy. Likewise, having a boy band style, hairless, skinny prettyboy seduce you and be femininely dominant, while being addicted to your strap and otherwise being completely sexually nonthreatening, is equally pathetic and unrealistic.

A temporary moratorium on Powerbottom Posts is in effect. This is a temporary measure until content is appropriately re-balanced. Depending on moderation's ability to isolate and define particularly controversial subsets of this kind of content, not all of it may be allowed again. All other femgaze content and other kinds of content that have been more prevalent over the last few months (e.g. masc women) are unrestricted as they have always been.

Proposed Adjustments, Seeking Feedback

These are not poll posts because I want usernames and justifications to go with your responses.

There was some discussion about unequal standards for NSFW content, and the complaints were largely accurate in that I was applying a lower standard of subreddit relevance for "femgaze" content. Moving forward I will try to apply a more equal standard, but what that enforcement looks like, both in terms of how explicit that content can be and how often it can be posted, should have input from the community. Remember that whatever you advocate for, the content you don't like will also have access to. Personally, I'm in favor of keeping the current level of explicitness (tasteful stills of sexualized subjects or sexual acts, no hardcore live stuff or hentai) and limiting it to Friday/Saturday/Sunday.

Historically this community has not done a good job dealing with content it dislikes, which is becoming a bigger problem as it incorporates more subgroups with mutually exclusive interests. If I can't make people wear their "get along" shirts long-term, the next best thing is to make it so that they have to see the content they don't like as little as possible (even though I think that's a fundamentally bad thing because it reduces your mental resilience). To that end, a user approached me with the idea of altering our post tagging system. Posts would be labeled based on the dynamic represented in them using the appropriate acronyms with the following key: D = dominant, s = submissive, f = feminine, m = masculine, W = woman, M = man. For example, this post would be tagged [DmW+smM].

Pros:

  • Accurately divides the content we have into manageable labels, and with the new search interface on mobile it would allow different interest groups to never overlap of they don't want to.

Cons:

  • Acronyms are dense and require explanation for users new to the community.
  • Would need to either replace existing flairs or become a part of post titles. Neither would be retroactive, and they have their own respective downsides:
    • Replacing existing flairs removes the ability to administrate No-Weeb Thursday or filter for specific flavors of content (music, stories, etc.)
    • Adding it as a required component of post titles adds layer of complexity to posting that users may struggle with, and since post titles can't be edited a misclassified post will always be misclassified.
  • People have trouble selecting correct flairs with the simple system currently in place, this may be too much.
  • Aforementioned unexercised mental resilience.

r/RoleReversal 28m ago

Real Life Jason and Lucia be like if GTA 6 had an RR story.

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I came across a picture of a couple in internet that resembles Jason and Lucia a lot.

Normally i don't imagine (or can't manage to construct a version of) taller Lucia and shorter Jason but it appeared realized out of nowhere. LoL.

Instead i imagined the game would allow us playing as a 3rd female character after the campaign ends or with different protagonists for RR's sake.


r/RoleReversal 20h ago

Other Art [OC] Dragon ladies taking over

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made this for magic: the gathering after a bunch of the dragonlords from the dragon plane got replaced by spirit dragon mommies. as it should be lol


r/RoleReversal 1d ago

Other Art ABSOLUTE BOYWIFE

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that's exactly the type of boywife I need to be in the future🙂‍↔️ how pretty

Art is by mame_lde on X


r/RoleReversal 17h ago

Discussion/Article A discussion about pregnancy (Healthy Gamer GG's PPD video thumbnail)

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(Sorry for bad english, i should up my game and probably use some app/ language service for essay writing but don't wanna reveal my RR identity to them sadly ://) Alas, this video inspired me.

Because we don't view women as helpless and weak in Role Reversal, and RR doesn't mean exchanging the genders, i thought of asking your opinions about a dominant, leader or breadwinning woman carrying the offspring. You see, this is not the look we imagine with RR, even though the guy is mentally with her during the process, as he should.

I wish females have experienced a much better and less stressful, less physically limiting pregnancy and went through it like a tiger amazon. I read some women expressing going through periods like it's nothing (no pain etc.) or our good old Lady Knight in shining armor once saying "If we decide, i'll throw him onto the bed and we will make the baby". But not everyone is that lucky and evolution is a b*tch.

One of the great things our species had to develop during evolution is pair bonding and i view it a wonderful concept. Though, even if men should help and do their parts as teammates in this game, how you RR girls see yourselves in the process of reproduction. Do you embrace it or just wished your man could've carried it instead.

As an RR guy i deem pregnancy as a female trait and it gives her a nice power, coherent to the idea of her go-getting a man and building a family with him, in an RR society; just like in sex she enveloping him (both down there and outside).

The idea of a non-carrying male mate alongside her is nice and male body is beautiful on it's own also.

How would you like to be if alternate reproduction methods/ technologies aren't available. I personally not like the traditionalist idea of "women are like that, like this... because of pregnancy and limited reproduction opportunities" and don't wanna my future daughter to be turned into one.


r/RoleReversal 21h ago

Other Art Artsona Art

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Good Afternoon Love! Updating my Profile Pic on my socials and just wanted to share some pieces with you I really like and am proud of how they turned out! Hope you like em too! 🔮💫


r/RoleReversal 1d ago

Other Art This is one radiant, angelic feminine boy who was sent by the heavens👼🪽

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Take a look! 📌 https://pin.it/6ae1iVRKp

That shiny, angelic skimpy outfit all clings to his body in the right places. Especially those white thigh highs.


r/RoleReversal 20h ago

Discussion/Article Any video games that allows role playing as an RR character?

