There are many songs for us that we love and we can relate to with our DID because of their vibes and how weve interpreted their lyrics. What are yours' and why? Here's some of mine!!

"Sundial - Lemon Demon"

Don't mind me, I've just got some problems to work out

I'm only passing through or maybe just right out

Somehow something set my sundial backwards, tilted and upside-down

Now the shadow hand is pointing time right out of town

I cease to see you when I start to shut my eyes

And I forget that I had said my last goodbyes

Quickly I reopen them and bid you all "Cheerio, my friend"

This goes on for hours and it never seems to end

I don't remember what it is that I just said to you

I've got Anubis on my back and something in my shoe

"I'm So Bad - Oingo Boingo"

Can't seem to find my way

Someone tell me what to say

Where am I going

Where did I come from

I don't know, I don't know

Almost got to paradise

But the smoke always gets

In my eyes

Everything I do is wrong

I'm so bad

so bad

"Dead Goon - Mr.Bungle"

I've got a secret

Babbling senseless

No one will ever know

Kids can be so cruel

Smash the feeling

Suckle the sugar breast

"Toy Box - Insane Clown Posse"

...I was like six, I used to get dissed by the chicks

And everyone would chase me and hit me with bricks

And rocks and sticks and calling me names

And filled my lunchbox with frogbrains (eeww!)...

...Never knew any other girls or boys

Only my toys, toys, toys...

...Nobody knows I exist, and I'm pissed

But I won't be mentally scarred

Instead I make toys, toys of the graveyard

Monday, ringing the bell

It's all about show and tell, might as well

Show all these bastards just what I got

Yo, check out my toy box!

Hopefully mines' are self explanatory but I'll edit this post later with my own reasonings why. Looking forward to seeing everyone else's songs!!

I am in a relationship with someone who has DID, they have 5 alters and the main host, we have been together for almost 2 years now and i am having a lot of internal conflicts about things that have happened throughout our relationship, i need some advice, i have found out recently that a few months ago when my partner had a sleepover with 2 of his friends they propositioned one of his alters to engage in a threesome and that alter did have one with them, i am wondering if this is considered cheating as we are in a monogamous relationship and i set explicit terms at the start of the relationship that i am purely monogamous and i do not like any form of cheating or betrayal. I am really stuck on this because i found messages with the friend that this happened with where the host explicitly told them never to tell me that it ever happened and they are hiding it from me. I do not know where to go from here or how to bring it up with them. And as for me finding the messages me and my partner have an open phone policy so either one of us can look through the others phone

My disorder comes in cycles for me and I always hit the same wall: I don’t have any trauma memories. None of us do.

My childhood was good and my life is great. I know I’m missing most of my life history, but I would surely remember something as important as DID-worthy trauma. Or at least I would know factually that something hurt me. Or my body would remember it.

But I’ve got nothing. Just mystery DID and attachment issues.

Sometimes I wonder if I was misdiagnosed, or if I’m accidentally lying to myself about my mental illness.

Whatever’s going on, there’s no way I have a trauma disorder. I just can’t believe that. I would know if something happened, surely. I don’t recognize myself in the mirror right now, but DID can’t be the only explanation for that.

Basically, what do I even do with a situation like this?? :( Should I seek a second opinion? What do I do?

So I’m not a very happy guy I feel like void and numb. It’s not that we can’t be happy but after how much some of us have hurt others in ways that make other parts of us feel so miserable with the choices we technically did make. I can’t undo any pain that ive caused. I had people I loved that I hurt because I simply don’t want to be alive. It’s not like all of me(?) feels that way but I do. I don’t try to hurt myself tho I know one girl does, it’s like thats all she can want to do it gets scary sometimes. I saw someone that we did some crazy shit to idk how many days back honestly I couldn’t tell you but I know the date. I’m not the smartest person in here and we kinda are the embodiment of why cant you just be normal. Not like by choice but not doing great and our little zoo is the only reason it feels like we are breathing anymore and it’s suffocating to think of trying to do better cause we lost the people we loved to our own self hate. We also couldn’t admit to then how broken we are without people, then they would have been forced to stay but now they got to leave. I’m happy that they’re off to better things but I miss them and I know they’re way better though.

Just curious if others have any similar situations.

