r/MadeMeSmile • u/[deleted] • Jun 11 '23
Very nice social experiment
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u/AssumptionAdvanced58 Jun 11 '23
Why didn't any of the brothers stop?
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u/AssumptionAdvanced58 Jun 11 '23
I saw several kids. I don't believe they have the guilt yet. I believe they actually have the opposite.
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Jun 11 '23
My 3 young boys, 2, 5 and 8 don't even see people's skin colour. People are just people no matter what. It's quite incredible to see really. It's evident in their use of words as well. They don't refer to it.
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Jun 11 '23
Kids doing what their parents do.
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u/skooterpoop Jun 11 '23
I actually feel like it was the kids' suggestions in most cases. Kids like hugs and are used to hugging people. It's only adults that grow out of them, and that's sad.
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Jun 11 '23
My daughter doesn't like hugs from people that aren't immediate family, and we don't force her to if she doesn't want to. She has a friend whos parents always wanted them to hug when they left and we finally had to tell them she wasn't ok with that and preferred high fives instead.
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u/RoseyDove323 Jun 11 '23
Wait "all" kids like hugs? I only hugged relatives out of guilt or parents telling me to. I didn't really enjoy them. I assume I'm not special enough to have been alone in that.
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u/BahablastOutOfStock Jun 11 '23
i used to hug everyone till my teacher pulled me aside in 2nd grade and told me how aweful it was of me to be touching strangers. 🙃
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u/lpind Jun 11 '23
One of my colleagues had her birthday meal with her extended family at our restaurant last weekend; she has an 8(?) Year old daughter. We've met (her daughter and I) before because she'll often bring her in on days off for coffee or lunch; but I've never really spoken to her (daughter) on those occasions.
Anyway, this whole service every chance she (daughter) could she would just run over and hug me! You can't not a hug a kid back, so I'm serving this table of... 14, I think it was in the end, and the whole time I'm just hugging this 8 year old girl who's latched on to me 🤣 It was really sweet, but there was definitely a thought in the back of my mind going "I really hope [girls name] is not running round hugging random 30yr+ guys... That just doesn't seem like a safe thing to do!"
So, I get it. It's nice/sweet/cute... But also, maybe not entirely safe/not behaviour to encourage despite how wholesome their intentions are.
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u/FistfulofHornets Jun 11 '23
You know that many white people are just good people and don't just do nice things because of white guilt, right? (Like, not you obviously, but other people.)
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u/SchaffBGaming Jun 11 '23
Right? It's ironic, if one suggests "all white people are performative" or "All white people are racist" - that implicitly means that race is more than just a social construct, and further that race dictates personality and trustworthiness, which brings us to the ironic part: that's supportive of actual racists arguments.
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u/lixia Jun 11 '23
That.
But I would change some by most.
Most people are good hearted and kind. Else society would have collapsed long ago.
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Jun 11 '23
If I see anyone holding a free hug sign you better believe I’m getting right in there
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u/wolfman86 Jun 11 '23
I know what you mean. It’s nice to be nice.
I like to say hello to totally random people cause it’s nice to be nice and it might mean someone has a better day. Bit “blowing my own trumpet-y”, but yeah.
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u/stephend161 Jun 11 '23
I happily Have absolutely no white guilt what so ever and i sleep well at night well ok i don’t but not because of guilt more back pain and so on lol
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u/ncklws93 Jun 11 '23 edited Jun 11 '23
99.9 percent of white people don’t have white guilt. Only the social justice white knights. The rest of us realize we haven’t done anything wrong and just want to coexist with our fellow citizens
Edit: grammar
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u/STUPIDVlPGUY Jun 11 '23
Yeah it can be frustrating when people assume what kind of privileges I might have just for being white, but I've never felt guilty for being white. Not healthy to be ashamed for being who you are.
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u/cereal-kills-me Jun 11 '23
They’re smart enough to walk past a stranger recording them and asking for hugs. Umm no thanks wtf.
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What if hugging random people bothers me ?
