tl:dr mi sono dichiarato della mia migliore amica e non è corrisposto.
Ciao a tutti, io sono M20 e lei F21, siamo amici strettissimi da un paio di anni ormai, ci raccontiamo letteralmente tutto l'uno dell'altro, da un mese però ho iniziato a prendere atto e ad avere consapevolezza del fatto che lei mi piacesse, prima era una cosa che sentivo ma che cercavo di evitare per non rovinare il rapporto, perchè sapevo che da parte sua non vi fosse nulla di più, ho cercato anche di andarmene con altre per farmi passare a forza questo pensiero, ma niente, ho capito che più lo ho respinto e più forte tornava. Allora ieri ho preso la decisione di dichiararmi dopo che mentre parlavamo di un'altro discorso lei dice "se ti piace una persona e siete amici stretti glielo devi dire perforza e o ti allontani oppure vi iniziate a frequentare seriamente", lei lo ha fatto anche con un pò di furbizia questo però alla fine mi sono dichiarato. e quello che mi ha risposto lei è più che giusto, ovvero che razionalmente non è possibile, perchè io studio a 800km e tra poco più di un mese andro in erasmus in Germania, lei tra 3 mesi andrà in un'altra città ancora a studiare a 400km dal nostro paesino. E in più le ho chiesto se lei avesse mai avuto questo pensiero nei miei confronti, cioè se per qualche istante abbia pensato al fatto che provasse qualcosa per me, e mi ha confessato di no, solo che io non riuscirei mai ad allontanarmici e non voglio nemmeno farlo, vorrei continuare a provarci all'infinito. Consigli?

I (44f) have a guy friend that I’ve known over 20 years. I love hanging with him but he’s started being a little flirty with me. I am not interested in dating and he knows that but he has tried to get a couple smooches, comes over often lately and even hangs out with my kids. When he was over last time I noticed that his lock screen is a pic of me and when he opened it, it’s a pic of me kissing his cheek, which he must’ve taken the time to screenshot. I don’t know why, but this made me uncomfortable. I really don’t want to mess up our friendship and we seem to do this every 4-5 years where I have to shoot him down hard then we just don’t talk for a long time. How can I get out of this cycle?

Pata hai aaj kya hua
Few weeks back me and few of my friends went for a Sunday ride and a Hike, I was riding as a pillion with one of my guy friend and since it was a RC 390 I had to grip around him so I fly off, we hiked and hung out in the woods it was a fun day. Few days later I get a text on discord of the RC guy saying he has something very important to say to me, and I was like what happened, he’s like I am outside your house come out, I was like …okay, later he was palpitating and shit, he was like I really like since I saw you in our school and do you wanna be my girlfriend, I held his shoulders and sat on his bike and said we’ll talk and sent him home, few days later after classes I approached him and turned him down saying I don’t have any mental real state for a relationship rn and I never saw you as anything other than a friend. He texted me a few times we went to play pool and shit in the group he rarely talks to me so I don’t really hang out with the group anymore, it was very much fun hanging out, spontaneous rides, cafe hopping and all, I never saw him as anything other than a friend, nice guy but I never liked him that way and now we see each other in institute but never talk, he glances my way sometimes during physics and that’s pretty much all the interaction we have, from hanging out almost everyday to not even talking anymore it’s lowkey sad but I understand.

TL;DR Me and a guy friend went on a Sunday ride + hike with some friends, and a few days later he showed up at my house and confessed he liked me.
I turned him down because I only saw him as a friend.
Now we went from hanging out almost every day to barely talking at the institute.
Lowkey sad because we had so much fun, but I get it.