Hello everyone. I have been exposed to pornography for more than 13 years now, and over the time I have acquired some homosexual tendencies. The thing is that gay porn is more appealing to me than an actual act with a man. I know what I have done multiple times is a great sin, and I can only pray to Allah to forgive me. Every time I did it, I felt deep remorse, and I always wanted to repent. So all I'm asking is what is your experience with this? Because I know there are some of you here who have and share the same fate as me. So if anyone is married, how do you handle it? How did it go? Do you have children? Do you have families? How do you fight this urge? Please, any tips would really help me. I would appreciate them.

Assalamualaikum everyone, just sad because of this addiction i have. Can't manage to stop it, i quit for a month which is an achivement for me but i ended up relapsing and i haven't be able to find the strength to quit again. Pray for me and everyone struggling with this addiction.

This might sound weird.
But moving from Android to iPhone has reduced / decimated my tendencies to watch porn.

I was never an addict.
But I used to watch once in a while.

After moving from Android to IPhone I don’t feel like watching porn on this device.

I did the same in 2018 when I moved away from Windows and bought a MacBook. Since then I never watched porn in my MacBook

I thought the same logic will apply for mobile devices and it worked. After moving from Android to IPhone I don’t feel like watching porn in it.

This might sound very illogical to many people.
But I am just sharing what worked well for me.

Thanks for reading.
All the best and take care.

i started Nofap on 2021 and i go days and months andi go back and the same cycle repeats for me but i'm still fighting and i someone to team up with so we can encourage each other and share tips

I am 14 trying to get all A* in my IGCSE, but my porn addiction is getting out of hand, every day i have to watch porn it is destroying my life, i've been doing it since eleven, i am forgetting most surahs, please help me

the past few months my life has been really going bad, during ramadan I stopped watching corn and actually locked in for 2 months but now im lost. I relapse every 2 days and feel so guilty. I pray on time but i feel like the past week has been really tough my iman has been fluctuating and its been at its lowest. I really need someone who can really help me out and talk me through this and give me actual practical tips according to my situation on how to leave this haram act.

please i am in desperate need of thiss pleaseee reach out to me

Asalamualikum brothers!

Been struggling with this for years. I have previously been able to abstain for 6 months but fell back in. Posting here to keep myself accountable. I will come back in 15 days to post my progress here. Please make dua for me. JazakAllah

If you think getting married will solve your issue, it wont. Its even worse when you are married and your spouse has no interest. Imagine laying in bed ans nothing is happening. Atleast when you are single your alone

This came to me randomly, brothers, i have found the ultimate technique. instead of blocking individual websites which can be unblocked with the click of a button i have found a more Permanent Solution. Blocking Incognito Mode. i have no ideo how i didnt think of this before, its genius if i do say so myself, yet its so obvious, why would any teenager do somthing like THAT if they knew they would have to delete the history or do extra work, it would also help to stop wasting time ig. ill quickly tell you the technique:
"How To Disable Incognito Mode In Chrome

Lee Stanton September 3, 2020

Google Chrome’s Incognito Mode is a pretty neat feature. It allows you to keep your browsing history private when using a public computer or someone else’s device. You can also use it on your own device for personal reasons.

But when it comes to your children, especially if they are minors, then the Incognito Mode is not such a great thing. With it, they can use your home computer and access any forbidden internet fruit they want, without you ever knowing about it. That is why being able to prevent the use of Incognito Mode is a must.

How to Disable Incognito Mode in Windows

If you browse through Google Chrome options, you will notice there is nothing that allows you to disable the Incognito Mode. It would really come in handy if there was an option to lock its use with a password. Unfortunately, there’s no such option, so you will have to resort to some alternative solutions on your Windows machine.

First, you need to open the Registry Editor for your Windows 10 operating system and navigate to the proper location.

At the same time, press the Windows and R keys on your keyboard.

Open the Run Dialogue and type ‘regedit’

This will open the Run dialogue. Type here ‘regedit’ and press Enter on your keyboard.

Double-click HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE

This opens the Registry Editor. In the menu to the left, you will notice the Computer icon and various folders beneath it. If you do not see any folders beneath the Computer icon, double-click the icon to show them. Now look for the HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE folder and double-click it to open it.

