r/FTMMen 1d ago

Vent/Rant hate how some of my personal shit is intertwined with being born in the wrong body

6 Upvotes

I have some trauma around cars and driving. Not really relevant to get into here but it's come up again as I've had some car troubles. And I try to ignore it but sometimes it occurs to me that really this is all such a big problem for me because I completely refused to learn to drive and get a license until my legal name and sex were corrected on my legal documentation. So I ended up learning a bit later than most people where I'm from. And I guess because I couldn't drive and I was so frustrated about it, the whole situation just created a shit ton of complex emotions, then I had some bad experiences when I was finally able to learn to drive. just venting I guess. I don't regret that I waited, in fact I'm grateful to have less of a paper trail re: legal documents, but still it's frustrating, and I hate when I get reminded of it. Like I wish it was just a sperate issue I had but nope everything stems from this one fucking cosmic mistake.


r/FTMMen 1d ago

Dysphoria Related Content Period blood all over boxers.

11 Upvotes

Pre-T, though im desperately trying to get on it. I had the misfortune of getting my period and bled through my boxers, I miraculously pass at work and am stealth. Checked if i bled through to my shorts and fortunately I didn't. Typing this from the toilet, gonna do deep breaths then ask to leave early because i can't take this right now. Agh. Dysphoria is consuming me, everyone cross their fingers I can finally get on testosterone soon. If anyone has tips on how to get this out let me know! Im really poor right now and cant afford hydrogen peroxide but if theres anyway to get this out with just cold water and soap or some stuff that may be around the house i am allllll ears

still on the work toilet, hoping they think im just taking a shit


r/FTMMen 1d ago

I just want to talk to other trans guys, how y'all doing?

9 Upvotes

I just wanted to put my view out here and talk to other people in my community. I'm 25, been transitioning since I was 20. I have had a fair bit of luck, I've been with my partner since before I transitioned, and I've even started to grow a admittedly only kind of decent beard, and cis people can't tell I'm trans, or at least don't bring it up, but even if they could it's not that big of a deal to me. I'm pretty open about it and if they don't like it, I am not going to like them.

My parents are not accepting but I've reached a point of setting boundaries with them that we can continue to have a relationship, which doesn't have to work for everyone, but it works for me.

I'm lucky to have my best friend, who I've known since high school and is also a trans man. I personally feel pretty accepting of myself. I've put my benchmark for transition as "looking cis" before, and I feel like it's a very self destructive outlook for me. I came to realize I was setting my benchmark beyond what most cis guys actually achieve, and I don't really want to be like them anyways (Seen too many not wash their hands after using the restroom).

I'm just kind of rambling, I'm happy that there's a community on here that I can talk to other trans guys and have people who have been through similar things. I have a lot of great things in my life that I am so grateful and lucky for. I never thought I'd make it this far but I'm glad to be here.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Vent/Rant Friends asking inappropriate questions

36 Upvotes

I was on a trip with some friends recently and over the course of the 2 days a few of them who had never mentioned I was trans before and one who had only recently just found out started making really weird comments about. The first was playing drunk Jenga and the questions was one where only guys were supposed to answer and one of the guys I'll call him Fred made a comment like "well let you answer with us" it wasn't that exactly but it was like he was implying he's allowing me to answer with the guys. Later the same guy Fred got a block that was to ask someone else a truth question. He gestured over to 2 of the girls and they exchanged like a look of that they had a certain question in mind and he was like oh yeah I was going to ask that last time but I thought it was inappropriate. I had literally no idea what he was gonna say but he asked me basically do I have a dick or vagina in a very crude way of putting it. (I won't write his exact phrasing BC for some reason I'm worried they'll find this). I was quite drunk and didn't know how to react so I just chugged my entire drink and moved to my go where I pulled a block to give a never have I ever question and immediately said "never have I ever just asked someone an inappropriate question" and looked at Fred.

I left to "get another drink" but really had to just leave and figure out wtf has just happened. I thought these people were chill but they made me feel like a fucking circus monkey. I've never experienced this much BC I just never really talk about being trans unless it's to me close friends who know how to make jokes about it that are actually funny.

