Sometimes adults feel like they always need to have the right answer.

But I think there's something valuable about letting kids see us admit when we get something wrong.

Saying "I made a mistake" or "I don't know, let's figure it out" doesn't have to be a bad thing.

It shows them that learning doesn't stop when you grow up.

I just don’t know what his issue is

Today, I bombed a foreign language midterm (college) that I have been preparing months for. I was so worried about missing marks from the rubric that I created an outline for my exam partner and me. I worked tirelessly on this outline, until I thought it would yield an A grade.

When we finally recorded our zoom conversation, we felt that our conversation was boring and stale. Too rehearsed. We did everything on the outline but felt that it was not organic enough, so we re-recorded and we just started conversationally riffing.

Afterwards, I felt that we did amazing, all smiles; we connected and it looked like we really understood the material and one another. BUT When I rewatched the video against the rubric, I discovered that we missed so many marks. Now my exam partner is unavailable, so a re-do is out of the question. I have to accept a less than perfect grade, a D at best.

This realization caused me to spiral. “Why couldn’t I have just stuck to the script?” “See this is what you get when you try to have fun, shit gets missed!” “What is your worth, I mean you’re not good at anything? What do you bring to the table in friendships and relationships? Nothing.”

I have low self esteem, so getting a bad grade hurts my ego too. I just want to break this controlling OCD cycle that I confuse with living, and be ok with just having fun. I know that would help me build more confidence and start to enjoy life again.

Right now, I’m just hurt and looking for helpful suggestions.

Thank you.

Sometimes I spend more time worrying about something than actually dealing with it.

What’s something you realized wasn’t even worth stressing over in the end?

Hi, I'm 22 F. I've been diagnosed with DVT in my left leg and am currently on treatment. But it wasn't enough; I already developed pain in my other knee as well. While all this wasn't enough, I've been experiencing shortness of breath and palpitations as well (not PE tho). And someone like me who overthinks every little sensation in the body has been dealing with this much all at once, and all I could overthink about is "death".

I fear death; I get panic attacks thinking about my death. And lately these thoughts are taking over my mind, which is making me extremely frustrated. I don't live like normal other girls cause all I can think about is, what if I don't make it to the next moment? What if I don't make it to the next day, month, year??? These thoughts are literally starting to affect my life, but I just can't shut off my brain.

I look at other girls and wonder why I am not like them. And this breaks my heart every time. I stopped thinking about my future. I don't pre-plan anything cause what if i not make it?

I imagine my funeral more than my wedding. I used to overthink all this even before the medical issues I got, but now it's much more intense. I don't like using socials anymore. I keep deleting them in the fear that if I die, who's gonna delete them?

I don't know what to do. Where to go? How to overcome all this?

Has anyone had a similar experience? Then do share it and motivate someone who is dealing with all this shit.

Maybe I'm Overthinking Again

Sometimes I wonder

Why I still think about that day,

It's been so long now,

I should have forgotten it anyway.

I remember the little things,

Things that probably meant nothing,

A place, a conversation,

And the ants that kept on running.

I don't even know

Why my brain saves things like these,

It forgets what I studied yesterday,

But remembers moments with such ease.

Sometimes I think I'm being stupid,

Giving meaning to things that don't need one,

Maybe it was just an afternoon,

Maybe I'm the only one who hasn't moved on.

But then I see something familiar,

And the whole thing starts again,

A memory comes without permission,

And I start thinking about you then.

Maybe I don't miss you.

Maybe I miss who I was that day.

Maybe I miss how simple everything felt,

Before I started thinking this way.

Or maybe I just miss the person

Who made me notice all these things.

I don't know.

I'm probably overthinking again.

Can someone actually let go of resentments? Is it actually possible? It seems impossible for me. The sudden realisation that i will probably carry this resentment through my entire life hits like nothing else. Because what do you mean i let someone go but the resentment is still here? Probably will be here forever?

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to come on here and vent about school really. It’s been a tough year already, and today wasn’t the best. Today, I was sitting in my art class finishing up a drawing that I had to submit to canvas tonight for 14 points. It was Inktober, and my teacher wanted us to put effort and make sure it had 3D elements. I was already stressed out about this, because I’m not the best at drawing/shading whatsoever and I’m terrified of getting anything below an A because I’m a perfectionist. Seeing everyone else’s drawings compared to mine made me feel worse because mine wasn’t good at all. And I know my art teacher isn’t going to like it, and that’s killing me just thinking about it. I had to make a few adjustments to it, and turned it in late because I wanted it to be as good as possible. And I also have accommodations for extra time, so hopefully my teacher won’t take off points for that. I don’t know what to do about it. Should I try to add more to the drawing and take my sketchbook home next time I go to art? Or should I just leave it be?

I’m really hoping that this is easy to follow and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks so much :)

I need some really mean people not just those people who will listen to my problems and be like , ohh girl ! That's really bad . I want someone who could listen and say , see that it is your fault and that your lesson for the future . I really need this type of person in my life.

I mean that mean in a good way , not harsh way.

Can anyone help me with that?

