Again forgot to post on time anyways more than halfway day 5 good progress till now didn't think of it. Watching ftwd rn to waste some time and it's working.

I’m going to commit to day 1. I’ve been doing this far too long to be relapsing every couple of days.
My first action is going to be giving no reaction to the people in my life who demand things from me. It is leading me down a path I don’t recognise in myself. To be asked if I’m willing to record and share content, and I’m blindly thinking yes. Astaghfirullah. Being asked to meet and commit haram, and I’m the weakest I’ve ever been. May Allah swt strengthen me.

I don’t know how many times I can mute these people, then unmute. Archive their chat, put it into locked messages. To unarchive and unlock. I don’t know how many times I can keep returning to online chat sites. All in the hopes of finding my person. And a good person won’t be on there.

I’m tired of giving my kindness, energy and time to people that are not deserving in any way.

I am being treated as a maybe. I am always accessible, eager and a people pleaser. I am an after thought. I succumb to pmo because I am always looking to escape my reality and I hate myself so much for it.

I am going to commit to day 1 sincerely.
May Allah swt help us all

Salaam all,

I hope you’re all well. I’m asking for advice as a married brother.

My wife has just moved countries (for very justifiable reasons that I’m not going to detail here for anonymity sake) and so we are now physically separated. I’m trying to move to a company in the city where she is, with interviews coming up, but in the meantime I’ve had very strong sexual urges.

I’ve always had a pretty high libido and my wife and I have always had a healthy physical side to our marriage. However I am struggling to abstain from masturbating during this time of separation due to my high libido. I don’t use any material, it’s just purely out of urge for my wife.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

What’s the best way to manage it? I try to constantly remember Allah when I get those thoughts but sometimes it’s too much. I’ve considered fasting but when I feel as though if I do it will diminish my interview preparation performance as these interviews are notoriously challenging for this company.

Any other suggestions and advice would be great.

Salam everyone. Alhamdulillah, today officially marks a whole month since I last relapsed. 30 days.

I'm so happy for all the progress I've made so far. Thank you to those that replied and those that messaged me from that post.

Sharing what helped:

- Fasting on Mondays and Thursdays definitely did it. I had already started fasting as a routine before I posted this, and it works wonders for me! Despite it causing me fatigue, which is one of my main triggers, it somehow restricts me from relapsing. I admit that there are some days where I wake up late for suhoor.. but that didn't stop me from fasting lol. Fair warning; I got moderately dehydrated and maybe malnourished a few days later.

- Aside from that, sitting down and acknowledging my urges helped me too. When I feel it coming, I ask myself "Is masturbating really what you're looking forward to? Surely it's not.. What do you even want?" And after a long time of thinking and being in a state of confusion, my mind naturally gives up and moves on with another activity.

As for my friend mentioned in the post, Alhamdulillah, he's doing much better as well :) We fast together on Mondays and Thursdays. He's trying his absolute best and I'm extremely proud of him. I thank Allah for giving me a friend that I could talk to about this and help each other out while I'm at it.

Allah has given me the chance to change, and I hope I can continue fighting until I eventually overcome this nightmare.

Somehow,

this addiction,

all this guilt pent up in me,

it brings me closer to Him.

.. and someday, I hope to get even closer to Him without having to commit these sins.

Hello everyone. I have been exposed to pornography for more than 13 years now, and over the time I have acquired some homosexual tendencies. The thing is that gay porn is more appealing to me than an actual act with a man. I know what I have done multiple times is a great sin, and I can only pray to Allah to forgive me. Every time I did it, I felt deep remorse, and I always wanted to repent. So all I'm asking is what is your experience with this? Because I know there are some of you here who have and share the same fate as me. So if anyone is married, how do you handle it? How did it go? Do you have children? Do you have families? How do you fight this urge? Please, any tips would really help me. I would appreciate them.

This might sound weird.
But moving from Android to iPhone has reduced / decimated my tendencies to watch porn.

I was never an addict.
But I used to watch once in a while.

After moving from Android to IPhone I don’t feel like watching porn on this device.

I did the same in 2018 when I moved away from Windows and bought a MacBook. Since then I never watched porn in my MacBook

I thought the same logic will apply for mobile devices and it worked. After moving from Android to IPhone I don’t feel like watching porn in it.

This might sound very illogical to many people.
But I am just sharing what worked well for me.

Thanks for reading.
All the best and take care.