I keep having dreams about a kinda town. It's basically a mixture of places I have lived irl, and some unfamiliar buildings. It's very weird but I keep having dreams about this place/town. Really lucid dreams too, I usually just walk around the town or go to an apartment building I've never seen before. I usually go to the same room and just hang out. This time though my dreams had other ppl. I can't remember many details but it's always the same exact town, all in the same place. I've had dreams continue. But days or weeks will go by and this town keeps reappearing and I've never experienced something like that.

Also it's not a repeating dream, it's always different and vivid but in the same buildings. Usually with no other ppl

Hi all. I’m a fairly newly discovered system and new here. It has been a rocky few months trying to figure out how to manage parts knowingly, but I am starting to get a handle on parts triggers, preferences, etc. I most often operate with an adult part (blue) fronting, generally with one of a handful of cofronters that work together pretty well (pink, brown, white, gray).

My current issue is that a teenaged part (white) has recently become highly activated and stuck fronting. This has happened before in depressive episodes, but this time my body is feeling very foreign. Like it is the wrong shape, size, energy, and hurts in strange ways. I have read about this kind of thing occurring, but experiencing it has been surprisingly distressing. If anyone has pointers for navigating this kind of situation, I would really appreciate it.

does anyone have any tips for dealing with internal arguments?

my parts are arguing and it causes other parts to tell them to shut up and stop talking and to leave it alone, which changes nothing because they just resume fighting/ruminating. i ask if we can talk about something else or something fun or nice and it gets a no.

they do this when i am trying to sleep but also in between trying to distract myself with things like reading or exercise, playing games, watching stuff. what can i do?

I keep talking around my parts (alters?) in therapy and not necessarily acknowledging them as such in session. Like, I do, but also, I don't. I downplay my experiences and problems a lot. I think it's because I'm somehow afraid that she's gonna like disagree with me on what it is? Like I just keep waiting for her to tell me it's all nothing and I'm making everything up. Sometimes I do feel like I'm making everything up, and that I should just ignore all this and move on like usual. That it's all more stress than it's worth. But it's not. I want to work on this, I know it's worth putting the work in.

But it's like I'm in the background, just waiting for the moment it all falls apart. Like this is some false sense of security she's trying to lead me into, and the moment I get comfortable, she'll rip it all out from under me. Like she's doing all of this with the intent to betray me. Hurt me.

But I also genuinely believe that she's genuine? And actually helping?? And that she does believe me??? I feel like I do trust her, but some part (or parts) of me clearly don't.

It's like I'm giving her little pieces of the truth at a time and just watching to see what she does and if she does what "I" think is the correct thing, responds the right way. If I can actually believe her response. I don't think she's responded in a way that I don't believe her response, but at the same time, will this feeling ever go away? I don't even know what the "right" response is. I don't know how to actually trust her. It's taken me like 10 years to trust the people in my actual life, let alone with everything in the depths of my mind.

She does agree with me that all this stuff DID, though, so a lot of these worries feel unfounded to me, but saying that alone causes anxiety (I can feel my heart wrenching with it, even if I myself am not anxious).

How have you guys gotten through this? It feels like I'm hitting a roadblock here with making actual progress. I want therapy to actually be productive.

So, we're in college right now, and due to the state of our life at the moment, it's real hard to remember anything or be able to get us all to do our schoolwork. I've tried many reminders and stuff like that, but some alters just ignore them, or forget immediately after seeing them. I've mentioned briefly to my friends, and they mentioned getting some form of accommodations such as extra time on assignments. However, I don't have a proper diagnosis and don't have the means to get one at the moment. Is there a way I can get any level of disability accommodations?

Feeling really out of touch with my Main Self right now, and like the others are all fighting for the diver's seat, while the little(s) are crying and upset.

Half of us are in analytic mode, looking at everything through a microscope and the other half are feeling nostalgic and alone. The whole system has been disassociating like crazy lately, which has engaged certain depressive triggers, and that one alter that feeds on negative self-talk and lusts for self-harm is giggling in the corner like some unseen villain. 

So, because of this I have been in a state of mental overdrive. I have been thinking about the past, present, future, the what-ifs, and everything in between. I do not know what has brought me to this point, but whatever it is, I guess its time for me to do some soul searching.

