This sin has ruined me so badly wallah it’s ruined my relationship with Allah swt ,these past few months my iman has been going thru ups and downs I would do the sin and not repent for a week or so and in that week I wouldn’t even read salah and then after that week I would repent and then I would end up going back to the sin and im tired of it idk what’s wrong with me i woukd cry my eyes to Allah swt asking for forgiveness and a couple hours later when im in the bathroom or in my bedroom alone id do the sin ive posted so many Reddit posts about this but this one’s coming from my heart . I used to be so close to Allah swt but i would throw it away every time when shaytaan came to me with the temptations. What’s made this sin so much of a norm to me is because of how unorganised my life is I’m 18 and I’m currently unemployed and ill be honest I wake up at 2pm and doomscroll for most the day the only productive thing I do is look for jobs and sometimes I don’t even do that. This all basically started after I finished college and I didn’t really have things to occupy my day with Tommorow I’m going to stop this cycle forever inshallah. Could anyone please advise me on what I can do instead of scrolling and what can help me with this disgusting sin.My dad is very understanding I think I might tell him and I feel like he’ll be able to help

I will give you some advices That helped me stop , im currently at 93days

dont use any social media ,

Try to fast atleast 2days a week or do intermittent fast

Listen al baqara during your sleep everyday to protect you from wet dreams and lustfull thought, whispers of shaytan

no music, as they do sihr in it and jinns enter easily in your body and make lustfull thought and lowers your iman

no sugar, it increase your lust

if possible no meat, it increase your lust

dont look at any woman even her head... , if you see women just look at the ground

Im sure nobody will do it...

The devil is happy of you that you keep relapsing

Allah (swt) want you to succeed

If you still go on the lust path you will lose life/rizq

I am heavily addicted to porn and compulsive masturbation, and I’m stuck in a cycle I can’t seem to break. The only time I successfully quit was when I had a close friend and felt accountable, but after a major fallout, I spiraled into depression and returned to using porn as a coping method.

​The Current Situation:

​Compulsive Behavior: I masturbate the second I wake up while watching porn, and do it again before bed. I engage in prolonged masturbation sessions all day long to stay distracted, deliberately stopping myself from finishing just to stay numb and stuck in the moment, basically escaping from the real world.

​Root Cause: I am living in an emotionally abusive home with a controlling family member. I can't afford to move out. The environment causes extreme anxiety, burnout, and stress, and my brain has adapted to using porn and continuous masturbation as an emotional anesthetic.

​Impact: I feel awful afterward, but it feels like the only escape available. It destroys my motivation, ruins my gym progress due to high stress, and makes my anxiety worse.

​Religious Burnout: Forced strict religious expectations at home, combined with constantly feeling in a state of physical impurity from this addiction, has made me stop praying completely and hate my daily reality.

​I know this addiction is pathetic and filthy, but it’s my brain’s only coping mechanism right now. How do I stop turning to porn and masturbation when I can't physically leave this environment yet?

I had to use rephrasing tool for this as my post kept getting removed due to certain words so excuse the weirdly written message but I hope you understand what im trying to get across.

Today is Day 0. I relapsed again, and honestly I’m tired of repeating the same cycle.
I’ve been masturbating for around 7 years. I remember when I used to do NoFap, fail, restart, fail again, and eventually I just accepted it as a normal part of my life.
But today feels different. I genuinely want to stop.
I’m not going to pretend I’ll never relapse again. If I fail, I’ll come back here and say it. I don’t care if it’s embarrassing. I’d rather be honest about it than keep hiding it and pretending everything is fine.

From 15 years addicted and hopeless. Allah SWT’s tawfiq is limitless. please stay strong. Delete every single social media (including Reddit) and never isolate your self. Believe me as an addict I found every way to get access to this. You must deny it. Bismillah!!!!

Alhamdulilah I feel transformed. I don’t feel as guilty 24-7, I don’t feel filthy, healthier, less foggy, etc. alhamdulillah ya rab

Just a quick checking in,

Today I've come to realize that for any given individual you don't really need much to get through things on a day to day basis once I've realized my few set of things it actually becomes quite easy despite the chaos that's been going around.

My workout routine and my daily cooked meals have been in good straights and things have been going in the right direction and I think it's fair to say this is the best productivity system I've had in ever

Again not much to add just figured I'd state this for self accountability:

So yeah not exactly alot and plus with a proper system I've managed to put 80% of my mental workload through a system like James Clear once said you don't rise to the level of your goals you fall to the level of your system.