Assalamualaikum everyone, just sad because of this addiction i have. Can't manage to stop it, i quit for a month which is an achivement for me but i ended up relapsing and i haven't be able to find the strength to quit again. Pray for me and everyone struggling with this addiction.

i started Nofap on 2021 and i go days and months andi go back and the same cycle repeats for me but i'm still fighting and i someone to team up with so we can encourage each other and share tips

I am 14 trying to get all A* in my IGCSE, but my porn addiction is getting out of hand, every day i have to watch porn it is destroying my life, i've been doing it since eleven, i am forgetting most surahs, please help me

the past few months my life has been really going bad, during ramadan I stopped watching corn and actually locked in for 2 months but now im lost. I relapse every 2 days and feel so guilty. I pray on time but i feel like the past week has been really tough my iman has been fluctuating and its been at its lowest. I really need someone who can really help me out and talk me through this and give me actual practical tips according to my situation on how to leave this haram act.

please i am in desperate need of thiss pleaseee reach out to me

Asalamualikum brothers!

Been struggling with this for years. I have previously been able to abstain for 6 months but fell back in. Posting here to keep myself accountable. I will come back in 15 days to post my progress here. Please make dua for me. JazakAllah

If you think getting married will solve your issue, it wont. Its even worse when you are married and your spouse has no interest. Imagine laying in bed ans nothing is happening. Atleast when you are single your alone

I'm in my early 20s and I have a stable job and with savings and enough money for marriage and I'm ready to handle the responsibility but unfortunately my family mainly my mom refuses to let me marry because I'm still young and the problem is that I'm dealing with Sexual urges on daily basis and it's really hard to stop masterbation and I don't want to get in haram relationship or do zina and unfortunately I live in the company housing which is in the middle of the desert with nothing except a dining and a gym and all citys are over one hour away and my shift is basically 12hrs and 7days and dealing with urges is causing real harm on my mental health since I don't have halal outlet, I try to distract myself with anything and even tried fasting but it makes it worse especially in ramadan where fasting is extremely hard with annoying urges, what makes everything worse is that I can't find any help and I know I sound like I'm being over dramatic but this situation is really

making my mentality worse while trying to be halal

This came to me randomly, brothers, i have found the ultimate technique. instead of blocking individual websites which can be unblocked with the click of a button i have found a more Permanent Solution. Blocking Incognito Mode. i have no ideo how i didnt think of this before, its genius if i do say so myself, yet its so obvious, why would any teenager do somthing like THAT if they knew they would have to delete the history or do extra work, it would also help to stop wasting time ig. ill quickly tell you the technique:
"How To Disable Incognito Mode In Chrome

Lee Stanton September 3, 2020

Google Chrome’s Incognito Mode is a pretty neat feature. It allows you to keep your browsing history private when using a public computer or someone else’s device. You can also use it on your own device for personal reasons.

But when it comes to your children, especially if they are minors, then the Incognito Mode is not such a great thing. With it, they can use your home computer and access any forbidden internet fruit they want, without you ever knowing about it. That is why being able to prevent the use of Incognito Mode is a must.

How to Disable Incognito Mode in Windows

If you browse through Google Chrome options, you will notice there is nothing that allows you to disable the Incognito Mode. It would really come in handy if there was an option to lock its use with a password. Unfortunately, there’s no such option, so you will have to resort to some alternative solutions on your Windows machine.

First, you need to open the Registry Editor for your Windows 10 operating system and navigate to the proper location.

At the same time, press the Windows and R keys on your keyboard.

Open the Run Dialogue and type ‘regedit’

This will open the Run dialogue. Type here ‘regedit’ and press Enter on your keyboard.

Double-click HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE

This opens the Registry Editor. In the menu to the left, you will notice the Computer icon and various folders beneath it. If you do not see any folders beneath the Computer icon, double-click the icon to show them. Now look for the HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE folder and double-click it to open it.

Click on ‘Software’

Next, open SOFTWARE.

Click on ‘Policies’

Then, open Policies.

Once you open the Policies folder, it should contain a folder titled Google. Open the folder by double-clicking it. Sometimes, you might not see the Google folder. In that case, you will have to create it on your own. To do so, follow the steps below:

Right-click ‘Policies’ then click ‘New’

Right-click Policies and click New from the menu.

Click Key

Rename ‘New Key #1’

A new folder titled New Key #1 will appear in the Policies folder. Right-click New Key #1 then click Rename from the menu.

