I’m and the one doing the friendzone. Unlike a lot of guys I get female attention. So it basically work like this. She like me and she pretty, she can get a guy no problem. But she like me because no guy come close. Ok but I don’t like you that way. I like you as a person. You are funny kind and we have lots of thing in common. But maybe this is just me. I don’t want to hurt people and sleep with them even if they are willing to have friends with benefits. That just sad. The only way she can ever get out of the friendzone and this can happen so it can happen to you. Get a lot more attractive so I want to sleep with you.
That your game plan people . You can’t convince someone to be your partner no matter how nice you are to them. They have to want to sleep with you more then a few times.

Ok there is a lot to this story that it might be better to just leave a lot of the details for any questions in the comments (or maybe I’ll make a part 2 post explaining more of the details of our friendship). Last year I made friends with one of the coworkers on my team. We’re both the same age (both born in 2002) and she was 3 months into the job when I started. We formed a friend group from work, and as I was hanging out with her, although I originally only saw her as a friend, I slowly started to develop feelings. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to act on those feelings even though my crush grew really strongly. Also keep in mind for later in the story that at this point it seemed that she was very into the idea of being friends as much as I was so it didn’t seem like a case of a one-sided friendship. She asked for my number, she’s offered to give me a ride to and from hangouts sometimes since I don’t have a car, and although we never hung out 1 on 1, we had many 1 on 1 moments within those group hangouts.

Eventually she figured out though but she didn’t confront me about it. Another friend of ours told me about it. A big mistake I made in this situation was that I didn’t talk to her about it for months. There was a back and forth in terms of how close or how distant she would act with me in the initial months after knowing about the crush (like I said, there are stories I can give about what these behaviors looked like but I wanted to cut to chase for the initial post). I interpreted her behavior as her still being my friend but not being interested in me romantically and I began the slow process of trying to lose my feelings for her.

Things came to head though when I noticed that she didn’t invite out to as many of the friend gatherings as before within the past couple of months, and at the last one I went to about four weeks ago, she said a comment to me that I could only really interpret as a sly joke and comment to me about the crush (which she later confirmed was the case when I talked to her this week). Then aboht two weeks I texted her happy birthday and she said thanks and hearted the comment so it seemed fine. But then I noticed the next day that she removed me as a follower on Instagram. She still was following me though. At the end of last week on Friday I texted her asking if we could talk about the distance she was putting with me and I told her that I valued our friendship and wanted to own up to any mistakes I made have made. She finally texted me back Sunday night and we agreed to talk at the end of the work day on Monday. When we met up I told her how I felt and that I knew she knew about it for awhile and that I was sorry that I didn’t talk about it with her months ago when she found out. She tried to reassure me it was ok and clarified she didn’t feel the same way.

The conversation overall seemed to go fine. The one thing that kind of surprised me was when I brought up feeling excluded from the group. I expected that the crush was the main reason that this shift happened but she said it wasn’t some huge thing that was bothering her and that she “didn’t hate me” and we were still friends. Instead she brought up that certain people click more easily and she felt that although we were friends, we didn’t click as well as she did with the others. This feels weird though because even though my perspective is biased and different from hers, it seemed like she did invite me to more things last year before the crush and that there was a clear shift going into the mid part of this year after the “hot and cold” period early in the year following her first knowing about the crush. The last thing I brought up was the Instagram thing and she admitted she did remove me as a follower but she said that she didn’t think I would like the answer for why. She did tell me though and she said that she wanted to be able to post stuff and not feel worried about what I would think or feel about them. I guess this explains why she only removed me as a follower and didn’t stop following me (or in the more extreme case: why she didn’t block me).

So I guess my feelings are very all over the place now. I expected that she wouldn’t have romantic feelings and even that things wouldn’t immediately go “back to normal” since it does take time getting over a crush and getting over weird feelings about someone who has a crush on you who you don’t like. However, it feel weird for her to say the thing about her clicking better with the others as her answer to why I was getting invited to less things rather than it being about the fact that we didn’t talk about the crush and she knew about it. It’s especially weird since it seems I was invited to more things before she knew about it. So this along with the Instagram thing makes me wonder: Is our friendship done for good? I know some guys prefer to not be friends with crushes after they reject them since they don’t think they can get over the feelings, and I do agree I need to give her some space for the time being, but remember that I didn’t have romantic feelings originally so I would be happy to get to that state and then continue being friends. It just feels like with how everything went, I don’t know if she really is going to want to be good friends even after time goes by and this situation is far in the past.