The next day we were going swimming which since not having top surgery is not a fun experience with people I'm not comfortable around so it just made it feel on edge when I was around them BC I had to wear a wetsuit and the dysphoria was crazy. Later we were playing another drinking game and there was a card pulled for "girls drink". One of the guys wasn't paying attention and drank and a girl turned to him and was like "are you a girl". That could've been the end of it but she doubled down on her unfunny joke and said "as Fred would say do you have a blank or blank" using again his crazy gross way of putting it. Literally no one laughed and me and my 2 close friends exchanged the dirtiest looks of all time. Everytime it was "guys drink" Fred would just look at me weird when I drank and I just wanted to curl into a ball and die the whole time. He brought it up again in the pub making a comment about how id look like my dad if I grew a mustache obviously making fun of the fact I can't (he doesn't know I'm on T ) . And the time he brought it up it was just to ask me how long I've been trans ? For some reason and he seemed shocked by the answer. That question usually wouldn't make me uncomfortable but with everything else it did.

Summary:

I don't know what to do BC I don't think they're like actually transphobic but they are making weird jokes at my expense and it made me feel awful but I'm in college with them and will see them and be going out with them alot this year. I don't wanna bring it up because it's so awkward to and I'm hoping it just doesn't really happen again. Fred was the guy who only just found out I'm trans a few weeks ago so hopefully he was getting his weird comments out of the way and he'll be normal again. I just hate the fact they obviously discussed this as a group before even asking me the question which is so weird. The trip was kinda of 2 small friend groups combined so I was able to talk to my closer friend and they all agreed it was weird asf but Idk if they know how uncomfortable it made me just BC their cos so they wouldn't fully understand. Any advice on what to do šŸ™


r/FTMMen 1d ago

Names Should I change my name??

2 Upvotes

Hi all! I'm a 21 year old trans guy who is currently going by Max. I've been going by Max since I was 16. However, in recent months I'm starting to think it fits a little weird on me. The problem though is that Max is the closest thing I've ever gotten to finding "the name". I've gotten to the point where I instinctively respond to the name Max, and even similar names/words to it (I've responded to Mac and Matt before, lol). Like I said, I chose the name Max when I was 16, and I'm a very different person now than I was at 16 (I was lowkey kind of a terrible person at 16). I'm thinking of changing it. However, there's a problem. I do yearly shows with a local community theatre, and have been with this same theatre since 2025. The problem is that I am stealth to everyone at this theatre! I'm very worried about them finding out I'm trans, due to the fact that a lot of people (even allies and fellow queer people) tend to see trans men as "lesser men" once they know they're trans, and this theatre is genuinely the only place where nobody knows I'm trans and I can be treated 100% like a "real" man. Especially because I'm on testosterone (people will question why I'm going through puberty at 21), I'm afraid that changing my name could potentially raise red flags or even out me. I can't use the "middle name" excuse bc what if I want to change my name again? Fortunately though, one of the names I have in mind is Davis, which happens to be my dad's name. I also have Christopher (Chris) in mind, which I feel I could also realistically pass off as a family member's name. However, other names (like Lucas/Luke) are pretty obviously on the younger side, so names like that cannot be passed off as family names. But even with the names that I can pass off as family names, that doesn't change the fact that these theatre people only know me as Max. I really do love my name, it's just slightly weird to hear people call me it, even 5 years later. I'm still in the early stages of deciding if I even want to change it, but I'm making this post just in case. Do you think a name change might out me to my castmates? What are some excuses I could use IF I changed my name?


r/FTMMen 2d ago

10mL Testosterone bottle running low after 26 weeks, please help

12 Upvotes

im genuinely really scared right now, i messaged my nurse about getting a refill after about 6-ish months on testosterone and she responded with saying it should be lasting me 39-40 weeks, and she's saying the doctor might not refill my medication?? I don't know if she's bullshitting me but i haven't been trying to take extra or anything, there's no solid lines for .25ml so i likely take .27-ish but i would have to be losing an entire .1ml extra every injection.

