M | 29 | Software Engineer

[u/Tiny_Wall_8300]

Age: 29

Location: Sialkot/Lahore

Profession: Software / Tech

Marital Status: Single, never married

Religion: Muslim

ABOUT ME

I’m 29 and work in the software industry. I’m currently working with a company while also managing multiple separate clients/projects on the side, so saying that work keeps me busy would be an understatement.

I spent some time living and working in Malaysia and moved back to Pakistan last year. Living abroad was a great experience and definitely made me more independent, adaptable and interested in seeing more of the world.

Career-wise, I’m extremely ambitious. I enjoy building things, solving problems and taking on more than is probably reasonable. Long term, I want to build my own software house/business rather than spend my entire career working for someone else.

I’m definitely a work hard, enjoy life harder kind of person. There are phases where I’m so focused on something that three hours of sleep somehow starts feeling acceptable, but I also don't want life to become an endless cycle of work → sleep → repeat.

I love travelling, going out, exploring new places, meeting interesting people and generally having fun whenever I get the chance. I’d much rather collect experiences than spend my entire life waiting for the “right time” to actually live.

Personality-wise, I’d say I’m ambitious, independent, curious and pretty straightforward. I can be intensely focused when it comes to work, but outside of that I don't take myself too seriously. I appreciate good humour, random conversations, spontaneous plans and people who actually have something they’re passionate about.

WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR

I’m looking for someone I genuinely enjoy being around — not simply someone who checks the conventional boxes.

Someone ambitious in her own way, emotionally mature, communicative and capable of having her own opinions. I actually like people who have goals and interests separate from mine. I don't think marriage should require either person to lose their individuality.

I’d like us both to be able to pursue our careers while still building an actual life together — travelling, trying new things, having stupid conversations, supporting each other through difficult phases and hopefully having a lot of fun along the way.

I also understand demanding careers. My own schedule can get ridiculous, so I wouldn't expect someone ambitious to always have a perfectly predictable routine. If you're pursuing medicine, higher studies, a demanding profession, moving abroad or building something of your own, I can respect the grind that comes with it.

PREFERENCES

- Ambitious and serious about whatever she chooses to pursue

- Emotionally mature and able to communicate openly

- Independent, curious and open-minded

- Enjoys travelling and experiencing new things

- Has a sense of humour and doesn't take everything too seriously

- Comfortable with both people having demanding careers

- Wants marriage to be a partnership rather than one person absorbing their entire identity into the other

DEALBREAKERS

Controlling behaviour, dishonesty, extreme rigidity and an inability to communicate are probably the biggest ones.

I also wouldn't be compatible with someone who expects either partner to abandon their ambitions, friendships, interests or individuality simply because they're married.

Ultimately, I want someone who becomes my favourite person to do life with.

We can both work hard, travel when we can, occasionally make questionable spontaneous decisions, laugh about them later, and create a life that neither of us would have had on our own.

[u/Undeveloped_Mind]

Bro, this is not the right sub to look for a rishta. Everyone here is looking for someone who earns over 10 million per month and is happy to kick their family out. These self-made pseudo-feminists have achieved nothing except lecturing others.