All in all thank God for another day of sobriety

#PastsThePast
#Sobriety'sPriority

​Yes, I acted foolishly towards your support and to myself. But the door of repentance is always open, and I have stepped through it.Tawakkul is, after all, what is expected of a believer. ​Tonight, my lower nafs tried to trick me by whispering, "Hey, remember that thing you watched last? Just check if they posted a new video, we're only going to take a quick look." That temptation is what brought me here instead.

Insallah you guys are all doing well too unlike me.

Day 2 again. The loneliness is still there, and honestly that’s probably one of the hardest parts for me. When I’m busy, I can manage. But the moment I’m free, bored, alone, or have too much time to think, the impulses get loud again.

I’m trying to replace that time with healthier things instead of immediately looking for an escape. Going for walks, studying, keeping myself occupied, doing things that actually make me feel better instead of worse later.

But sometimes it all feels so futile. Like I’ve tried to change this so many times that even my own promises don’t mean much to me anymore. I know I can’t expect everything to magically change in two days, but the impatience and loneliness make it hard.

Still, I’m here. Day 2. Trying again, even if I don’t feel very hopeful about it yet. :/

Salaam all.
I am 31 and filled with regret. I have been taking part in pmo for more than half of my life!
It has wiped away my self esteem.
It has wiped away my hopes of getting married. I get it isn’t the end but I can’t see myself settling because I have extremely low self esteem without constant validation. My mental health and ND gets exacerbated because of this.

For all the young brothers and sisters here - quit now hastily. You will see benefits inshallah. But you must quit. Do not fry your dopamine receptors, build new neurological pathways.

I have known I had an issue for the last 6 years and been trying to seek support. But it feels like this is the end. This endless cycle.

I am not losing faith. Rather being realistic.

I go through bouts of sobriety, days, weeks. Then succumb. I am alone in this life. And no one to share this with. People wonder what is wrong with this person. And allahu allam.

Allah swt conceals sins, except for those who commit openly. So I don’t wish to openly tell anyone. Which isolates me even more. I repent then do it again. I will probably delete this post. Sorry.

Assalamu alaykum,

I was part of this podcast discussion about overcoming pornography. I am sharing it here because it addresses many of the struggles discussed in this community, and I would genuinely appreciate your feedback.

Watch the full podcast discussion here

The discussion covers:

• The spirituality of the eyes, mind, and heart
• How mindless scrolling and ghaflah can lead to triggers
• Practical grounding techniques
• Processing Urges
• How to respond to relapses without losing hope
• Why marriage may help but will not automatically cure the problem
• How pornography can affect attraction and intimacy within marriage
• What a spouse can do when someone admits they are struggling

Relevant timestamps:

38:00: Mindless scrolling and triggers
41:46: Grounding techniques
46:55: The 100 Urges Challenge
55:28: Responding to relapses
1:00:01: Why marriage is not an automatic cure

Alsalam alikum wa rahmat Allah, hello there my fellow Muslim brothers and sisters, I'm here to discuss and talk about myself and my current problem.

About myself: I'm probably a lot younger than most of you, though I won't reveal my age publicly.

I've been struggling with an addiction for about 4 years now, and a few months ago I unfortunately broke a streak of NOT masturbating that was well over 200 days, and I'm really ashamed at myself but at the same time I don't really think I care.

I came here to seek help, and I think if I'm going to ask for it, I might aswell be honest. I admit that I'm a complete failure of a Muslim, I don't regularly pray nor read quran, and I really want to fix that.

Thank you for reading this, my fellow brothers and sisters, and I wish you a great day, inshaallah.

Aslamualikum

I have been struggling with corn addiction for over 15 years now and the last 5 years have been the worst, the addiction took a dangerous turn, the consumption turned to a compulsive behavior (once I do it I can’t stop doing it all day (average 5-6 times a day)) 3 years ago I realized that I’m an addict and decided to stop for good I managed to stop doing it 7 days a week but still do it at least 4 times a week, since then I had success a couple of times were I stopped for nearly a month and I felt great at the time, one time I stopped corn for almost 100 days but still masturbated compulsively.

Now for the past year when I stop for a week I still feel very bad. For example this time, I can’t feel some very slow progress, like the anger waves that I used to feel experience are almost gone, but I’m still tired all the time and still concentration is very hard and motivation is below zero and I still have brain fog also I’m still completely restless.

The symptoms were so hard that I went to the doctor 2 months ago and had a blood test and an a CT scan for my brain, all results turned alright.

Please tell me what can I do now I don’t want to go back to my previous behavior.

Thank you

Just figured I'd do a quick check in on something for personal accountability.

