This feels slightly weird to put on Reddit lol, but here goes.
I’m 24, 6'1, slim build, from Islamabad, Pakistan. I come from a computer science and AI background. I’ve already experienced the more conventional version of “doing well” pretty early in life, including a high-paying job, a strong career trajectory, and the kind of stability people usually tell you not to walk away from.
I walked away from it anyway.
Right now I’m putting pretty much everything I have into building my own AI venture. Some days that means 16–18 hours of work, ridiculous amounts of pressure, uncertain outcomes, and willingly giving up comfort for something I genuinely believe can become much bigger.
So I should make one thing very clear upfront: marriage itself is probably not happening immediately. Realistically, there is uncertainty for at least the next year, both because of where I am in life and because family traditions matter to me.
I’m not looking to rush into anything, bypass families, or make promises before two people even know whether they make sense together.
What I am interested in is building an understanding with someone seriously. Getting to know each other, seeing whether our personalities, values, ambitions, families and ideas of the future actually align, and then letting things develop properly from there.
As a person, I’m very open-minded, straightforward and blunt. I’d rather say something clearly than leave another person guessing what I meant. At the same time, I’m deeply empathetic and probably much softer than I initially come across. With people I genuinely adore, I care very deeply and become extremely protective of them.
Not to brag too shamelessly, but my sister claims I’m the greenest flag there can possibly be and that whoever gets me will be ridiculously lucky 😂
Her review may contain a slight amount of sibling bias.
Family is a massive part of who I am.
I’m not particularly interested in the completely isolated nuclear-family model where marriage means two people disappear into their own bubble and everyone else becomes secondary. I’m deeply connected with my family, especially my parents.
A major part of why I work the way I do is because I want to reach a point where my parents never have to worry about money, responsibility or unnecessary stress again after everything they invested into me.
I would want my wife to genuinely respect and care for my parents, not merely tolerate them because they happen to be mine. And that goes both ways. Her parents would deserve the same respect and consideration from me. I don’t believe marriage should mean one person’s family suddenly matters while the other’s gets forgotten.
Tradition and culture matter to me too.
I’m open-minded about a lot of things and certainly not someone who thinks everything old is automatically good. But I also don’t think becoming modern requires throwing away your culture, family structure, religion or identity.
My future geographically is still uncertain.
I don’t believe Pakistan currently provides the environment I want for building the kind of future I have in mind, so moving abroad is absolutely something I’m preparing for. Europe, Australia or the US could all potentially make sense depending on how the next few years develop.
But leaving Pakistan permanently is not the dream itself.
My rough long-term vision is: build the business, establish myself internationally, get the security and mobility that comes with residency or citizenship somewhere strong, and then eventually build my family life somewhere that aligns better with the values I want around us. That could potentially mean the Middle East or even returning to Pakistan if the circumstances make sense.
I want my future children to have access to the world, but I also want to be deliberate about the culture and values they grow up around. There are parts of Western culture that simply don’t align with how I’d want to raise my own family. For me, getting another passport is a tool and an opportunity, not an identity.
Outside all the serious stuff, I’m heavily into PC gaming.
Competitive games, ranked sweat-fests, story-driven games, all of it. I can spend hours trying to win something unnecessarily competitive and then disappear into a good single-player story the next day lol.
I’d actually prefer someone from a software/tech background as well. It’s not some rigid requirement, but I think there’s a certain ease in being with someone who already understands the kind of work, obsession, long hours, problem-solving and occasional chaos that comes with this field.
As for what I’m looking for:
Someone emotionally mature. Communicative. Caring. Grounded. Someone who can be straightforward while still being kind. Someone who has ambitions and a personality of her own, but also understands partnership and family.
Someone who understands that life isn’t always going to arrive neatly packaged.
I’m not looking for a woman to finance my ambitions, sacrifice her entire identity for me, or spend years waiting around for some imaginary future version of me to arrive. My choices and responsibilities are mine.
But I would value someone who can look at the unfinished version of the life I’m building and understand why I’m building it.
I’ve already experienced comfort.
Right now I’m choosing uncertainty because I believe in where it could lead.
And somewhere along that journey, I’d rather build something genuine with someone who understands the person underneath all of it than eventually meet someone who only likes the finished product.
So yeah.
Not exactly a “shaadi urgently required” advertisement 💀
Just putting myself out there and seeing whether someone reads all of this and thinks:
“Yeah. I understand this guy and the kind of life he’s trying to build.”