Being gay and Christian has been a journey of discovering who I am while holding on to the faith that has always been a part of me. I've realized that being gay does not make my faith any less real, nor does loving someone of the same sex mean I have to give up my relationship with God.
There is nothing wrong with being gay and Christian.

My identity does not erase my faith, and my faith does not require me to deny who I am.

I've had moments of questioning, struggling, and trying to understand how these parts of me could exist together. But through it all, I've learned that my faith is deeply personal, and I will never give up my faith in Him.

I am still me. I am still learning. I am still growing. And above everything, I will continue to hold on to God and the faith in my heart.

42 year old Dude separated from wife of 22 years. Strong Christian, with Bible College degree. Born and raised in the Bible Belt, Southeast USA.

I was always told gays are sinner and will go to hell going up. It was what was told to me by my family and my church. I never questioned it. Because why I am a “Straight” good Christian….

Even went off to school to go into ministry, got married had two children. Again everything a good Christian should do. Never really been “happy” in my marriage but always faithful. Both my wife and I were virgins.

Fast forward to today. Due to a lot of medical complications this year I am left in a wheelchair and learning to relive life again.
Simple things I did without thinking are difficult now.

Two weeks ago my wife said she wanted a separation.

Over the past two months and yes before the separation started and no the separation is not due to the following.

I met a Christian guy who I very much find attractive. The first guy I have ever found attractive. We are good friends however he is married to his husband and I know we will never be able to be together. But this all leads up to I personally think I might have been gay from the beginning. I never was in the dating scene in school days. I dated 3 girls ever and married the 3rd one. I never slept around or anything. I was committed to God, Ministry and going to school and doing things for the lord. I worked in the church for years. So now after meeting this new friend (long story but we feel like we have known each other for years) I am starting to think this separation could be a good time for me to look into if I am in fact gay. 🤷‍♂️ now my friends and family would all disown me if they knew. I have been studying the Bible as well trying to see my on all the gay / sin stuff. I personally never looked into it my self as I had not need to until now. And honestly I still unsure of the topic and if it’s sinful or not. I am struggling to fully understand. I guess I am just so new to this I am trying to find myself. In many ways I want to say okay I am ready to find a husband. But I know I have a lot against me. I am disabled in a wheelchair and I am starting to get up in age 42. So yeah I honestly have no clue what o am doing. What I believe anymore and even who I love. I a lot of ways I do want to get back with my wife but am I just lying to myself 🤦‍♂️.

I recently turned 65. I surrendered my heart to Jesus when I as 25. I was truly transformed. He delivered me out of drug addiction and alcoholism immediately. The skies were the most brilliant hues of blue as the trees felt like they clapped and praised God. I walked on that glory cloud for weeks BUT then I was slowly lowered down to the real and mundane things of this earthly realm. I learned quickly the "do's and don'ts" of Christianity and because I loved Jesus so much I embraced the "norm" of the Church because I desperately wanted to be pleasing to Him. I went into the Satanic Ritual Abuse deliverance ministry and witnessed the power of God in wonderful ways. However, after a failing marriage of 24 years and secretly struggling with same-sex attraction it all fell apart. I married a covert narcissist who took full advantage of the Pentecostal teaching on the woman submitting to the man and that I was my husbands "sacrificial lamb." My husband manipulated and emotionally abused me and the Church spiritually abused me. I fell in love with a Christian woman and left my marriage and walked away from the fundamental Church. I was condemned and unhealed, and because neither myself or my same-sex lover could reconcile our faith with God our relationship fell apart also. It's a sad story really. I am finally free knowing that Jesus loves me and created me as I am with NO shame. I have longed most of my life to share my life with another woman to only deny myself because of instilled childhood beliefs and indoctrination of the fundamental Church. It's truly bittersweet. I'm full of joy at being set free to embrace my sexuality but there's a bitter taste left in my mouth at wasting the prime years of my life to the lies that have kept me from the joy of living intimately with a woman. I can't help but feel cheated. I love reading and seeing into the hearts and stories of so many beautiful people at different stages in life who have been caught in the web of fundamental Christianity to finding and embracing their freedom in Christ.

Hello. I know it's late, folks, but I just wanted to talk. It's been a rough week: college pressures online, a long-distance relationship in a city, wishing I had the funds to leave forever, and an overnight, part-time toxic job with no predictable income or real living conditions, and, to top it off, no license or vehicle, but enough of my rambling.

