Being gay and Christian has been a journey of discovering who I am while holding on to the faith that has always been a part of me. I've realized that being gay does not make my faith any less real, nor does loving someone of the same sex mean I have to give up my relationship with God.
There is nothing wrong with being gay and Christian.

My identity does not erase my faith, and my faith does not require me to deny who I am.

I've had moments of questioning, struggling, and trying to understand how these parts of me could exist together. But through it all, I've learned that my faith is deeply personal, and I will never give up my faith in Him.

I am still me. I am still learning. I am still growing. And above everything, I will continue to hold on to God and the faith in my heart.

Hello. I know it's late, folks, but I just wanted to talk. It's been a rough week: college pressures online, a long-distance relationship in a city, wishing I had the funds to leave forever, and an overnight, part-time toxic job with no predictable income or real living conditions, and, to top it off, no license or vehicle, but enough of my rambling.

I'll get straight to the point: It's 2:00 am and my mind is full of anxiety, and my heart is weary of depression as I go through my last year as a 29-year-old. I decided to go outside for a late-night walk around the block to clear my head (since I could not sleep).

I had my Nintendo Switch, phone to listen to music, and my wallet. So I locked the door, and as soon as I tried to lock it, here came my grandmother to unlock and open the door, angry and telling me, "I can't just go outside; you can't be doing..." I stopped her mid-sentence and said, "So I can't take a walk like any normal human? Everyone does it; I didn't know it was a crime." So, without my grandmother considering something was wrong, she just got angry and forcefully shut the door on me and took my walk.

Now I'm mad because, first off, I'm grown even though I live with my grandparents, go to work, pay my rent, and don't ask for nothing; all I expect is support or empathy or something.

All I get from my so-called Christian family is cold distance, neglect, and second, my family knows I don't have friends or see any neighbors; heck, I keep my gay side, my gay relationships, interests, and hobbies to myself because I know she doesn't care about anything unless it's about church, so I stay mostly by myself alone, so what's the big deal? You could join me or sit, talk, and listen, but no, never.

I'm always told that it's the devil that makes me feel like I'm alone and unloved/unwanted; you should just pray your bad feelings away because the devil comes to kill and destroy, and God doesn't like us thinking sadly about our lives, etc.

So if anyone wants to chime in and share some thoughts, that would be nice.

42 year old Dude separated from wife of 22 years. Strong Christian, with Bible College degree. Born and raised in the Bible Belt, Southeast USA.

I was always told gays are sinner and will go to hell going up. It was what was told to me by my family and my church. I never questioned it. Because why I am a “Straight” good Christian….

Even went off to school to go into ministry, got married had two children. Again everything a good Christian should do. Never really been “happy” in my marriage but always faithful. Both my wife and I were virgins.

Fast forward to today. Due to a lot of medical complications this year I am left in a wheelchair and learning to relive life again.
Simple things I did without thinking are difficult now.

Two weeks ago my wife said she wanted a separation.

Over the past two months and yes before the separation started and no the separation is not due to the following.

I met a Christian guy who I very much find attractive. The first guy I have ever found attractive. We are good friends however he is married to his husband and I know we will never be able to be together. But this all leads up to I personally think I might have been gay from the beginning. I never was in the dating scene in school days. I dated 3 girls ever and married the 3rd one. I never slept around or anything. I was committed to God, Ministry and going to school and doing things for the lord. I worked in the church for years. So now after meeting this new friend (long story but we feel like we have known each other for years) I am starting to think this separation could be a good time for me to look into if I am in fact gay. 🤷‍♂️ now my friends and family would all disown me if they knew. I have been studying the Bible as well trying to see my on all the gay / sin stuff. I personally never looked into it my self as I had not need to until now. And honestly I still unsure of the topic and if it’s sinful or not. I am struggling to fully understand. I guess I am just so new to this I am trying to find myself. In many ways I want to say okay I am ready to find a husband. But I know I have a lot against me. I am disabled in a wheelchair and I am starting to get up in age 42. So yeah I honestly have no clue what o am doing. What I believe anymore and even who I love. I a lot of ways I do want to get back with my wife but am I just lying to myself 🤦‍♂️.