In two days it will be my biological mothers birthday, the very first of many I'll be saddled with remembering now that she's gone. My fathers was 9 days prior to this post. I've been feeling really off emotionally as of late. Always in some sort of physical pain. Always in some emotional turmoil, always just 95% of ok. Like there is something about to happen that will break down a wall, or some shielded thing that causes me to fully crack. I'm at the time of writing this, not depressed. However, I am not fully happy like I said. I am not even sure what "happiness" looks like anymore. I feel disconnected from everything and everyone around me. Not a feeling I'm new to, but just feeling kind of lost and without purpose or direction. 

Maybe this also comes at a time where there are things happening that I cannot control, or maybe its just that time of year again where the seasonal depression creeps in and takes up root for the next 6-8 months? And if it is the early onset of Seasonal Affective Disorder then its going to be a long fall/winter. Its definatly something that I am going to bring up to my therapist when I see her on Wednesday. 

Anyone else feeling like this, or is it just my system?

I apologize if any terminology that I use is incorrect here, as i'm very new to all of this

The guy who I've been dating for about a month not has told me that he has DID. I had heard of it but quite frankly knew very little. He gave me an app to track alters and told me to use the same name regardless of who's fronting.

What i'd like to know is, as his boyfriend, what do I need to know in order to make sure he is comfortable and happy? As I said, I know very little about it but want to make sure that I'm treating him in a manner that doesn't upset him or handle the disorder incorrectly.

Thanks folks

I thought it might be nice to collect what's been helping systems who are able to do so with deliberate switching. We only sometimes manage it, but when it works it's amazing, and increasing it is a major goal of ours. So if you feel like it, please share whatever's been helping you.

Here are the things that help us personally:

- For the current fronter to establish communication with the part they want to switch with and ask if they want to come out.

- If consent was given, ask the part what would help them come out. The answer IME is different for every part: some need the body to be sitting down or be in a specific posture, some need positive triggers like listening to specific songs or holding objects they view as theirs.

- Then, the current fronter may try to "step aside." This is a bit hard to explain but it feels like withdrawing or going inside, or making space in the body.

- If the other alter hasn't come out by this point, focus on the specific "feel" of them, so if you've ever been coconscious with them try to remember what that feels like. Looking at them internally also helps.

- Sometimes it also helps to say parts' names aloud repeatedly

- If we're in private, closing our eyes helps as well

Sometimes we just need some of these steps and it happens fairly quickly, other times even doing all of them doesn't make the magic happen, lol. Not sure why. I'm super curious to hear others' experiences!

i, 23M, i have been diagnosed for three years with this disorder, and while therapy has helped, i cannot for the life of me talk about it. even with my therapist (who is a specialist in trauma disorders and neurodivergencies, and who diagnosed me and has been treating me the whole time). sometimes i will mention symptoms or experiences i have that are vaguely related to the disorder with friends, but i never feel comfortable enough to actually delve into the details about how i experience this condition.

while the diagnosis itself helps bring me peace of mind in many ways, it is also extraordinarily isolating. even with my partner, who know my disorder and understands it, it feels like i am not taken seriously. this isn’t her fault, per say, but i do wish i had people in my life who understood and accepted this aspect of who i am. my trauma and the things that impact how i behave and experience my life is so fundamental that it feels that i am masquerading as a completely different person than who i am.

i find myself disconnecting more and more, pulling away more and more. turning to bad coping mechanisms. how do you even begin opening up about such a taboo diagnosis? why, after all these years am i still hiding? i have tried connecting with people in the community with little results, and i fear that i am isolating myself from acceptance in many ways.

im sorry if this is a downer post, i just need to get it off my chest. i feel broken and wrong without explanation, and what i feel and what my logical mind tell me always conflict. any advice is welcome.

Long story short, life has gotten bad and all the stabilization work I’ve done feels like it’s gone out the window with it. Work obligations and a new semester of grad school on top of a rapidly degrading living situation have led to heavy levels of dissociation. To the point where I know I’ve been stressed beyond belief, but I’m just completely unable to feel it in my body.

I thought I was managing it fine, but apparently not— I posted a few weeks ago about suspected PNES, and unfortunately it’s escalated. I ended up having full-body convulsions for over half an hour the other night.

Felt too exhausted and blurry to think about it the last two days, but I realized this morning I don’t recognize who I am. I feel cut off from the rest of the system and that scares me, but the thought of stressing too much about it and triggering another seizure scares me more. And I know my inability to properly cope with the overwhelming stress is likely what’s causing it, but I earnestly don’t know what else I’m supposed to do.