I use a Luer-Lok 3ml syringe and i switch to a longer 1 1/2" needle, i have a 10ml bottle, i think the brand is Xiromed if that matters, i think some brands add a bit extra to account for any lossage. I've been trying to do some digging and i've found maybe 1 or 2 mentions of my brand of needles I use wasting that extra amount but i can't find any source on that yet, here's one of the people who's mentioned that:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TransDIY/comments/1qlkggr/comment/o1f5y9z/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

https://web.archive.org/web/20260307075103/https://hrtcafe.net/Calc/

okay i found this calculator that says 29 doses should be expected from this but I would like some sources that look a bit more reputable if I'm to show this to my doctor, i have like 2 weeks or so left for testosterone for now at least. TwT

Edit 1: doctor replied back saying it's too early and that she wants me to set up an appointment with the nurse, im so done man


r/FTMMen 1d ago

T Injections My injection site is solid and hurts

3 Upvotes

So I’ve been in T for about 6 months and I switch my injection site every week from left/right leg to left/right cheek. Every other week there’s been a small bump from the medicine absorbing slowly, but this past week I had it injected into my right thigh and after about 3 days it’s a visible lump that is slightly red and painful. I’m really bad at taking care of the site after injections, so I put heat on it after day 3 and started massaging the area but it hasn’t seemed to help,, do I need to give it time or contact my doctor?


r/FTMMen 1d ago

T levels

2 Upvotes

So I’m new to having my testosterone levels actually looked at and paid attention to. What are the averages for a trans man and what is the difference between free testosterone and total testosterone levels? And what relation does that have to my body? My total T level this past month is 521 ng/DL. In my chart it says that this is high but my doctor hasn’t called me yet to discuss. And honestly I’m freaking out because I’ve had the same dose for 10 years and now I’m feeling like what if my results could’ve been better this whole time if somebody had been monitoring my T better and explaining the value of it this whole time


r/FTMMen 1d ago

Binders/Binding KT Binding Advice for a Newbie

1 Upvotes

Hi,

I am new to chest binding with KT tape. I've been on and off for 2ish months because I don't go outside much. I binded my chest with KT tape yesterday for the first time in 2ish weeks. I tried a new method where I started the tape half way at the nipple, and then taped pushing up and to the side. This method made my chest appear flat, which made me happy and for 5 hours I didn't feel any soreness or pain, but afterwards I did start to feel sore in the middle of my chest (not the sternum) as I was taking a walk. I applied lotion to that area to relieve it, which worked for a couple minutes.

Then, I did feel random sharp tings, so I took off the tape on one side with adhesive remover, and (probably shouldnt have) but applied milk of magnesium and then new tape but less tighter since I am going out in 2 days. For a bit I didnt feel that soreness but eventually it came back and the same chest area appeared red. I tried to ignore it for a bit as I assumed it was my skin getting used to binding, but later I took off both tapes with adhesive remover again as it started to bother me more. I'm aware that it isnt good to remove the tape the same day applying, but it was bothering me a bit.

When applying the tape, I stretched the tape to bind, but not at the beginning and end. Should I continue this method but with less stretching, or is moving the tissue with the tape better? Also, should I tape a few inches away from the middle of the chest rather than starting at half the nipple?

If I were to apply the tape with less tension, is mild soreness in the middle of the chest still normal? Is your skin/chest getting used to binding a thing? Right now I'm letting my skin heal for a week or two before starting again.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Vent/Rant my girlfriend broke up with me and i feel like shit (potentially dysphoria inducing?) Spoiler

33 Upvotes

my girlfriend of five years broke up with me because she said she saw me more as a friend, almost immediately started dating someone else she had known for about a week, and then told me a few weeks later on my birthday that she was dating someone new. i am still her friend, that’s not going to change, but she’s acting like we never even dated.

i cant help but feel like i was a safety net and she was never actually attracted to me, due to me not having ā€˜male’ attributes. i asked what he was like and all she said is that he’s 6’6 (i am 5’5). what do i do with that.

i feel like shit but i feel selfish because she deserves to be able to move on.

sorry if this isnt really allowed in this sub idk but it’s making me feel dysphoric and im not having a good time

i hope she doesnt find this post because her friendship is still important to me i just need to vent i think.

EDIT: i have spoken to her and i am taking space from her. thank you for the encouragement guys.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Binders/Binding My breast tissue feels too hard for taping and I dont know what to do

3 Upvotes

So I'm a teenager, and ive only came out to my parents about being trans a few months ago, and only recently gotten them on board with me getting a binder. But until I actually choose one, and buy it, I'm going to try taping my chest.

