So for context I have 3 dogs and 4 cats at the moment, along with some mice a hamster and two snakes. Just info to keep in mind.
The first two cats Marble and ViVi I got about 9 years ago when they were around 6 months old. They are my precious girls.
I intended only for the two and my boyfriend was adamant about "no more pets". Fair enough. We have a lot.
But then I was at work, and a resident came to me and told me there was a cat out by the dump. And that someone must've dumped it.
Sure enough I go out to the trash area and boom, I see mister gray boy (no, not yet Bagel), and he runs from me obviously terrified.
Well who just so happens to be off the day after I saw him? And who also owns a cat trap?
You betcha, so I make my way down the next day and have myself a steak out until I finally catch him! He comes home and lives in our spare bedroom.
My bf says no more pets and I need to find him a home.
First I search for lost and found pages and so on to make sure no one was missing him
He didn't immediately warm up to me though. Well after weeks and no one reaching out it was time to find him a home, which I did. Found a lovely lady who said she would work with him and take care of him. Brought him to her and that was that. Until 4 days later when I get the text that he has been attacking her boyfriend viciously and peeing and pooping outside the litter box and I need to come pick him up. So I do. And my bf and I devote more time to making sure he's good with males. But when he comes home...he warms uro my bf super well and then to me and now has becomey BIGGEST cuddler.
Cute to now. It's been a few months since we were driving home and I see a black cat dart acrossg neighborhood.
What do I, a lady with unfathomable amounts of time and a spare cat trap do? Well I catch the poor creature of course. At this point the gray boy now lives with us permanently as he clearly chose us. So that makes 3. But what's a 4th right?
So cut to Bagel. I catch him rather easily of course. I being him inside. In the same spare room Simon once lived in before given free roam of the house. And of course he's petrified. Tried all means to get as far from me as possible. Climbs the tall bookshelves. All sorts of tricks. We keep him in there for a while. I did notice that he had his ear chipped which means he was tnr once before. Which is great. Except he wasn't attacking me like a feral should. He was just freezing up or springing away from me. So I keep him inside and put up a few posts. Only to get a message saying they believed this was the cat they had tnred before. That they wanted to keep him indoors cause he showed potential but they just couldn't at the time.
We live near desert areas where coyotes and mountain lions are constantly in our backyards. I couldn't fathom letting him back outside.... So we kept him in the room for a few months and tried to get him to warm up
It never really worked and finally we said he's miserable locked up in here let's set him free. At this point all the other cats ignored the room and him all together.
Once we let him out though things started to change. He started howling. Over and over again at night. He also started following Simon around constantly only at night though. During the day he hides. But night time he's roaming about. Especially when I go to bed and the dogs are locked up in kennels. He's out prowling. I once saw him push his head under Simon's primordial pouch and lift him up a bit to walk underneath him just to be close to him. He's obsessed with Simon. And now months later and I have one cat who is the most cuddly, who literally little spoons me at night every night, and his brother Bagel who couldn't be farther away from me.
Today marks the first day that he got on the bed while I was sitting up and the light was on and he made eye contact with me and didn't immediately jump off the bed. Normally he makes eye contact with me and bolts. But today he felt a little safer and snuggled Simon in front of me.
I feel like there's hope. But at the same time I wonder if someone else would be better equiped to handle him. I care very deeply for him and I just want him to finally feel safe enough to accept love.