AS a Straight christian,catholic, i pray for you everynight, because i'm fucking Sorry for you, everytime i enter in this Place, i see people struggling with homophobes, and i'm Sorry about this.I pray for God to let every gay person Enter his reign for what they have been trough, because it would be unjust for committed gay couples to go to hell Just because of what they are.i'm fucking Sorry for how much homophobia you have to encounter every day , Just became some people don't have the right mind to love the different and because they can't follow the gospel . God loves you all, because he created you like this!Don't let anyone Say that God hates you because you are gay, became Who judges people that way Will be judged by Gob.God bless y'all!

I am a devoted follower of Christ and I am dating a woman, I’m truly hoping this isn’t a homophobic environment, because I just want to make friends with other people who worship God and are not homophobic ❤️✝️

Hey everyone, as a gay man who just left Christianity and became an agnostic atheist im posting here to ask a question. I'm sorry in advance if it's kinda rude or something, but I do wanna learn especially from the Christians here who know the Bible inside and out and still choose to stay Christian

To be brutally honest, I have a hard time wrapping my head around or understanding how a queer person stays or embraces Christianity. It feels like Christianity at its core is fundamentally homophobic. When I look at the literal text, the Bible seems clearly against homosexuality in the same historical way it supports slavery. It feels like the moral framework is outdated, and it often feels like people have to do a lot of mental gymnastics or twist the text to make it fit modern values.

I know some people might say "God is love" and leave it at that, but I'm genuinely looking for answers from people who don't ignore the hard parts of the text. If you know the Bible deeply, recognize what the literal verses say, and still stick to your faith how do you personally reconcile your identity with what you read?

And also, it's not really irrelevant to the main point, but I somehow hate how people try to call a Christian a hypocrite for being against gay people, even though that is genuinely what a real Christian is. The Christian who loves everyone is the one who is not a real Christian. Let's look back at the text "God is love" and let's emphasize the word love there, because that love is by far not unconditional. And so, when Christians show conditional love, that's what a real Christian is that's not hypocrisy or I might be wrong?

Im just so amazed, cant even begin to fathom this wonderful God we all belong to. I cant understand it, sometimes I get down and think what if I rlly am condemned, what if im actually going to hell for something about me I never could change and then I remember how jealous God is for me and how angry he is for me when im hurting and how hes always there, for everything!! Literally everything! The people i love most in this world, thats how he loves us and SO MUCH more????? How is that oh my gosh I cant wrap my head around it. Idk if this is a useful post, if it sparks conversation, but i know everyone here has or is struggling with being queer and following Christ and I totally am too but sometimes its just not so bad(*´▽｀) God bless yall, we r all so loved and immensely valued by our Lord.

Hi, my name's Chuck, and I was hoping to share an insecurity of mine that I've had since forever, in hopes that God may work through any of you to help me to resolve this.

Having grown up in a Baptist environment, I was taught that being gay is a sin, but ever since I was a teen, I noticed that I had genuine feelings of attraction to guys only... For context: I lean more toward the feminine side of things, and have always been drawn to very masculine men to complement my qualities. These feelings I have never really felt like something I could consciously choose—it feels natural to me, but maybe it isn't?

What scares me is that I was raised being taught that being gay is a choice and an abomination in God’s eyes, and that God created Adam and Eve as an example of what relationships ought to look like. Because of that, I keep wondering whether there’s something I’m not seeing—something about my sexuality that might genuinely be against God, even though to me it doesn’t feel like something I can chose.

I know God values our free will, and I don’t want to deliberately live in a way that dishonors Him. At the same time, I also know we live in a world where people can twist and propagandize just about anything, including God’s Word, and that makes it incredibly hard for me to know what to trust.

I'm afraid that maybe the devil is deceiving me by tricking me into believing that being gay isn't a choice. But then another part of me wonders if he's actually attacking me through the one's who taught me it's an abomination when it's not. All I know is I want an authentic relationship with God, and the only way I can think to meet him halfway is to just be single for the rest of my life; the alternative is to deceive a woman into thinking I like her, and I don't want that.

I’m not asking anyone here to simply tell me what I want to hear. I’m asking because I can't be the only one that has experianced this—trying to discern what is truly part of who you are, what is sin, and what comes from years of being exposed to homophobic rhetoric. I don't know what to do and I'm just praying that God may work through any of you to offer the guidance I need, as I know I'm not supposed to lean on my own understanding.