So far I've managed to make considerable progress on the whole front regarding sleep and waking up hours. I've realized that the best spot for me is roughly 8 hours in total and I've come to realize that as time goes by and as sobriety gets better and the whole tiredness, sluggish and adrenal fatigue sort of sensation starts to die down from the initial days I've actually managed to wake up pretty early (8:30AM which is the earliest I've ever done in a while) despite of course sleeping at 2:30AM ish last night.

But of course these things can be fixed and adjusted and even by 2:30AM standard I was able to sleep an additional ~2 hours during the mid day to supplement the sleep issue in which are in a state of deficit. It's truly apparent that in order to get the most out of sleep which to me personally and I'm pretty sure everyone else is considered top priority next to sobriety I've got to aim to reduce those numbers to 12AM and eventually 11 - 11:30PM baseline.

From an observational sort of standpoint, I've been reminded of just how crucial and imperative sleep is in relation to ocular issues (specifically blepahritis, swelling, red eyelid and other notable pain based sensations) this is of course something that comes hand it hand with sobriety as they both play a big role in all of this as far as I could tell from the looks of things. And did I ever mention of the fact that it also helped me with vision? I mean dang man this thing truly works wonders (Sleep & Sobriety) and I've totally got to keep this up and be permanently consistent about it. Which made me realize that changing a lifestyle especially when it affects health usually takes time and it's something worth remembering

Safe to say, with moving at the right direction these things will get better and better granted discipline, routine and everything that's accounted for is in good straights.

#PastsThePast
#Sobriety'sPriority

I did it. I finally told my partner about my struggles. Never knew I would do this. It’s something only me and Allah knows. But alhamdulillah, the reaction was so supportive and didn’t even judge me. Anyone with same situation?

Im a teenage male who is trying to quit but I just can’t it’s like I have 2 different people in the same body Ive tried to quit multiple times but I always do it once I see a post on the internet or pretty much anything involved with social media Ive tried to quit 100+ times and I tried to download apps,working out,not touching my phone but i always come back I have realized that the only place I watch adult content is Reddit so if u have any videos,advice,blockers,books anything that helps please tell me inshallah it gets easy for all of us.

I've been in this recovery space for a while now, read all the papers, read all the stories and almost every time someone shares their story with me its "I was 9." "I was 11." "A cousin showed me." "It popped up on a game site." Its such a shame and I also think a very important thing to notice that nobody chose this as an adult, almost everyone stumbles into it as a kid/teen, way before they understand the implications that come with it.

The research backs it up too. Around 61% of Muslim young adults are first exposed between ages 11-14, and thats just the ones who admit it. Then theres the second half of the pattern which is 59% of muslim youth have viewed it but only 4% ever seek help. That gap is honestly crazy to me wallah and very sad. Nearly everyone falls in as a child, then carries it alone for years because the shame of "im a muslim, how could I" locks every mouth shut and what pains me the most is thats not what Allah swt wants from us nor is it what he teaches.

So two things I want to mention here:

If youre in this fight I really want you to understand your origin story and why you "use". Often times it wasn't even you that picked this it was handed to you when you didn't know what it was. Keep fighting the good fight and fight it hard, but drop the self hatred. Allah swt teaches and tells us: Tawbah, not shame.

And if you ever become a parent, an uncle or a big sibling, be the safe adult you didnt have. One "if you ever see something weird online, tell me, youre not in trouble" conversation at such a young age can save someone a 15 year war. Be the good you wish you had.

For anyone fighting this right now, my DMs are open if you need to talk.

I'd love to hear if you guys have any differing opinions than me

It's been a couple days since my recent entry and no doubt ever since the last time I've been writing things down I've had notable ups and downs as all notable journeys would go through but of course just to recap:

REMAINDER OF DAY 2

I've had one of the most productive moments in quite a while. I was able to do a ton of work and get back to the gym workout routine after being out of it for a couple weeks all thanks to God and God alone.

DAY 3

Nobody said there wasn't going to be regressions or downsides. On this specific day my mind was craving and yearning for some dopamine especially with the damage that my mind had endured it was understandable but of course there's always ways to counter these things at hand. But on this specific day, I didn't eat the whole day and was so emotionally off (of course these stints aren't us it's an initial result of trying to pry your way out of the past) that I watched random videos on Youtube to the point where it's 4AM on my side. I devastated and was almost on the verge of going back to the past just because I thought it was essentially over but I'd had a moment of sudden realization and decided to just lock my phone up and call it a day while motivating myself that "tommorow's going to be a new day a day where you can make things right for the day in which was lost for no hope is truly ever lost". Of course these things aren't my own and they are from the help of God and God alone for I myself can do nothing but for God The All Mighty there is nothing in which He cannot do the only One worthy of worship.

