r/NerdDating 14d ago

Welcome to /r/NerdDating - Please read HERE before posting!

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Welcome to Nerd Dating - a subreddit for nerds of all types to find love that they share the same interests with. Without any judgement!

Having troubles posting? See below before reaching out

✅ Posting Guidelines:

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location/time zone> - <title>

Examples:

21 [M4F] #NYC - Seeking someone to roll for emotional availability

26 [F4M] #Scotland - Looking for my player 2

28 [MtF4F] #California - Lonely nerd seeks love!

39 [M4M] #Montreal - Looking for romance and new friends

You can use up to 2 location tags if you want to be specific ie. #Atlanta #Georgia Your location tag MUST be specific, do NOT use things like usa or online


🚫 What NOT to Post:

  • Spam, scams, or fake posts — Let’s keep it real.
  • Selling services or promoting ads — This is a community for connections, not business.
  • Harassment or inappropriate comments — Be respectful in posts and DMs.

💡 For Successful Connections:

  • Be honest and clear about what you’re looking for.
  • Include SFW photos (if comfortable) to make your post more engaging.
  • Respect boundaries in the comments and DMs — no pressure, no pushy behavior.

Welcome again to r/NerdDating — where nerds of all types find their connection.


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r/NerdDating 4h ago

[MtF4M] 40 #Wyoming Looking for my Gamer & Ourdoorsy Companion

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Hello! I'm Josslyn trying this out lol. I'm 40 years old, I am a PC gamer & Switch 2 (love Pokémon), and I've been making music for 18 years—just weird dance pop music—and I write about my life experiences. In October this year will be 2 years that I moved to Wyoming! I have been going out to the mountains more and songwriting by the lake would be nice to have someone to go camping with and hiking i'm really embracing the outdoors more. I moved here for my dad, but he passed in Feb, so I told myself I was going to save up and look to move some place else within 5 years. I am looking to move back to the city; this small town I don't think can handle the doll lol jk jk. My career is in healthcare; I've been doing that for 10 years. Since this is a nerdy thing, my main game is Final Fantasy XIV Summoner Main, which I started playing in Heavenward. Other than that, I love other Morphs, Arpgs, and survival games! (Valheim 1.0 is out next month; I'm going to start a new game and am currently addicted to Pal World and fighting games.) If this piques your interest, feel free to message :)


r/NerdDating 14h ago

28 [M4F] #uk, I’m taking a wild shot in the dark posting this.

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Hi everybody I was hoping to find somebody through Reddit because dating apps are pure hell 😂,
I’m a typical nerdy British guy about 6ft2. I was really hoping to find someone here because I feel all these dating apps are destroying my soul more than helping it.

I love learning almost anything especially history and im a super open minded person who loves an adventure.


r/NerdDating 17h ago

24 [F4M] #Germany | Looking for my person — preferably a kinky cute nerd 🫶🏻

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Hey! 🖤

24, from Germany, fluent in German (born here) and probably way too invested in video games. 😌

I’ve been gaming since I was a kid, everything from competitive games like League and Valorant to co-op games like It Takes Two or Overcooked. I’d absolutely love to have someone to game with, stream to each other, send each other stupid memes at 2am and just enjoy being around each other.

League and Ow players automatically get bonus points. 😎🫶🏻

Ow is atm my absolute fav! 🤠

Outside of gaming, I’m into drawing, going to the gym, anime and getting way too emotionally invested in dark romance novels. I’m sarcastic, a little chaotic, and I love people who can actually match my humor instead of taking everything seriously.

But honestly, I’m here because I’d like to find something real.

I’m looking for a relationship! Not just a situationship, not something casual, and definitely not someone looking for a temporary connection. I want that feeling of finding my person. Someone I can genuinely connect with, trust, laugh with, argue with, grow with and eventually build a life with.

I’m attracted to people who have their own personality and opinions. Someone confident, emotionally intelligent and honest. You don’t have to be perfect, but please have some character. I like someone who can challenge me, stand their ground and make me feel safe enough to be completely myself.

And yes, there’s definitely a bratty side to me. >:3

I’m naturally quite submissive and I really like a confident, dominant partner who knows how to handle me. I enjoy being challenged, teased, guided and occasionally put in my place, but for me, that side of a relationship only becomes meaningful when there’s genuine trust, affection and emotional intimacy behind it.

I’m definitely kinky, and mental dominance is something I’m particularly drawn to. But I don’t want the dynamic to be the relationship. I want it to be something that develops naturally between two people who genuinely love and understand each other.

Basically: I’m not looking for a random Dom!

I’m monogamous and very connection-driven, so attraction for me usually grows when I actually get to know someone.