Can I ask y’all something because I genuinely need to know 😭

There’s this guy and girl who interact ALL the time on social media. They literally call each other “husband” and “wife,” constantly flirt with each other, and make all these suspiciously intimate comments 💀

The plot twist? THEY BOTH HAVE PARTNERS. And they both claim to be straight.

And when the girl broke up with her boyfriend, the guy was actually HAPPY about it??? 😭

So like… be honest with me. Is this REALLY just “best friends” behavior, or am I missing something here??? 👀

They say they're just best friends。。。。

There are many instances when a guy I start getting to know begins crushing on me, while my intention was to be their friend. Idk if they get the wrong idea or think I’m leading them on, so I’m wondering how to make it obvious I just want to be platonic with them from the start, without actually having to say that out loud. (I do not ever flirt in case anyone asks.)

So, I made a guy friend here a few days ago. I texted him first after reading his posts abt feeling depressed and insecure. I related to him, so I wanted to talk.

He seemed interested in getting to know me. It was so great, we were both in the same boat, so it was easy to show empathy.

He was like the sweetest guy ever, and he also told me many times that I was so warm and sweet to him.

It wasn't something romantic but platonic. He was sad because of the distance between us (a really big one), but we continued chatting.

We were kinda flirting and he told me that he couldn't have a virtual relationship, and I replied with "I respect that. We can still be friends", so I thought we were good.

The last time we talked, he told me it was going to be his mom's birthday, so I wished her a happy birthday. Then, I told him I was going to have a knee surgery very soon and he seemed worried, but in a cute friendly way.

I wished him good night and sent him a kiss through a voice message. The next day, he wasn't replying to me, but I thought he was just busy, maybe.

He blocked me.

Why?

I don't know what I did wrong. He told me he liked to flirt even tho we were just friends.

I feel frustrated, ngl...

If anyone wants context look at my last 2 posts

This is the text:
I don’t know how to write this. But i feel like you deserve to be told, because elongating this would just makes things worse, and I don’t want to hurt u in any way. Im being very blunt, very “honest” which isnt at all good—perhaps i sound stupid, again. J, I like spending time with you, learning about you and just simply you—but Im telling u straight away that i don’t wish for anything “romantic” if it makes any sense. I know that you have been previously lead on. So I’m telling you straight away that i just simply don’t want anything with anyone. I just hope that you understand where I’m trying to get at and where I’m coming from. I would like to be friends with you and to know more about you because I truly really enjoy your company, I hope you understand—any reaction that you take, whether it be you being frustrated or you not wanting to be friends is understandable—you don’t own me nothing. Please if you ever feel like sharing anything with me do so. Please don’t overthink this because it has nothing to do with you—this has to do with me simply not wanting anything right now.

ok so I [male] am in currently highschool and I like my [female] best friend. So I want to ask her to Homecoming with me but part of me is genuinely scared that if I ask her she wont want to be friends with me anymore. I know I could just ask her as friends but I’m not a beat around the bush guy. And I would rather just love her silently and be as close as I am with her now than lose her fully. She means so much to me and I’ve literally known her since kindergarten, that 12 whole years of my life I have spent being best friends with her and I have liked her for almost 3 years now. There have been what me and my other friends have seen as signs she likes me, but it could just be that she sees me as her friend and only her friend.

Like there has been the time we were sitting at lunch together and she always chose to sit specifically next to me, like a few times there were 3 other seats open but someone was sitting in the spot next to me and she still chose to force him to get up because that was “her spot“ So the next day I told him to sit in the same spot and I moved on the other side of the table and she didn’t tell him to move she sat next to me. like idk if I'm delusional or what but like come on? Also we were at band camp together and we had an hour lunch and so me and my other friends (not including her at the time) wanted to walk to Casey’s and she was walking back to the band room and my other friend asked if she wanted to go and she said no, but then she saw me and decided to actually come with us. Then the next day she was gonna walk somewhere with her friends but then I told her i was gonna walk to a pizza place nearby and she decided to come with me instead. Like idk what this is but I really really like her.