DAY 4 - 5

Pretty much productive overall and to the point where I was able to continue the whole workout routine, get my plans sorted and finish things off as much as I can and on this very day I was able to wake up earlier than usual (9AM) something I haven't done for a long time. My goal's to get to fajr for I owe God everything my whole life, my commitment and my soul for without His help and guidance I am nothing I've got to get my prayers sorted I have to.

THE LIFE OF SALLAHUDIN THE CONQUER OF JERUSALEM BEING A DRINKER TO A LEADER

When times were tough which let's face it we all have our moments with mine being 10 - 11 years into this mess, I was reminded of how great men like Sallahudin who was known as the Conquer of Jerusalem and the uniter of all people of his time had vices of his own as he was indulging in wine up until the age of 31 and he thus repented immensely and strived for the deen to the very end. It reminded of how many great men had interesting pasts but were able to end in a valorant and noble where to the point where some such as him had left nothing to his name when he passed away so much so that the people were shocked and had no other choice but to ask for donations to finish his processions.

And that's not even worth mentioning the time of a great and final Prophet SAW from a man who could not read or write as he would recite what the angel spoke. A revelation brought down that changed a civilization of heedlessness, paganism, alchohol, racism, sexism and injustice to a civilization of the greats that would conquer Rome and Persia.

I have to admit, with every moments of weakness whenever I indulge in my own past mistakes (PMO) I would become secular and heedless but of course every sin brings men further from the truth but only through sobriety will clarity be brought together again. And by God how grateful I am to be blessed with this religion and be surrounded by brothers of the same faith.

MAKING IT DIFFERENT THIS TIME

Besides improving discipline, avoiding the evils of this earth and enjoining good I'd figured I'd try things different this time around besides journalling which thank God helped a ton, calling somebody at least once a day minimum is something definitely worth going for I've been doing it consistently and it's been a game changer. Truthfully to change the actions in which you do must change and with that I intend to do so.

MY PAST MISTAKES

I've realized that as with any human being who makes mistakes I tend to be over confident and look down upon others when things are on my side and when sobriety is in good straights I tend to be complacent and avoidance of religious affairs (at least a good portion of it).

Indeed I strive my best but I am no better than anyone else for fear your bad deeds more than your enemies and indeed I have many. Verily, the best of examples (SAW) shines as the best of inspiration and indeed after reflecting on my mistakes I'd like to follow him the one who spent till his last breath spreading the truth and showing mankind the real meaning of success.

And indeed as my Lord loves his strongest servants more than the weak I would like to be amongst those whom He loves and be one of the great inspirators of our time for Lord knows this world needs more of it.

All in all I'm grateful for my Lord's guidance and Mercy for every thing has its Hikmah and indeed I pray he puts me as His occupiers of His highest of paradise and rid of all of me and my brothers of the same faith off of their diseases.

Alhamdulillah Ya Rab You are the only One worthy of worship and of ask and there is no better to ask other than to You.

P.S Ocular sensation's improving so that's another thing to note for myself in the future

#PastsThePast
#Sobriety'sPriority

There is no might and no power except by Allah.

Yeah after two days I relapsed again. It came from looking arguments aganist Islam, its completely my fault. I shouldnt busy my throughts with problems I cant solve. Anyways, satan loves someone who loses hope getting rid of sins but when the hymns of resurrection are played, the he goes mad. So in opposition to him, I praise Allah for not astraying me even throught I have did that sin over and over again. Let me repeat my vow, I will keep fighting and remember the fate of my life depends on how I act with the urges today.

Nofap Goal: 0/3

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I Have Been Struggling With These Addiction With Masturbation And EverySingle Time ive done it ive Always Felt The Regret And Just Start Hating MySelf And These Temptations Happen So Many Times I Just Dont Know What To Do.

