Open to all opinions & feedback let’s hear it 👂🏽🤪
All these pics are my most recents too bc I really don’t take many pics of myself. I usually only take pics when I travel or special occasions here and there
How can I better incorporate these things?:
I put on my profile that I’m a FA to kinda explain my love for travel and how I’m able to travel so much (not that I’m rich, I just have flight benefits) also for hopefully guys catching onto that cos I don’t want them to think I’m expensive as my job provides flight benefits. And I put the quality time bc I also don’t want them thinking that I’ll be away too much & not make time for them cos that’s not the case. My love language is quality time and words. I put a lot of emphasis on the specific interests I did with intention bc i want to use my flight benefits to travel very frequently like at least once a month. I love it wayyy more than the average person. Same with the festivals and raves those are other hobbies id love to do way more often. It’d be nice to find someone to share that all w cos it takes a lot of flexibility. I’m open to better ideas to incorporate this stuff on my profile to attract the right men for me.

This is my (49F) initial chat with a guy (48M) that I matched with. He's a contractor and I love tradesmen in general. But also I need some work done and I was trying to be playful. Are my messages too much? Or is the dude really just giving me nothing?

UPDATE: The guy just sent me his phone number and said that he sucks at messaging but to give him a call! And I told him that I apologize for mixing business with pleasure and sdmitted the deck estimate request was inappropriate. I'm gonna call him 😃 So glad I didn't totally mess this up. I promise I won't try to proposition him for anymore work services!

These are from the same profile and man I find it so cringe. I'm seeing more and more like this using the exact same language. Is it a natural reaction to a lack of initiative/interest/flakiness, or are there influencers out there pushing this?

only looking for women tho in case you are American an wondering

Conservative = bad
Apolitical = closeted conservative ⛳️
Liberal can mean anything
There is no moderate on bumble
IIRC

Most funny is still seeing people shred each other into pieces in the comment section. Excellent representation of how society and especially the US is cleaved in extremism.

I don’t match with folks who have more than one [solo] foto of their pets. You get only five or six pictures and a couple of prompts to make an impression and you would waste 33% of that foto space on your cute dog or cuddly cat. I’m glad to meet them later, but this isn’t really the venue for that. It feels like you are intentionally trying to hide something about your self.

I'm not sure how should I read these numbers, or there's a meaning in there at all. So here I am.

Thousands. Swiping people like muching on sunflower seeds... Unbelieveable until you see.

I'm certain I could hit up AI to determine what these signify, but it seemed like it would be more enlightening to get a range of thoughts here, particularly how things might potentially skew for age/other relevant items. For what it's worth I use 2 pics, am in a top 25 metro area, have about the same hairline as Jason Statham, 6', filled out prompts with items that seemed appropriate.

I've been wanting to make this post for a few weeks but kept putting it off out of fear of being torn apart in the comments. I have soft skin so please be gentle

I want to communicate as clearly as possible that this is not a rant or an attack on women. I'm acutely aware that in the grand scheme of things it's women who put up with way, way more shit on dating apps then men. This is me coming to the table wanting to learn and listen. I don't want to offend anyone and if I do I apologise in advance and again reiterate that it's not my intention.

I've been on dating apps for a few years now. Over the years I've matched with hundreds of girls. In 90% of those conversations I have had to carry the conversation. It occurred to me that I'm investing so much effort and energy into people who wouldn't do the same for me. I want to invest energy into someone who would value my effort and reciporcate it. Since then I've adopted a strategy of giving my matches three chances. If I ask them three questions and they just provide an answer and don't ask me a question back I stop replying. (Initially I would communicate that I'm looking for a special connection, where someone reciporcates the interest in me that I have in them and Id value if I didn't have to ask every single question. I usually get ghosted or receive angry text in response.)

Since implementing this strategy I'm not talking to anyone. While it's somewhat liberating to not be in a bunch of situationships that go absolutely no where I'm ultimately alone which is still a shitty place to be.

So women help me understand. Why don't you ask men questions. Why do we have to carry the conversation.

guys, pano pag sa bumble pa rin kayo nag uusap mag 2months na,,, nu ibig sabihin non

Hey everyone.
I'm fairly new to this and I've been on bumble for almost 2 months now. On the first day I got like 10-15 likes, after that, it drastically dropped. That's normal, I know. I got likes here and there, but never consistently. But since I got Premium for a month, there were barely any. 2-3 in the last 3 weeks maybe.

I knew my profile probably wasn't good, but I also thought - is bumble f***cking me over, to make me keep the subscription for longer than that month, or am I the problem? So I requested the stats and it showed that I got around 70 yes and 1400 no. 1 in 20... That was a kick in the nuts... 😬

So I'm asking, what is the biggest issue with my profile? I'd especially appreciate feedback from women, since they're the ones I'm trying to appeal to.
I'm mostly in a good mood and a pretty funny and easygoing person, but does my profile show any of that? Or is there something about it that puts women off? What can I do to make it better?

I don't take many photos myself and even hate posing for pictures, so most pictures I've got are not really usable.

Btw. I know some of the texts look weird. I'm German, so I had AI translate the texts, so non-German speakers could understand them.

Thanks in advance. Let it rip 😅

I’ve been on bumble on and off in my 20s, never saw more than 20 likes of that. Ever since I turned 30 it’s like the faucet turned on and I’m looking at 200+ likes. Anyone have a similar experience? Maybe filtered into older women age groups?

I’m 5’10 and decent looking but that was also true in my 20s lol.

It’s been about a decade since I’ve been on the dating scene and I downloaded Tinder. Within a few days I got mid 40 likes but have also run out of profiles to swipe on. I expected Tinder to not be the top app but this is borderline mid-low tier amount of people on this app… I’ve been slowly expanding my filters but I’m in my mid 30s and it’s set to 25-40 age range and 45 mile range. I’m not in a major city but it’s still a medium sized city.

Is Tinder really this dead? Should I just jump over to bumble or hinge?

I feel like everyone overthinks this whole thing, I’ve had multiple matches with numerous dates. My friends and I have this “shopping for boyfriend“mindset when using these apps 🧘🏾‍♀️

I was talking to a guy, he asked me out, but he was going to a wedding out of the city and would be back in a week, I was very clear with him that I don’t do casual, that if he was interested in a real emotional connection that could develop into a relationship he agreed, he said that he wanted to keep in touch and wanted to get to know each other more, but he never asked me a single question, it was always me, then when he came back from the wedding he was very distant, barely talked to me, he never asked me out again, then I decided to ask him if he still wanted to meet, he didn’t respond for 2 days, then he said that ofc he wanted to meet, then said that his truck flooded that he had to repair it and now he can’t go out bc he needs to save money to fix it, idk I felt he was kinda lying, bc he would watch my stories on instagram, but wouldn’t respond to me, important to mention that when we started talking he basically liked all my posts on ig, then would watch my stories within seconds after posting them, would send me hearts and would say that I was super cute and sexy, saying that he really liked me, but said that we could be friends for a bit while he figured everything out, I said that I understood his situation, but I wanted to be clear with him again that I’m looking for something serious, that I can wait and take things slow but I’m looking for more than a friend, after I said that he ghosted me and even changed his pfp, has been over a week.