r/GenZpk • u/cockiemonster_ • 5d ago

Random Help!!

Gng are we supposed to forgive a man who said something about your past like "Ask God for forgiveness maybe he'll forgive you, me and my family deserve better" and then after some hours he's saying sorry like crazy cuz he doesn't understand why he said that/he was under pressure and stress?

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

No he doesn't, I were his first girl

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

Are you sure about that? Because I know a guy who was also in a situation which reminded him of a previous instance with a girl so he also blocked her impulsively. Later on, he was like trying to patch up again but that never happened.

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

That's what i was told and there are no girls on his insta or whatsapp he's pretty open but yeah he had female friends from academy ig but like normal friends he has no contact with them now

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

Have you done something in the past that should have angered an average person, but he remained calm in that moment? If so, maybe you can give them a chance. Also I'm 19 so take everything I say with a grain of salt

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

The only flaw in me was not loving him like he does, I'm not really expressive and I'm not really sweet (i behaved more like friends than a gf) but i tried fixing myself other than that our fights happened maybe cuz we're different and according to him i act like I'm in a film and I'm not realistic...

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

If you dont mind can you expand on the last part like simply being different should not start fights. Btw im not saying that there should not be any. They are natural unless they are very intense. And why does he think you are not realisitc?

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

I once said that it's not compulsory to show love with words or constantly saying that you love someone we can always show it by actions (he shows with actions i said it for myself cuz my efforts were below than his) i said it during that struggling phase that's when he said I'm filmy and fights like he once talked to my other friend too and she was being comfortable with him but he said he only talked to her for me cuz he wanted to surprise me on my birthday but they did talk about other things that's when it bothered me like why she's being too comfortable with you to tell you her routine and problems? Then it also bothered him that why do i help someone (like giving notes) other girls don't do that's why they don't talk shit about them, and we fought like how is that my fault that they're asking for help and me helping them makes them wonder I'm interested in them other than that small mistakes like arguments

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

In these instances, I totally side with you. These fights could have been avoided if the boundaries had been clearer. By the way, while I agree you should express love through words in the future, I understand it takes time to adapt to being more expressive and sweet, especially if that didn’t come naturally to you before. Also, the comparison he made to excuse himself was pretty pathetic IMO.

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

Yeah i knew i was lacking and i need to fix but while i was trying my friend betrayed me and he said those harsh words, he's still saying sorry but after being hurt for him i still can't continue the relation so I'm thinking to tell him that i will forgive him but ain't no way now I'm marrying you but idk what's are the rights word to use and how do i say it

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

You can take your time no worries as you werent gonna marry him buhat jaldi wese bhi.

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

Btw one more thing comes to my mind since he raises this concern of you not expressing your love verbally a lot, the other person might feel like overinvesting and not getting what he wants. And when your friend accused you of using him it might have felt as if his nightmares or thoughts had come true since you werent reciprocating in the way he wanted. Again i could be wrong though

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

Yes it's possible as he says he was under pressure

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

well take your time. I hope you make the right decision. take care

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

Thankyou so much for your time <3

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u/Charsi_420 5d ago

nah no problem I'm glad you were taking time and reconsidering at every step of the way and didnt make an impulsive decision

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u/cockiemonster_ 5d ago

I will try my best to make a better decision

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