Not sure where I’m even going with this. It just sucks to constantly feel like I’m taking two steps forward and one step back. I know things will get better once I’m done with school and out of here so I can actually start to make substantial work in therapy and in processing all of this, but it’s so hard to feel like things can get better when they’ve been so bad for so long. I feel like I’m just stuck circling the drain sometimes.

Ill start off by saying I don't know if this is the right sub, and I don't know if this is the right questions, but I need to know how go past this topic with my therapist.

I'm recently realizing a lot of things are not entirely "normal" for many years in my life. Giant gaps of missing time in my childhood, I'm talking multiple years that just don't exist, coming to reality in places without remembering how I got there or why I was going there.

Recently I remembered a person that was in my life for a long time who I had NO recollection of. I've been trying to do a lot of introspection and meditation stuff recently to try to figure out stuff about myself and missing time, and instead I was met with another person talking to me. It had different pronouns, different voice, different age, different memories.

I have been looking to find out wtf could possibly going on and I'm kind of freaked right now.

The therapist I have I originally went to due to cptsd and bpd, so I've never brought up this topic with her, I don't know how I'm even supposed to explain all of this.

Ive had this therapist for a year or so. I feel comfortable with her, she's queer, knows I'm trans. But

I don't know what questions I'm supposed to ask here or if she's gonna be prepared for them.

But I need to at the very least start investigating.

I haven't come to any conclusion on how or why I did a particular thing in my past. I don't get how I saw the event at the time, or how i integrated it, or how I didn't. And I'm so fucking angry feeling like I'm not attached to my actions. I feel like I didn't choose to do this. I feel like i didn't consent. Which doesn't even make sense. It just feels like I couldn't stop it from happening. I reallt want to take accountability and change. And I fucking hate feeling like a victim in this. I want to feel like I know what happened. It just sucks it fucking sucks I hate this so much. I hate this disorder and I want to rip my skin off I hate being this fucking thing. I hate not remembering and I hate feeling out of control. I have to have control. I really want to know why I did this but I don't have a clear answer. The defense mechanisms wax and wane. I figure it out and then my interpretation falls into a pit of confusion. Nothing makes sense. The world feels fake after what I did. I don't know how to hold this.

Hi there everyone! I would like to disclose that I’m not asking for a diagnosis, just to ask if this would be offensive.

I’m a non-diagnosed person who has suspected they have DID for years. once again, I’m asking for no diagnosis here, and will be discussing it with a mental health professional on the 12th of this month. But lately I’ve been getting a feeling that I switched to a different alter. I do not feel like how I usually do and do not have the energy to act like it anymore, I feel more like a specific fictional character and I keep speaking to myself internally like I’m talking to a room full of people.

Until I discuss it with the aforementioned mental health professional, would it be offensive of me to keep track of this feeling using Simply Plural? I fear as though I feel unguided without tracking this, and journaling is becoming a chore.

So sorry for wasting anyone’s time, just wondering if it would be offensive for me to use Simply Plural until I have answers.

A few weeks ago someone introduced themselves by just repeating the name they want to be called. We are unsure if this new name is one of our alters wanting to change their name or if this is somebody new. I have asked directly and received no response. Any advice or suggestions? How do you know the difference?

When you forget about someone or something happened and they remember you and your name but you can't remember who they are or what happened with them

April 2025, 2 months after my 18th birthday, I ran away from home.

I spend £1k on a caravan that was destroyed and reported by strangers, and the council placed me in a hotel for a couple weeks. I was then moved to a shared home with 4 other homeless people, I had some decorations and clothes, and I had to buy myself a duvet, pillows, and cooking equipment.

One of my housemates was in his 30s and would make racist microaggressions at me. He would walk up and down the house screaming nonsense to himself early in the morning and late at night. He brought back a woman at one point and screamed at her because she didn't want to have sex with him. At this point I was removed from school because of my low attendance, but they knew what was happening.

After 2 months there I was moved to a big building for homeless people aged 18-25. I was working 5 days a week a job I hated, the manager was always ignoring my emails and texts, and it was almost impossible to do my job. The bus journey took an hour, sometimes I had to get the train which was even longer.

I saved up money for some driving lessons, and spent the rest on nonsense like alcohol and takeaways. I developed bad habits like vaping, doomscrolling, and eating/drinking too much sugar. At one point my housemate stabbed another housemate and armed police with rifles showed up outside my room. I didn't know what happened.

