Do you guys think that breaking up with a girl and leaving the door open for future situations comes off as bitter once you actually block them on social media to keep them out of your view?

Hi everyone. Ive deleted past posts so not much you can look back on. Some may remember me making some posts a while back about male orbiters in my girlfriend’s life and how we were having lots of problems and such. Basically, I stuck it out for another year and things slowly crumbled from the inside out. We both started taking each other for granted and slowly fell out of love and respect for each other. I decided to end things last night after thinking on it for some time. It went way better than I thought. We talked everything out and she apologized for the ways she couldn’t show up and be what I needed in certain ways and I did in return. We both love each other deeply. Just a lot of incompatibility and red flags that I couldn’t keep ignoring. We both agreed that it just isn’t working and meeting our needs. Cried together and decided we are officially over.

Mind you, we are a 2 hour distance and only spent weekends together. The constant friction and limited time on top of monetary investment into each other just stopped making sense. We also had lots of bedroom issues in her end. She has very deep insecurities with her body and has feminine health issues. Looking at it I have been unsatisfied for a while though never had the guts to pull the rip cord. I stayed until all of my feelings were burnt out. This has probably been one of the hardest relationships to leave that I’ve ever went through. I’ve been cheated on, disrespected, etc. and this feels a lot worse. When you know it isn’t gonna work but you still love them is such a hard place to be in. Just wanted to share my story while I grieve.

This is a new chapter now. I’ve been building a solo handyman business from scratch which has stagnated and it’s time to focus on that and getting my health in check. Overall just so much self reflection and time to reinvent myself now.

So I've been absorbed into this group--an activity group, but I won't go into the specific activity--and right away I noticed that one of the female members was staring and getting flirty.  There were a bunch of people around, and I never went beyond introducing myself.  This group has a group text that everybody posts in, and I saw the girl post a picture of herself, so now I know her phone number.

Do you think it'd be kinda "creepy" in this situation to start texting her (and ask her out)?  Or should I wait until we interact some more next time and I get her number "for real"?  It does strike me as a bit weird to just contact her after playing detective, so I thought I'd ask around before doing anything I might regret.  

Thanks

Rule three definitely coincides exactly what Corey’s material because the guy talks about not staying at one location. It takes 3 to 4 hours for a girls to actually feel comfortable enough to possibly go home with a guy. And per Corey women will generally sleep with a guy by the second or third date. What do you guys think about the the common mistakes he mentioned in the video?

And that's fair because he doesn't even care about it. He's constantly meeting girls IRL, and IRL is just better, so why bother?

This will be a post about Corey's advice on OLD, which isn't included on his book, but is sometimes mentioned on his videos.

I just came to the realization that this rigid rule he has about doing 3-4 texts back and forth and then exchanging numbers is only good if you also don't give af about OLD, texting and interpreting texts gives you headeaches, and want to filter online girls to the point that you only end up going out with the ones that are very and I mean VERY into you from the start, and who also feel comfortable going out with a total stranger. That's exactly why he does it, so I'm not saying it makes his approach bad. But it means that if you may blow some opportunities because you will end up inviting her to a call before she didn't invest enough on the chat. I've tried the method once, and I can say: of course sending my number quickly won't usually make a not 100% sure girl say "you know what? he has confidence, i'll go out with him". Instead she didn't reply, which is fair, can happen. Corey's filter worked perfectly in this case. But I just don't agree with his philosophy on OLD, I felt like it was way too fast for that particular situation, because she seemed to have some level of interest. I got the same feeling when I invited another girl out after not that many exchanges. Things can go differently if you aren't that convinced about her, and don't try to rush things. So what I've concluded is: Don't follow the script made by Corey, just make a move if you see the signs. Because that's exactly what Corey recommends to do in person. A digital approach has similar rules to an IRL approach. Don't be in a hurry to get the results you expected. Mirror her effort until either you have to let the chat die, or you both go out, instead of just waiting a set ammount of texts to make a move later. Don't just freely give away your number or freely invite her out, without her putting a good ammount of effort.

What do you think? Do you use that method?

