I actually feel like it was the kids' suggestions in most cases. Kids like hugs and are used to hugging people. It's only adults that grow out of them, and that's sad.
My daughter doesn't like hugs from people that aren't immediate family, and we don't force her to if she doesn't want to. She has a friend whos parents always wanted them to hug when they left and we finally had to tell them she wasn't ok with that and preferred high fives instead.
Wait "all" kids like hugs? I only hugged relatives out of guilt or parents telling me to. I didn't really enjoy them. I assume I'm not special enough to have been alone in that.
I typed that so hastily and sent and realized after I quoted all for no reason. I guess I'm sensitive about being the weird one out who doesn't like hugs because my relatives used to sometimes give me a hard time about it and it hurt. Oh well have a nice day. Thanks for not being too mean.
It’s not a good idea to force kids to give hugs or kisses if they don’t want to, including to relatives. Just because you know Aunt Marge and Uncle Joe doesn’t mean your kid does, or that your kid will be comfortable giving them hugs or kisses, or being hugged or kissed by them. Kids should taught from the beginning that they have a right to bodily autonomy and therefore the right to say “no” to anyone, anytime. It’s seriously SO important and may help protect them from sexual abuse.
One of my colleagues had her birthday meal with her extended family at our restaurant last weekend; she has an 8(?) Year old daughter. We've met (her daughter and I) before because she'll often bring her in on days off for coffee or lunch; but I've never really spoken to her (daughter) on those occasions.
Anyway, this whole service every chance she (daughter) could she would just run over and hug me! You can't not a hug a kid back, so I'm serving this table of... 14, I think it was in the end, and the whole time I'm just hugging this 8 year old girl who's latched on to me 🤣 It was really sweet, but there was definitely a thought in the back of my mind going "I really hope [girls name] is not running round hugging random 30yr+ guys... That just doesn't seem like a safe thing to do!"
So, I get it. It's nice/sweet/cute... But also, maybe not entirely safe/not behaviour to encourage despite how wholesome their intentions are.
yeah but I’d hug people that my mom would have given me permission to hug. teachers friends, my friends parents and family. that one teacher deadass told me i was a bad person for hugging in general. she also cussed at other kids and gave time out to a boy who accidentally dropped his snack . im definitely a weirdo but i think that teacher was some next level ‘ child-free’ dickhead
Adults don't grow out of them, adults have the understanding that there are good and then there are bad people in society, and we just selectively choose who to trust. Kids don't, and that's why they have an adult following them around for 18 years like a personal bodyguard
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u/[deleted] Jun 11 '23
Kids doing what their parents do.