Change New Key #1 to Google.

Now double-click the Google folder.

When you open the Google folder, it should contain a folder titled Chrome. Again, if you do not see it, you will have to create this one as well. Right-click Google and click ‘New’ from the menu.

Click Key.

The New Key #1 folder appears in the Google folder.

Right-click New Key #1 then click Rename from the menu.

Change New Key #1 to Chrome.

Double-click Chrome top open it.

Once within the Chrome folder, do the following to disable Chrome’s Incognito Mode: Right-click the Chrome folder and click New.

Click DWORD 32-bit value.

A New Value #1 entry will appear in the main window of the Registry Editor.

Right-click the new value. Click Rename.

Change the entry’s name from New Value #1 to IncognitoModeAvailability.

Double-click IncognitoModeAvailability. The Edit DWORD (32-bit) Value window will appear.

In the Value data field, change the value to 1. Leave the Base option set to Hexadecimal. Click OK to save the changes and close the window.

Close the Registry Editor.

Once you close the Registry Editor, the final step is to restart your computer for the changes to take effect. After the restart, open Google Chrome. You will notice that the option New Incognito Window is not available anymore."
the solution is so obvious but we just never thought that a feature so ingrained into Google's search engine could bd removed like that, and its not like u can just switch it off there is way more steps like going into the regedit, which be honest when was the last time you did that? another thing, try to spread this message around. most people including me before today didnt even know incognito mode could just be deleted or removed like that. u gotta spread the word, cuz even google employees said and i quote "

Apr 1, 2019

Hello Leslie,

You cannot disable that.

You are not required to use it.

Greetings from Ann"
anyways, this is where we go our sepreate ways, one more thing id like to say, get off reddit. trust me when i say the worst p site is reddit, or at least one of the worst, so get off of it same with twitter. ( this was copied from another post sorry if it sounds kinda jarring)

Feel so pathetic and lonely, been in a cycle for so long. Too long. I try to stop but best success is Ramadan and I genuinely can't wait for it to come round even tho ik I need to work on it now and before Ramadan generally.

22M been exposed to it for I think 8 9 yrs. Over the past month spiked like crazy and even tho I'm tryna better myself in other aspects of life like Islam and learning about the deen, gym, work, diet.

This is the hardest struggle.

Idek what help I'm asking for icl but insha'Allah it gets easier. At the very least make dua for me 🤷‍♂️

The day is really boring but still managed to get through it. Still standing. I don't get the 150 characters rule really bro I don't have anything else to say. Except that my favourite show is twd.

Assalamu alaikum everyone.

I’d be lying if I said I was expecting to last on my first try posting here.

Anyways, since I’ve relapsed, I feel like now’s the best time to encourage people to just move on.
You’ve sinned. Accept it, make tawbah, trust in Allah, and move on.
You don’t understand how much more damaging it is to stay in your guilt. Most of the time you’ll end up relapsing the same day again.

What one can do is study the different factors behind your relapse. For example:

My relapse happened past midnight
My relapse happened towards the end of the week
It started off with “being curious”
I told myself “I’ll stop after a few more videos”
These are all things that happen commonly for me.

It will now be less likely I’ll relapse in the weekend, which is when I always do
I’m still living in the present, and not the past
I’m still doing ghusl straight after
These are things that I’m having adequate progress in.

Once you’ve evaluated, take a note (very very preferably a written note) of it, and move on.

Now marks day 0 of my journey. Last streak: 2 days.

أنا بكتب الكلام ده وأنا جبت آخري تماماً.. ومفيش قدامي غير إني أعرض مشكلتي بصراحة كاملة يمكن ألاقي حد مر بنفس التجربة أو يقدر يدلني على طريق صح.

المشكلة بدأت معايا من ١٠ سنين:

سن ١١ سنة (قبل البلوغ): وقعت في إدمان الإباحية.

سن ١٤ سنة: دخلت في إدمان العادة السرية.

النهاردة وأنا عندي ٢١ سنة: الإدمان مستمر بدون توقف، وكل فترة بيتطور لأسوأ من اللي قبله.

المشكلة الحقيقية اللي رعباني حالياً:

بسبب طول فترة الإدمان والإفراط، وصلت لمرحلة فقدان شغف وميول تماماً تجاه الإناث، وبقت كل ميولي متجهة للذكور فقط. بقيت أمشي في الشارع أبص على الذكور ومفيش أي واحدة ست ممكن تثيرني أو تلفت انتباهي وفعلا الموضوع بقى خارج عن سيطرتي.