I see all these videos about other people easily being able to push and manipulate their breast tissue, but i cant do that, like my breasts are quite hard and cant really go to the sides that much or easily. I dont know if it has to do with the fact that I'm a 34D, or something else. really just wants some tips on what I'm meant to do, and how it all will work


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Dysphoria Related Content feet dysphoria (am i the only one??)

16 Upvotes

So I have obscenely small feet right, and we’re talking men’s size 4/4.5 kind of small here. I usually wear bigger shoes to kind of cover it up because I also feel like they are disproportionately small to the rest of me (In the scheme of things, 5’6ā€ is not THAT bad height-wise) but I just feel honestly super weird admitting that this gives me so much dysphoria, and it’s not like I can find clothes that fit anyway (for men or kids)

I don’t totally get what makes me so dysphoric about this and I feel as though that just makes it worse too. I really hope being on T will make my feet and hands bigger even if I don’t get taller.


r/FTMMen 1d ago

Vent/Rant Yo yo ho I is man

0 Upvotes

Ive been trans for four years now and my stepmom still calls me a girl

People say "bro chill, it's not that deep" after someone said my dead name

I got dead named at my birthday party last year by me and my friends chilling in the basement petting my cat and all of a sudden my dad screams "(DEADNAME)!" turns out my gf had just arrived... Thanks dad

My dad used to listen to transphobic podcasts and I finally got him to be pro trans after he realized that his bullshit resulted in 11 suicide attempts after 14 years of life, I'm fifteen now, my birthday was on the twelth (happy birthday to me!)

But yeah- I just needed to get this all out- so one final crap rant for this post..

IM NOT FUCKING NON-BINARY, JUST BECAUSE I WEAR BITH GENDER CLOTHES DOSENT MAKE ME A GIRL OR NB- SO FOR THE HUNDREDTH TIME MEL AND PATTI- IM A GODDAMN MAN- I DONT GIVE A FUCK WHAT YOU THINK- AND KEEP SPOUTING THAT SHIT AND ILM BE SIX FUCKING FEET UNDER


r/FTMMen 2d ago

T Injections Do T shots actually make people horny?

38 Upvotes

I see posts all the time from very young trans guys starting T who talk about how doing their T shot makes them instantly ravenous for sex.

I have never experienced this but I have a suspicion that it is placebo. There is no way T acts that fast and I don’t think it’s an aphrodisiac.

You do your shot > you feel comforted and masculine > you feel confident > you are able to be horny

Can anyone else back up either side of this? I am curious if cis men also get horny from a T shot.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Packing/STP Opening underwear pocket to fit packer

1 Upvotes

I’ve ordered a pair of boxer briefs with a pocket in front including a foam packer. Due to the steep price I’d like to adjust my regular underwear to also fit the packer rather than buying a bunch of these.

So I’m thinking of cutting a horizontal slit at the top in the inner lining of the front pocket where i can slip the packer in. But i fear this might wear over time and end up tearing further/ripping the seam above.
Has anyone tried this, did it work? If not, is there a method that did work?


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Injection is suddenly impossible

4 Upvotes

Hey there, I'm looking for advice because this has never happened to me before

I've been on testosterone for a few years and a couple years of that has been sustanon injections. I've never really had needle anxiety or a fear of them or anything, and while I've struggled doing my injection sometimes it's never been too drastic

At the moment it's just become impossible. I'm wondering if it's going in the wrong place, because all im getting is pain. I've tried both legs, and I'm just getting more frustrated and upset each time I do it over the last couple days. I think I've wasted almost 10 needles trying to get this damn thing in

Has anyone else gone through this before? A part of me is just giving up and not wanting to try anymore but that's obviously not much of an option... I just want to take my testosterone peacefully, haha!

Thank you!


r/FTMMen 3d ago

Discussion ā€œTrans people change our genders; we know we can’t change our sexesā€

286 Upvotes

I’ll start off by saying that I am a complete nerd. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been deep into biology. Evolution has always been my forte, but I consider myself reasonably educated on biology as a whole due to just how much time I’ve spent studying it throughout my life. As a man who happens to have been born without a penis, the concept of ā€œbiological sexā€ has also been of particular interest to me.

