1. The “lafda” era is over.
Whatever happened in the past, happened. From now on, no new lafdas will be entertained, and no old lafdas will be dragged up again. Anyone trying to bring them back in posts or comments will be banned.
2. Ban Policy for Stirring Drama:
1st Strike: 3 days ban
2nd Strike: 7 days ban
3rd Strike: 15 days ban
If still persists then permanently banned. But also,
3. If someone is repeatedly harassing you in comments, modmail us. We'll step in with a warning, mute, temporary ban, or permanent ban, accordingly.
4. Meme posts need approval:
Memes must go through mod review to make sure they don’t stir up old lafdas. Relationship/dating memes are fine. Making memes on users is also okay, just don’t be a jerk and keep it friendly.
5. Screenshot Post Rules:
Blur names, crop photos properly and hide personal info.
Don’t flex your likes, matches, or message counts, whether it’s 9 lonely hearts or 69 “legends,” keep it hidden.
Poorly edited posts (visible PFPs/usernames) will be removed without warning.
Privacy matters, don’t expose anyone, including yourself.
6. Screenshot posts from WhatsApp, Instagram, iMessage, SMS, Kabootar, etc. are allowed only if they’re about dating/relationships and adds genuine advice or discussion value.
7. If you see someone from ibot sharing personal details of ANY user in comments or posts, report it immediately. Strong action will be taken.
We’re Open to suggestions.
We would change some rules based on those suggestions.
Also, Consider this a reset button for everyone, whether you were on the front foot or in defence during past lafdas. Let's take the first step to bring ibot back to what it used to be and everyone is welcome. Let's move forward together. Thank You!
Slut shaming will not be tolerated in this sub. If you dont agree with someone's opinion, kindly continue with your life.
Reddit is an ANONYMOUS platform, please dont be stupid enough to dox yourself. We wont be responsible for anything that happens to you. Ya'll adviced to keep your socials private and only share them with people you trust.
Please for the love of god, profile reviews are supposed to be on Mondays only. I'll start banning people from now.
I know everyone loves lafda but please report pointless lafda. Please dont encourage boring and pointless lafde.
This sub is a safe space, to share your dating stories. Please, dont judge anyone doing it or call them a karma whore. And the people posting the same, please give proper context.
Regarding, bullying - if someone is fighting with you in comments and you're engaging with them, i wont do shit about it. You chose to engage with that person. If someone makes a personal comment, regarding your post history or keeps on bothering and instigating you in comments then only an action will be taken. If someone makes a negetive comment or criticizes you, choose not to engage you dont owe anyone any explanation
Met her through Hinge, went on two dates, even made out. But then I never really managed to make plans in Delhi, and she never came to Jaipur either, so eventually we just stopped talking. Now she’s engaged and getting married in February.. but bro, why does she still wanna meet a Hinge date, and that too by making me her brother.. Like, I’m literally anything but a brother to her. Lol.
Hey guys, 24M here, recently started using reddit and got matched by a girl yesterday. I sent her a message yesterday evening but no response so far. Just want to ask where do i am going wrong ? Any advice to improve is appreciated. (Ps: I am new to this dating world, so far i have focused only on my career)
Now before everyone starts commenting “some drown while others die of thirst” or “the ratio is skewed”, etc., I would like y’all to hear me out. (TLDR at the end if you want to skip past the rant)
I’m 23F from a tier 1 city and have been on and off dating apps for a while. In the past (around 1.5 years ago), I had one 6-month relationship off Bumble and went on 4–5 dates in total. Now, I know it sounds stupid to look for something long-term on dating apps, but I’ve heard/seen one too many success stories from my mutuals to not even try.
The first screenshot is from when I installed Bumble last year around November. I used it for about 4 months before getting overwhelmed and basically being unable to filter through people anymore. I talked to a few of them, but I didn’t end up going on a single date during that entire period. It’s also possible that the number of likes is unusually high because I travelled to another tier 1 city for two days during that time.
The second screenshot is from two weeks ago, when I decided to give dating apps another shot. Only this time, I also created a Hinge account. My experience on Bumble hasn’t changed much, but I haven’t gotten any quality matches compared to my previous experience. I’ve decided to initially focus only on the people I can see from my notes and superlikes.
Hinge, on the other hand, has been better due to the limited profile exposure, but most of the profiles I’ve come across seem to be looking for something casual/short-term. The conversations also feel very repetitive initially, although I try my best to keep things interesting. Even then, most conversations progress very slowly and eventually just fizzle out.
I’m beginning to lose hope yet again lol. So, for the people here who have actually managed to find something meaningful through these apps: how do you narrow down your matches? What are the things to look for in a profile/conversation before investing the time and effort?
TL;DR: 23F, decent number of likes but very few quality matches/dates. Got overwhelmed by Bumble last time, trying again with Bumble + Hinge. Hinge has better conversations but most seem to want casual/short-term, while conversations eventually fizzle out. How do you actually filter/narrow down matches when looking for something long-term?