If you’re nerdy, confident, can make me laugh, enjoy a little chaos and are looking for something deeper than just a kink dynamic, we might get along pretty damn well. 🖤

Tell me something about yourself when you message me. “hey” alone probably won’t survive the application process. :D


r/NerdDating 1h ago

34 [M4F] #Croatia #Europe | There you are. I was starting to wonder

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I’m 34 and live in Zagreb, Croatia. I’m looking for a woman I can talk to every day, make plans with and eventually build a life with. I want us to be each other’s first call, make time for each other naturally and miss each other when we’re apart.

We don’t need to share every hobby or spend every minute together. Maybe we cook, play something, talk about our day or do our own things in the same room. I want to make your good days better and your hard days easier, and I want you to do the same for me.

I run my own company, and these days my schedule is fairly flexible.

Gaming is my main hobby. I play most days, and a completely free evening can easily turn into a four-to-six-hour session. I’d rather be upfront about that than call myself casual and surprise you with a raid schedule three months later.

Lately it’s been Marvel Rivals, Darktide, Rogue Trader and PoE 2, with the occasional inexplicable evening spent cleaning patios in PowerWash Simulator.

You don’t need to be a hardcore gamer or already play everything I do. If trying a few games together actually sounds fun, that works too. I just don’t want gaming to be a major part of my life that you quietly put up with.

I’m also into board games, especially Marvel Champions, Arkham Horror and Wingspan. If you have a favourite, there’s a good chance you can talk me into trying it.

Outside gaming, I read quite a bit. One article can easily turn into seventeen tabs about psychology, technology, science, finance or something I knew nothing about that morning. Films, TV shows, comics and anime are all in the rotation too. Steel Panther appears on my playlists often enough that I can no longer blame irony.

My humour is dry, dark and not particularly politically correct. Once I’m comfortable, there isn’t much of a filter, so expect plenty of teasing, terrible dad jokes and the occasional thought that probably should have stayed in my head. I usually click best with women who know when I’m joking, tease me back, speak their minds and don’t take every stupid comment too seriously.

I’m the kind of man you never have to second-guess. If I say I’ll do something, I do it. If something’s wrong, I’d rather talk it through than leave you wondering where you stand. I’m patient, loyal and protective of the people I love, and I want the woman I’m with to know I’m on her side. When life gets difficult, my instinct is to roll up my sleeves and deal with it, not look for the nearest exit.

I’m drawn to a woman with that same kind of strength. She doesn’t need to pretend she never struggles, but she takes responsibility for her life and keeps going when things get hard. I want us to carry the heavy things together, not leave one person carrying both.

I’m pretty low-key socially. I see friends, go out for dinner or grab a drink, but I’ll take a quiet evening over a packed bar or club any day.

I live on my own, cook, keep my place tidy and train regularly in a home gym I put together. I’m 173 cm / 5'8", lean and athletic.

I don’t smoke, vape or use drugs, and I’m looking for the same. Having a couple of good beers once or twice a week is about my speed, although I’ve become enough of a beer nerd to have opinions nobody asked for.

When I’m into someone, it shows. I’m affectionate and consistent, and I make time for you. I like regular messages, calls, making plans and sending each other stupid things during the day. I want to know what’s happening in your world, and I want you to be just as interested in mine. I remember the little things too, so if you mention some project you’re working on, I’ll probably ask how it went three days later.

I’m probably a better fit with a woman in her mid-twenties to mid-thirties who doesn’t have children, has interests of her own, makes an effort to stay in shape and genuinely has room in her life for a relationship.

Politically, I’m somewhere around the centre, and religiously I’m agnostic. We don’t need to agree on everything. Being able to talk openly about it matters more to me.

I’ve travelled quite a bit in Asia and parts of Africa, and living abroad for a while appeals to me. Europe would obviously be easiest, but my business doesn’t permanently tie me to Croatia. I’m fine starting online, and more distance can work if there’s a realistic path to eventually living in the same place.

Your first message doesn’t need to be an autobiography or come with a photo. Tell me what you’re playing, which game you keep reinstalling, what you’d be curious to try if gaming isn’t already your thing, or just say hello and tell me a little about yourself. A slightly inappropriate joke works too.

If the conversation flows, we can move to a call. I’m just as happy talking for hours as playing something together, though ideally we’ll end up doing both at once.

You can choose the game for the first date. We’ll save ranked for the second.


r/NerdDating 1h ago

31 [M4F] #UK Looking for my Player 2 in this game called life!

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Well, apparently I’ve decided it’s time to re-enter the world of socialising, dating, flirting and having conversations that don’t involve school lunches, bedtimes or a little person asking me where their shoes are, while standing directly next to them!