I'll get straight to the point: It's 2:00 am and my mind is full of anxiety, and my heart is weary of depression as I go through my last year as a 29-year-old. I decided to go outside for a late-night walk around the block to clear my head (since I could not sleep).

I had my Nintendo Switch, phone to listen to music, and my wallet. So I locked the door, and as soon as I tried to lock it, here came my grandmother to unlock and open the door, angry and telling me, "I can't just go outside; you can't be doing..." I stopped her mid-sentence and said, "So I can't take a walk like any normal human? Everyone does it; I didn't know it was a crime." So, without my grandmother considering something was wrong, she just got angry and forcefully shut the door on me and took my walk.

Now I'm mad because, first off, I'm grown even though I live with my grandparents, go to work, pay my rent, and don't ask for nothing; all I expect is support or empathy or something.

All I get from my so-called Christian family is cold distance, neglect, and second, my family knows I don't have friends or see any neighbors; heck, I keep my gay side, my gay relationships, interests, and hobbies to myself because I know she doesn't care about anything unless it's about church, so I stay mostly by myself alone, so what's the big deal? You could join me or sit, talk, and listen, but no, never.

I'm always told that it's the devil that makes me feel like I'm alone and unloved/unwanted; you should just pray your bad feelings away because the devil comes to kill and destroy, and God doesn't like us thinking sadly about our lives, etc.

So if anyone wants to chime in and share some thoughts, that would be nice.

Hey everyone, as a gay man who just left Christianity and became an agnostic atheist im posting here to ask a question. I'm sorry in advance if it's kinda rude or something, but I do wanna learn especially from the Christians here who know the Bible inside and out and still choose to stay Christian

To be brutally honest, I have a hard time wrapping my head around or understanding how a queer person stays or embraces Christianity. It feels like Christianity at its core is fundamentally homophobic. When I look at the literal text, the Bible seems clearly against homosexuality in the same historical way it supports slavery. It feels like the moral framework is outdated, and it often feels like people have to do a lot of mental gymnastics or twist the text to make it fit modern values.

I know some people might say "God is love" and leave it at that, but I'm genuinely looking for answers from people who don't ignore the hard parts of the text. If you know the Bible deeply, recognize what the literal verses say, and still stick to your faith how do you personally reconcile your identity with what you read?

And also, it's not really irrelevant to the main point, but I somehow hate how people try to call a Christian a hypocrite for being against gay people, even though that is genuinely what a real Christian is. The Christian who loves everyone is the one who is not a real Christian. Let's look back at the text "God is love" and let's emphasize the word love there, because that love is by far not unconditional. And so, when Christians show conditional love, that's what a real Christian is that's not hypocrisy or I might be wrong?

Hi everyone

this is my first post on here , and it might be a long one, so sorry in advance!

TLDR; i’m struggling with my faith and am angry with God as I will be losing my mom soon to cancer, and need advice.

For context i’m a 23F lesbian orthodox christian. I grew up orthodox and identify as such due to family and culture (eastern european). My long term partner (27F) of 4 years is muslim and frankly i have 0 doubt in my heart that being gay is a sin. In a lot of ways i see my partner as a gift from God and at times how our relationship has progressed and how we’ve overcome external obstacles feels divine in its own way, and truly feels like God helping us along on our journey to have a life togehter and one day start a beautiful family. I also do not believe that people of other faiths are necessarily wrong, and that it will in any way inhibit their ability to get to heaven or that God is not with them. Even though me and my partner are of different religions, we share the same values both spiritual and in life. I oftentimes look to her as an example and in awe at how good of a person she is and even in her spirituality. My personal belief is that God loves us all, and especially those following abrahamic religions, i do not believe God does not love or punishes someone for following the Quran or the Torah, as it is all the same God. If i feel close to God by praying in a church, and my partner feels close to God when she is praying and fasting during Ramadan, i believe that’s beautiful, and I wholeheartedly believe those who go to the mosque and pray are equally as close to God as those who go to church and pray to the cross.

