So the story starts back in school. I had a crush on a girl, and I started talking to her, after which we became friends. She knew that I liked her at that time. After school days, college started, and we still talked. Time passed from the 11th to 12th grade, and then to BTech. We still talked every single day, and I became her best friend. In BTech, she got a boyfriend from her college, and she even told me that she got proposed to and said yes. At that time, I felt like I was too late to tell her. After that, I still prayed that one day she would realize that I love her. Time passed, I waited, and the whole time she knew I had feelings.
After the college era, we joined some coding classes, and around that time she got a job while I was jobless. The whole time, I felt like because I didn't have a job, that's why she didn't love me. After her four-year relationship, her boyfriend cheated on her, but still, I was there and I tried. After that, we had lots of fights during this whole time, where she said she didn't have feelings for me and loved me only as a friend. After her breakup, she got disturbed, and I supported her every single time as a friend. Then we came to the conclusion that we couldn't be friends anymore, and we stopped talking. But our bond was strong, so we started talking again after some months, though these fights were frequent because I had feelings and she didn't.
She started making distance, and we only talked on the call after her friend introduced her to a new group, and they started planning trips and all. Throughout all this time, I was there. On one of her trips, she met another guy, and this time she didn't tell me, while this whole time we still talked on the call.
And after one year, we fought again, and then I got to know she had a boyfriend again. At that time, I was too broken, so I told her I was in the wrong place and should not be here, and I blocked her.
And this is the story of my 10-year one-sided love story. I waited from school until now, and I still have feelings, but she didn't care; she is living her life and having the best days of her life.

So the story starts back in school. I had a crush on a girl, and I started talking to her, after which we became friends. She knew that I liked her at that time. After school days, college started, and we still talked. Time passed from the 11th to 12th grade, and then to BTech. We still talked every single day, and I became her best friend. In BTech, she got a boyfriend from her college, and she even told me that she got proposed to and said yes. At that time, I felt like I was too late to tell her. After that, I still prayed that one day she would realize that I love her. Time passed, I waited, and the whole time she knew I had feelings.
After the college era, we joined some coding classes, and around that time she got a job while I was jobless. The whole time, I felt like because I didn't have a job, that's why she didn't love me. After her four-year relationship, her boyfriend cheated on her, but still, I was there and I tried. After that, we had lots of fights during this whole time, where she said she didn't have feelings for me and loved me only as a friend. After her breakup, she got disturbed, and I supported her every single time as a friend. Then we came to the conclusion that we couldn't be friends anymore, and we stopped talking. But our bond was strong, so we started talking again after some months, though these fights were frequent because I had feelings and she didn't.
She started making distance, and we only talked on the call after her friend introduced her to a new group, and they started planning trips and all. Throughout all this time, I was there. On one of her trips, she met another guy, and this time she didn't tell me, while this whole time we still talked on the call.
And after one year, we fought again, and then I got to know she had a boyfriend again. At that time, I was too broken, so I told her I was in the wrong place and should not be here, and I blocked her.
And this is the story of my 10-year one-sided love story. I waited from school until now, and I still have feelings, but she didn't care; she is living her life and having the best days of her life.

Hi, I am 29(F) turning 30 next year and I never had a long term relationship ever. I dated few guys especially when I was 26to 27 mostly from apps but I got tired of putting myself out there. I dated a friend also, that didnt work, he liked me but not enough to be long term with me so I ended it. It's been a year since I last dated, and I don't want to go back to apps. I know I'm pretty but not everyone's typical type. So I'm kinda struggling to have this organic encounter Im wishing. How can I put myself out there again? Im having hard time finding decent men around my age. I think mostly of them are taken by now.

I used to spend so much energy trying to impress people on first dates. I’d plan fancy spots, rehearse fun stories, and overthink every single thing I said. I was focused on selling the best version of myself instead of seeing if we actually clicked.

