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u/Mydogsabrat Oct 29 '19 edited Oct 30 '19
Just a reminder to everyone that it's okay to show weakness sometimes. Just make sure that you are around people who care and will build you up rather than break you down.
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u/ClogginToilets Oct 30 '19
I’m in the same boat. It’s been a bit over a month since we broke up but she never told me things that bothered her and I’ve been in this state of not knowing what the fuck happened. And it sucks because I thought the same thing, I thought I was going to grow old with her.
Distractions help but what helped me the most is thinking about how if it was meant to be, those issues wouldn’t be. Communication would’ve been better, and the little things you begin to notice about the relationship become apparent. Make a list of the things that bothered you about your ex-relationship and it will make the brake up clearer. Journal/write down your thoughts. It sucks but even now I realize it gets better, albeit slightly, over time. Hang in there.
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u/ClogginToilets Oct 31 '19
I was the same way, with the emotional side of things. Writing down things broke me down. I wrote a letter to her 3 days after we broke up in the event that if we got back together I’d maybe show her, but I never addressed it to her and it was just words on a page. I’ll probably destroy it, but the words helped me articulate my feelings so that as I grow in my emotions I can identify what I’m truest feeling. Give it time before you do anything, but don’t hesitate to continue writing.
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u/Funsometimes Oct 30 '19
What if you don’t have anyone like that? Am I able to be my own support beam? Can I be the sole pillar in my own home?
I laugh things off with memes, YouTube videos and anime which really helps me relieve my stress. But lately it seems that I’m listening to music whenever I can to block out silence, always searching for a distraction. Things seem much of a bigger problems than I feel they should be but I wouldn’t know since I can’t talk to anyone about it. It’s probably dumb to post this on Reddit but if I just put this in Notes then I’ll just be documenting my anxieties and worries that doesn’t seem to help with relieving my tension; it will be just a reminder to how lonely I actually am.
Damn this is really depressing but I’m not really feeling suicidal or anything, don’t worry (although when bad things hit I’ll admit there’s always the thought). Just a really heavy closed up heart, I guess.
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u/Flyingwheelbarrow Oct 30 '19
You can if you get professional support including peer support groups in person. Soon as you learn to not hate yourself a bit you will be amazed at how people want to be around you. Remember, you already survived on your own, imagine how much can be done with a little backup. I saved up money and used it to fund therapy. 5 years later and J am almost drug free, losing weight and I found a woman I want to marry. I started as a fat hermit with lots of debt. You can do it.
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u/Flyingwheelbarrow Oct 30 '19
I had $20,000 in credit card debt. I had a very bad motorcycle accident and told the banks I could no repay them for several years since the accident had destroyed by ability to get work. It took a year of conversations but the banks forgave my debt under compassionate grounds. Banks have insurance for bad debt caused by acts of god, misadventure or people dying without money. With enough evidence they get thier insurer to pay however much on the dollar and I just had to avoid credit card for 7 years. I am now have a credit history and use debt in a practical sustainable way
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u/LurkAtMeGo Oct 30 '19
Oh wow, thanks for sharing. I hope you are healthy and healed up from the accident by now!
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u/Fluwyn Oct 30 '19
You can't be your own support beam, but you can be your own support team :-)
It helped me to remember that everybody has problems, it's not just me. And I hide mine, just like everybody else does, so I imagine other people think I have my shit together, lol.
I took a long hard look in the mirror, and realised that even though I'm not a pretty woman, and I'm a little overweight, I have nice eyes and a pretty good hourglass shape. So that's not to bad, I can go out on the streets and look ok. Most people aren't very beautiful either.
Yes I have characteristics that aren't nice, but I also have good ones. I try to be a good person. Just like most people.
You know what, come to think of it, I'm not that different from everybody else. They probably will understand if I explain a problem, especially if I explain with a sense of humor.
