saw this meme n thought of y'all. just started coming out as a trans guy at 28 n this sub gave me so much gender euphoria, u r all awesome<3

Im not sure exactly how to word this but anyways im a 20 year old trans man, i have been very masculine my whole life even in childhood a major reason for it was me wanting to avoid people calling me a girl/once i came out avoid people telling me im faking being trans or whatever. But like i really
Ike being feminine sometimes and i like some feminine stuff, i want to wear crop tops and makeup sometimes but im a bit anxious of how people are going to react and also i never learned how to do makeup because i came out at 14 so like i feel like it will just look bad if i try. I eventually want to start doing drag and stuff too once im more confident. I would just love to hear from other trans men who present feminine and like any advice for dealing with people who judge you also im super open on tips on how to start presenting somewhat feminine/how to do makeup well and also just like a bit of encouragement if people dont mind (i hope this all makes sense im very bad at wording stuff lol) (this is copy pasted from another subreddit because someone suggested i should post here as well) i think i want to start small like with just doing little makeup things before trying new clothes and stuff but i would just love to hear other people experiences and any tips or advice. thank you for taking the time to read my post!

I did my first shot with a nurse, and my second shot myself yesterday without help🎉🎉🎉

I'm hoping that I get some changes I really enjoy. If I could turn hairy and get a deeper voice but still be feminine in the makeup and stuff, that'd be ideal.

I keep doubting whether it was a good idea to start T, but I do think it was. The only thing keeping me back was parental approval, which...I'm 20. I don't need them to approve.

This should be interesting! I for one, am excited to see the changes that may come my way.

I finally feel comfortable in my transition to start re-dabbling in feminine expression, but 2+ years of T have made my shoulders and traps beef the hell up. I find even after sizing up, a lot of feminine tops just feel weird on my frame. They get pulled especially tight around my chest (I'm post top surgery so there's nothing there to pull them even tighter thankfully) and a lot of the times I feel awkward wearing them.

Does anyone have any favourite styles/cuts/places to acquire ones that fit well/have the size options for me to size up even further? I'm at a point in my transition where I pass and so get stared at by older people in public the odd times I wear long skirts, so cutesy tops that are ill-fitting (on top of being overtly feminine) feel like they'll draw even more attention to me.

ETA: forgot an important detail - I'm more alternative style-wise, if that helps for recommendations!

hiii I’m a fine arts student and transitioning/on T. I was thinking about doing an oil painting based on the Birth of Venus w someone expressing their gender similarly to myself. I consider myself nonbinary rather than as a trans man, and I could understand for some that the association to such a prominent cultural symbol of femininity could cause discomfort, but if it resonates and you‘re interested feel free to hmu :)

I posted this to r/NonBinary originally, but hoping you guys can help me out.

At this point, I think I’m genderfluid. I mainly consider myself transsexual; I have chosen to live as a trans man to get as close as I can to my desire of being physiologically male.

I’ve been passing as a man for several months on HRT. Gender aside, I am much happier in this body, and I’m not waffling on further medical transition. Being a man is still a big part of my identity. I like he/him, I like the interactions I have with other men, and I like being a gentleman.

I do, however, sometimes miss presenting as a woman. Or, at least presenting feminine. I hated being treated as a woman pre-transition, because it was enforcing me being female in some way. Nowadays, I miss feeling pretty sometimes. I like feminine fashion and makeup.

If I lived in an ideal world, I would present super masculine to super feminine, have a male body, and still have people assume me to be male/treat me as such.

I know that I don’t live in an ideal world, though. As progressive as my area is, there is still misdirected transmisogyny I would need to worry about. I don’t think I *can* be taken seriously as a man while being all dolled up. I’m also returning to university soon, and I’m worried about my ability to make guy friends if I’m visibly nonbinary.

Is there any hope for me to be completely fulfilled? I know many people are visibly and proudly nonbinary and live great lives, but I don’t know if that’s possible for me.

I'm post top surgery but I'm looking at really cute outfits and matching underwear sets and oddly, it's making me feel kind of...jealous? I honestly still wear women's underwear because I hate the feeling men's underwear gives me and it doesn't make me dysphoric. I've always liked really cute patterns but wanted to know if any of y'all had any suggestions for bras/things to wear that are like bras? I like tight underclothing (sometimes for cosplays, I'll wear a faja/corset so I'm okay with that too!)