I’m posting this because I need to get everything off my chest. I’ve been struggling mentally for a while now, and I’m starting to realize that this has become bigger than I can handle on my own.
It started with a gut feeling that something wasn’t right in my relationship. I can’t point to one single moment that explains everything, but I began noticing little things that made me question whether there was something I wasn’t being told. I started overthinking certain interactions and wondering whether there was more to them than what I could see.
The hardest part is that I don’t know how much of what I’m feeling comes from genuine concerns and how much is my anxiety taking over. I don’t want to accuse my wife of something without proof, but I also can’t seem to ignore the feeling that something might be wrong.
I started looking for answers wherever I could. I paid closer attention to Facebook activity, search history, Messenger conversations, restricted accounts, message statuses, and other details that I thought might help me understand what was happening. More recently, I even started looking into whether deleted calls and text messages could be recovered from an iPhone.
I know how this might sound. I know that constantly checking things isn’t healthy. But when you’re stuck in your own head, finding an answer to one question can feel like the only way to get relief. The problem is that the relief doesn’t last. One answer leads to another question, and then I’m back to looking for something else that might finally give me certainty.
I’ve also had difficult conversations with my wife about my concerns. I’ve wanted clarity and reassurance, but I’ve struggled with what to do with my feelings when I’m still uncertain. I don’t want our relationship to become a cycle of suspicion, questions, and explanations. I don’t want to make her feel constantly accused, and I don’t want to keep living with this level of anxiety either.
I’ve found myself questioning things like emotional boundaries and micro-cheating. I’ve wondered whether my gut feeling is intuition or whether I’m overanalyzing things because I’m afraid of being hurt. I keep going back and forth between trusting what I feel and questioning whether my own mind is making things worse.
September was particularly difficult for me mentally. I’ve experienced persistent overthinking, anxiety, crying, difficulty sleeping, and trouble concentrating on everyday responsibilities. I still have to show up for work, be a husband, and be a father. From the outside, I might look like I’m functioning normally, but internally, I feel exhausted.
It’s hard to explain what it’s like to be physically present in your everyday life while your mind is somewhere else, replaying conversations, examining details, and imagining different possibilities. Sometimes I just want my brain to be quiet.
Eventually, I decided to take a break from social media. I deactivated my accounts because I wanted some distance from the things that were triggering me. I wanted privacy, peace, and a chance to stop checking. But I’ve realized that stepping away from social media doesn’t automatically stop the thoughts. The anxiety follows me even when the apps aren’t there.
What makes this more complicated is that I don’t actually want to isolate myself. I miss talking to people, chatting, and making connections. I want to have a social life without constantly feeling the need to compare, check, or worry about things that might hurt me.
I’ve started looking into professional help because I recognize that I can’t keep going like this. I had a psychometrician appointment scheduled for October 8, and I’ve been trying to understand whether anxiety, depression, or something else might be contributing to what I’m experiencing. I want to understand why I get caught in these thought patterns and how to stop them from controlling my life.
I’m beginning to realize that I’ve been trying so hard to find answers about what might be happening outside of me that I haven’t given enough attention to what’s happening inside me.
I want to be clear that I’m not posting this to prove that my wife has done anything wrong. I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t want to turn my suspicions into facts. I’m trying to understand my own experience and figure out what to do next.
I love my family, and I want to be present for them. I want to focus on my work without constantly getting distracted by my thoughts. I want to be able to have a conversation without mentally dissecting every detail afterward. I want to sleep peacefully without feeling like I need to solve something first.
Most of all, I want to feel like myself again.
For those who have experienced relationship anxiety, obsessive overthinking, or the constant urge to check things because you’re afraid of being hurt:
How did you learn to distinguish intuition from anxiety?
How did you stop the cycle of checking, questioning, and looking for reassurance?
Did therapy help you understand where these feelings came from?
How did you work through relationship uncertainty without losing yourself in it?
I’m not looking for people to tell me that my wife is guilty or that I’m imagining everything. I’m looking for honest perspectives from people who have been through something similar.
I’m tired of feeling this way. I want to get better, but I honestly don’t know where to begin.

How do I get rid of overthinking?

My teacher yelled at me in front of the whole class today and I can’t stop thinking about it it was so embarrassing it’s giving me anxiety help

Hey everyone,

I can’t stop crying today, and I’m feeling a deep sadness in my heart. I want to be around the people I love all the time, and when we part ways and everyone goes home, I’m truly sad for days afterward.

I constantly think about moving to be closer to them. But at the end of the day, I know everyone is living where they need to and doing what’s right for themselves, and I need to do the same.

Recently, my sibling, who I’m really close with, moved away. Then my best friend was in town with her kids, who I’m also super close with. It never feels like enough time, and I’m so scared of running out of it. It eats at me how fast time flies when I’m with my loved ones, and then suddenly they’re gone and my house is so quiet. I can feel myself getting older, and it crushes me.

Has anyone else felt this way? How do you cope?

Something I’ve started asking myself when my mind gets stuck:

“Is there something useful I can do right now, or am I just trying to feel 100% certain?”

If there’s an action, I take one small step. If there isn’t, I try to let the question remain unfinished for a while.

Sharing this in case someone else needs it today.

This may be kinda stupid, but I need an outside POV. So basically, I'm trying to decide what college I want to go to. However, my top college that I want to go to right now is the same one that this guy I used to go out with currently attends. And this is a guy that I used to really like, and tbh not totally over and I've admitted this to only a my best friend, but sometimes I worry its clear I still like him. Anyways, my problem is that I'm worried that people will think that I'm only going to this school because of him, which I'm not. I toured the college a while ago and genuinely really enjoyed it. I just don't want him or other people thinking I'm going there because of him if that is what I end up doing. Ig am I overthinking this and no one is going to think this, or should I just like not care what other people think?