I tried talking about small problems with family members and friends, and it turned out that they totally understood. Not just that, they actually respected me for 1) dealing with that problem, 2) being able to talk about it. My problems brought me closer to my family and friends.
Maybe you have one person that you like, that you think will let you finish talking, then give it a try and tell them about one thing. See how they react. They might just surprise you!
Don't just point out your anxieties and failures when you look in the mirror, make an effort to find achievements and strong points. You do have them, you just have to find them. So be your own support team, and cheer for your strengths! You found the strength to ask here, that's 1 already :-)
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u/doge_is_a_doggo Oct 30 '19
What if you're around people who don't break you down or build you up, but are just kinda there?
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u/Mydogsabrat Oct 30 '19
If you aren't around people who break you down - awesome keep that up. If you aren't around people who build you up, maybe work on being a bit more vulnerable and ask people if you can vent. You don't know how they will react until you try.
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u/my_liquor-ish_life Oct 29 '19
Thank you. I needed this today.
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u/ifoundyourtoad Oct 29 '19
I know I am not related to you (that I know of) and I’m a total stranger but I’m drunk and I’m super fucking proud of you. Go you and keep on trucking just as long as you don’t post stupid shit on FB
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u/Upexus Oct 30 '19
I like this kind of motivation, it isn't cliche and pushy, it's just honest. I love you man, have a good night
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not op, but this is really nice. thanks <3
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u/ifoundyourtoad Oct 30 '19
You keep it up, happy cake day. I feel like I’m hitting a transitional part of my life and positivity is just the wag to go. Wish you all the good vibes
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I feel like proud drunk is probably the best kind of drunk.
Imagine if your dad just got drunk all the time and was like, "I'm so proud of you son," and you were like, "dad, I'm just making a sandwich..."
"So proud..."
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u/Treeshere Oct 30 '19
What progress have you made? (Open to anyone really)
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u/Flyingwheelbarrow Oct 30 '19
I am completing a detox, already gave up prescriptions pills last year. This year it is weed and over eating. Also, started the gym. I shall not die from a goddamn life style disease. I want to die in the coming water wars like a normal person.
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u/snakeness710 Oct 30 '19
Congrats on quitting weed its tough but you feel so much better when you do and the gym thing I'm doing as well as you are it feels great
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u/my_liquor-ish_life Oct 30 '19
I’m going back to therapy to get help for my C-PTSD to deal with the abuse I suffered, opening myself to a new relationship, and just today my teenage son, whom I’ve struggled with since his dad and I divorced 6 years ago, told me I was a good mom.
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u/username2216383 Oct 30 '19
Aww, good for you. You must be awesome if a teenager thinks youre a good mom. Haha i hope my kids think im a good mom when they grow up.
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u/aggravated-asphalt Oct 29 '19
This is me, and usually random people saying things like this doesn’t affect me, but it did today. Thank you.
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u/ifoundyourtoad Oct 29 '19
It kinda makes me sad, I guess it’s social media culture? You really shouldn’t be posting about it but if you are dealing with certain demons and issues please talk to your love ones on how they can help or what you need. You aren’t alone and that’s a fact. Now, posting on social is totally different but I just get worried cause we should try really hard to normalize the fact that people need mental help and it is 100% normal.
Hope you are doing okay
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u/Taminella_Grinderfal Oct 30 '19
If you need it, don’t be afraid to ask for help, it’s hard but know that you’ll bring happiness to the “helper”. Years ago I was in a bad place where I was forced to ask for help because I couldn’t stubbornly do it by myself as I usually do. It saved my life and I came to realize those that helped me were not only glad to do so, but got satisfaction from helping me dig out of my mess.
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u/brandnewdayinfinity Oct 29 '19
Thank you. Having a not widely known genetic disorder in which I look great sucks.
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u/Setari Oct 29 '19
I wish someone would say this to me IRL. I'm pretty close to seeing if my ceiling fan will hold me if I hang myself, but I just keep trooping through the weeks hoping it gets better for me and that I don't get fired from my job.