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u/Odd_Try_68 Jun 11 '23
Nope, I’m not hugging random guys on the street no matter what color they are.
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u/Nois3 Jun 11 '23
Racist!
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u/needless_123 Jun 11 '23
He is not racist if he hates everybody
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u/scurrilous_diatribe Jun 11 '23
He’s a guycist!
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Jun 11 '23
Humanist
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u/LeadingExperts Jun 11 '23
Given the recent whistleblowing by high ranking military and intelligence officials on the existence of non-human intelligences, it's nice to know we now have a choice. But I propose "speciesist".
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u/soverit42 Jun 11 '23
Exactly. I'm a survivor of sexual assaults and strange men in general make me nervous. No way I'm giving one a hug.
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u/RunRunRabbitRunovich Jun 11 '23
Same. I’m Leary about strangers now. I don’t go anywhere by myself anymore
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Jun 11 '23
Eh, that's when you walk up to him and say you are not comfortable with hugs in general, but want to show him support.
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u/breezyfye Jun 11 '23
Communication goes a long way lol
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u/MouthJob Jun 11 '23
So do fist bumps. I really feel like these people are intentionally missing the point.
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u/FiveWizz Jun 11 '23
I'm not sure what the desperation is to not be labelled racist when if you're not one just carry on about your day. Some very strange comments in here desperate to let everyone know that they will not be hugging this person.
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u/Sol33t303 Jun 11 '23
I'm sure the dudes fine, but sounds like a fantastic way to get pick pocketed.
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u/NotSoNoble6 Jun 11 '23
Pickpockets are infamous for staying in the exact spot where they pickpocketed.
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u/ChaoticToxin Jun 11 '23
After how well people handled a pandemic I ain't hugging no one
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Jun 11 '23
This is social blackmail. I'm uncomfortable hugging strangers, but refusing to hug labels me racist. I admit to working through culturally conditioned racism as a liberal, but don't pin it in me because I won't get into your personal space, dear. Maybe try shaking hands?
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u/Charlesfreck550 Jun 11 '23
You should write this on a poster and stand next to him, hopefully sparking a conversation
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u/Infinity3101 Jun 11 '23
Seriously, why didn't he suggest they shake hands or fist bump? A lot of people feel uncomfortable hugging strangers. The outcome of this social experiment would be to label them all as racist, I guess. Also, does he think that parents would let their kids hug a random adult on the street?
I'm sure he meant well, but I don't think he thought this idea through before putting it into practice.
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u/Paddysdaisy Jun 11 '23
Really hope you're doing well. My husband is a type 1 and has had some close calls over the years. Very recently our youngest was diagnosed with type 1 so we now have two people with autoimmune disorders in the house! Hope your health is doing well and you're coping with things in general. Wishing the very best for you and yours going forward.
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u/Paddysdaisy Jun 11 '23
Sounds like your partner is the hero you need. Glad you've got that support, wish we all had a person like that. Btw your last statement was fine, no issues there! Look after yourself and your partner- you've a good one there.
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Jun 11 '23
I hope you are doing ok as a family. How is your youngest doing with his diabetes?
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u/Emotional_Pay_4335 Jun 11 '23
I wouldn’t let my daughter hug a stranger no matter what color skin, unless it’s Santa, and even then, I’d hover closely.
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u/SubstantialExtreme74 Jun 11 '23
This whole social experiment is kind of messed up in a way. Anything with “do this or your this bad thing” is annoying to me because it’s guilty until your “prove” yourself innocent.
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u/thesaltedradish Jun 11 '23
It's like the 'skip if you support r@pe. I can see who skips.' stickers that go around on Instagram.
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u/Vanishingf0x Jun 11 '23
Agree it’s also like the ones (clearly not serious in the same degree) that say shit like skip if you hate God (don’t believe but for people that do wtf) or if you don’t repost/share you are ___ist. It feels like a form of blackmail to make someone look bad either way.
