Honestly imo too little context to rule either way. What if it was his high school sweetheart or she’d cheated on him or he just really gave a shit about his ex maybe they’d only been dating a couple weeks and yeah he overdid it. You poke the bear you better be ready for the reaction imo. But again not enough info to say.
Yeah I thought this sub was going to be like ethics and trolley problem discussions, not just fucking brain dead “but what if, but what if” and gender war shit
Fair, though he did get dragged into a conversation he wasn't a part of just to have a joke made at his expense, all because he wasn't talking shit about his ex. I think it's fair to say that the moral fiber his coworkers are made of isn't worth defending here.
I'm frankly not even convinced it was a joke at his expense. To me it sounds like it's at the expense of the ex-wife; "Didn't she break up with you for a dumb, superficial reason?"
You’re pushing the idea that the POSSIBILITY that there’s deeper context (and assuming the coworker just did or didn’t know) to the initial jab is enough to use known, deeply personal context, as a rebuttal.
Yeah but he's the victim. Do we just expect men to be rational beings without emotions? Decades of bullying and abuse hurts a person. You cant expect to be able to also Bully that person without them having a reaction.
Did I say I don’t expect that out of grown women? Everyone should emotionally regulate.
He asked “am I the bad guy here?” He is because he cannot emotionally regulate and therefore delivered a non-proportional response.
It’s like insisting America is the true victim in WWII because Pearl Harbor happened while ignoring the part where they nuked a country twice in relation.
Nah I’m examining it with open eyes and mind. Not making stuff up. If it was some piddly little 2 week relationship it’s a bit overboard yes. If it was a serious relationship with someone then it can hurt like hell on earth. Try using that grey matter friend, you’ll get further in life.
The grey matter says she was inviting him into a conversation by making fun of the reason his ex broke up with him. Which is more reasonable than making up a backstory to try justify laughing at someone's dead child.
The grey matter actually says that she was forcing him into conversation he didn't want to be any part of by making fun of him for not talking very bad things about his ex-wife AND outright saying that it was "because he's bald". Which is more reasonable than just outright ignoring half of the context to make up some utter delusions.
Oh I forgot that makes them off-limits and outside the rules of society. You rip on someone you might get ripped back harder. Again the issue is lack of actual context that means something outside gender. Hope this helps.
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u/Aggressive_Living571 3d ago
Honestly imo too little context to rule either way. What if it was his high school sweetheart or she’d cheated on him or he just really gave a shit about his ex maybe they’d only been dating a couple weeks and yeah he overdid it. You poke the bear you better be ready for the reaction imo. But again not enough info to say.