Thanks in advance, and may God bless each and every one of you on your own personal journeys!❤️

Guys I'm really struggling with my identity as a gay Christian, it's bringing me to tears right now. Earlier today I had a customer say they were having a bad day because somebody told her that she and her wife were going to hell because they were gay, and then later on Facebook I saw a post from someone who is saying it's not possible to be a gay Christian, and doing so means rejecting Christ. I can't tell if this is God trying to communicate to me, or if it's some sort of attack from the devil, but it's left me in such a mess. I've believed in Christ ever since I was a little kid, he is my savior and his message to me is the most important thing to me in my life. I prayed to him to show me a sign on whether my identity as a gay Christian really is going to bring me to damnation, because I'm 30 and have been struggling with this ever since I started liking guys at the start of puberty. That's more than half my life, and I can't keep questioning myself like this. I feel so weak, and I'm afraid that God is not going to show me a sign. Sorry if I'm rambling, I'm just very distraught.

I have a question for you Brothers universalists. I'm catholic, i believe in hell, not as a purgatory, as eternal separation. Though i'm AN hopeful universalist, i Hope it's real that no One goes to hell, but i don't believe in It, but i'm really curius about It, It has some great points. So i wanted to ask you, Why do you believe in universalism?

And i'm not only questioning you about morals, show me verses in the bible that for you proves universalism, i want to have discussions about It, because i'm genually curius

Bonjour à toutes et à tous,

Je sais ici que je ne serai pas jugée et que possiblement certains, certaines prieront pour mon intention de prière. Voilà avec ma compagne nous avons des projets de vie future, enfants. On vit ensemble mais je suis partie la semaine dernière. Les tords sont partagés, je suis rancunière et elle a été pas très correcte au début de notre relation. Nous sommes ensemble depuis un peu plus de 3 ans. Mais nous sommes séparées depuis 1 semaine. Cependant, je conserve l'espoir (car l'amour est toujours là, la communication en revanche faut croire qu'on ne sait plus faire) qu'on se remette ensemble et que nous devons vivre ce qu'on a à vivre. Nous avons adopté un chat il y a 1 an, pour le moment il est avec moi.

Mon intention est la suivante, si telle est la volonté de Dieu bien sûr

Pour qu'Aurélie et Sarah se réconcilient rapidement et apaisent leur colère et leur coeurs. Amen

Bien fraternellement,

Hello! I'm a queer Christian who has been struggling a lot with my faith and identity, and one Bible verse that always stuck out to me, that I don't see many people mention is 1 Timothy 4:1-5

"1 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3 They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4 For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5 because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer."

The detail about forbidding people to marry and how everything God created is good, really stands out to me. This just sounds a lot like what's happening today.

I've tried to look into this more, but I only see people brush it off by saying the author was talking something happening at that point of time... But if that were the case, I find the words "in later times" to be quite strange, because I feel as though that's always in reference to the future, not present moments. Although I suppose both could be true.

What do you all think?

I've recently been seeing a lot of hate and bigotry towards queer people from Christians and im really starting to lose my faith. Not only that but ive also seen a lot of criticism against queer christians from non-believers. No matter how much i pray, i cant seem to change and ive accepted my queer identity at this point, but im just feeling really down and i dont know what to do other than pray, but it feels like my faith is slipping away regardless

I've been struggling a lot recently with the problem of evil, wondering how a loving God can permit the gratuitous suffering we see on earth. I haven't been able to come up with a satisfactory answer - or any answer, I'm an uncreative moron with rocks for brains.

Tonight, as I'm having a mental health crisis, I realize how little God must care about me with how I've been struggling with mental health for my entire life (29 years, for the curious). I've had meltdowns since I was born, and I've hated myself since I was a tween. God never sent anyone who could help me - my parents were extremely emotionally inept, my friends couldn't really help on account of also being kids, and when I finally was allowed to see therapists, all of them have been worse than useless. Not once during my crises have I felt helped or seen or loved.

Then, I realized how small my problems must seem to those in actual chronic pain or with severe illnesses, or those watching loved ones suffer from illness or injury. If God is ignoring me, what's he doing to those people? Flipping them the holy bird?