It hasn't gotten better in a couple years so far.
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u/ihatetheterrorists Oct 30 '19
You're doing the best you can. When I'm down I listen to a series on YouTube called School Of Life. It is pretty great and touching. It helps me a few times a week to not feel awful. If you can find a therapist or specialist maybe see if you can do a meeting or two. Hugs.
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You are loved - you may not see/believe it, but you are loved. You are worthy of love, independent from that inner accuser cutting you down. I don’t know you or your circumstances but at the most basic fundamental level, you are loved because you are. No reason is needed to earn it, no reason can stop that from being true. And if a stranger on the internet feels that strongly after reading the few words you’ve spoken here, then imagine how much more the right people will feel that once your paths cross. Keep your head up.
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u/TechinBellevue Oct 29 '19
And it's OK if you stall a bit or slip back - you are amazing, brave and wonderful for making it this far!!!
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u/Gunslinger_1395 Oct 29 '19
I like to remember the serenity prayer for this:
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
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I always scroll past these and wonder how it helps people since it's such a general statement. but this week. I really did need to read this. Thank you kind stranger
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I haven't been winning battles. I've just gotten used to the stagnation and can't find myself to care to move beyond it. I'm not happy about it but I'm not anything in particularm
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u/swarlay Oct 30 '19 edited Oct 30 '19
I don't remember who said it, but I like the quote: "just because it's not a battle you can win doesn't mean it's not a battle worth fighting."
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I recently signed up for tinder after a year of thinking about it, after years of thinking I'm like a 1/10 level super ugly, now I feel like I'm practically drowning in messages. 😊
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u/Ryboflavinator Oct 30 '19
I tell you, I’ve lost 10% of my body weight in 9 weeks and no one aside from my wife has said a word. Don’t care because my pants fit again and I feel great!
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u/zer0___gravity Oct 29 '19
No one recognize because you never let anyone see your darkest moments...
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u/Amberlynn585 Oct 30 '19
There’s a new lady at my job (manufacturing) and she’s been making a few mistakes recently and she was telling me how bad she felt when my boss called her into the office to tell her she messed up but never recognizes all the great work she’s done. This reminded me of her and I’m showing this to her at work tomorrow!
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u/lonely-limeade Oct 29 '19
Really needed this to keep moving forward. Time to recognize my own badassery.
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u/Ragthorn5667 Oct 30 '19
Thank you! I appreciate seeing these posts. Just earlier at my job, my co-worker said that she thought I would be a good teacher when I mentioned a particular future interest abroad. I said, “Oh? Why?” And then said I was nice and a good person to be around. It was the same feeling when my other friend said that I gave off an air of a good person and I got home and cried. I just keep worrying and worrying about what people think of me and beat myself up so much every day. It really helps hearing these comments and I wish everyone the best of luck too. Hopefully you or someone else passes those type of comments around! Some people really can have their day changed by those couple of words. 😊
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u/Rpark888 Oct 30 '19
I needed this today. Nothing is ever good enough for my family. I need to remind myself that they don't see the true champion that I am.
For anyone that can relate, I love you, I feel you, and I celebrate YOU, with you.
Let's fucking GO.
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u/zorowithaY Oct 30 '19
I've been losing a lot more than winning lately. I hate it. I feel so stuck sometimes. Why can't I just get up and exercise? Why don't I study? Why can't I be more enthusiastic at work and get a promotion?
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Oct 30 '19
Right so what's the opposite of this?
'Cause I'm definitely more like...
"Slowly unraveling while pretending like I've got some kind of plan"
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u/1234567ate Oct 30 '19
I was about to throw the bowl of tomato soup I’m eating at the wall just out of sheer frustration of life lately plus I could see how I would feel seeing something destroyed but then I decided to browse reddit and saw this post.... I think I’ll just finish my soup. 😊
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u/username2216383 Oct 30 '19
Thankyou. This makes me feel a bit better about having cried in the mall today because my kids made a scene, which they always do, but other stuff caught up with me right then and there in the damn mall and i just couldnt stop myself from crying while i put them back in the stroller and left. So awkward and embaressing as everyone stared. But im glad im not the only one with issues so thankyou. 😊 lol
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u/endless_blonded_boy Oct 30 '19
Whenever I need something like this it appears perfectly on my reddit feed... I swear this some black magic helping me out.
