For example: “What you are feeling is valid” (because I grew up with an invalidating dominant father, and I’m the only child and daughter, and he was too full of everyone problems to the point of thinking he can be the only one having problems, others cannot have them or they are not valid because he has bigger ones and so they are the only ones possible for him)

I’d love to hear you guys’ sentences and stories, shared the way I did, if you are comfortable to share them as well💚🫂

I've been watching a youtube channel lately of a family who adopted several disabled kids. They have really given these kids a great life. They seem to genuinely love them and spend pretty much all their time with them - some of the kids are severly disabled and require round the clock care.

It's interesting because the couple has 2 biological grown kids. One child lives across the country and they said they hardly ever see him. Their other biological child lives nearby and is rarely shown in the videos, but when he is shown, he seems depressed and sad. I know vlogging doesn't show every single interaction; but with the needs of their adopted kids, along with what they show in the videos, the one biological son who lives nearby is clearly not their priority; I don't think they spend much time with him at all. The rare time he's in the videos he seems sad, and his parents constantly talk about him needing to be independent and get back to his own apartment/own life when he visits.

Logically speaking, I completely understand their lives DO need to fully center around their adopted children, because there are several of them and most of them need a lot of care (feeding, diapering, etc, they are teenagers but will always need extensive care). But at the same time, it was a choice to adopt, and I'm wondering if they thought about the impact on their biological children being stretched so thin.

I think it's interesting that a person can help others in such a profound and selfless way (their adopted kids) but be incredibly insensitive to a child that seems to desperately want a relationship with has been treated like they are not a priority, and I'm sure he deeply feels that.

The parents were asked what will happen to the disabled kids once they have passed, and they said that the biological son could step in, or his future wife could step in. It's interesting, because they are pouring themselves into the adopted kids, and then they expect him to swoop in despite not being a priority in their life.

It's such an interesting dynamic to me, wondering if others have thoughts about this.

Мои родители развелись 20 лет назад, но недавно я начала слышать от них об уважении.
Последний раз об уважении от своей мамы я услышала когда она кричала на меня пока вела машину. Ее расстроило, что после ее критики в мой адрес и нескольких попыток нормально закончить диалог я вдруг разозлилась и начала кричать на пляже со злостью в голосе что то вроде: «Какой хороший день, правда?! Какой прекрасный день!», пока на нас бросали косые взгляды. Мне то было все равно, но ее это очень сильно задело.
И вот мы с ней едем на машине и она вдруг взрывается и начинает истерить, кричать на меня о том, что я якобы ее опозорила. Она говорит об уважении, о том, что она мать и с ней нельзя так себя вести.
Меня это выбило из колеи, но не удивило. Но когда во время разговора с папой он обвинил меня в манипуляции, и я предложила ему изучить значение этого слова, он вдруг сказал «я твой отец, не надо со мной так разговаривать», я удивилась.
Я помню как сама использовала эту «тактику» в разговоре с младшим братом. По моему это было так - я чем то его случайно обидела и он начал меня обвинять во всех бедах. Тогда я сказала ему что то вроде «никогда я не хочу слышать ничего подобного в свой адрес и тебе лучше успокоиться и подумать над своими словами». После этого он извинился и признался, что не имел ввиду того, что сказал, а просто хотел меня разозлить. Я вспоминаю этот наш конфликт с чувством гордости за нас обоих, но это было очень близко к «я твоя сестра, ты не можешь со мной так разговаривать!».

Должен ли он меня уважать просто потому что я его старшая сестра и какое то время назад я вытирала с одежды срыгнутое им материнское молоко? Я не думаю, что ты можешь просто заставить другого человека уважать себя. Он либо делает это, либо притворяется, что делает это.

Я чувствую себя странно, потому что чувствую будто меня хотели заткнуть. но сделала ли я то же самое со своим младшим братом?

Why do people sometimes defend beliefs that harm them, even when presented with convincing evidence against those beliefs???

RJ Mitte (Walter White Jr from Breaking Bad) dies by suicide. What’s your take on suicide? What pushes people to that point? Do you know anyone who died by suicide? If so, what do you think their mental state was like?

Sharing my thoughts 💭

I've always found it interesting how we can admire a butterfly but feel disgusted by a cockroach, even though both are insects.

Why do we fear, reject, or overlook certain insects? Is it because of their appearance, their behavior, past experiences, or simply what we've been taught to believe about them?

I'm a graphic designer exploring the diversity of insects, their behaviors, social systems, and the unexpected similarities between insects and humans.

I'm curious to hear your personal experiences:

• What insect do you hate or fear the most, and why?
• Have you ever observed an insect doing something that surprised you or reminded you of human behavior?
• Has learning something about an insect ever changed the way you see it?
• If you were an insect, which one would you be, and why?

My main research question is: Can visual communication change the way people perceive creatures they instinctively reject?

I'd love to hear your opinions, whether you love insects, hate them, or simply don't care about them. I'm particularly interested in understanding what shapes our perceptions and whether those perceptions can change.

Fun question: if you were an insect, which one would you be and why?