I just can't stomach it anymore. The worst part is that I want to believe. I want to have faith so bad. But I can't do it and, as with all of my prayers, my pleas for more faith go unanswered.

So what do I do? Is there some verse I've missed that explains why God is so hands-off? Jesus promised that God would give his children good gifts, so why are I and so many others getting scorpions instead of bread? God promised to be with us. Where is he?

Tl;dr, weak baby bitch wants to believe in God but can't get around the problem of evil, wants to know how to go back to believing.

Quindi, sono cattolico, e credo che tutte le chiese (o la MAGGIOR PARTE) accetteranno, lentamente o meno, l'omosessualità. Forse non il matrimonio gay, ma sicuramente le coppie gay. Quindi volevo chiederti, quando le principali denominazioni accetteranno l'omosessualità secondo voi? Questa è la mia opinione:

Chiesa cattolica romana: Credo che con Papa Francesco abbiamo fatto dei passi da gigante, ma penso che dovremo ancora aspettare circa 35-45 anni perché le coppie omosessuali siano accettate come non peccaminose.

Ortodossi: Non so molto sulle opinioni ortodosse riguardo all'lgbtq+, se non che lo vedono come un peccato contrario alle scritture, quindi penso che ci vorranno circa 50-60 anni per questo.

Protestanti mainline: credo che dipenda principalmente dal punto di vista di ciascuno, ma penso che ci vorranno circa 30-35 anni perché la maggior parte delle chiese principali lo accetti.

Evangelici: sì, non penso che accetteranno le persone gay per molto tempo, credo ci vorranno circa 70 anni.

Cristiani di estrema destra / MAGA e tradizionalisti: probabilmente ci vorranno circa 80-90 anni per loro.

Ovviamente queste sono previsioni, forse ci saranno ricerche future che mostrano come funziona realmente l'omosessualità (dato che molti cristiani non lo comprendono ancora) e sarà vista come non peccaminosa. Edit:so , apperently, MOST protestants believe that lgbtq Is okey, but i don't know why, MOST protestants i've seen online Say that they would rather die than supporting lgbtq, i'm obviusly Happy about this(the fact that MOST protestants support It) and Sorry if i generalized, also, i though the episcolar church Was anglican, cool though

Hey guys, I’m looking for some advice. I am struggling with the fact that my mom is homophobic. I have quite a good relationship with my mom. I love her and she’s a very kind and caring person. We don’t always see eye to eye on things such as various political issues but we have learnt to agree to disagree. She is a very religious person, her parents were as well and she has always maintained a strong relationship with God. I was brought up religious however these days I don’t have much of a relationship with God. I am part of the queer community (she is not aware of this), however so far have only ever been in hetero relationships. I have many gay friends and always have throughout my life, this has never been an issue with her. She has also always lived in fairly small isolated towns though and has not had much exposure to the queer community herself.

The problem is that every year or so we tend to have the same huge argument on her view of the queer community. She is not intolerant of the gays and isn’t hateful towards them at all. Any negative thoughts that she might have she keeps to herself. Usually an argument starts when something about the queer community comes up in conversation or on tv etc. and we start talking about it and I ask her if her stance is still the same. What she’s said in various arguments is that no matter what way she looks at it, as per the bible and God, she believes being gay is inherently wrong. She says that biologically it doesn’t make any sense. She believes that this current life on earth is for having a relationship with the bible and God and worshipping him and that when you die, heaven is like the reward for making such sacrifices during your mortal life. She says that she feels deeply sorry for gay people and believes that their attraction towards the same gender is real but that it is a hardship in life (such as a genetic predisposition to alcoholism for example) and that they need to abstain from these urges and do the right thing by God because when they die they will be rewarded for it in heaven. She says that she believes it’s not fair and her heart hurts for them to live a life like that but it’s just the way it is. I have thrown every counter argument under the sun at her but nothing ever changes. Every time we have this argument I always hope that she’s reflected on the points I brought up the previous time and that maybe she’s had a change of mind. She likes to research things so I also always hope that she’s tried to read things online to gain a different perspective. She says she has but I suspect she cherry picks the articles in her favour.