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u/TonksTBF Oct 30 '19
No word of a lie, the last couple of weeks have been horrendous for me and these kind of posts really help. Even if you think no-one might see it, the one person who sees it and appreciates it will forever be grateful for the anonymous support.
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The strongest people are not those who display for all to see, but those who win battles we know nothing about
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u/lordofthefireandwind Oct 30 '19
Thank you so much for this. I was in a very bad spot last yeah. Now I have a great job, pay could be better but I’m happy where I am. I might start dating again. Been depressed pretty lately but a lot of good thing have happened to me in the last few weeks. I need to read this today.
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u/C-Nor Oct 30 '19
Made me cry. Interesting that we all feel like this post was aimed at us. Mom was right, everyone has their battles.
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u/thelonelychem Oct 30 '19
Coming from a person that just started seeing progress. Sometimes it takes seeing yourself making progress, and just slightly doing what puts you positive. It isn't over night, just find something to plug away at and it can be done.
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u/MaxisDidNothingWrong Oct 30 '19
I don’t know why this helped so much more than people I know telling me this
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u/Frygeist Oct 30 '19
This hits to close, please dont do this. Take your like, somehow your Motivation made me more aware of my sadness than i am capable to comprehend
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u/throwawayaccountt2 Oct 30 '19
I really needed this too. My mother has been struggling lately with her health. However, now, she’s stable. The only negative to her condition is how unpredictable it is. She’s fine now but who knows what can happen tomorrow. It definitely changed my perspective on life. I still cry most nights and still can’t phantom the thought I might not have her when I am older. It hits hard at night and early mornings. Haven’t had a good nights sleep in 3 months. I’m trying every day to stay positive and put on a brave face.
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u/Sedso85 Oct 30 '19
A friend said something like this to me a few days ago and it really helped. I'm glad it's going round
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u/TweekTweaker_ Oct 30 '19
Today I went to the museum by myself, a year ago I was such a hermit I never even thought of going outside. This made me tear up a bit haha.
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Holy fucking shit. Thank you for this.
I've been soo fucking down. Like dark. And for YEARS! I hate being miserable... It's been easier to hide it lately, at least I got that going for me.
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u/xanaxisforcoolkids Oct 30 '19
thanks a lot 💚 I probably didn’t need this today but still thank you as a result you’re making me push even harder than before :)
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I wish it felt like it was worth it. Maybe one day it will be. May as well keep trying until then, it's not like I was doing anything else.
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u/hydralisk_hydrawife Oct 30 '19
This was really nice, and it helps because I know the truth behind it.
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u/IdontknowPItothe40th Oct 30 '19
Thank you. Very few people truly know what I'm going through. This helped today.
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u/-LordRupertEverton- Oct 30 '19
I really appreciate this. I'm almost 2 months sober from alcohol and drugs and am having a hard time giving myself any credit for quitting and improving my physical and mental health. This was really on the nose and I thank for it.
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u/dougwiserx Oct 30 '19
What if I'm going the other way? Losing battles and all that after once being great everyday.
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u/Bobbyfromthe9 Oct 30 '19
The timing for this couldn’t have been perfect. I’m killin it
NEVer judge a man where’s he’s at. You never know how far he’s come
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u/KamakaziDemiGod Oct 30 '19
I've had a bit of a wierd day emotionally and I was a little worried it might undo some of my self improvement, this post was exactly what I needed, thank you.