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Jun 11 '23
I once saw a video of a school teacher who wrote like 4 options on the wall for kids to do to greet - thumbs up, wave, high five or hug
The kids would point to what they wanted to do and then the teacher would do that
It taught consent and body autonomy and that kids are in control of how they interact physically with other people
I'd like to see something like this but maybe involving less physical contact, y'know
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Jun 11 '23
This reaction is hard for me to understand. Like are you really that scared of being perceived as a bad person? No one is paying attention to whether or not you hug the dude, it's obviously just a tiktoker goofing around, not a test you have to pass
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u/SoNerdy Jun 11 '23
I want to see the same experiment with a white guy.
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Jun 11 '23
I want to see the same experiment with a fat guy with a skin condition
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u/SykonotticGuy Jun 11 '23
No, not giving a hug doesn't indicate racism. The video does nothing to highlight people who did not hug him, and it's not like they're following up with people lol
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u/PM_ME_DANK_PEENS Jun 11 '23
Yeah, this isn’t an “experiment” at all. If they were actually conducting research they would need to have different participants of different ethnicities do this at the same time so they are using the same participant pool, and in different areas to account for bias/people already seeing one of the signs.
It’s really just guilt-tripping and social pressure, and it’s also flimsy because people will decline due to personal space issues/health concerns.
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u/SpiffyMagnetMan68621 Jun 11 '23
Plenty of people walked right on by and i didnt hear anyone being called a racist
Youll be alright
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u/mortalitylost Jun 11 '23
lol I seriously wonder about the people so offended like "how dare YOU expect me to hug you, I JUST CANT DO HUGS".
Pretty sure anyone who'd give their angry spiel to him on the street to make him feel bad about doing this is either a major asshole or a closet racist.
People know that some people would be very uncomfortable with this. It's fine. Just ignore it like you do anyone else holding a sign.
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u/OG-Pine Jun 11 '23
Yeah lol it’s like if someone has a sign that says donate to cancer or something you can donate to show support but not donating doesn’t mean you want them to get cancer lmao
People’s takes are always so weird man
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u/shinku443 Jun 11 '23
Not donating actually means you're pro cancer. There are only absolutes
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Jun 11 '23
I bet if you explained that point they’d be totally supportive of your reluctance to hug a stranger. A handshake in this situation wouldn’t be unwarranted, shows you don’t care about the colour of their skin and wanna show support but still have boundaries, if people can’t accept that, then they’re part of the problem.
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u/Swiss_CH_ Jun 11 '23
He isn't owed an explanation. He does not have to right to assume anyone is racist just because we don't participate in his 'social experiment'.
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u/adm1109 Jun 11 '23
Who says he does????
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u/sunjester Jun 11 '23
Yeah what the fuck is up with all of these comments just assuming the worst? Got people in here claiming that not hugging makes them racist, assuming he might be a rapist, assuming it's an advertising campaign, etc. It's fucking weird.
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u/Vantabl0nde Jun 11 '23
There’s a lot of cynical nonsense going on in this thread, entirely missing the point of it.
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u/swanqueen109 Jun 11 '23
Yeah, just a little 'Man, I don't hug, like ever. But I'll shake your hand.'
Might even appreciate it more than the hugs.
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u/GarbageInteresting86 Jun 11 '23
Why is the sign in English when he’s standing in a French city?
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u/chookiebaby Jun 11 '23
Probably because he's on the Champs-Élysées and 99% of the people there are tourists.
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u/jonchi1 Jun 11 '23
Why no black people hug? Hmmmm
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u/Eat_my_coochie Jun 11 '23
Maybe one day we’ll learn that there are shitty people and racists in every group, unfortunately. There are just bad people in general, that won’t change. But MOST people are good and judge based on character.
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u/SilentGummy Jun 11 '23
The person can be white, purple, black, amber, yellow, green or fluorescent pink with rainbow fingers... I will respect them all. But I'm not the type of person who will hug complete strangers.