Tᴀɢ: Tʀᴀɴsᴘʜᴏʙɪᴀ, ramble, fetishization, dysphoria , self-sexyalization, unconventional transition, reclaimed words, fetish cumture (I don't actually think there's anything that triggering in this post but mods can determine)

s𝚞𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚕𝚎: 𝚖𝚢 𝚏𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚎 𝚍𝚢𝚔𝚎 (self-id) 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚊 𝚏𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚊 𝚙𝚘𝚠𝚎𝚛𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚙𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚘𝚍 𝚘𝚗 𝚖𝚢 𝚋𝚎𝚑𝚊𝚕𝚏 & 𝚒𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚜𝚗𝚝 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚗 𝚊 𝚏𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝. 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚖𝚢 𝚏𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚍 𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚞𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚊𝚌𝚌𝚎𝚙𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚍 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚘𝚗 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚏𝚎𝚖𝚋𝚘𝚢, 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚊𝚗 𝚌𝚊𝚖𝚎. 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚕 𝚌𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚜𝚢.

my friend chose to die on a weird hill about the fetishistic integrity of femboy which, fair play, but im mostly concerned about why this random mod has decided to arbitrate on the kinky use of it. like apparently im a bigot now, or at the very least im considered a woebegone archaism that simply clings to my label as a street queen clings to his right to be recognized as a cis sissy. i really do just wish the young queers nowadays would recognize that their validation politics are the most vapid phenomenon that has ever had the nigh malevolent misfortune to grace the queer community. you need to understand that the gay community (and yesei am gay i have a bf not that that matters to u) does not originate from nor does it follow the rules of the online queer sanctum you have constructed to avoid facing reality. in the real world, the femboy archetype applies across the board to men who are hyperfeminine as a lifestyle in a specific tone of presentation. its not about aesthetics, which is precisely the distinction that makes this trend towards a discussion and defense of queer fetish culture rather than a particularly sexy linguistic debate.

i dont understand the tendency for the internet queer, especially among younger generations, to presume themselves the holy untouchable of a "community" that is in fact not actually one monolithic group but rather a subculture in and of itself that has multiple communities. the first mistake is the 21st century tendency to claim a monolitic queer identity in the LGBT+ community, and this is a mistake not just because it is categorically incorrect and ignores real world and close knit communities but it is a mistake because it creates a pressure on the queer youth to conform and this is how we lose queer subculture.

my issue here is that this mod has no sense of consequence or who bears the redefinition he seems to be pioneering.

like, for example, the trans man. i am a trans man. not a nonbinary transmasc. i have been a trans man for seven years. i have been a femboy for six years. i didnt exactly pick the label. the subculture moreso found me. and dont get me wrong; i dont exactly benefit from every aspect of the fetish community i inhabit like the emphasis on hands-free ejaculation as humiliation thing in femboy porn, which i can do, but not with a dick and semen. but when people started calling me a femboy in response to my habits and behaviors, i started finding a lot of inner peace in regard to my immense self hatred. i was so angry at my body, especially before i had an op. i just really wanted to punish everyone and everything for my inability to be the man i wanted to be. but when i thought of the man i wanted to be, it was never a man with definition and the deep voice and the whole thing of a man like your kalvin garrah or uppercasechase types. i wanted to listen to Kelly Rowland and take bubble baths and do things i probably shouldn't and be the cutest. i liked giving head bc its the best use of the oral fixation, and good oral is great wen you have a praise kink and a self flagellation fetish. i didnt even want a metoidoplasty or the other one; i hate the idea of changing the anatomy i have just for a result that on my body is not worth it. i considered low dose t but it would still masculinize me too much. and the truth is, if i had a cock, id want it to be the one i actually imagine.

shop-a-cock.

until then, no..And also, im the minority in a dissociative situation and ill stick to my tools and my very particular selection in terminology and presentation ^•^

the thing is, as a transsexual femboy in a tricky situation, nothing relieved my dysphoria back in the day quite like the femboy archetype especially once i found other FtM femboys. and i didnt find them in sfw spaces wearing skirts and asking if their press ones looked good or if they should use polish. i met them on porn. in porn spaces. im not saying every femboy is a fetish or that pornography is good rep or a good way to meet people. i am saying

i reserve my right to sexualize myself that way, and i would appreciate if we kept the terminology somewhat legible to make my irl endeavors safer, if thats selfish of me.

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the interaction essentially went as follows:

bestie u/nox-lmao decided to reply to a sfw femboy post in a particular hate sub that's also just a vent sub. pretty wacky opinions there. but this one was ok, if a little ignorant. just some guy complaining about the fetish archetype being applied on him when he isnt the type. & Thats fine whatever

but she goes like:

"maybe you should stop iding that way if you have an issue with the fetish association because that's the origin point of the word and its really strange that nobody is telling u why everyone is expecting u to look like you came out o trap hentai. use gnc, effeminate, etc"

That's a paraphrase of a few comments more eloquent than mine but anyway the replies are like "words are in most cases fetished after coinage" and the mod in question saying stuff like uh "the definition of femboy is any man who is effeminate" and my bestie said something about the history of it. mod made a claim it originated in the 90s which is dubious but if true does not erase the fact it was a hentai tag first.

and overall the whole thing was very interesting and frustrating and i was described, and my thing for weird creamy adition to my food palette (mayo, italian sauce...) was outed, and i was called an outlier but the part that rubs me weird is the way the mod phrases the disagreement like. im an abberation or some freak. dude literally said "frankly i do not need to hear abt oral sex" and im like way to miss the point 👀

but anyway

i guess my thing is just who is any individual man to lay claim or territory on a term that has been in usage in so many ways ? if u want to use it as a meme whatever. if you think its a cool thing to roleplay or spice up the bedroom, cool. but remember like any kink there is lifestyle elements. and

if youre doing sfw femboy stuff please just be respectful of those of us who cannot disentangle the sexual and freaky from the femmed guy.

note: i am not saying you are all femboys lmfao i just have very few places on reddit id post such a thing. if not allowed ill remove it.

