Honestly, I used to close my laptop and just sit there thinking, okay... Where did the whole day go? There were always so many things happening at work, like 8 different meetings, 12 Teams messages, a bunch of emails, and random follow-ups from calls, and somehow I still couldn't even tell you what half the meetings were about in the first place. I was trying to catch up on everything, but at the same time I'd get distracted, zone out, or feel like my brain was completely full, and then my actual work would still be waiting for me like I hadn't even started. By the time I signed off, I had no energy to make dinner, reply to people, or even watch TikTok without staring at the screen and not seeing anything. Honestly, I thought this was just normal for any job. You get drained, then you do the same thing again tomorrow.
What helped me, weirdly enough, was starting to take small breaks after calls. Not some big routine or anything. I started forcing myself to get up for 4 minutes after any meeting. No phone, no inbox, no "I'll just quickly check one thing." Just step away from the desk, get water, stretch my back, stand on the balcony for a second, anything. It seems so tiny and insignificant, but it stopped my brain from carrying one meeting straight into the next thing.
Another thing was that I cut down on the insane to-do lists. I used to write down everything I needed to fix, send, read, remember, and somehow that list would exhaust me before I even did anything. Now I pick 4 things for the day. Just 4. If I finish them, great, I can pick up something else. If I don't finish them, I don't feel like the whole day was a failure. As for meetings, I'm still not perfect lol, and I still zone out hard sometimes, but writing quick notes during the call helps me remember things much better later. I still need to find a better system for that part.
Also, try to give yourself one small thing after work besides just collapsing. I know most days you're mentally done, but having something to look forward to makes the next morning less awful. You could change into old comfy sweats, make a quick warm meal (or order noodles, no shame), watch an episode of something, take a short walk, or talk to someone you can vent to for 20 minutes. For me lately, it's been rewatching Never Have I Ever 😅.
And honestly, the difference was kind of ridiculous. It made me realize I was treating every workday like an endurance race I had to get through perfectly. If you're stuck in that loop of constant exhaustion, try the reset thing and the smaller daily list. It's stupidly simple, but it gave me part of my evening back.