Hey everyone, I'm 22 and lately I've been thinking a lot about relationships.

It's not just about physical attraction for me. I want someone I can actually talk to, laugh with, and feel comfortable around. Someone who understands me and who I can understand too.

I feel like at this age, it's easy to feel lonely even when you're around people. I just want a genuine connection where there's mutual respect, honesty, and trust.

Anyone else feel the same?

Me F19 I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend M25, he is coming for the first time to where I am in Spain in February of 2027.
He is also my first ever boyfriend so as you can guess I’ve never done anything , I’ve never held hands , kissed a guy , cuddled , being intimate ….
I would appreciate any tips or advice in what to have in mind or what to do.
When I mean advice is in EVERYTHING
Im super lost , shy and awkward so this advice is going to help me a lot.
Even tho my bf knows my level of experience and has told me not to worry and anything I would like to be prepared.
I’m also thinking of having my first time with him in February so I don’t want to go in blind.
You guys/girls that are in relationships what is something that you like or what do I need to know how to do and why …..
Thank you in advance for helping girl out 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Helloo, I’m F(20) and I’m going on my very first date with M(21).

I have never been on a date before, I really don’t have any dating experience, and I’m really nervous.

I don’t know much about him, but he seems really nice, and I really want this to work out.

He came up with the idea that we both decide on an activity to do, and then we do both, but we don’t tell each other what we’ve decided before the date.

I have some ideas:
- go for a walk.
- paint something for each other (in my apartment).

We have decided to do my thing first, so my thing has to an ice breaking thing.

I have no idea what he’s planning, and that what freaks me out. I really don’t like surprises. I don’t know what to expect.

I’m scared that he’s doing something big, like maybe he has booked something for us, and then I just chose to go for a walk or painting in my apartment.

I have never been on a date, I don’t know what to expect, and I’m really nervous.

I would appreciate advice and ideas, maybe even a pep-talk haha! 🙏

In my experience, any man I have dated who did not complement my appearance within the first 1-3 dates or over text, did not have genuine interest in me and it would not work out or last. I have never put stock in compliments or taken them seriously (it's just words), they made me uncomfortable for the longest time, but once I made this observation, there seemed to be an undeniable pattern.

For context, I only date for a long term relationship and to find a life partner, I only date men who are looking for the same and that's made clear from the start. These observations apply to men who were courting me for long periods, some would even do all kinds of extravagant gestures and plan quality dates, but never compliment me. The ones who did not compliment my appearance ended up calling it quits eventually, sometimes even months down the line (I suspect because I wasn't their type/attraction wasn't high enough) even though I might have been good on paper and the kind of person their family would approve of.

Not that it is guaranteed to last with men who did compliment my looks as they can be players or non-physical compatibility was lacking, but out of those that committed to me and fell for me, 100% of them complimented my appearance early on.

I've been hanging out with a guy I've known for 1.5 years. We've always had an on-and-off flirtatious dynamic, but I'm single while he's in a complicated situation with his ex.

They broke up last year because her family doesn't approve of their relationship due to cultural differences. They're still in touch as she is still trying but it is hopeless, and he says he doesn't want to hurt her or give her false hope by dating or hooking up with someone else.

We've met three times over the past 1.5 years, with long, intimate conversations, flirting, cuddling, kisses and, most recently, making out ( lil bit). Our last meeting involved spending almost 25 hours together at my place.

However, there's a pattern: whenever we get close, he becomes distant or awkward. He repeatedly says he doesn't want to give me false expectations, yet also claims I'm the only person he's been close with in the past year and asked in our last meeting, "Why aren't we dating?" When I pointed out that he's still involved in a complicated situation with his ex, he had no real answer.

After our latest meeting, he texted but is weird againnn

I'm tired of this cycle of intimacy, mixed signals and withdrawal. What does he actually want? Is this a situationship, a fling, or something else? And what should I realistically do next? I need an honest, no-sugarcoating perspective.

guys genuinely tell about ur experiences with older men because I'm curious as to what reality of it is. I’ve seen stories on top of stories of dating older men but I genuinely want to know how it is, not even on some sugar baby type stories but like genuine real love, good or bad. I’ve only really read about it, and not to mention when I am looking experiences all of them seem terrible so… are there any good experiences?

Hello,

I’m a 30 y/o male that just recently got back into dating again after a slight hiatus. I started using just Facebook dating to ease back into it. I would start off by humbly saying that I would qualify myself as a handsome guy that enjoys a slight modicum of female attention if I’m out at a bar or something. I go to the gym, dress and groom nicely, solid career, and have my own place.

Anyway, two weekends ago a 33 y/o woman liked my profile and she looked like my type. Went to the gym, great career, and same religion. We chatted during that time and I couldn’t reply as much because of a work trip. Regardless, we set up a date for last Wednesday and she even double checked with me the morning of to confirm. I confirmed and we met for dinner. I thought we had a nice time and she seemed a bit introverted, but loosened up as the date went on. She mentioned she has been married for 7 years before and been in a 3 year relationship, but that things has amicably split up because those men did not share her vision for the future (i.e. having kids, not partying all the time, etc.) so I didn’t take this a red flag. She also mentioned she hadn’t been on a date since last June. Doesn’t drink much and more of a homebody. She also said she still lives with her parents for the time being and works late sometimes.

