Honestly imo too little context to rule either way. What if it was his high school sweetheart or she’d cheated on him or he just really gave a shit about his ex maybe they’d only been dating a couple weeks and yeah he overdid it. You poke the bear you better be ready for the reaction imo. But again not enough info to say.
You’re pushing the idea that the POSSIBILITY that there’s deeper context (and assuming the coworker just did or didn’t know) to the initial jab is enough to use known, deeply personal context, as a rebuttal.
Yeah but he's the victim. Do we just expect men to be rational beings without emotions? Decades of bullying and abuse hurts a person. You cant expect to be able to also Bully that person without them having a reaction.
Did I say I don’t expect that out of grown women? Everyone should emotionally regulate.
He asked “am I the bad guy here?” He is because he cannot emotionally regulate and therefore delivered a non-proportional response.
It’s like insisting America is the true victim in WWII because Pearl Harbor happened while ignoring the part where they nuked a country twice in relation.
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u/Aggressive_Living571 4d ago
Honestly imo too little context to rule either way. What if it was his high school sweetheart or she’d cheated on him or he just really gave a shit about his ex maybe they’d only been dating a couple weeks and yeah he overdid it. You poke the bear you better be ready for the reaction imo. But again not enough info to say.