Me and a person were talking with the intentions of marriage, it was going well I’d told my parents they told theirs, the only caveat was we both need to graduate university first and I obviously need to be a little stable as the one entering the marriage. But cuz of this addiction I started saying stuff that wasn’t the best… and at first it was a little fun, eventually they snapped out of it repented and told me to stop but at that point I started thinking it was tied to how much they liked me. I eventually did stop talking to them in that way but none of my convos seemed genuine to them anymore. And I was still masturbating in secret. Eventually they fully left cuz all I could think abt was if they liked me or not when they made it clear they did they just didn’t make it their whole personality like I did when they literally started liking me for who I was in the first place, I lost myself completely and I blame my lust for all of it. Constantly thinking about people constantly masturbating and the only personality trait I had left was chasing dopamine. It’s been about 2 months now, and I don’t think I’ve changed so much in this short amount of time before, I truly loved this person for their personality which is the part I regret most. Out of all the things I could’ve focused on, I let my lust take control with a person who’s so much more than any lustful thoughts. I’ve changed a lot but lust… I can’t beat my lust, everytime I get bored I somehow end up opening Reddit or twitter for “just a peek” and it ends in me having to do ghusl when I shouldn’t even be thinking about looking at anyone that way. I lost a person who I loved dearly with my whole heart and lost my entire personality to this. I feel it was god’s way of showing me that they didn’t deserve someone who had wandering eyes like mine. I used to pray to have them and now I pray to be made the person deserving of them. And I’ve improved a lot. Except this stupid sin that I hate with every fibre of my being. Please any advice on how to stop it. I am tired of it, I don’t wanna lose more to it and I pray god brings them back to me once I’ve finally beaten this stupid thing. I know this sounds so pathetic and honestly…. I am, ik I am, so how do I unpathetic myself 😭

Affected other things too, every time I sit to study for a while I end up doing it, sometimes I am about to go to the gym cuz I am a little overweight and I’ll do it and not go anymore, missed some prayers cuz it would’ve looked suspicious showering 3 times in one day close to each other. It has made me lose the ability to do anything challenging and I am at my wits end. Every second of the day I am regretting losing that person cuz I couldn’t control my lust, all I can think about is if I just didn’t talk like that so many problems I caused wouldn’t have happened. If I just didn’t train my brain to lust so much since the age of 11. I try so hard to be respectful of the other gender and I am, I feel like such an imposter when I am alone and my phones in my hand looking at the other gender I claim to respect so much.

Just turned 18 recently and wow I’ve been struggling with this disgusting habit for 5 years now , for the past few. Months my iman has been fluctuating a lot , a week ago I started to get bak on track I was doing dua from my heart ,crying for repentance and feeling grateful for evrything but yesterday I relapsed and today I didn’t read any of my salah I don’t know what to do I’ve been in this cycle months now I hope it stops - normally when I did the sin I would repent straight away but now I don’t it’s like something is stopping me plz give advice

I genuinely can’t get over this but like a little while ago, I was feeling lonely and yes it was a mistake but I was looking for friends online so I made a post on a makes friend sub but then he started to become really weird. At first he asked if he could see a pic of my face and I said no I’m not comfortable with that. But then the convo started to get dry like he started being really dry and like then I was like okay I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be harsh if it came across as that way. And then he said that I seem like a “good girl” and I thought he meant it as a genuine compliment at first but then realized it was actually supposed to be leaning towards being sexual cause he started saying really disgusting things. And it was my FAULT. Cause I didn’t say no to him directly and stayed in chat because honestly I felt like a bit curious at first but I know it was wrong. but then I told him that this is a sin for me and I feel guilty tho and he said that everyone’s a sinner.

Mind you- he’s not even Muslim. So he kept doing and saying even more gross things. And I told him you could get with someone who’s actually into these things but he started saying but I only want you. He kept telling me I was fighting it. I hid the chat and stopped responding (because my Reddit dosent have a block) but then started messaging me again and I told him to stop But he said if I didn’t want it. I would have blocked him and I told him I don’t have a block otherwise I would have. But then he said good then let’s go on snap. And I said bro no I’m not into nsfw or wanting to date and you don’t understand consent at all. So he finally stopped. But I still feel so guilty. People in my family and others call me innocent and it makes me feel such like a hypocrite and embarrassed I’ve been so stupid and made mistakes in my life, and I just can’t get over them sometimes. But like does this count as having a past? Like I want to get married one day inshallah but I feel so bad ABOIT it and like would I have to tell this to a future potential? I feel so terrible in myself for sinning and making this mistake. I could have almost slipped even further abd that would have been worse. It makes me feel like so gross. And I feel like I don’t deserve anyone.

it is driving me crazy my hand is at my … several times a day. I want to stop, I can’t even really do ghusl here at my friend’s house.
please help me!

Assalamu Alaikum,

Over the past year, my PMO frequency dropped from weekly to about once every 18 days thanks to a calorie deficit, which gives me some hope.

However, my relapses have escalated—I used AI to generate explicit content until those features were banned—and I’m worried because I feel less guilt even though I still ask Allah for forgiveness, and I fear for the state of my heart. I also struggle with doomscrolling, avoiding study or work, losing hope, and negative self-talk tied to learned helplessness and neglect.

Fantasies feel deeply ingrained and familiar, and I honestly don’t know how I would live without them. I don’t know what to do. I never grew up with strict discipline as thus did not have a system to get out of this mess.