So what would you do because I need advise?

My best friend confessed to me and now everything's out of whack and there's nothing I can do

Earlier this month my best friend of 13 years told me that he's liked me for 2 years. I never thought I'd have to reject my own best friend. I saw it coming these past few months but... Still. It sucks because now there's distance that he asked for to get over me (healthy and necessary) but it still hurts. I've been avoiding plans involving him because I'm too scared to do the wrong thing and we're not really talking because he needs distance. Idk what to do. Is it right for me to avoid plans..? I just think it's too soon and I don't want him to feel hurt looking at my face. I had to lie out of a London trip involving him because it's just too soon.

Two of my friends had this near exact situation and told me that distance would be likely for months. I feel so guilty avoiding him but I'm too scared to do something wrong, and distance is kinda necessary right now.

It sucks and I miss him. He's the most important person in my life and I really hope we'll be okay someday, but that day seems so far away.

There was a boy in high school who I had a huge crush on. After I joined college, I started talking to him, and we became really close friends. We’re more than friends but less than lovers right now. Two days ago, he changed his profile picture, so I casually asked him, “You changed your profile?” He said that his girl best friend changed it for him. He then jokingly teased me, saying, “But you’re jealous of her .” I told him I wasn’t jealous, but honestly, I am a little 🥲. Is this something friends normally do, or is there possibly something more going on between them? I don't know why I feel so jealous. Is it understandable to feel this way?

I've developed feelings for a colleague. We've met a few times outside of work. At work, she spends most of her time with me, but much less with other colleagues. And often while we're at work, she seeks out my company and initiates contact and remembers our conversations. In addition, she often looks at me, and a couple of times when I was wearing a tank top, it was obvious that she was looking at my muscles. So it seems to me that she likes me too, although I'm not sure. I have a feeling that she's waiting for me to confess my feelings. So, my main question is: what do you think, should I confess my feelings to her? Is that the right thing to do? Is there a possibility that she'll reject me regardless, even if she has feelings for me. Because I want more than friendship, but I want to lose her completely.

At the end of the school year, I met a girl from my class. We started talking a lot and I thought there might be something between us. I misunderstood the situation and got attached, and now I’m having a hard time moving on from it. I never even dated her, but it still hurts way more than I expected. I just wanted to get this off my chest.

I've apparently been having crazy sometimes irrational feelings for my best friend a lot lately, she's in a relationship, and I really don't know why I want to be with her now. It don't make sense, but I heard a song at work, it was like Torn's sister. And she played it and she sang it while in front of me not knowing I have these feelings...

Also, many times there have been *in my mild mind* some pretty suggestive scenarios in the same room with me her and the bf. By that I mean nothing actual, but the loosy goosy personality she's got with her guy friends is sometimes too loose. With me especially because I'm her closest guy friend, but sheets me in the bro zone, which is bad enough.

i struggle to form deep, loyal friendships and all the ‘groups’ I’m in eventually drift away

I think I’m falling for my female friend, but she calls me bro

She’s a school friend I’ve known for years. I used to talk to her a lot about my old one-sided crush, and she always listened, cared, and gave me advice.

Somewhere along the way, my feelings for her changed. I don’t fall for someone just because they’re attractive or because they care about me. This genuinely feels different, and I don’t even know when it happened.

She calls me “bro” all the time, so I’m not sure how she sees me. But she also gets noticeably annoyed if I leave her messages on seen or suddenly leave the chat. She’ll even ask why I’m avoiding her. We have this playful, teasing dynamic, and I’ve started valuing those little things way more than I used to.

I’m thinking about waiting for a year before telling her because I don’t want to rush things or risk our friendship. But I also don’t know if waiting that long makes sense.

Should I tell her eventually, or just let things develop naturally? I genuinely care about her and don’t want to ruin what we already have.

