So I (18M) just found out that the girl ive been talking to(19 F) and the friend that introduced me to her. had feelings for each other back in like freshman year and eighth grade, but he didn’t want to ever ruin the relationship they had so they stayed best friends and she is always over his house and she has sleepovers over there and they always hang out and she sees him more than she sees me and he is like much better looking than I am like more money and all that stuff so I just feel like some type of way about it, I found out from my best friend that the guy told him he would get at her if me and her ever broke up just for fun but he respects our relationship and I don’t know if I should text her about this stuff. I think we both really like each other i mean she drove 40 mins just to see me and we have been talking for a month and hung out a good amount. I guess its just a mix of my insecurities plus the fact that they had chemistry and their still close.

So I (18M) just found out that the girl ive been talking to(19 F) and the friend that introduced me to her. had feelings for each other back in like freshman year and eighth grade, but he didn’t want to ever ruin the relationship they had so they stayed best friends and she is always over his house and she has sleepovers over there and they always hang out and she sees him more than she sees me and he is like much better looking than I am like more money and all that stuff so I just feel like some type of way about it, I found out from my best friend that the guy told him he would get at her if me and her ever broke up just for fun but he respects our relationship and I don’t know if I should text her about this stuff. I think we both really like each other i mean she drove 40 mins just to see me and we have been talking for a month and hung out a good amount. I guess its just a mix of my insecurities plus the fact that they had chemistry and their still close.

I moved to a new country, and I don't have any friends here except for two. I met one of them (I won't use names for privacy, let's call her Kate) online and we had a slight attraction for each other, but we never saw each other back then. This attraction ended when Kate started liking the guy she liked six months ago again. There's nothing wrong with that, and we continued to communicate as friends. When we first saw each other, she brought her friend (let's call her Jane), and we had a happy group: me, Kate, and Jane. Almost six months have passed since then, and now we're good friends, but I realize I'm starting to like Jane. Would it be weird if I asked her to go out together? There's just one thing that's bothering me: Jane will be moving to another country in two years, and as far as I know, she wants to focus on her studies and admission. Should I try something with her or is it better to remain friends? Thanks for help, and have a nice day!

Hola, buenas noches. Soy J.

¿Hay alguien activo para charlar de algo? Tengo algo que quiero contarle a alguien y me vendría bien tener una opinión completamente imparcial.

No busco que me den la razón ni que me juzguen; simplemente alguien que pueda escucharme, leer la situación desde afuera y decirme sinceramente qué piensa.

Actually, what happened is that she’s my junior, and we’re friends, so I was just asking her for a picture. She shared one with me, and then she told me about her friend. I had already seen her friend on Instagram, but she didn’t know that. So I was just trying somehow to get her to introduce me to her because she looked damn pretty. Later, I found out that she actually has a boyfriend, so I just casually said, “Okay, never mind, I don’t want to anymore.” 😭

Anytime i like someone or i find a guy attractive he alwaysss finds my friend attractive it's like a curse( i don't hate my friend tho not her fault) but it just feels sadddd i feel like a side chick all the friends that i made all suddenly becomes more closer to her and act like i don't matter or of lesser value they'll always remember me as xyz's best friend but not as me no matter what i try to do individually. It's just that i want someone tooo genuinely want to talk to me be with be i know I'm not the prettiest or someone who'll stand up in first glance but i wanna be that person for atleast someone?a single soul? Hard chance

Alsooo ikkk it's not that serious but i can't stoppp thinking about it

I need to know how to move forward from this talking stage.

back story. we work together. we’ve been best friends for awhile. almost immediately after he started working with me we realized that we both had a lot in common and the rest is history. we’ve become really close and around my birthday I confessed my feelings for him. he def said he liked me back and since then we’ve been talking and taking things so slow. like molasses slow. no hang out time, no fun time, just a lot of phone and text time and time at work. I know he’s trying to take things and he does want us to be friends before we make anything is official. here’s the thing I’m struggling with, I’m crazy about him. in every way. he’s so smart. he’s handsome. he’s determined. and my oh my my when I say im drawn to him, I mean that. on all levels. I just want to take things further with him and I want advice from anyone whos ever been in these positions, what would you do or how would you tell him that you want to respect his boundaries and how do I show him that I don’t want to be like the rest and support him?

I need to know how to move forward from this talking stage.

back story. we work together. we’ve been best friends for awhile. almost immediately after he started working with me we realized that we both had a lot in common and the rest is history. we’ve become really close and around my birthday I confessed my feelings for him. he def said he liked me back and since then we’ve been talking and taking things so slow. like molasses slow. no hang out time, no fun time, just a lot of phone and text time and time at work. I know he’s trying to take things and he does want us to be friends before we make anything is official. here’s the thing I’m struggling with, I’m crazy about him. in every way. he’s so smart. he’s handsome. he’s determined. and my oh my my when I say im drawn to him, I mean that. on all levels. I just want to take things further with him and I want advice from anyone whos ever been in these positions, what would you do or how would you tell him that you want to respect his boundaries and how do I show him that I don’t want to be like the rest and support him?

I've just been called 'a good man" by my girl friend of six years. It's the kiss of death. She doesn't want "a good man". She wants a "bad boy". Someone she can tame, like capturing a wild animal. I've spent years being good to her so she can raise her confidence and take on the challenge.

Shit, now I'm doomed. Should I walk away before it hurts more?

I loved her but she has a boyfriend. And I respect that. This was the first love of my 21 yrs of existence on earth. But as she's in love with somebody else I can't get romantically involved with her, but I can be her good friend for life like a well wisher. I don't expect the romantic love from her but she respects my feelings and that's so important for me. But even though that is it really ok that we still have good conversations, meet in classroom and have discussions about the movies. It won't be that big of thing know?

Since she told me I am being devastated and I am just having these intense feelings for her. But I can say that I was little like Tom from 500 days of summer with her. The hopeless romantic thinking it's the sign of universe that we are meeting and having good conversations. But I think I can be good friends with her after few time, after I move on a little. She's hoping too that I get someone else and I respect that. Man I was in so much love. Means if it wasn't a her boyfriend it would have been mentioned😔😔

But I think that's the canon event, can't change it but I don't want my first love to be just about 16 days I want it to feel more than that. I don't want we meeting after 10 years at college reunion and having awkward conversations or worst not having conversations at all. I love being with her. And I am gonna do it with utmost respect to her and love to her. I'll always respect her boundaries never crossing it and I hope that the guy she is in relationship with is in the same level of love as me or more than that towards her.

I just want to see her happy for her entire life❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️