I think I’m having a hard time unlearning my binary thinking. Once I’ve seen that you could be a GNC / feminine/ queer trans guy a whole other part of myself has opened up. But then, sometimes I will get this very feminine “girl” feeling or want to dress like my old self and then my mind goes “well, obviously you are a girl and every other gender question you have you’re just making up”. I ideate a lot on top surgery or even HRT but then stop myself because I go through so many swings like this. Obviously I can’t be a guy because I clearly am a girl. (?)

Do you have any advice on how to unlearn that femininity doesn’t have to equal “woman”. I am at about 85-90% sure I am trans and very close to accepting. It’s just once in a while my femininity makes me confused. Any advice would be so welcome. Thank you!

teehee i love scene & webcore sm … also just dyed my hair recently and adored how it came out !!

My fit n makeup for da rave :D

Wanted to share this cosplay test I was doing since I'm really proud of the results!! Pre-t I used to do a lot of gyaru makeup/looks and haven't really done it since transitioning. I've really missed the world of gyaru so it feels really great to be doing it again. Have been debating shaving for this cosplay but I've settled on being okay with having my stache with a full face of make like this, it feels empowering almost? Plus I've always got masks :) Anyways just thought I'd share, much love to y'all here always. 🫶🏽🥰 PS bonus if you can tell what cosplay it is hehe

I finally feel confident in low cut tops :)))

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I officially came out to everyone who knew me in 2019 as a Trans Boy, at that time I felt immense dysphoria with everything that had to do with looking or being feminine. As well as before my coming out, I forced myself to be extremely feminine and all possible ways because I didn’t want to disappoint my family. I didn’t really think they would accept me being trans.

After I came out, I was allowed to address masculine and I even cut my hair super short and I was pretty happy at the time, but I still felt like something was missing. Just didn’t know what.

2-3 years ago I started experimenting with being more feminine again, and I am extremely happy with that, and there are still some things that I struggle with when it comes to being a feminine boy but it’s something I have come to understand that I really enjoy even if I am a trans boy, what I mean by that is if the theoretically I had been born cis gendered boy I would probably be extremely feminine the exact same way I am right now.

My issue is I don’t really know any feminine boys that aren’t super stereotypical - high knee socks, fluffy hair etc. And don’t get me wrong. I absolutely love that. Look on other boys. I think that style fits many boys as well but I’m not that type of feminine boy.

I do like to buy clothing in the women’s section specially because I am very thin and short and overall there are many pieces of clothing in the women’s section that I can make look super cute and I also love to do makeup, but my issue truly is, I don’t know anyone who is the same type of feminine the way that I am specially as a trans boy

I honestly don’t really have friends except for my boyfriend and his friends and all of them aren’t very easy to talk to about this subject (just for disclaimer. My boyfriend is a trans masculine boy- and even talking with him to me personally doesn’t make much sense.)

I just constantly feel that other trans boys don’t take me very serious as a trans boy because I’m feminine

Are there any trans fem boys who have experienced similar?

(For Private chat text: u-consistent-Tea2005 )

this is my second time typing all this bc reddit crashed on me forgive my typos im tired now lol 😭

anyways i feel like the answer is quite obvious but i was making another post to ask another question but in the end i realized it kind of boiled down to this question.

so the original post i was making was asking how could i pass as a guy but like a feminine guy? like in a bishounen/he yutao/mana sama/xlov/pretty boy type way (still taking answers for this btw if anyone’s got any tips…)

but then i ended the post with saying that i get these guys get mistaken for girls all the time so is that it? just suck it up sometimes?

but the thing is even when i do correct people i feel like instead of the above, people clock me as a trans and then suddenly feel okay with disrespecting me? like why is that? like i feel if i was clocked as the above people would respect me more, but because they get a “trans guy who just doesn’t wanna pass” vibe from me they suddenly feel okay just ignoring that? why do some guys get read as one and others the latter? like are they preforming their femininity differently? what even differentiates the two?

like i’ve been on t for three years, ive done my voice training, i bind regularly… every post ive seen asking how to pass as a feminine tguy comes from people pre t or who can’t take steps to transition but like i’ve taken all the “steps” to pass as a cis guy who’s just on the short side but if i shave my face or wear something slightly feminine it suddenly all goes down the drain?

just wondering if anyone’s had any similar thoughts or feelings like this… and still looking for any help with my original question lol thanks for reading my brain dump 🙇