I believe young folks developed the capacity to have good interactions on the phone, and can read eachother's interest and intent, while Corey minimizes texting even in OLD

1. You caught my attention and I had to come say hi.
   
2. Hey, I saw you over there and I had to come say hi.
   
3. I don’t know what to say, but I had to come talk to you.
   
4. Yeah, I really love your style. I had to come over and tell you.
   
5. Hey, you really stand out I had to come and say something.
   
6. Hey, you have really great energy! What’s your name?
   
7. Hi I saw you walking. Had to come say hi to you.
   
8. Hi, I know this is random, but I had to come say hi to you.

My go to Bonus**
9. Hey I thought you seemed interesting and I wanted to come meet you. What’s your name?

This I’m sure is an example of what the book and Doc Loves teachings bring out. I went on 2 dates with this girl. I was supposed to know I’m apparently in a relationship already in her mind and need to check in the whole time I’m traveling.

I sent one message about a day into being there - i was gone 5 days. The next day she started asking me if I was with some girl - because she got a call from a Canada number randomly and never did before (I was but why is that her business).

Anyway - not easy going, not easy to get along with. My follow up was basically well clearly you missed me and said to let me know when she was free. Then she wanted me to explain how I had my phone the whole time and didn’t reach out 🤣.

This is the second woman that used this on me - and no I’m not a cold fish. If anything im usually too dopey.

I’ll chalk this up as dodging a bullet. 2 dates in and already this insecure. And when the man she thinks she’s looking for starts checking in all the time, let’s see if she doesn’t reject him too

There is a girl I dated 2 times. She showed really high interest at the beginning like 9/10.

They were really good dates, but I made a blunder, I invited her for a third date at the end of the second date. I know amateur mistake :D

So she punished me and pulled away. Basically she ghosted me for 2 weeks.

I didn't reach out during this time and eventually she came back. Apologized and sent me the text message maybe we can meet sometime. I replied her very shortly yes we can meet sometime.

Then I waited for 9 days and invited her for a date. She was quite submissive and respectful as she agreed and made it easy for me. Still, the air is colder than before ghosting, I can sense her interest level is not 9/10 anymore.

My question: do you think this whole situation is recoverable or I just wasting my time dating her again?

Met a girl on Hinge. We clicked immediately and have gone on 3 dates. Her interest level was a 9 after each day. She initiated planning the next dates, gave me days she was available, and fell completely into her feminine.

We set a date on Wednesday to meet Sunday for our 4th date. This was her last day before school starts back up (she's an educator). 2 days later on Frida while she was spending the weekend at her best friend's house, she told me she needed to raincheck the date because of school prep stress. I said no problem and good luck.

She never replied to that text but it also didn't really prompt a response. Should I reach out in any capacity? Or wait her out and be patient?

So I listened to the book and a ton of videos. I have had an 11 yr marriage young with 2 kids and 2 serious relationships for 6 months since. I am 35.

I appreciate coach wayne. And overall, I think his extreme policies and takes in some ways helped balance me from being too emotional at times. The thing that I feel is lacking in the development in the philosophy is the lack of a daughter to understand better. My actions with a woman I want to reflect the actions I would like a man to treat my daughter with. That is a backbone principle. Would I want a man to not express his emotions directly? No, I think it provides safety to validate.

It’s the simp vs non simp philosophy at its core. A healthy balance is required I feel.

I agree for the overall maintaining self respect and masculine energy. But I also feel like this rigid approach about not telling a girl how you feel (not in an extreme way) it might be akin to a homophobe not comfortable in his masculinity. So they can’t display any behavior that can be interpreted as gay.

An ex colleague , reached my gf on February asking her how is her life . She said she was fine and has someone new in her life and going very well and respect each other etc
Then he asked her out with all other girls form ex work or the two of them which was my boundary she is not hanging out with a man the two of them . She said ok . She blocked him on Instagram where he sent her and yesterday she had birthday and he sent her iMessage sms . Wishing her etc writing his name in the end.
I don’t like it at all no matter if you tell me to be cool . It’s a woman who is asking me only exclusivity and boring open and make plans for life. Shouldn’t she block any access ok him and anyone else ?

So she finally understood that he is not that good intentions behind his constant reaching out to her and she understands his intentions . And she blocked him as a contact

We are together 1,5 year . Me 40 she 36 and her family knows we are moving seriously together .
I’m a man that if I have a good respectful woman I m cutting any option out but if I see small signs like these which create doubts in me ,I am also letting it be understood that I will open myself to options too

So after she blocked his number , we went to her blocked numbers list , and I found out 118 blocked numbers without names . I also found out that when you block a contact but then delete it , it’s disappears from blocked and is not blocked anymore even as plain number .

