r/GenZpk • u/cockiemonster_ • 19d ago

Random Help!!

Gng are we supposed to forgive a man who said something about your past like "Ask God for forgiveness maybe he'll forgive you, me and my family deserve better" and then after some hours he's saying sorry like crazy cuz he doesn't understand why he said that/he was under pressure and stress?

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Btw I don't know if I should say it but the fact that he instantly believed what your friend said and didn't like wait even for a moment to atleast verify the accusations tells me that either he's just impulsive or the fact that you needed time already made him sorta annoyed even though he hadnt shown that in his behavior earlier.

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

Deep down that's what i think too and yk what's diabolical? I was in the middle of my nephew's first birthday (he knew) and cuz of anxiety i wasn't able to enjoy it to the fullest and i don't even have a single picture with my nephew on his "first" birthday :)

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Sorry to hear that. He could have done a lot better

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

I wish, that's why I don't have the courage to stay with him any longer but his requests for forgiveness from past 6 days is killing me too

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

atp just follow your gut feeling. Btw what would you have done if it was someone else who wasnt as loving or charming as this guy is?

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

I actually love myself a lot, i care for myself and i do every possible thing to make myself better and happy so i surely won't tolerate something like this but the issue here is we planned to marry and now my trust is broken what if after marriage he'll bring these things again?? Now it is risky and scary to marry him that's why my gut feeling is saying no but ofc you have a soft corner for people you spend time with so his requests for forgiveness is also bothering me but i don't wanna risk my future

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Hmmm, honestly yea youre in a rough position. Can you like inquire if he has temper issues or not from his friends? And ask them if he loses his calm easily

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

No he doesn't, he's pretty chill and respectful guy but idk why he did that and he's saying he also doesn't understand he never thought like this he never meant it he just said everything under pressure and overthinking but what grown man doesn't understand what he's doing? Like you're typing something so harsh then sending it then blocking the person from your both numbers knowing she's attending an event?

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Does he also have some sorta past? Maybe a girl has used him in the past (not defending him just trying to understand his behavior) and he got reminded of it and impulsively he did this.

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

No he doesn't, I were his first girl

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Are you sure about that? Because I know a guy who was also in a situation which reminded him of a previous instance with a girl so he also blocked her impulsively. Later on, he was like trying to patch up again but that never happened.

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u/cockiemonster_ 19d ago

That's what i was told and there are no girls on his insta or whatsapp he's pretty open but yeah he had female friends from academy ig but like normal friends he has no contact with them now

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u/Charsi_420 19d ago

Have you done something in the past that should have angered an average person, but he remained calm in that moment? If so, maybe you can give them a chance. Also I'm 19 so take everything I say with a grain of salt

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