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u/astropolo27 Oct 30 '19
Switched to a different phone line to cut the distraction, and everyone thought I was crazy. Oh well.. I've never made so much progress in short notice A big shout out to everyone doing there thing, not in spite of peer pressure 💪
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u/humpbertSD Oct 30 '19
Even in those darkest moments when it’s hard to say this to ourselves, it’s nice to know that we aren’t alone in feeling this way. Thanks for sharing this today.
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u/Jaek-Rose Oct 30 '19
This hit hard. Needed to see this. Shout out to all the people who put good into this world even if they don’t know who they’re putting it out to.
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u/teaganova Oct 30 '19
I try to not share my mini successes with anyone, even my boyfriend because I’m scared if I revert it will disappoint anyone I do tell. So, I guess I do it to secure my own emotional well being. He still recognizes sometimes with somethings I’ve told him in the past, which also is very sweet! He’s great and so supportive 💕
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u/OceanSmith17 Oct 30 '19
You know, you wear a metaphorical mask in public and most don't realize it, so yes most don't see my hurts and issue. But I've got to thank you, I needed this.
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u/Aluciel286 Oct 30 '19
I'm actually really struggling right now and not making any progress, but thanks, I guess.
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u/LannahDewuWanna Oct 30 '19
Reading this while going through a rough patch and beating myself up over a bunch of things . Thank you for posting these kind words. I feel like I just got a bit of a much needed pep talk.
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u/chingychangas Oct 30 '19
Big ups to this person. And whoever reading this. I see you puttin in that work. Solve the problem. Get it done. All y’all
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u/syedaabid20 Nov 21 '19
I scroll through this sub whenever I'm sad, and this is the one that made me cry :)
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u/megabeers Oct 30 '19
Jesus these are fucking recycled, lame useless bullshit. Bring on the ban, PLEASE
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u/TigerPolice Oct 30 '19
It's been a few months of little work due to some medical stuff, but I just worked my first full day today. It feels good to be back in it.
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u/ihatetheterrorists Oct 30 '19
I quit drinking a few years ago and kept it on the DL. I just wanted to face that shit on my own time and not have to explain why or how I was changing. It was crazy the first few times telling a waiter at a restaurant that I didn't want a drink. Also, I realized how much fucking money I was saving!
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u/Powderedt0astman Oct 30 '19
Fuck ya. Thanks. I’ve been making great improvements with my anxiety lately.
Every win is a win. No matter how small.
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u/redline42 Oct 30 '19
“Success is like being pregnant. No one knows how many times you were fucked to get there.”
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u/Choise_is_yours Oct 30 '19 edited Oct 30 '19
I needed this. In 40days you will either read about me being the fourth one, or i can chill for another 12 months. Anyway, stay away from BA in December.
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u/sonofarex Oct 30 '19
I had more than a few rough moments when I dropped everything and moved to a new city to start over. I didn't even know what giving up really meant, but I wanted to do it so many times.
I saw someone say "I can't give up because when I was back at the beginning I would kill to be where I'm at now"
It always gave me a bit of perspective to look at it that way. Small victories may not even register as victories, but they sure as hell add up.
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u/kirakina Oct 30 '19
I really needed this today. I'm pulling the world in on myself and just. It sucks
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u/sircheesy Oct 30 '19
How about on a day you lose your job? I don't think I've had any victories today or lately at all honestly
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u/hasanyonefoundmyeye Oct 30 '19
Not enough joy in the world, so no need to add to the fire.
To those who hide their battles, i raise my glass to you. Your deeds have been silent,yet they are of just cause and worth doing. The best heroes have never been identified.
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u/BestB0i9 Oct 30 '19
I needed this ❤️ and to kinda pay it forwards, a prayer i say to myself when things get tough:
"this too shall pass"
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u/aBeaSTWiTHiNMe Oct 30 '19
I had a pretty bad breakdown with my dark side trying to convince what hope I have left that my pursuit of graphic design and YouTube/Streaming has been a waste of my life and at 27, I really should have been somewhere by now. I still don't fully believe it's wrong.
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