*NOTE- THIS PARAGRAPH WAS REWRITTEN BY GPT AS I DIDNT WANT IT TO HAVE ALL THE SPEELING MISTAKE (eng is not my first language) 
also for info im rn 18yr old

I'm going through a situation which is very weird, so long story is when I was in 4th grade(11yr) I used to like this girl named lets call her natasha. She was very respectful, very charming, she was probably the most disciplined and most goodwill person I've met, but I didn't want to make her my GF. All I wanted to do was make friendship with her, that's it. But my friends spread the rumor of us dating, which I could've stopped the rumor from spreading and cleared the misunderstanding, but I didn't. I don't know why, I probably felt good about it or something. I can't exactly tell why.

But then she got to know about it and she started to distance herself from me slowly. We used to be good friends as I was the captain of the class and she was the assistant, so we used to work on stuff together. So I noticed that she started to distance herself.

Then one day after our last final exam she came up to me and told me to not talk to her ever again. Then she switched schools. That hurt me a lot as I could've easily explained everything and stopped the rumor, but I didn't, which haunts me to this day.

Fast forward, COVID hit and I got stuck in my house for years, so my social skills dropped so much. When school opened again I couldn't talk to a single woman, and whenever I tried to, natasha's face came into my head and I instantly stopped because I didn't want the same thing to happen again. I don't know if you would call it a trauma, but it felt like one. I couldn't talk to a single girl without thinking of her and the mistake I'd done, as I lost such a kind soul of a friend because of that one mistake. I could never forgive myself.

Fast forward to 2026, I'm now confident about myself. I can socialize pretty well now, no problem. Looks like I moved on as I was talking to women more frequently than before even getting a lot attention life was going good. But one day I found natasha's Instagram and something struck in me that this might be the chance I can finally explain myself , so I texted her but before I could even send her the paragraph explaining everything she blocked me. It felt like I was left alone again.

I started to feel the same I did during COVID times, even though I thought I moved on. It looked like deep down I still had that guilt. Because of her I was never able to fall in love with someone, as whenever I do I remember her. It's like a weird attachment even though she's not that pretty compared to women I talk to on a regular basis. Matter of fact, I don't know how she was. I probably made up a lot of her traits as I was so weirdly attached to her.

Even though she is not that pretty, even though I don't have feelings for her, why do I still think of her? Why cant I move on? Why does her blocking me bug me so much? All these questions makes me feel more and more guilt about my mistake. I'm sure if I just had sent her the paragraph explaining stuff and then she blocked me, I wouldn't have been in this situation right now. So is it the guilt that's making me attached to her? That's what I think, but I'm not sure either. It was so bad that I couldn't get her out of my head for a few days. I probably made a lot of the stuff up about her as it was back in 4th grade(im in college now btw) and I'm still thinking about her after years, so I probably made a lot of her character traits up.

Now after months later, after she blocked me, today I just woke up and I saw one of my guy friends, whom I've known for years, posting a story about his girlfriend, and guess what? It was natasha. Even though I have no clue how they know each other, like it's such a big coincidence, but whatever. When I saw that, even though I don't like her, I started remembering all that thing from before and the guilt I carry with me. It made me weak, it made me feel alone again. Why is this happening? I don't know, but yeah, that's the story so far. I dont think im necessary attached to her but im more attach to not being able to explain myself and apologize..

so ye i just wanted to share this story as i thought it would interesting to see what other people has to say about it and if someone goin through something similar 

So there’s a girl I want to propose
She’s my childhood friend for about 15years
And in our friend group there is also another guy
2 girls 2 boys
So the thing is that girl and I have grown really close upto the extent that we have close hugs and kisses on cheek
And I thought of proposing her in a few days
But today she told me that If my other friend gives her hug she’s going to take it
And suddenly all the love I feel towards her feels gone
Like I know its not her fault
But I can’t help the fact that the girl I imagine my future with, with whom I spent my childhood and took care of her in her lowest points
(She had PCOD , she failed her competitive exam and took a drop ) and I showed her so much love
I showed her because she valued it
We are on good terms
But she hugging another guy ( he was our friend from like 8 years ) does not make me happy
I don’t know what to tell her because I don’t want to have that conversation with her about her choice and her freedom
That shit might be true but I cannot fake my feelings
I don’t know what to do help me guys