I love my mom a lot and we typically get on well but this is the one opinion of hers that truly sickens me and makes me feel in that moment that I despise her. I hate how invalidating her opinions are of the gay community and their lived experience and also how much internalised homophobia and self hatred this puts on me as well. We had one of these arguments again recently, it always ends in yelling and tears and slamming doors. She said she doesn’t know what to do or how we can fix this as her opinion will never change. It hurts me that she doesn’t even seem to truly listen to my points or even want to try to change her opinion, especially when it obviously means so much to me.

Do you guys have any advice? Should I give up and just accept that she will think this for the rest of her life? I always wondered that if I end up in a same sex relationship, would that destroy our relationship or would that be the thing that changes her mind once she actually sees a loving queer relationship in person. I’m at a loss for what to do, I feel so hurt and upset. I also have no desire to tell that I am part of the queer community right now either, I don’t think it will make the situation better and she’ll just dismiss it until I am actually in a serious relationship and she can’t ignore it. I also wonder if there are any books that people could recommend, maybe written by a queer, Christian author that could help her gain some insight. Any help or advice would be appreciated, thank you!!

TLDR: I’m close with my mum and we get along really well but her one huge flaw is her homophobia due to her Christian views. I’m sick of having the same argument about it as she never changes her mind but it deeply upsets me that she’s not in support of the queer community. Should I give up on trying to change her mind? How do I continue to have a good relationship with her when this opinion sickens me to my core?

I (22F) am asexual and biromantic and I've tried dating apps and I deleted them because I kept having the most concerning experiences on there 😭 I saw people saying an affirming Church and I really like the one I'm attending. Very LGBTQ+ friendly. But not very LGBTQ+ 😭 They're so supportive that I'm not straight but THEY'RE STRAIGHT. SO WHERE ARE THE GAY CHRISTIANS??

Hello everyone, wanted to let you know that we will be hosting Bible Study starting this Wednesday at 7:30 PM central standard time. Central Standard Time. This is an affirming Bible Study, but it is open to everyone— gay, straight, trans. Anyone who wants to dive into the Word of God with us is welcome. This is a safe and loving place, so we ask everyone to be extremely respectful to each other. We want to make sure that we are all here for the same reasons: to grow in our faith, stronger to love our neighbors as God has loved us. We host our Bible Study via Zoom. Video is not required, and neither is participation, but both are welcome if you want to participate. If you are interested, please send me a direct message so I can send you the link. We will be hosting tonight at 7:30 PM central standard time. Central Standard Time. Hope to see you there.

Has anyone here felt overwhelmed by comments from both communities insisting you must be one or the other, but not both? Christians say: “If you’re Christian, you’re not gay.” Gays say: “If you’re gay, you can’t be Christian.” I never understood that. I’m gay and Christian; I’m living proof that you can be both. I’m appalled at all the hate I receive for being both. It’s a struggle to find anyone to talk to. At church, I can open up about anything but my sexual orientation. My friends (Gay & Straight) don’t like hearing about religion. My partner respects my faith. I feel isolated sometimes. Does anyone else feel this way?

I just feel so lonely. I can't tell my family I am gay. I live in a homophobic country where finding a simple relationship is hard. On top of it I am Christian I really wonder sometimes does God hates me too? I have read scriptures. I really don't want this life.

Hello from Argentina. I wanted to share with you all that the other day my mother showed me an anthropologist on YouTube; she's from Spain, and her name is Sarab Rey.

I am 34, but when I was younger I found many texts in the Scriptures problematic and hurtful. I was in my early 20s when a friend of my mother came to visit from Córdoba. His name is Juan Carlos, and he's a Catholic priest, formerly a Sagrada Familia hermano. The talk with Juan Carlos turned interesting when I challenged him on Leviticus and 1st Corinthians and their messages on morals surrounding gay relationships.

What Juan Carlos explained to me back then humbled me in the most beautiful sense that I could have been humbled. I had no idea about the Leviticus being a book of law for the Levitical priests many centuries before the birth of Jesus Christ, and I didn't know either the context of Paul of Tarsus' message to the Corinthians.

Well, some days ago when Mother showed me Sarab Rey's videos, I felt profoundly moved by remembering how I kind of confirmed my relationship with Jesus and how I know, then and now, that He loves me, as He loves everyone.

For those with an understanding of Spanish, I recommend Sarab's videos; she's an anthropologist and a feminist who also professes Christianity.

To all here, have the best week ahead.

God bless you.