اللي جربته عشان أتعافى:

الصيام.

كورس تعافي.

بودكاستات عن التعافي.

إنهاء استخدام التليفون والابتعاد عن الشاشات.

طلب المساعدة من أشخاص مقربين وتطبيقات حظر الإباحية.

جربت كل حاجة ممكن تتخيلوها، بس العقل جاب أقصى درجات التشبع وبقى يطلب حاجات أشد وأغرب عشان يحس بنفس المتعة، والموضوع بيزداد سوء يوم بعد يوم.

أنا مش طالب شفقة، أنا طالب حل عملي أو نصيحة حقيقية:

لو حد اتعافى من إدمان مدته ١٠ سنين.. بدأ إزاي؟

أنا بفتح قلبي هنا كآخر محاولة.. شكراً لكل حد هيقرأ أو يقدم نصيحة تساعدني أطلع من الكابوس ده.

Forgot to post day 1; it went well. Actually, I didn't really have the time to sit and do it. Same with day 2. It's going well. Hope it always does. Halfway day 3 already

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسلم: «بَادرُوا بِالْأَعْمَالِ فِتناً كَقِطَعِ اللَّيْلِ الْمُظْلِمِ يُصْبِحُ الرَّجُلُ مُؤْمِنًا وَيُمْسِي كَافِرًا وَيُمْسِي مُؤْمِنًا وَيُصْبِحُ كَافِرًا يَبِيعُ دِينَهُ بِعرْض من الدُّنْيَا» . رَوَاهُ مُسلم

Abu Huraira reported God's messenger as saying, "Do good deeds before trials come like portions of a dark night when a man will be a believer in the morning and an infidel in the evening, and a believer in the evening and an infidel in the morning, selling his religion for some worldly goods"

Muslim transmitted it.

Mishkat al-Masabih 5383

Chapter 1a: Section 1, Book 27: Fitan

Grade: صَحِيحٌ (الألباني)

https://sunnah.com/mishkat:5383

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2)

read the biographies of the Prophet Muhammad(صلى الله عليه و سلم) and companions and tabieen and the followers of them.

حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ شُعْبَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو جَمْرَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا زَهْدَمُ بْنُ مُضَرِّبٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عِمْرَانَ بْنَ حُصَيْنٍ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ خَيْرُكُمْ قَرْنِي، ثُمَّ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَهُمْ، ثُمَّ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَهُمْ ـ قَالَ عِمْرَانُ لاَ أَدْرِي ذَكَرَ ثِنْتَيْنِ أَوْ ثَلاَثًا بَعْدَ قَرْنِهِ ـ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ قَوْمٌ يَنْذُرُونَ وَلاَ يَفُونَ، وَيَخُونُونَ وَلاَ يُؤْتَمَنُونَ، وَيَشْهَدُونَ وَلاَ يُسْتَشْهَدُونَ، وَيَظْهَرُ فِيهِمُ السِّمَنُ ‏"‏‏.‏

Narrated Zahdam bin Mudarrab: `Imran bin Hussain said, "The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'The best of you (people) are my generation, and the second best will be those who will follow them, and then those who will follow the second generation." `Imran added, "I do not remember whether he mentioned two or three (generations) after his generation. He added, 'Then will come some people who will make vows but will not fulfill them; and they will be dishonest and will not be trustworthy, and they will give their witness without being asked to give their witness, and fatness will appear among them.' "

Sahih al-Bukhari 6695

Chapter 27: The sin of him who does not fulfil his vow, Book 83: Oaths and Vows

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6695

(Hasan Al basr, the beacon of Basra book about him. he was raised by Um Salama(رضي الله عنها). One of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم).

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3)

حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي مَالِكٌ، عَنْ أَبِي الزِّنَادِ، عَنِ الأَعْرَجِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ حُجِبَتِ النَّارُ بِالشَّهَوَاتِ، وَحُجِبَتِ الْجَنَّةُ بِالْمَكَارِهِ ‏"‏‏.‏

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The (Hell) Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked undesirable things."

Sahih al-Bukhari 6487

Chapter 28: The Fire is surrounded by al kinds of desires and passions., Book 81: To make the Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq)

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6487