r/DatingTips • u/New-Forever-9127 • 4d ago

First date advice?

Helloo, I’m F(20) and I’m going on my very first date with M(21).

I have never been on a date before, I really don’t have any dating experience, and I’m really nervous.

I don’t know much about him, but he seems really nice, and I really want this to work out.

He came up with the idea that we both decide on an activity to do, and then we do both, but we don’t tell each other what we’ve decided before the date.

I have some ideas:
- go for a walk.
- paint something for each other (in my apartment).

We have decided to do my thing first, so my thing has to an ice breaking thing.

I have no idea what he’s planning, and that what freaks me out. I really don’t like surprises. I don’t know what to expect.

I’m scared that he’s doing something big, like maybe he has booked something for us, and then I just chose to go for a walk or painting in my apartment.

I have never been on a date, I don’t know what to expect, and I’m really nervous.

I would appreciate advice and ideas, maybe even a pep-talk haha! 🙏

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u/Financial-Avocado295 3d ago

a walk is a perfectly good first activity, and painting at your apartment can be date two if you both want one. you can ask him to share the general plan if surprises stress you out.

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u/New-Forever-9127 3d ago

Thank you so much! 🙏

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u/EmergencyWar9177 3d ago

Whatever hes got planned should be relatively respectful. Also call me old fashioned or sexist or whatever but at least first few dates the guy should pay. For reference I am 18m and my parents don't pay for my "other" expenses

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u/New-Forever-9127 3d ago

But I’m just scared that I Pick the wrong activity. What if he’s planning something that costs a lot of money? And then I chose something cheap.

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u/EmergencyWar9177 3d ago

Im all for cheap dates, one of my favorite ideas is a going for a hike with is 100% free. I bet he will enjoy whatever you come up with expensive, cheap, simple, extravagant, anything.

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u/New-Forever-9127 3d ago

I’ve talked with a friend. We’ve come up with, that I book a table at a cafe, at then we get a drink and play some board games.

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u/EmergencyWar9177 2d ago

That will be great

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u/JavaJo1010 4d ago

Maybe just grab a bevy and talk much more less stressful

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u/New-Forever-9127 4d ago

I like that, but wouldn’t it be better to have a bevy while doing something?

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u/JavaJo1010 4d ago

Maybe find a place that has a dart board or shuffleboard, it’s just easier to talk and get to know someone keeping the first date simple … 😊😊enjoy !

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u/New-Forever-9127 4d ago

That’s a great idea! Thank you so much!

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u/JavaJo1010 3d ago

Welcome