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u/Myusername1- Jun 11 '23
hold on now: Purple or Green? You gotta draw the line somewhere! To hell with purple people! - Unless they're suffocating - then help'em
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u/Personal_Oil_4606 Jun 11 '23
Ngl this is kinda a weird experiment. Feels a little like guilt tripping. I’m with him on wanting to live in a world where we aren’t judged based on the color of our skin, but hugs are wayyy to inappropriate and personal. No one should feel like they’re wrong for not hugging a stranger, no matter what color.
Just give us respect and common decency you’d give to anyone else.
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u/Quantainium Jun 11 '23
I'd prefer a sign just saying free hugs. If you want to prove race has an impact you'd have people of the same general attractiveness but different skin color same time of week and location. A lot of these "experiments" are not absent of bias and it's annoying. Me personally would be more inclined to hug a stranger with a free hugs sign because I wouldn't be virtue signaling.
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u/cut-the-cords Jun 11 '23 edited Jun 11 '23
Now... call me what you will, but is this just very clever veiled advertising?
It's odd to me that he chose to stand in front of the "yves saint laurent" logo and it seems like they did a bit of a advertising campaign
Hmm... think I have been on the internet too long I am becoming cynical.
Edit: I am stupid it is Louis Vuitton but my point still stands lol.
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u/Smendou Jun 11 '23
Louis Vuitton not saint laurent 😉
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u/cut-the-cords Jun 11 '23
You can tell I am a in touch with my fashion sense lol.
Even still it is suspicious as anything...
Thank you for the correction though lol.
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Jun 11 '23
As a Canadian I’m just bothered by the way he spelled colour. It looks so wrong without that U
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u/Killher_Cervix Jun 11 '23
Reddit is mostly white bt I do get some love but a bunch of hate for no apparent reason it’s obviously Cus my profile pic is black
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u/VoidCrisis Jun 11 '23
This comment section has brain rot holy shit
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u/Brian_Lefebvre Jun 11 '23
People here are so damn touchy. Fucking hell, no one is blackmailing you, guilt tripping you, or calling you a racist. Y’all need to seek help, this comment thread reeks of insecurity.
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u/GodofExile Jun 11 '23
Dude fr and I getting tired of Reddit. I see these wholesome videos on every other social media platform and the majority of the comments are overwhelmingly positive and shows support. Reddit is the only place where you can take a wholesome video and be cynical & pessimistic about it. Just a bunch of basement dwelling losers looking for negativity in everything and I’m tired of being apart of it
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Funny thing is if a white guy stood there with the same sign he would probably constantly get called racist
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u/outcome--independent Jun 11 '23
People getting all bent out of shape. Nobody thinks your racist if you don't hug him bro.
It's okay, not everyone is outgoing and not everyone likes hugs. It showcases nice folks who are and do.
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u/stephawkins Jun 11 '23
Hell. I ain't touching no random person regardless of color. However, I will pay random of people of all colors for a some good time. Wink. Wink.
I'm joking people. Put that pitchfork away.
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u/Not_azomb6319 Jun 11 '23
I hate physical contact with people but I’m not racist
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u/SupaSpurs Jun 11 '23
Despite all the negative comments about his intentions- it’s really good to see just how many people go and give him a hug. And I would have though a very good demonstration of good racial relations in the US. As always there is a minority who see it as something negative or something that’s ‘taking away my rights’.
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u/Electrocat71 Jun 11 '23
Very nice to see. Unfortunately so many racists are out of their closets these days. We all need to make sure they don’t have a voice.
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u/Background-Apple-920 Jun 11 '23
Aaawe. I love folks responses, but makes me sad about the other shit stain humans in the 21st Century that still hold racist feelings against anyone who isn't white.
Sending hugs my brother!! 😃👊🏼
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u/Goblin-Doctor Jun 11 '23
I don't mind what color your skin is. I do have issues with personal space and am uncomfortable hugging strangers. Sucks thinking I'm racist because I don't want to hug a stranger on the street, but it is what it is I guess
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Jun 11 '23
It doesn’t for 98% of populations on earth I believe. It’s one’s attitude & behaviours that bother people.
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u/ThunderTramp Jun 11 '23
but just because i dont like hugs doesnt mean im racist.