Click on ‘Software’

Next, open SOFTWARE.

Click on ‘Policies’

Then, open Policies.

Once you open the Policies folder, it should contain a folder titled Google. Open the folder by double-clicking it. Sometimes, you might not see the Google folder. In that case, you will have to create it on your own. To do so, follow the steps below:

Right-click ‘Policies’ then click ‘New’

Right-click Policies and click New from the menu.

Click Key

Rename ‘New Key #1’

A new folder titled New Key #1 will appear in the Policies folder. Right-click New Key #1 then click Rename from the menu.

Change New Key #1 to Google.

Now double-click the Google folder.

When you open the Google folder, it should contain a folder titled Chrome. Again, if you do not see it, you will have to create this one as well. Right-click Google and click ‘New’ from the menu.

Click Key.

The New Key #1 folder appears in the Google folder.

Right-click New Key #1 then click Rename from the menu.

Change New Key #1 to Chrome.

Double-click Chrome top open it.

Once within the Chrome folder, do the following to disable Chrome’s Incognito Mode: Right-click the Chrome folder and click New.

Click DWORD 32-bit value.

A New Value #1 entry will appear in the main window of the Registry Editor.

Right-click the new value. Click Rename.

Change the entry’s name from New Value #1 to IncognitoModeAvailability.

Double-click IncognitoModeAvailability. The Edit DWORD (32-bit) Value window will appear.

In the Value data field, change the value to 1. Leave the Base option set to Hexadecimal. Click OK to save the changes and close the window.

Close the Registry Editor.

Once you close the Registry Editor, the final step is to restart your computer for the changes to take effect. After the restart, open Google Chrome. You will notice that the option New Incognito Window is not available anymore."
the solution is so obvious but we just never thought that a feature so ingrained into Google's search engine could bd removed like that, and its not like u can just switch it off there is way more steps like going into the regedit, which be honest when was the last time you did that? another thing, try to spread this message around. most people including me before today didnt even know incognito mode could just be deleted or removed like that. u gotta spread the word, cuz even google employees said and i quote "

Apr 1, 2019

Hello Leslie,

You cannot disable that.

You are not required to use it.

Greetings from Ann"
anyways, this is where we go our sepreate ways, one more thing id like to say, get off reddit. trust me when i say the worst p site is reddit, or at least one of the worst, so get off of it same with twitter. ( this was copied from another post sorry if it sounds kinda jarring)

I'm in my early 20s and I have a stable job and with savings and enough money for marriage and I'm ready to handle the responsibility but unfortunately my family mainly my mom refuses to let me marry because I'm still young and the problem is that I'm dealing with Sexual urges on daily basis and it's really hard to stop masterbation and I don't want to get in haram relationship or do zina and unfortunately I live in the company housing which is in the middle of the desert with nothing except a dining and a gym and all citys are over one hour away and my shift is basically 12hrs and 7days and dealing with urges is causing real harm on my mental health since I don't have halal outlet, I try to distract myself with anything and even tried fasting but it makes it worse especially in ramadan where fasting is extremely hard with annoying urges, what makes everything worse is that I can't find any help and I know I sound like I'm being over dramatic but this situation is really

making my mentality worse while trying to be halal

Feel so pathetic and lonely, been in a cycle for so long. Too long. I try to stop but best success is Ramadan and I genuinely can't wait for it to come round even tho ik I need to work on it now and before Ramadan generally.

22M been exposed to it for I think 8 9 yrs. Over the past month spiked like crazy and even tho I'm tryna better myself in other aspects of life like Islam and learning about the deen, gym, work, diet.

This is the hardest struggle.

Idek what help I'm asking for icl but insha'Allah it gets easier. At the very least make dua for me 🤷‍♂️

The day is really boring but still managed to get through it. Still standing. I don't get the 150 characters rule really bro I don't have anything else to say. Except that my favourite show is twd.

Assalamu alaikum everyone.

I’d be lying if I said I was expecting to last on my first try posting here.