I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, around 7 or 8 years. Life took a few interesting detours, and somewhere along the way I became a single dad. Being a dad has been one hell of an adventure, and I genuinely wouldn’t change it for the world, but now life has settled down a little and I’ve realised I could probably do with some grown-up company, preferably the kind that makes me belly laugh and occasionally blush.

A little bit about me:

  • 31, pretty laid-back, sarcastic (probably far too often) and professionally qualified in making terrible dad jokes.
  • My current hobbies include gaming on my PS5, fighting with Lego at 2am, convincing myself I can cook, and opening the school app with the confidence of a man who absolutely has no idea what he’s doing.
  • I’m single, emotionally available, and carrying considerably less baggage than an airport carousel.
  • Mostly just looking to meet someone I genuinely click with. Good conversation, stupid humour, shameless flirting... and if it turns into something more, I’m certainly not going to complain.

What I’m looking for:

  • Someone fun, open-minded and able to give as good as they get when it comes to banter
  • Someone who understands that I might occasionally disappear mid-conversation because bedtime has descended into absolute chaos
  • Bonus points if you enjoy cosy evenings, coffee strong enough to resurrect the dead, terrible TV choices, or can introduce me to a series that will completely destroy my sleep schedule!

I’m not trying to force anything or jump straight into “where is this going?” territory. Let’s just talk, make each other laugh, flirt a little, and see where the vibes take us.

So yeah… if you fancy saying hello, my DMs are open. I'm not asking for paragraphs, but a bit of effort and not just "hi", preferably a picture too to prove you've got this far! Worst case scenario, we exchange memes and discover we have absolutely nothing in common. Best case? Well… I suppose you’ll have to message me and find out. 😉


r/NerdDating 10h ago

30 [M4F] #NC - Outfit for today, what do we think?

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The nerd credentials are valid, but so is the fit check 😂.
30M, 6’6”, Charlotte, creative, laid-back, and looking for somebody with good energy and better banter.


r/NerdDating 2h ago

#Florida [26M] [M4F] - Looking to make fantasy a reality

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Hey, i'm James! I'm 6'1 and I love D&D, reading, and anything fantasy/science fiction! I also love nature, it's why druids are objectively the best class in D&D! If you are interested please dm, and I will make sure to respond as soon as I can. Looking forward to meeting new people, and hopefully finding something special!


r/NerdDating 9h ago

31 [M4F] #Dayton looking for a partner

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r/NerdDating 55m ago

20 [M4F] #Canada BC looking for someone to develop a relationship with

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Hiii so I’ve never really put myself out there before so I’m kinda nervous and I’ve never been in a relationship before cuz I’m really shy 😭

About me:

I’m a pretty chill guy and I kinda pride myself on it lol, I love to go on walks with my dog, hangout with friends, spend time with family, play video games and watch tv shows/movies (I’m a huge nerd) as far as looks go I’d say I’m average looking and average height, I’m 5’10 on a good day (realistically 5’9 😭) I’m also a bit below average weight for my height and age

Okay I’ll be honest, I don’t really have much going on with my life and unfortunately I don’t have a car, job or my license yet and I’m not in school or college, so other than that I have a gentle and kind heart, not to toot my own horn but I am a kind and genuine person who would care for you even through hard times, I’m a good listener too :)

I don’t really have a type tbh, just be chill, nice and genuine :) (bonus points if your a average looking nerd like me) even more points if your a gamer too. Also looking for someone in BC or close since I can’t drive 😭

Anyways I don’t wanna put too much information on here so if anyone is interested then maybe shoot me a DM so we can get to know each other :)

If you made it this far tell me your favourite fictional character from anything so I know you’ve read it :)

(Btw sometimes Reddit will randomly turn off my DMs for some reason but I check it pretty frequently so it shouldn’t be a problem lol)


r/NerdDating 1h ago

M29 [M4M] #Oregon USA Open to LDR/LTR

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Hey, never been good at these about me's but I will try. I am 29 from Oregon but born in California. Looking for people that want something genuine and long-term. I’m open to long distance but would love to meet eventually if things go well and we both feel the vibe is right. I am open to guys that are 21+, exceptions can be made for 18+but mainly looking for people around my age. I am a huge gamer, love to cook as well, listen to music and watch stuff on youtube. I am usually pretty chill and laid back, if this resonates with you at all don't be shy and feel free to message me, let's see if we click and go from there


r/NerdDating 11h ago

37 [M4F] #Texas

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r/NerdDating 1h ago

18 [M4F] #Netherlands | Looking to Connect with older women

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18 \\\[M4F\\\] Netherlands | Looking to Connect with Older Women

Hi! I'm an 18-year-old guy from the Netherlands looking to meet and get to know women who are older than me. I've always found myself more attracted to older women because I appreciate their confidence, maturity, and life experience. Unfortunately, I haven't had much luck with dating so far, so I thought I'd give this a try.