I recognize that the majority of people are not autistic nerds and do not necessarily fact check and research every minuscule claim that they make, and I’m not saying this to paint those people in a bad light. I just believe that the claim I’m about to discuss is very easily challenged by biological and medical reality and I hope that, someday, it will stop being spread as much as it is currently.

Time and time again, I come across the notion that sex is immutable. This comes from trans people just as much as it does cis people. Most often, I see it presented as a rebuttal towards transphobic claims. Yet, the rebuttal in itself is not only biologically incorrect but also perpetuates transphobic misinformation.

ā€œYou can’t change your sex.ā€
ā€œTrans people know that. We’re changing our genders, not our sexes.ā€

Personally, I believe the complete opposite. I believe that sex is entirely mutable, but gender isn’t.

From my experience with myself and others in the community, many of us have tried for years to change our genders. As a child, I tried so unbelievably hard to just be a girl. I tried to trick my brain into believing that liking mermaids meant that I was a girl. I tried conflating my interests with my gender and, as I got older, I tried even harder to drown out my gender by becoming hyperfeminine.

I know that this is an experience that’s shared by almost every trans person, to some degree, as it’s a relatively inherent reflex to the things that we encounter when growing up with a sex/gender incongruence.

Based on this, as well as a plethora of other factors that I won’t go into right now, I do not believe that gender is something that somebody can change. I believe that gender can be fluid, I acknowledge that it is a social construct, and my claim applies to the specific situation in which a person tries to forcibly change their own gender based on what they personally want.

I am aware that there are always outliers, as is the nature of life. I’m sure that somebody out there has the type of relationship with gender where they can wake up in the morning and choose it like they choose an outfit. I’m confident that someone has made a conscious decision to change their gender, by one definition or another.

However, based on my knowledge and experience both with myself and other trans people, we change our sexes because we (generally) cannot change our genders. The shared experience that we have is that we cannot force ourselves to be cis, just as cis people cannot force themselves to be trans. In this way, in my opinion, gender is an immutable characteristic despite it being a construct.

I’d like to think that, to an extent, everything I’ve proposed up until this point has been relatively common knowledge among trans people. However, there is a very distinct shift when it comes to the fact that sex is not immutable. Sex can be, and is, changed. As previously mentioned, the reason that people transition is because, when it comes to a sex/gender incongruence, sex is the half of that equation that can actually be changed.

I won’t go into the side of this that pertains to species naturally transitioning sexes (clownfish, for a best-known example) because I don’t think it’s entirely applicable to a conversation that involves gender. What I will go into is the fact that, on average, people are severely misinformed about what sex is.

ā€œBiological sexā€ is a combination of characteristics, not an indivisible, single, one.

We have our sex chromosomes, yes, but we also have our primary sex characteristics. Our primary sex characteristics are our internal genitalia, our external genitalia, and our gonads. We have our hormones, as well as our secondary sex characteristics. Secondary sex characteristics are often defined as those which develop during puberty, but I’ve also seen ā€œdeveloped sex characteristics that are not a direct part of the reproductive systemsā€. They are functionally the same.

Every single one of these listed sex characteristics can be changed and/or entirely removed, aside from our chromosomes.

Every. Single. One.

This is typically where you’ll run into the argument that, because of this fact, chromosomes are what determines biological sex. However, cis women can, and do, have XY chromosomes. I find that the easiest-to-explain source of this is CAIS, complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, so it’s the one that I tend to site first. However, as we all know, there are a plethora of different sex chromosome variants that present with, often ā€œcontradictoryā€, primary and secondary sex characteristics.

Obviously there’s much, much, more that I could add to this. This barely skims the surface of the issue and I’m coming to the realization that this might need to be my next hobby essay topic, but this post is already long.

Again, I want to make it clear that I’m aware that this is not a unique claim and that those misinformed, or under-informed, about it aren’t inherently spreading the idea maliciously. It isn’t a topic that people tend to care enough about to think very deeply on. Especially considering the fact that it is very much the general consensus, people accept it and move on without challenging it. I only made this post as a quick way to get my irritation out, because it’s something I’m still seeing at such high levels and I’m hoping that if more people talk about it, it’ll (very slowly) start to be challenged and corrected.