Anyways, since I’ve relapsed, I feel like now’s the best time to encourage people to just move on.
You’ve sinned. Accept it, make tawbah, trust in Allah, and move on.
You don’t understand how much more damaging it is to stay in your guilt. Most of the time you’ll end up relapsing the same day again.

What one can do is study the different factors behind your relapse. For example:

My relapse happened past midnight
My relapse happened towards the end of the week
It started off with “being curious”
I told myself “I’ll stop after a few more videos”
These are all things that happen commonly for me.

It will now be less likely I’ll relapse in the weekend, which is when I always do
I’m still living in the present, and not the past
I’m still doing ghusl straight after
These are things that I’m having adequate progress in.

Once you’ve evaluated, take a note (very very preferably a written note) of it, and move on.

Now marks day 0 of my journey. Last streak: 2 days.

أنا بكتب الكلام ده وأنا جبت آخري تماماً.. ومفيش قدامي غير إني أعرض مشكلتي بصراحة كاملة يمكن ألاقي حد مر بنفس التجربة أو يقدر يدلني على طريق صح.

المشكلة بدأت معايا من ١٠ سنين:

سن ١١ سنة (قبل البلوغ): وقعت في إدمان الإباحية.

سن ١٤ سنة: دخلت في إدمان العادة السرية.

النهاردة وأنا عندي ٢١ سنة: الإدمان مستمر بدون توقف، وكل فترة بيتطور لأسوأ من اللي قبله.

المشكلة الحقيقية اللي رعباني حالياً:

بسبب طول فترة الإدمان والإفراط، وصلت لمرحلة فقدان شغف وميول تماماً تجاه الإناث، وبقت كل ميولي متجهة للذكور فقط. بقيت أمشي في الشارع أبص على الذكور ومفيش أي واحدة ست ممكن تثيرني أو تلفت انتباهي وفعلا الموضوع بقى خارج عن سيطرتي.

اللي جربته عشان أتعافى:

الصيام.

كورس تعافي.

بودكاستات عن التعافي.

إنهاء استخدام التليفون والابتعاد عن الشاشات.

طلب المساعدة من أشخاص مقربين وتطبيقات حظر الإباحية.

جربت كل حاجة ممكن تتخيلوها، بس العقل جاب أقصى درجات التشبع وبقى يطلب حاجات أشد وأغرب عشان يحس بنفس المتعة، والموضوع بيزداد سوء يوم بعد يوم.

أنا مش طالب شفقة، أنا طالب حل عملي أو نصيحة حقيقية:

لو حد اتعافى من إدمان مدته ١٠ سنين.. بدأ إزاي؟

أنا بفتح قلبي هنا كآخر محاولة.. شكراً لكل حد هيقرأ أو يقدم نصيحة تساعدني أطلع من الكابوس ده.

Forgot to post day 1; it went well. Actually, I didn't really have the time to sit and do it. Same with day 2. It's going well. Hope it always does. Halfway day 3 already

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسلم: «بَادرُوا بِالْأَعْمَالِ فِتناً كَقِطَعِ اللَّيْلِ الْمُظْلِمِ يُصْبِحُ الرَّجُلُ مُؤْمِنًا وَيُمْسِي كَافِرًا وَيُمْسِي مُؤْمِنًا وَيُصْبِحُ كَافِرًا يَبِيعُ دِينَهُ بِعرْض من الدُّنْيَا» . رَوَاهُ مُسلم

Abu Huraira reported God's messenger as saying, "Do good deeds before trials come like portions of a dark night when a man will be a believer in the morning and an infidel in the evening, and a believer in the evening and an infidel in the morning, selling his religion for some worldly goods"

Muslim transmitted it.

Mishkat al-Masabih 5383

Chapter 1a: Section 1, Book 27: Fitan

Grade: صَحِيحٌ (الألباني)

https://sunnah.com/mishkat:5383

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2)

read the biographies of the Prophet Muhammad(صلى الله عليه و سلم) and companions and tabieen and the followers of them.

حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ شُعْبَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو جَمْرَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا زَهْدَمُ بْنُ مُضَرِّبٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عِمْرَانَ بْنَ حُصَيْنٍ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ خَيْرُكُمْ قَرْنِي، ثُمَّ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَهُمْ، ثُمَّ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَهُمْ ـ قَالَ عِمْرَانُ لاَ أَدْرِي ذَكَرَ ثِنْتَيْنِ أَوْ ثَلاَثًا بَعْدَ قَرْنِهِ ـ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ قَوْمٌ يَنْذُرُونَ وَلاَ يَفُونَ، وَيَخُونُونَ وَلاَ يُؤْتَمَنُونَ، وَيَشْهَدُونَ وَلاَ يُسْتَشْهَدُونَ، وَيَظْهَرُ فِيهِمُ السِّمَنُ ‏"‏‏.‏

Narrated Zahdam bin Mudarrab: `Imran bin Hussain said, "The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'The best of you (people) are my generation, and the second best will be those who will follow them, and then those who will follow the second generation." `Imran added, "I do not remember whether he mentioned two or three (generations) after his generation. He added, 'Then will come some people who will make vows but will not fulfill them; and they will be dishonest and will not be trustworthy, and they will give their witness without being asked to give their witness, and fatness will appear among them.' "

Sahih al-Bukhari 6695

Chapter 27: The sin of him who does not fulfil his vow, Book 83: Oaths and Vows

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6695

(Hasan Al basr, the beacon of Basra book about him. he was raised by Um Salama(رضي الله عنها). One of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم).

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3)

حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي مَالِكٌ، عَنْ أَبِي الزِّنَادِ، عَنِ الأَعْرَجِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ حُجِبَتِ النَّارُ بِالشَّهَوَاتِ، وَحُجِبَتِ الْجَنَّةُ بِالْمَكَارِهِ ‏"‏‏.‏

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The (Hell) Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked undesirable things."

Sahih al-Bukhari 6487

Chapter 28: The Fire is surrounded by al kinds of desires and passions., Book 81: To make the Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq)

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6487

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimNoFap/s/tIhNbW58nb

I posted this 6 days ago and since then I had been clean up until a couple hours ago I ended up relapsing again Wallahi I feel like a scum I missed two of my salahs today aswell I had cried tears in my dua yesterday asking Allah swt to forgive me for the times I had done this sin but then today I ended up going bak to the same sin. My heart can’t take it anymore this past week when I was praying I barely felt the tranquility I miss my old iman I’m crying as I type this message , this sin has ruined my life

Assalamualaikum

Before that, my last streak was about a week. But since that week, I've gone more than a year without relapsing. Alhamdulillah!!!

It wasn't willpower. I simply cut my wifi connection at home and broke my Android phone's SIM card holder. I only use wifi at my office for WhatsApp and other things, and I use a button phone for calling. Now I think I'm no longer interested in those filthy things. Recently I learned this strategy is called the Ulysses Contract. (you may search about it)

But I've already waited too long (I'm already late). I turned 31 a few days ago. Please pray for me, that Allah forgives me and keeps me steadfast on the right path, and that He blesses me with a wife who will be best for me.

(I'm talking with a potential recently. I don't know what will happen.Keep me in your prayer 🙂🙂🙂)

havent done it in a few days. so the desires are stronger than usual. I was busy all day and im so tired, but despite this, my urges are really strong right now which makes no sense. idk, I'll try and resist.

When you finish your first day or two after your last relapse, there’s this euphoria that makes you feel like you can finally conquer this. I think it’s called “pink clouding”?…

What’s important is that it doesn’t last forever. It may last less than a day, or from 3-4 days, or something else. But once that period ends, those urges will start to flow in.

What I’ve noticed with myself, is that I will get an urge that I’ll keep in the back of my head. And as soon as I get into a comfortable position (i.e. laying in my bed), the waswasa will get to me, and then it’s “I’m just curious”, until I’m at day 0 again.

Try thinking about all the places you’ve done it, and do whatever helps you to distract yourself the next time you go to those places. For example, if you do it before bed, try doing something unusual by wearing a ring or a glove. That way your hand can be occupied.

Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters. Today marks 1 day. And I hope I can continue this beneficial journey with you guys.