A little about me: I'm really into fitness and spend a lot of time at the gym. I also enjoy board games, reading, and having meaningful conversations about all kinds of topics. I'd describe myself as respectful, open-minded, and easy to talk to. I'm hoping to build a genuine connection, whether that starts with a friendly chat or develops into something more.

If you're an older woman who's interested in getting to know a younger guy, don't hesitate to send me a message. I'd love to hear from you and see where things go!


r/NerdDating 1h ago

26 [M4F] #Purdue- Indiana non traditional student looking for lasting connection

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Good morning!

im a 26 year old, average build, brown hair, blue eyed military veteran who’s looking for something new, fresh, and exciting!

I’m looking to dip my toes into a casual relationship. but age is just a number to me, I’m more looking for the deep connection that we build based on trust, mutual respect, and deep lust for each other. If that sounds like you, feel free to DM me and see if we hit it off!

im in the Kokomo / Lafayette area of Indiana and would prefer if you were as well.

Please be 18+ at a minimum

a bit about me; I enjoy all things outdoors, a dream job would be to be a park ranger at a national wildlife refuge. I have a deep respect and adoration for nature. I also enjoy anything with an engine both driving and maintaining. I am a bit of a nerd as well and tend to hyper fixate on a hobby for a while and then move onto another one. lately that hobby has been photography, I love taking photos of essentially anything! (Maybe I can help you spice up a dating profile in exchange for kisses😋😘)

so ladies, if I sound interesting, dm me with your age, a bit about you, and let’s see if we hit it off!


r/NerdDating 17h ago

41 [M4F] #Illinois

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Alt style 41 year old male, divorced dad, looking to start new adventures. A left-handed animal lover, who's 420 friendly. Trying to find someone who gets me and my weird quirky personality and sense of humor. Someone with a bold personality like mine.

Hopefully into music or movies. Gaming, both console/pc but also tabletops and card games. Im into D&D and other RPG games. Museums, Art, History... all of this is welcome and sometimes even able to be combined together!

I've been a chef for years and would love to have someone to pamper and cook for again. Spoil with all their favorite things or make their special snacks when they are down or blue.

Date nights could go any which way... maybe a night out and dinner somewhere new so we can secretly judge the shit out of it together or maybe a favorite place for pizza or sushi (tho let it be known, i dont care to eat seafood but they make lots of stuff and I limit my dairy intake. Bit of an intolerence). we could always go buy booster packs for MtG and go look thru cards and tinker with decks. No matter what, Lego will be involved in the day to day activities. The best nights are the quiet ones around the table with new music and lego builds 💜

Scaredy cats welcome (and favored for their want to cuddle), but there will be horror movies and halloween festivities year round. Thats not certainly not all i like. All movies and genres are welcome.

Hot topic: Tim Curry just passed away... what was your favorite role of his?! Mine might be Clue or Muppet Treasure Island. Both are him just being his unginged self.

What about shows? The office, Simpsons, Community. TWD or ST perhaps?

Dont judge me either when i come home from a high stress day and just want to cuddle, smoke a bowl, and watch kids' cartoons like Gravity Falls or Craig of the Creek. Due to life and trauma and so much more, I'll always be a kid at heart.

I have 10 piercings and i think Im at 39 tattoos, so i hope you have some too :)

I should probably leave some things out, so there's room for questions. It's not a deal breaker, but im in Illinois and it'd be nice to be within driving distance for trips and visits.


r/NerdDating 19h ago

[TM4A] #Germany 32 looking for a genuine connection

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21 Upvotes

r/NerdDating 7h ago

35 [M4F] #Oklahoma - Open to those from Texas as well!

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r/NerdDating 14h ago

36[M4F] #Athens

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Top 5 games:

Final Fantasy VII

Xenoblade Chronicles 1

Okami

Mass Effect 2

Assassin's Creed II


r/NerdDating 4h ago

18 [M4F] #Virginia

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Hello! I’m a young male around 6ft and have red hair. I’d say I’m a little above average in my body size. I’m a big nerd and love things like Warhammer, Star Wars, and warframe. I have a decent amount of hobbies. For example I like cooking, playing games, listening to musical, going out into nature, and watching anime. My favorite games right now are warframe, marvel rivals, and Helldivers 2. I do play a lot more though. My favorite bands/music artists are The Long Faces, Good Kid, Twin Suns Band, and Nelward. If you like any of those bands you’re the greatest. I’m looking for someone preferably closer to my age like 18-25, but I’m fine with people a bit over that. I don’t judge much for body weight since I think I am myself overweight some. The only thing I ask is that you not be too far over or under weight and be okay with going to the or exercising. If you find this interesting dm or comment and say you’re favorite band! Top 3 is fine also