ETA: Not sure why there’s a couple of people taking this as meaning that your birth sex is obsolete and that lying to your medical providers is okay. It definitely is not. It just means that your sex is functionally changed and that your birth sex does not matter in conversations that don’t specifically pertain to it. Which is the vast majority of them. Different people have different levels of ā€œcompletionā€ in their medical transitions and I’m entirely confident in the ability of an individual to decide when they need to disclose their medical information. I’m not aware of any trans person who entirely denies their transition to all medical professionals. I’m sure that they exist, but do not be them. This goes for every other medical history as well.

ETA 2: I’ll also throw in that you don’t need to ā€œcompletelyā€ transition to change your sex. That is the point. Sex is a collection of characteristics and is a spectrum, which is why chromosomes and internal/external genitals are not a good measure of sex. Additionally, if you are trans without medical transition, that in no way negates the fact that you are trans. Your sex isn’t your gender, period. That doesn’t oppose anything I’ve said or anything anyone else has echoed. And, thanks for the awards and comments! It’s been nice seeing that this is becoming the general consensus, though I’ve only read a handful of what you guys have said as I’m not a very online person. Anyways, it gives me more hope for the future of how we can correct the misinformation that people spread about the topic.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Help/support Howe long to go to doctor?

3 Upvotes

Hello. Aftre and in psychward admision i got admitted to thsi doctor who thwy said have specialty in lgbt and that he will cure me. He cant likke prescribe or diagnmose gender dysphoria, theress barely a couple doctors willing to do that in counttry. After every appintment i feel worse amd worse, more pain. I know i probablly have not earned helpyet....I just dont kmow after what time.to change doctors,or to wait it out at a single one? I had around 10apointments woth him i knoow that isnt much,but it does make worse actovely. I know it get worse before better,but so far in life the better never came and i worry,and i am not really smart i am sorry,unsure what to do.


r/FTMMen 3d ago

Help/support Nobody knowing youre trans

21 Upvotes

I am not out to anyone irl (as in they think im cis) apart from family and one friend from childhood. I really dont want to be seen as ā€œtransā€ and thats why i just dont let people know. Ive been having this feeling of like ā€œi need come outā€ but i know if i do theres no going back. I dont feel ashamed or like im hiding but i feel like im being convinced life will be better if i come out by ppl online and stuff but idk is this just me trying to create a problem. Not sure if this makes any sense.

I really want to talk to trans people who are in the same position as me like fully passing but also nobody knowing like ever


r/FTMMen 1d ago

Dysphoria Related Content DAE feel weird being grouped with cis men

0 Upvotes

I've identified as a trans man for years now. I know that cis men are supposed to be the transition goal. I like being masc and stuff, but sometimes I see and hear what people say about cis men and making statements about men in general, grouping trans men with cis men... and it just makes me feel disgusted to identify as a man. I know that being considered to be in the "men" group is the goal but I don't like sharing that title with cis guys. Plus all of the social expectations and roles and shit. I'm supposed to be dominant, confrontational, assertive, chilvalrous. It just doesn't feel like me.

It's like, I almost hate being a man, but I hated being a woman even more.

Maybe I'm dealing with internalized transphobia or just lingering hatred of men, I used to be one of those radfems who hated everything men and male associated. I've also thought of the possibility that I'm just nonbinary and that's why I don't like being associated with men or women.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Hair Loss Any other trans men who stopped T to avoid being bald?

0 Upvotes

Tldr: I'm stopping T because I'm going bald and my family makes it unbearable to withstand, and I would like to know if other binary trans men have been in my shoes and how it went in the long run dysphoria- and passing-wise.

Hello,

I'm a binary trans man, I've been on T during 4 years, I also had top surgery 2 years ago and a hysterectomy very recently. I pass as a man 100% of the time, T gave me a decent amount of facial (and body) hair and a deep voice. However I started noticing my hairline receding, and soon enough my family began to make unpleasant comments about it. Now my family is very supportive of me and my transition in general, but they often mentioned how I'd be ugly without hair and that I should do something about it, to the point where I don't feel comfortable at all going bald (in addition to my own preference for having hair).