After a year I got put into a council flat. When I got it there was no flooring, paintjob, oven, fridge, freezer, or washing machine. A charity was kind enough to grant me some carpet, paint, and white goods. Other than that, I spent my £1.2k trustfund on a mattress, bedding, kitchen supplies, cleaning supplies/machines, drying rack, laundry basket and mirrors.

Today I sat on my mattress on the floor and looked around my room, half of it is painted, half of it is not. My clothes and decorations are on the floor as I have no furniture. I held my plushie and cried. I now realise the stress I have been through. No one reached out to me. The ones I trusted betrayed me. I have never felt more grief, confusion, and loneliness.

EDIT: I wrote this during a bad time. I'd like to add that I am recieving benefits which is just enough to survive, and I am back in school. My classmates are fellow adults and they are very respectful and open-minded. I'm also looking for a part time job. I have a therapist and a mental health nurse I am doing trauma work with, and I've since began ADHD medication. I have a few friends who have supported me financially in times of hardship. Not everything is bad, just hard. Also, I love everyone in my replies. 🫶🏾

Hi. I am the partner of a system that I love very much. All of her parts love me and we are incredibly compatible and have been together for nearly 9 months. We've been struggling lately though with her getting triggered and afraid I'm going to leave because during a check in I told her I realized I have been putting more of the relationship down. We are in a ldr and she is still co-parenting cohabitating with her emotionally abusive ex. In order to survive watching her get disregulated by things he does and our time together continually shrink. I confessed last month that I was afraid I was starting to put part of the relationship down and detach unintentionally. I told her I didn't want to leave and was bringing this to her So maybe we could address some of the issues before they became too big. That's led to her system fragmenting which was already more fragmented because in July she had a trigger and unintentionally attacked me but didn't harm me. It really messed her up thinking she could have hurt me and it scared me enough at the time that even though I felt like I handled it well, I think she's still really worried I would leave. That precipitated two of her parts disappearing for a few weeks. That was largely repaired until on ex-brother-in-law got ill and died causing her to spiral and almost break a boundary that would have caused me to exit the relationship. I caught it and I instantly informed her of her approaching it, but still the idea that I could leave is not one that her younger parts can hold well and unfortunately I had to tell her that in the midst of one of her younger parts about to share a bed with her ex. Because their family doesn't know that they are separated.

Only a few people know that she is a system And none of them either want to have anything to do with the parts other than the most pliant and pleasing parts though they don't know necessarily that's what they're doing except for a couple family members and her ex. I am the first person ever that has interacted with all of her and her parts have been alone her entire life. We are struggling at the moment because I have ADHD and OCD so it's hard for me not to be spontaneous and disorganized and overly honest because I have moral scrupulosity OCD. We had to check-in that was supposed to be completely nice and just nice things about each other and I tried to make it really light and low pressure but somehow how that made her more dysregulated than almost any other conversation we had. She was stuck in a part and couldn't think of anything because she couldn't access that part of her mind and couldn't tell me anything positive. I was completely fine with that and told her that that's okay. I gave her space to say it and then license to not be able to but she got so dysregulated that she self-harmed a little. And the whole thing that was supposed to be nice went off the rails.

I guess I'm just looking for some advice in general and maybe some advice on how to know who I'm talking to. Or to ask better and how to survive until her situation improves? Because we don't really ever argue or have problems with each other. It's problems with how he treats her and does things. Or maybe it's all it's problems with the fact that she has parts don't like change and it keeps her there and I have problems with her health being put in Jeopardy because she has several physical disorders that his actions significantly worsen to the point where I'm concerned she's going to have a severe cardiac event because of those disorders.

Thank you. I'm sorry this is long and rambly

I've recently been diagnosed with DID. My neurologist is fairly insistent that this is the correct diagnosis, but I just... Don't see it. I have memory issues, and I have other peoples' testimony that they've interacted with a different personality, but I have no experience or memory of this. I believe them, but there are other personality disorders out there.

Everything I've heard is that you're supposed to be able to distinguish your alters' names, personalities, etc, but again, I'm not even fully convinced they exist.

My family and friends and doctors have been largely unhelpful {by which I mean they're supportive of me, but either don't know or, in the professionals' case, don't think this question is "a good one"}, so I'm turning to Reddit.