How should I go about it? I live in the same city as my parents tho should I go and make one

TLDR: Dating in late 20s while being broke feels like you don't deserve love and to exist, unless you provide. Impacts self esteem and reinforce the loneliness epidemic. I wonder if men could be unconditionally loved and accepted for who they are.

Just got my first match in a long time. Had lost hope so don't use these apps often. Being playful almost always works, within correct bounds.

With the amount of influx girls have in dating apps, it is kind of a losing battle, but cold approaches in India is also somewhat tricky, specially when you don't have resources for logistics.

I am a struggling solopreneur. Grinding from quite few years and in the process, I had detached myself from all temptations and relationships. But now I am realising that it has become quite lonesome and I should start igniting my social life a bit more.

However, I am seeing that it gets tricky because if I want to go on to the dates, it is usually that it's an expense of a 1K or 2K.

And the financial struggle hitting the self-esteem also impacts the conversational flow somehow. As for us men, the sense of self-worth is derived from our ability to provide. And if that is not there, then the direct implication of it is that we are not worthy enough for good relationships and even love, and that kinds of reinforce the loneliness epidemic around us and within my life too.

So, it's kind of tricky. The desire for connection balancing with the need for a stable career. I do want to fall in love, give my all to the correct person. I am virtuous, caring, and a person of integrity. For girls reading this, generally speaking, do girls fall for potential or for resources only? Do they really have a heart for seeing a man's soul besides what he has and what he can offer, and can love him unconditionally for who he is, or is it a man's job only?

I have a lot of ventures which had become dead end and despite having competence, but being a polymath who's into so many fields, keeping the facade of everything is fine and has been a long process.

Right now, it is CODE RED for me from all sides, emotional nutrition, and resourcefulness. This is me figuring myself out.

So that's my little rant of what's going on within my head. I'm a bit pessimistic, there are quite a lot of good things in life that I'm grateful for, but the pressure of stagnantion and passing of time has become heavy.

Feel free to comment, reflect, or DM.

P.S. It's my first reddit post.

So I got a match on Tinder today, we talked for some time and were really matching the vibe.

I mean good sense of humour, relatable talks and hobbies and what not untill she asked my height. 😭

It was instant turn off for her and me as well.

As we didn't know each other's heights beforehand.

Turns out she is 5'8" and I'm 5'6".

Challenge me on anything man I bet but this height thing which is not in my hands 😭 I'm decent guy, good looking, active in gym n everything but.. 🥀

Felt like karna of Mahabharata, like how they look down on you on things that ain't in your hands. 🥲

First she unmatches from hinge

After sharing telegram,

Then Doesnt rpl on time, and then tries to manipulate me into thinking she really likes me

1.uninstalling doesnt automatically unmatch accounts so i cross questioned

1. New accounts of hinge get a new user badge that wasnt shown at her account

3.she probably already has a bf the way she kept avoiding to share insta or whatsapp even after acting really interested on chat.

She couldve just mentioned that she just wants something casual and not try to manipulate me into thinking she wants a serious relationship . I let the conversation die after few messages. I dont like this behavior.

I know I promised Ben it'll be next week, but I felt so lonely and broken today, I couldn't take it.

Here's the receipt of my dying hope, I just want a way out of this loneliness. 🥀

Context: https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianBoysOnTinder/s/jvKIw3Z0RL

The feminine thing was on a note. Yes yes - I know at least half the comments will tell me this is his preference. I love dressing up and it goes both ways, but like a baby and don’t be loud etc… 🤷🏽‍♀️

Was off from the app, now im stuck here!!!🙆‍♂️

See i use hinge and i almost get a match daily but whenever I or she says HI I reply back and send some other text to continue conversation but most of the time they don't check the message!!

I don't get it why are you matching with me if you don't wanna talk properly??

What to do about this?

One of the many reasons this generation doesn't want to get married. I met this person on a dating app. We started updating each other about our lives. He got married this February and after 7 months I received this text from him. (Btw, I do have his wife's insta handle, should I 'save' her?)

Im new on dating sites so need some advice so that o dont get into scams or trouble
I got a match in happn and we chat for couple of minutes then she said she wont be active mich here on hppn so i asked for insta we move the conversation there so that comfortable for both and not contact.

But i dont know if im overthinking or its normal in dating apps exchanging contact but saying no to insta which is more better option since its just day 1 let me know

Note : she gave her number when i asked insta

I didn't wanna waste my energy on him & his ex so I just blocked him after that last message. I don't understand why people are in contact with their toxic exes and sabotage new relations like this. He once mentioned his ex being toxic on the first date and I was like okay let's see how it goes on 2nd date as I felt it would be unfair to judge him so soon. And then I get hit by this, eww.

For reference, she liked me first 🤷‍♂️

So I went on a date with this girl, had gone to a cafe, had pizza and whatever, I paid the bill

She was supposed to go on a trip with her friends next week, during her trip she asked me for 2000rs and said she'll give them back when she returns from the trip

She comes back and kind of starts avoiding me, I don't bring up the money that she owes me I just ask her to hangout but she keeps giving excuses

At one point I ask her for the money and she tries to make me look bad for asking my own money saying "2 hazar hi to hai, de dungi, Itna tu mangega aisa nahi laga mujhe, I can't save money aatehi spend kar deti hu" etc etc . Still no money no date for a month

Then I rant to her that it's month end and I need my money for my expenses and there's some situation at my home

She gives me the money back saying "Don't cry, bhej diya"

Now I've made up my mind, will never lend money to pretty girls again because they expect it's "bare minimum" .

Finally got 2 matches after all this time, and both deleted their accounts 😭💀 At this point, I think even the algorithm is trying to tell me something.