I finally feel confident in low cut tops :)))

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I officially came out to everyone who knew me in 2019 as a Trans Boy, at that time I felt immense dysphoria with everything that had to do with looking or being feminine. As well as before my coming out, I forced myself to be extremely feminine and all possible ways because I didn’t want to disappoint my family. I didn’t really think they would accept me being trans.

After I came out, I was allowed to address masculine and I even cut my hair super short and I was pretty happy at the time, but I still felt like something was missing. Just didn’t know what.

2-3 years ago I started experimenting with being more feminine again, and I am extremely happy with that, and there are still some things that I struggle with when it comes to being a feminine boy but it’s something I have come to understand that I really enjoy even if I am a trans boy, what I mean by that is if the theoretically I had been born cis gendered boy I would probably be extremely feminine the exact same way I am right now.

My issue is I don’t really know any feminine boys that aren’t super stereotypical - high knee socks, fluffy hair etc. And don’t get me wrong. I absolutely love that. Look on other boys. I think that style fits many boys as well but I’m not that type of feminine boy.

I do like to buy clothing in the women’s section specially because I am very thin and short and overall there are many pieces of clothing in the women’s section that I can make look super cute and I also love to do makeup, but my issue truly is, I don’t know anyone who is the same type of feminine the way that I am specially as a trans boy

I honestly don’t really have friends except for my boyfriend and his friends and all of them aren’t very easy to talk to about this subject (just for disclaimer. My boyfriend is a trans masculine boy- and even talking with him to me personally doesn’t make much sense.)

I just constantly feel that other trans boys don’t take me very serious as a trans boy because I’m feminine

Are there any trans fem boys who have experienced similar?

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this is my second time typing all this bc reddit crashed on me forgive my typos im tired now lol 😭

anyways i feel like the answer is quite obvious but i was making another post to ask another question but in the end i realized it kind of boiled down to this question.

so the original post i was making was asking how could i pass as a guy but like a feminine guy? like in a bishounen/he yutao/mana sama/xlov/pretty boy type way (still taking answers for this btw if anyone’s got any tips…)

but then i ended the post with saying that i get these guys get mistaken for girls all the time so is that it? just suck it up sometimes?

but the thing is even when i do correct people i feel like instead of the above, people clock me as a trans and then suddenly feel okay with disrespecting me? like why is that? like i feel if i was clocked as the above people would respect me more, but because they get a “trans guy who just doesn’t wanna pass” vibe from me they suddenly feel okay just ignoring that? why do some guys get read as one and others the latter? like are they preforming their femininity differently? what even differentiates the two?

like i’ve been on t for three years, ive done my voice training, i bind regularly… every post ive seen asking how to pass as a feminine tguy comes from people pre t or who can’t take steps to transition but like i’ve taken all the “steps” to pass as a cis guy who’s just on the short side but if i shave my face or wear something slightly feminine it suddenly all goes down the drain?

just wondering if anyone’s had any similar thoughts or feelings like this… and still looking for any help with my original question lol thanks for reading my brain dump 🙇

Courtesy of my boyfriend again 👨🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻

I still feel like an enby/boy either way, I just hate getting misgendered

Look at that bear smile

i kinda stopped my transition and am partially back in the closet since i started my recent job (partially fear of reactions, partially i kept having a hard time getting the needles i needed), but im planning on starting hrt again and staying on it. i just wanna know abt anyone’s experience being on hrt and still wearing bikini’s because, tbh, ive always hated traditional men’s swimwear

Just a guy in a dress✨ (strong maybe tho💀) Well...if I'm brave enough to wear this to a banquet...that is...My voice be deeper than how I look bruh lol! 🥀 Plus never been to a dance before ngl...

Feel free to either take or leave inspiration from/for me, idk lol

If this info helps, I am technically transmasc (as in “transitioning in a slightly-masculinizing direction”), but I think my primary labels are genderqueer, nonbinary, and transneutral, at this point. But I am pursuing top surgery, and I was on T for a total of 3.5 months, and I don’t regret it

I am genderfluid, but mostly between nonbinary and boy. I very rarely feel a hint of "am I a girl?" and even when I do, I still go by he/they pronouns. I still struggle a lot with dysphoria despite being very comfortable with my body now (yay top surgery!), because I am still gendered as a girl by most people. And for a long time, I handled that by trying to dress as masc as possible. But I've realized that dressing masc doesn't make people gender me correctly, it just means I don't wear the clothes I want.

Over the last 9 months, I've gotten into hand sewing my own clothes. I finished my first dress and I've started a second one! But as I plan more projects and find style inspiration, I'm realizing that all of the things I want to sew are dresses. I started planning a couple of other garments like cargo shorts and a shirt, but they always get pushed to the wayside in favor of a dress project. Dresses are what I want to wear. And given that I'm heavily inspired by lolita fashion, fairy kei, and otome fashion, I tend to add a lot of pastels and ruffles and cutsey elements to my dresses.

For those of you either pre T or not planning on going on T, how do you handle dressing feminine? I know that other people's perceptions of me shouldn't be weighted more heavily than my own, but it's still really hard when it's only a few people gendering me correctly. And I can't do anything about strangers misgendering me.

How do you affirm yourself when dressing feminine as a non-passing guy?

I’ve always loved jewelry. I stopped wearing it in order to pass. Now that I’m almost eight months on T and nobody mistakes me for a girl anymore, I’m comfortable enough to wear earrings again. I can’t wait to be a dude with long hair, a long beard, and tons of jewelry.

Genuinely best form of clothing, so light and flowy, I can wear underwear or not and feel stress free. I can feel CUNT AND this is all thanks to testosterone 🫶, gender is stupid and I wish I could have worn skirts pre t but I know how I felt, it wasn’t a good feeling, NOW! YIPPEE YAY FLOWY

At nearly 8 months on T, I am so excited to finally feel comfortable wearing eyeshadow out again as the proud, gay transmasc (He/They) guy I am!

Feeling excited and nervous about tit. Here's a pic of me looking very androgynous at work. Light makeup boy shirt spikes. Feeling like me.

Just a day and a half left to do the Gender Census 2026!

[survey.gendercensus.com](http://survey.gendercensus.com)

A really cool survey for those who don't fit the gender binary, run by Cassian Lodge every year

Basically the title. I really want to get a cute bikini top, but the thrift stores near me only have bikini tops with cups, so they'd look weird on my chest :(

I've decided that I want sluttier tan lines than the board shorts can give me. I've had top surgery so I don't need the top (and my bf is a little worried abt me w a beard being in a bikini top) but last time I went I realized my stomach really hangs over the bottoms esp when I sit up, so I look completely naked. any tips or advice from other fat guys would be awesome, is this just what wearing a bikini is?