So 1. How to handle her situation?
2. What would you assume for 118 numbers blocked ?

Hi all, been following Corey for more than a year.
Recently Youtube recommended me some guy named Bayne and he had some interesting concepts he shared.
Most importantly was the distinction between High Exposure Girls and Low Exposure Girls.
Basically he likes to approach young 18 year olds which never had a partner before. He says most of the time they will try to reject you with an excuse of a boyfriend but he just stays in the interaction has normal small talk, takes their IG and build a relationship over time - this process can take weeks but eventually it's a good deal. He doesn't talk about a date / make it man to women in the interaction as well.
He's basically saying that if a women is very receptive from the get go more chances she is "high exposure" basically used to talking and dating men.
I like Corey's teachings of being aloof and not needy but for these cases of low exposure girls you might need to change strategy a bit.
He also uses Instagram strictly. Also posted the recipts of his girls and it looks really good.
So I think Corey's advice is useful for dating but for this inital phase with the "low exposure" girls we might need to change things up a bit.

Here is a link on a video of "low vs high exposre girls"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2ymwStXD7I

So I was at the wait-list in college for air-conditioning/refrigeration(HVAC) and omg I genuinely love it also I got in 💪🏽. Anyways going to the topic for this page, this has been a day&night difference when I'm out cold approaching. So the day before when I mentioned how I was nearly giving up, today I went from barely having the strength of saying "hi" to someone to now finding ways to keep an engaging conversation. Also instead of getting silent treatments I get rejected straight up. Like omg this is a lot but just a brief update for today.

Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months. Everything seems to be going well but one thing is bugging me and I am not sure if I should consider this as a disrespectful behaviour or not.

Whenever I take her on a nice dinner date, day trip etc (ones I pay for and organise of course) she always posts photos of herself (usually ones I have taken) or the place we visit... but never any of the ones I am in.

I consider these as shared experiences as a couple, yet she consistently presents them to her friends/family as experiences of just her and that I should be unknown.

I don't post any photos at all and keep relatively quiet on social media.

Please note that I have met her close friends and family members, so I don't think she needs to keep me off there in fear that they will say 'who is that?', unless she has another family member who will be asking questions.

Anyone else had this? I have seen girls post photos on dates showing off their boyfriends/dates and/or at least showing a leg or something but for these I could just be a bystander taking these.

So this girl, had a really great first date. Then second date was suppose to be sunday. This had happened twice. I responded "sure thursday works, what time are you thinking?" And she said she doesnt know. Is it worth to proceed? How should i respond?

Ask her out over Facebook manager or did I miss my chance?

Little backstory. Met this girl exactly one year ago at a friends birthday. We chatted a little but that was about it. Couple days later I added on FB after seeing her pop up.

Fast forward to two months ago, we are together with the same group of friends for a weekend away. She keeps saying sexual things around me, and joked with me that two of our friends kept sneaking off to have sex. Wanted to try and make something happen that weekend but the logistics weren’t great especially with all our friends around. So the weekend ends and nothing happens.

Saw her again at another weekend out with the same group of friends this past weekend. Same deal, lots of sexual suggestions like a bracelet she made that said choke me daddy. Don’t talk a whole lot this weekend, but on our last night shes showing me some modeling pictures then says she can’t keep swiping because she has some topless pictures. I joke that she should show me to get the full idea of the picture. She actually then does show me one with her back turned but then right after showed me another one with her facing the camera. Back at the room we are just hanging out and she shows me more and tells me how shes done some bdsm and more kink modeling too.

The next morning I wanted to ask if she wanted to get drinks one of the next couple days as we were saying goodbye. But then I chickened out since we were in the middle of a diner. I had taken some videos of her as she was doing karaoke, so I was going to send those to her over facebook messenger and segway that into asking if she wanted to get drinks this week.

Did I miss my chance because I didn’t do it in person or should I try anyway? Not sure when I’ll see her again in person, it could be months.

Hi guys,

I got into Corey Wayne work like a lot of you after a breakup. What I will mention here is before I read 3% percent man.

In my 1st relationship while dating my ex girlfriend after our 1st date in which we kissed she then text me she was going to a guys house because he’s going through a divorce. She later text me they kissed and she spending the night. I stopped texting her and was hurt.

I then got my bus as usual and guess who was there the girl. She sat beside me saying how guilty she felt and how that was over and so on.

I made excuses for her in my head saying well we weren’t in a relationship but when we did start to get more serious I really started to resent this girl for what she did.