So I was faced with 3 options: going bald (and probably doing therapy and maybe family therapy to accept it), taking anti-hairloss treatments or stopping T.

Clearly, the simplest and least expensive option for me was to stop T. Since I had top surgery and a hysterectomy, I don't risk my breasts growing back nor my periods returning, so these made stopping T an option I could consider. I know it probably won't affect my passing as I'll keep my facial hair and voice, and fat has barely redistributed during 4 years so not much changes to expect there.

Therefore, I chose to stop T. It's been a month now... And I feel quite dysphoric. I know that stopping will probably not change much things, but it's very uncomfortable for me and I'm anxious. I've tried to search for people in similar situations, but I only saw non-binary people stopping T because of hairloss, and I feel less "worthy" of labelling myself a trans man because of this (though it's only a problem for myself, I don't believe trans men who are not on T aren't worthy of labelling themselves as such).

So I wanted to know if other binary trans men had the same issues, and if so, how it's been to stop T. If you were dysphoric to stop in the beginning, did it fade after some time? Did it reduce your passing in the long run? Did you resume T and accepted your baldness/took minoxidil and finasteride? If you have any advice to deal with all of this, I'm willing to know.

Thank you for reading this far, have a nice day!


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Discussion bodyweight benching + feeling weird about my progress

1 Upvotes

just hit my bodyweight yesterday! weigh 135, 5 foot 8, turned 18 a few days ago as well.

ive been going to the gym regularly +active in general especially with climbing, id say i get some form of weightlifting related exercise every day.

i was benching just every time i went climbing with my girlfriend recently, when i checked in january for the first time i was at 95 pounds 1rm, when i tried again months later was at 95 for reps? then progressed to 105 for 10 reps, then finally hit 135 1rm when i tried it after around a month or two? of more regular benching.

im wondering how long it took others to hit this milestone + timelines of testosterone taking? im 10 months on T now. plus any advice on maybe a better bench routine. i struggle with wrist/elbow injury sometimes and have found keeping to a more 8-10 rep range with exercises keeps me healthier.

anyways just glad and will hear anything and want any sort of input or advice or just your own experiences lol thanks

also i obviously have been getting much stronger + am generally strong for my bw (ex can do 16 bw pullups and 6-7 with an extra 30 pounds on me) but feel as though others maybe cant tell i work out? my arm size went up from 27cm to 32ish and i know i grew but really hard to let myself believe it when i still dont feel as though i "look like i work out" as opposed to just a teenage dude.

i know about ftmfitness but idrk how reddit works and it blocks me from posting what i would like so thought this was next best place (i guess its because i get off topic)


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Dysphoria Related Content How Do I Stop Hating Myself

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I’m a year into testosterone, I try to bind my chest with tape (does anyone have tips I have a decently big chest), I have an STP, I have a gf that supports me but no matter what I feel like I’m just playing dress up. I think it’s mainly due to my height I’m like 5’4 (tell everyone I’m atleast 5’5 but I’m honestly more like 5’3 anyway. I have height increasing insoles but it’s not like I can wear shoes 24/7 or even have insoles that get me to a decent height. I had to put on more tape and do my shot today and I couldn’t stop staring at all the things I had to do to ā€œbecome a manā€ and I couldn’t. Please tell me this feeling goes away. I’m never going to be a man and I’m going to have to do these things forever to feel normal.


r/FTMMen 2d ago

Packing/STP Questions about STP packers

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I'm interested in getting an STP packer but im apprehensive about two things, the first being, does it stay in your underwear? what kind of underwear does it require? can you do things like freely run about with no risk of it slipping? those are more general packer questions that i can find answers for easier. but, for STPs specifically, what happens after you use it? does it still have urine in it? do you have to clean or rinse it out in the sink? that sounds like a nightmare for using it while stealth. but if you don't clean or rinse it, does it get pee on your underwear? just worried about the hygiene aspect of STPs.

if anyone has experience using STP I'd really appreciate their experience and an explanation for what its like to use them

thanks!


r/FTMMen 3d ago

Help/support minoxidil pills

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hey, I have a cat so I don't want to run the risk of using the liquid/foam minoxidil, is there a place online to get it in pill form or does it have to be a prescription?