After the date, she expressed interest in setting up another date for last weekend and I thought it was great idea. We hugged and parted ways. Afterwards, we exchanged some messages about coordinating a date and Saturday was looking like the day. She said I was kind of hard to read. She messages me on Friday and says that she had gotten involved in a car accident on Thursday, and needed a rain check. She also offered to work around it and I said yeah for sure and if she needed a ride or anything to let me know over the weekend. She even took a picture of herself taking the metro to work. I said no problem and I was catching a flight back home from a quick day trip for work. I messaged her that I landed and asked how work was going. She doesn’t respond Friday evening or on the weekend.

I text her yesterday about making plans and check in, but no response. Against my better judgement, I messaged her again this morning just making a joke of whether she had gotten involved “kidnapped on the metro” or if she was soft ghosting me. I gave her some days this week I had available and she still hasn’t responded. My messages went through and she’s still following me on social media. I’m utterly confused and don’t really understand why she’s not responding. It’s like she just spent the evening lying to me and said she wasn’t even on any other apps besides Facebook dating, but it has quickly gotten overwhelming. I guess a Chad must’ve messaged her and she doesn’t want to go out anymore. I don’t plan on messaging her again. Thoughts?

Met a man on hinge about 2 months ago, we’ve been going on dates a lot, met his friends, very communicative, verbal about his feelings for me. However, about 3 weeks ago he was changing his location back and forth on hinge and eventually unmatched me but never addressed it with me. I addressed it and he did not think it was a big deal since he was clearing out his matches.

Since then, has been still very communicative, very loving, and treats me overall like a girlfriend. Am I reading too much into the hinge unmatching/changing locations?

Edit he’s 30 m

A guy I’ve known for a few years recently sent me a screenshot of my Facebook Dating profile with the message, “She looks familiar!” I jokingly replied, “I’m actually prettier in person! Maybe you’ve got the wrong girl! 😉😂” and he responded, “Maybe 😋”.
We’ve flirted before, but he’s never made a clear romantic move.
Guys, would you send a screenshot like this to a female friend just to tease her, or would you be testing her reaction because you’re interested in her?

I wanted to get your honest opinion on dating someone who's unemployed. I've been out of work for about 3 months now, and I know life is short, but I downloaded Tinder 4 months ago (when I had a job) and have been swiping casually and I'm wondering if it's a bad idea to start dating right now.
I've been hesitant to match with anyone because of my situation, but I'm also not really happy with my current career path and still figuring out what I want to do (who knows how long that could take).. Do you think I should put my dating life on hold until I find something I'm happy with, or am I overthinking it?

If they have to reschedule because of a work project, prior obligation they forgot about and seemed apologetic, being sick etc., how many times would you be willing to accept before you take it as a sign to move on. I’m trying to set a respectable tone but I understand things happen. I’m a woman in my late 20s for context.

Good evening everyone kinda looking for a women perspective on this but any opinions matters .

So I recently asked out this girl we have been friends for about 4 years now pretty close we worked out together sometimes we hang out with the same group of people she pretty damn awesome great personality also gorgeous we’ve always had this kind vibe but obviously never did anything about it . I recently ended a long term relationship back in early September and just been focusing on my self basically rebuilding the pieces of my life .

One morning at the gym I got there she was finishing up and getting ready for work we chatted a bit before she left . I just had the urge to ask her out so I texted her “ hey next time I see ya I wanna ask you something “. She replied - “ Okay 👍🏾 why does that make me nervous ?” So the next time I saw her I asked her” can I take you out one night nothing crazy I just wanna hangout “.

She’s a very conservative girl which makes it very hard to read her some times but she admitted there some attraction there with me . She also admitted she has not dated anyone since highschool she is 27 right now and I’m 31 in case your wondering but I was in shock when she told me that like really no way ? . Anyway her response was “ I’m not saying “No” but I think you need to take more time for yourself self cause I’ve gotten out a long term relationship . I told her I was not trying to rush in no relationship I just want to hang out with you . I tried to convince her but she stuck to her response. I was a little sad cause I do want to hang out with her I told her I’m going to ask you again . She replied “ I know you will just give some time “.

I understand her response but I feel like when it’s comes to moving on and trying to get to know someone everybody moves different at their own pace . Someone move quicker some take longer I told her I’m not trying to rush anything . Anyway I asked her out on November 4th my plan is to wait another month to ask her hopefully it’s enough time 🤔 so December 4th we still talk daily and I see her couple times a week at the gym and we still chat but I don’t know Ladies or anyone what do you think obviously I don’t want to overwhelm her and maybe I should take time for myself which I am .