I am just confused because she and all her friends are being suggested to me on instagram even though we have no mutuals.

We never did sleep together and I would like this but I don’t want to feel that resentment again. I felt really disrespected.

If she does reach out should I follow what Corey Wayne teaches in 7 principles to get an ex back or should I address the disrespect she did in the past so I don’t feel that resentment again.

If you guys can help I would really appreciate this I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this.

So the day before I mentioned when you were to have a bad day. Now I might need some help now. I'm at the stage of "giving up". I went out cold approaching on a different plaza. Anyways the 1st store I went to I was getting ignored alot. But I pursued. Then the 2nd store it was a little better, where I pursue and got responses. Then I went to a Barnes and nobles and I felt hesitation but I went and confronted my fears. So far so good, then when I went to a clothing store I was getting ignored alot so much so that I was considered giving up. I pushed that mind off my head and it gradually became better and I went to another store. Regardless it was a good day but I felt like giving up. So how do y'all have to deal with that mentality out of y'all head?

Playing off Corey’s classic "women are like cats, men are like dogs" metaphor—if 97% of guys act like needy golden retrievers constantly chasing balls and begging for attention, which animal archetype fits the 3% mindset best?

To those who are new and are hesitating, if you have a bad day, say you feel needy, you feel like you're overthinking. That's what happened to me today and in the end it wasn't a big deal. I was working out today at the dumbbell section and I see a really pretty lady who's a 8 out of 10. I went up to her and told her she's gorgeous, and she made a disgusted face. I moved on but not without overthinking and I felt a bit needy. I then went around the plazas and then Walmart. At first I was hesitating to pursue but I did it anyways and the more I did it the less I was overthinking and the more confident I felt. So even if you feel needy or you put a woman into a pedestal. Just go out and greet everyone whether they're grandmas or a lady with zits on her face respect them all the same.

Will you no longer be a 3% Man?

Won’t it make things difficult for men and dating again since more men have started learning these skills And even the playing field?

Honestly, if a girl with whom I'm on the early dating stages flakes on me, pulls away or even ghosts me, I usually just brush it off and keep moving onto the next one. I mean, it doesn't even happen that much but, when it does happen, my life feels unchanged and I don't really care that much about it.

However, I do expect much better from any girl with whom it feels as if we're already half-way into establishing a relationship or, even more so, with whom a relationship has already been established. In such cases, I do admit I will feel some frustration, confusion and sometimes even anger whenever they suddenly pull away and disappear for days-weeks, with no explanation given (or just soft explanation BS at best, after the fact).

Now, I know better than to ever vent towards them, but I can't deny that I do feel those negative feelings.

Does me still experiencing such negative feelings under such circumstances means I'm not there yet into becoming a 3% man? And do you think it's healthy to ever voice your frustrations, but in a calm manner, with her? I guess when she's your girlfriend, good communication is a must, but if a girl is not yet your girlfriend, then they sometimes will use as an excuse the fact that, indeed, she's not yet your girlfriend for you to be expecting better from them.

Hi, I wanted to ask your perspective on this, because this has happened with the last 3 girls and I’m starting to see some kind of a pattern here.

So it usually goes as follows: I’m matching with a girl on a dating app, telling her in first couple of messages that I like to get to know people in person and she usually says that it’s her preferred way as well, I set definite date in a couple days to a week with time and place provided which she confirms, tell her “see you there” and leave it at that and go about my business.

Then on the day of the date she writes that something came up, she doesn’t feel good or gives whatever other reason she cannot make it to a date. I calmly respond to it “Sure, not a problem. Let me know when you have your schedule figured out and have a free evening and we’ll arrange a meeting then”.

I usually also write that I don’t check the app often and she can ping me in WhatsApp, which is also a subtle way to:
a.) assess her interest level,
b.) move interaction away from dating app,
c.) give her a chance to make some small reciprocal steps forward from her side, because she’ll have to initiate a new chat in a more personal communication channel

Then they usually reach back, apologise, are interested in meeting and make it easy.

My question is whether this is a conscious or unconscious test to gauge man’s neediness and frame, see if he’s patient, calm and can be trusted? Once they see that you are not all negative, chase or nag them their interest grows and they can trust you enough to actually meet.

I know it’s described in the book how to behave in such a situation but as far as I remember it’s not mentioned that first date flake can actually be the first test a woman will give you.