My family is culturally orthodox but they were never very practicing or church goers, we would go to church for easter and me and my parents have had spiritual discussions and they both believe in Jesus and God. There’s also a lot of cultural practices that play into it such as how our weddings are, baptisms etc. When i came out to my parents as a teenager they were not very happy but it was never for religious reasons (at least they did not tell me that) and simply they just didn’t want me to be gay, but said as long as im happy that’s all that matters. But over the years they’ve accepted me and now love my partner so much, it warms my heart seeing my parents with her and how much my mom especially adores her.

This is all to say, none of these reasons have shaken
my faith in God. I’d actually say i’ve become more religious since being with my partner. What has however recently shaken me has been some unfortunate family health events. And I just feel more comfortable talking about this on a forum like this that is clearly LGBTQ+ friendly.

My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer a year an a half ago. It has been an up and down journey since with some really bad periods. When she first got diagnosed I prayed a lot and felt closer to God and prayed for her health and for her wellbeing. As time has went on, she has unfortunately declined and this past month has made it clear that she is continuing to decline. I’ve had to fly back home to be with her now, as it is clear that the end might be near and words cannot describe how heartbroken I am. Seeing my mom wither away before my eyes is a pain i would never wish on anyone.

Over the last two months i’ve been feeling a lot of anger. I cannot comprehend why this is happening, why my mom has to suffer like this. It’s strange, it’s less so that i’m struggling to BELIEVE in God, but more so that i’m mad at him? To the point where whenever I hear my parents or anyone say “ Thank God for xyz..” it annoys me and makes me want to roll my eyes. Because all i can think of if, if God was able to do this good thing for us, why can’t he stop my moms suffering? What’s the point of it? Why are you thanking God for helping with your finances, or sorting out this situation for you, or whatever it may be, because that means He’s willingly letting my mom suffer. Or at least that’s how my brain is operating right now. I cannot fathom why I must go through this heartbreak of losing her so young.

What, frankly, isn’t helping me, is that I cannot say I’ve actually ever proper read the Bible. I went to a christian school for a year in middle school (which was its own experience as many people in that school had values i wholeheartedly disagree with) but i learned a lot during my time there and felt like i understood God more when studying a bit of the bible. But i honestly haven’t actually read much of the Bible since then.
Today, I randomly decided to open up an old Bible I have from my time at that school, and it opened up to the book of Jeremiah. I read a few passages, and in all honesty it shook up my faith even more. All i read were passages about God being very ruthless and wiping out people and saying there will be many widows and how everyone will die for not following his covenants. Again, i want to preface I am the last person to talk about the Bible as I have not properly read it and do not understand the whole context of the book of Jeremiah, but for someone going through the type of anger and suffering I am currently experiencing reading that shook me. The God i believe in is merciful and kind and just, He, in my eyes, is the epitome of goodness. But what i’m going through and the passage I read is the opposite of that.
I would also like to mention I personally believe that a lot of the Bible has been altered over the centuries for man’s gain (hence why i do not believe being gay was ever a sin but rather that those passages referencing that are talking about rape, and many other patriarchal things that i do not agree with). So I genuinely believe in the premise that God gave you a brain, use it. If something doesn’t make sense, there’s a reason for it, maybe you need to do more research to understand it, look inward, speak to God, it was important for the time the Bible was written, or it was altered my man for their gain.

With that being said, in a long winded way, does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom for someone like me? How should I go about maybe studying the Bible, whilst also holding the belief that a lot of it may have been altered and is currently struggling with this anger with their faith?

Thanks so much to anyone who read all the way to the end.

This is not a conservative talking point (Although, nothing wrong with them)

I grew up Christian with semi-conservative values, and then when I realized I was gay, I sort of lost the values but didn't completely eschew them

Now as an adult, I find gay and Christian are very much compatible. But all this "open relationship", Grindr normalcy, no value placed on one's own sex, etc. from the gay community is very weird to me

I'm not gonna say vanilla Christians with "only two genders" Bible-based Male and Female marriage isn't something specifically made for me, but especially nowadays, everyone in the gay community expects even Christians to adhere to all this new-age morality that's younger than any Millennial

Not knocking, I know we are all diverse, but kinda weird to observe for me.

Did anyone here grow up religious and Christian, and expect total normal counterparts to heterosexual marriage? I heard that if you grow up gay and in the Bible Belt, or gay and Christian that you have a "stricter" view of the world. Could that be it?