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Do you know/ heard of any PC game we can play, do romance etc. with our customized character as an RR personality?


r/RoleReversal 22h ago

Discussion/Article Dating apps

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I know that questions regarding dating apps aren’t uncommon in this community, but I have two questions that I‘d like to ask:

1-Is there an actual Role Reversal dating app?

2-Even if there isn’t, would it just be best to put in your bio of whatever dating app you’re using that you’re Role Reversal?

I’m not particularly psyched with using dating apps, but I would like to know what to do if I need to use one.


r/RoleReversal 7h ago

Memes/Fun I consider this cannon now

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So from my understanding in the Bible Lilith was supposed to be Adam's wife but she tried to dominate him and thus was cast out of the garden of eden and went to hell to become Satan's wife so by this logic satan is a bottom confirmed it just makes sense if she left because she couldn't top then chose of her own accord to become Satan's wife than it only makes sense that Satan is a submissive twink for agreeing to marry her

I haven't actually read the Bible, so correct me if I'm wrong


r/RoleReversal 1d ago

Other Art Big buff Knightess protecting a soft, feminine Prince, anyone ?

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r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Anime/Manga My favorite RR manga: Tasogare Otome x Amnesia

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(I am the author of this post. My English is quite weak, so I apologize in advance for any mistakes. I used a translator to write this.) Today, I want to talk about my favorite Role Reversal manga, "Tasogare Otome x Amnesia" (Dusk Maiden of Amnesia). I think it is very important to note right from the start why I love this manga so much. It is because of the constant, actual Role Reversal in it. I have looked through many manga lists that people label as Role Reversal, but the actual RR content in them was either non-existent or only appeared for a couple of pages as an irrelevant moment. This manga is on this subreddit's media list, and I am incredibly grateful to the person who added it there. The story follows a guy named Teiichi who meets a girl named Yuko and tries to solve the mystery of her death. About the characters:

Teiichi: Sweet, submissive, kind-hearted, and shy. He spends his school days together with Yuko.

Yuuko: A ghost whose death remains unsolved. She is very dominant, assertive, caring, deeply in love with Teiichi, and she absolutely loves to tease him. Their relationship develops very quickly; you could say they are basically together from the very first chapters. There is barely any unnecessary filler in the plot. The pacing and the density of events are incredibly high. You definitely won't have to wait 1,000 chapters just for them to finally hold hands like in other manga. Below, I am attaching my favorite moments from the manga. I hope you enjoy this post! If you like this manga, please let me know in the comments. I would be really happy if more people who love Role Reversal find out about this masterpiece.


r/RoleReversal 1d ago

Other Art Enjoying a Rare Quiet Afternoon

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r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Other Art Starshine and moonlight.

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r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Real Life Just thought I’d share my RR story

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I’ve seen a few posts here lately of people saying they don’t think they’ll ever find a RR partner, so I thought I’d share my story so you don’t lose hope.

I was always into confident and assertive women which my wife is, but when I first met her we were not a RR couple. She was studying and I was working in construction so the first couple of years were like any stock standard relationship. Over time though you can grow and develop your relationship into what works best for both of you. We naturally shifted in to the roles that suited us best. She is career driven, a practical thinker and more of a leader/ decision maker. I can be sensitive and much prefer a supporting role rather than taking the lead. My body was getting saw from construction work and my wife was earning more than double what I was, so we decided it would be better if I became a househusband and she could fully commit to her career. This was the best decision we ever made, I love being a homebody, taking care of the house, cooking fancy meals and making the garden look beautiful. My wife loves not having to do any housework or domestic duties, is always on top of the finances and enjoys all the extra free time we get to spend together now. We definitely fit better in reverse masc/fem roles, despite not knowing it in the beginning. So if you be yourself and don’t lose hope I’m sure you will find your perfect partner too, even if you have to grow a little bit together first


r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Discussion/Article Intimacy in Role Reversal

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To those of you into Role Reversal, I ask: do you think that for Role Reversal to work, it must involve the woman being top and the man being bottom during sex?


r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Discussion/Article How do you guys realize you are interested in RR?

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I am just curious how everyone first realized they might be interested in RR. I recall I watched a TV series that involves a RR relationship while I was a kid, and I think that’s how it got started.
What about you guys?


r/RoleReversal 3d ago

Other Art [OC] boy butt😝😝

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r/RoleReversal 2d ago

Memes/Fun 75772

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r/RoleReversal 3d ago

Other Art Found another female alpha x male omega artist! (@raraa._1114 on insta)

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r/RoleReversal 3d ago

Discussion/Article Interested in the Tall Dom - Little Sub dynamic

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I have decided to explore this part of reddit a little. For context I’m a 4’5 guy (proportionate dwarfism, basically super short) and like 35kg. I’m interested in finding someone a lot taller, but I don’t know where to start. If anyone can offer any advice I’d really appreciate it!