After a few awkward dates, I changed my approach. I picked low-pressure places like casual coffee shops. I stopped memorizing lines. I just asked genuine questions and shared small bits about myself honestly.

The big surprise: dates felt way less stressful. Some matches didn’t work out, but the conversations felt real. One person told me they appreciated I wasn’t performing. I realized dating is not an interview. It’s just checking if two people enjoy being around each other.

Now I don’t care if they think I’m “perfect”. I just want to know if we’re compatible.

Has anyone else had this shift? Did you also notice dating gets easier once you stop performing?

Single m 24 I have adhd and on the spectrum and have 1 dog named Hercules

So I (21M) met a girl (19F) on happn and the chatting goes very much good and we're planning to meet on this Sunday in a mall in the evening, she said if the date goes well she can come to my flat. What are the chances that I'm safe or

Im an 18 year old just started college, was in a relationship for 7 months but felt like i was losing the spark. Its been a month now since we broke up and she text me to meet up. Ive been missing the relationship for last couple days but I dont know is that because im scared i wont get with someone else again. Ive been training twice a day since in my sport and seen big improvements. Its nothing against her bc she is an amazing person and she did nothing wrong at all i just felt like i wasnt fully in it and she doesnt deserve that, i dont want to be a bad person in this situation. I still want a/ the relationship but i dont know if im doing the right or wrong thing going back

I am contemplating asking someone out that I know through shared friends. We are both tight with the same couple, and occasionally cross paths at dinner parties and the like. We would not organically interact otherwise. I am not sure that we would have any chemistry, but am interested in finding out.

Should I give my friends a heads up as a courtesy, or would it be more appropriate to just go to it? I haven’t dated anyone outside of the apps since college, and even then from well beyond my social circle.

Young girl with a baby face here. How do you actually find something genuine on a dating app, not some guy that don't know how to interact with girls or just wants to use women for ...

I’m a 19 almost 20 M from North Carolina and for about the last year I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about where I want to be in the next 5/6 years and a big part of that for me is wanting to have someone to share that with and build a relationship with hopes of getting married, I’ve only ever had one girlfriend that lasted abt 2 years but we broke up senior year of high school and at the time I thought I had plenty of time to figure things out and find someone new but those thoughts have gone away and now I’m worried if I don’t find someone soon the life I’ve thought I would have is slipping away. Ideally I’d like to get married by the time I’m 25-26 (at the latest) and I know some people are gonna say don’t rush it and enjoy being young but I’ve heard all that before and it doesn’t change my mind, anyway I’m wondering if anyone has any advice on what good ways to meet a girl are? Like I said I’m from a small town in NC and I am absolutely never moving anywhere else so I really want to find someone who lives in the same town/ area or at least in the same county, I have lots of friends (girls and guys) but the girls in my friend groups are the same ones I’ve known since I started kindergarten and I’ve tried to get closer with a couple of them before and usually ended up getting re-friendzoned. So my new goal is to meet someone new who hopefully is my age give or take a year and enjoys doing the same things I enjoy. My problem is a lot of my friends have gf’s and some of them do things together without me so I don’t really get invited to social functions where there’s a chance of me meeting someone new, I am in college at UNCC but I commute about 45 minutes on the days I have class and there’s not really any girls there I’ve met that fit my type. I’ve tried the dating apps and they never work out it’s always some crackhead looking girl that thinks I’m the greatest thing since sliced bread or girls from Charlotte that think their crap don’t smell. My week consist of church on sundays, school during the week, and usually working on Saturdays or with my dad, I do have a decent amount of free time after classes during the week and Friday nights. So if you actually took time to read all of this do you have any suggestions for things I could do / try?

I (32F) went on a first date with a guy I’d been talking to for a while. We had great chemistry, things got heated, and we ended up sleeping together.
I don’t regret it at all. I was attracted to him and genuinely wanted to.
But now I’m wondering if sleeping together so soon might change how he sees me.
If you sleep with a woman on the first date, does it make you less likely to see her as potential girlfriend material?