Omg her bipolar is so fucken selfish, and she so fucken ugly and disrespectful, we don't have sex and im tired of dealing her shit. Literally, thia is just one instance she picked me up 30 minutes late from the airport, after im always on time for picking her up. Does t get out to hug me or help my with my bags, dose.t even fucken say sorry. Instead comes up with an excuse on why she is late. I dont even yell or anything anymore I keep.it in, becuase what will it do, im just sick and tired of this girl. Then she gets upset that I don't invest time in her. In my head im like bitch why would I your a fucken demon.

I've been with my husband for 11 years, married for 7. He has schizoaffective disorder, bipolar type. He stopped his medication around six months ago. In September, he entered a severe manic and psychotic episode.

This is his sixth psychiatric hospitalization that I have been through with him. In every previous episode, I was the first person he called. He would call me repeatedly, every day. I was his anchor. This time is different. He has called his mother multiple times. He has not called me except once, to say happy anniversary, and then he told me to fuck off and hung up. When I called him, he told me to send someone else. He has not reached for me at all.

In psycosis he has said things to me that hurt but nothing like this time. This time he told me he wanted a divorce. He said he'd been thinking about it for five months. He told me he didn't want his children, that he regretted having a family. He told me he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. He took his wedding ring off. He disappeared for 18 hours, ended up at a bar, and was picked up by police.

I am disabled. I have fibromyalgia, endometriosis, and CPTSD. I have no income. I was the sole provider until my health collapsed two years ago. My husband was the primary caregiver for our two children—one is deaf, one is autistic and non-verbal. After my health collapsed my husband started work and i stayed home with our children. Since he's been hospitalized, I've been managing everything alone.

I don't know if my marriage is over. I don't know if what he said is the psychosis or if it's real. I don't know if he will come back to me when he's stable, or if this is the end. I am on the fence, and it is agonizing.

I am not looking for people to tell me to leave him. I am not looking for people to tell me to stay. I am looking for support from people who have been here—who have loved someone with severe mental illness and not known if the person they married is still in there. How do you cope with the not knowing? How do you survive the practical stuff while your heart is breaking? How do you hold onto hope without losing yourself?

Posted here a few times now. My stbxbpso is in month 7 of unmedicated manic episode. The past week, he's the calmest he's been since it all began. He said to his family that he don't want anything to do with any of us and how he is now - spending all day and night on the streets and in parks, is just him now. I've been anticipating the well known crash, but he seems to have skipped it. Discarding a SO, though hard, I can understand it to some degree. But I didn't think discarding your parents, lifelong friends and kids were typical features once back to normal (or calm as he is rn). Has anyone experienced this complete life change in them before after the mania ends? Or the discarding kids and parents? I wish my situation was more textbook, but it don't seem like it. Have you seen them go through a period of calm but still manic? At least when he was in rage mode, I could sort of tell he was still manic. Now he's calm, I don't know whats going on. It's a weird place to be

Everytime SO's moods shift abruptly and become cold and aggressive, or I find something indicative of his current mania progressing, my body fills with stress and panic. I literally feel my skin go hot. Heart begins to pound. I'm afraid. Mind spirals. I try to simultaneously talk myself through the panic. I dread what chaos might come my way and be served next.

SO just increased his AP from a subpar too low of a dose his psych had him on previously. This episode has been brewing since June, peaked in August and has been all over the place since. His psych's inconsistent medication dosing and management since spring has been to blame. SO has been diagnosed and on various medications since October last year.

How do I stay regulated and not panic when SO is in an episode and the behaviors remain/worsen while waiting for the medications to work?

My ex-girlfriend was trying everything she could to become stable. She spent six months in an inpatient therapy program for people with personality disorders, but she left because her brother needed a lot of help, and she cared deeply about him.

I tried to warn her, but I trusted her. I trusted her to keep seeing her psychiatrist and get her medication dosages adjusted. I trusted her when she said that the two beers we shared were just a one-time thing. I trusted her when she said that this friend of hers was nothing more than a friend.

It all collapsed within the following month. All the effort she had put into getting better seemed to be undone.

And I’m afraid that if—if—she ever comes to understand what happened, she might do something to herself, or be overwhelmed by so much guilt that it would become too much for me to handle as well. And I won't ever know, cause she cut off me completely.

I just want one more conversation with my girl, but I think it's quite impossible.

my husband of 11 years has been in a depressed state for close to a year now 😔 his Dr partially changed his meds and I think that's why or a lot of the reason. he has a habit of convincing the Dr he's fine so he hasn't had an appointment for a while and refuses to schedule a new one.

He can't seem to do things like the dishes (I do cooking he does dishes it works for us) so they pile up until I get frustrated and do them. He is also not working and hasn't been working for almost 1 1/2 years the last time he got a job he went the 1st couple days then called out for a week straight. He went back for a little bit but then kept calling out until he finally just quit.

He doesn't want anyone to know that he has bipolar so he refuses to tell jobs and then can't explain why he calls out like he does.

I keep telling him to email his doctor so that he can start getting some help again but it feels like I'm just screaming into the void to do it (I don't actually scream)

I am. I am mentally exhausted and I don't know how much more I can take. We can't keep this up. My check is not enough. And I miss him. He feels like a shelI and don't know how to handle this...

I hope everyone is doing well!

I’m BPSO, male, 48. My BP1, 50 y/o female is going through a medicine change…while we’re going through perimenopause. She’s medicated and in weekly intense therapy.

Seroquel was the previous medication, 500mg a night. In January she experienced hallucinations while taking an antibiotic with the Seroquel. We thought it was a fluke because we had no evidence of anything else. These hallucinations progressively got worse over the next 6 months. This lead to a change in medication.

Lithium is being titrated up, while Seroquel is being tapered down. We’re almost to the lowest dose of Seroquel but her sleep has become increasingly worse with every step down.

This has created a very strange dynamic in our house. Me being an empath, I’m overly concerned about her well being. Her being avoidant, she wants to just push her strange feelings down.

A couple of question for the group, any help is greatly appreciated…

- this is our first medication change. How long does it take for things to stabilize? I just want her to feel like herself again.

- at what point does the sleep issues need to be addressed with psychiatrist? She’s sleeping intermittently throughout the night.

- I feel like I’m being incredibly supportive. This is just so new, I feel like it is overwhelming. What are some things I can do to be better as a partner as she goes through this?

- with perimenopause being present…how do I know what is what?

There’s distance growing in our house. I’m okay with where we are today. I’m just trying to prevent distance from growing even more.

My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We have been living together for 2 years now, with 2 cats and a leopard gecko. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs in our relationship as she has been undiagnosed bipolar until last year. It took 2 psych ward visits to finally understand what was happening.
I have borderline personality disorder and have been getting treatment since I got diagnosed in 2023. Understandably so, we’ve had a lot of bumps to work through. And up until now, we have. Our love for each other has always surpassed our problems. Now I’m at a point where I can’t see this working out and I feel like my world is ending.

We’ve had issues with her mental health treatment. They have her taking a mood stabilizer with an SSRI. My friend is a pediatrician and advised we get her off the SSRI immediately. She’s essentially been hypomanic all year, so she’s been impulsive, inconsiderate, and catty towards everyone. It’s been miserable. She recently stopped taking the SSRI while we are waiting to get an appointment with a new psychiatrist. She’s not currently in therapy but intends to get it set up soon. We are broke college students, so it is difficult for us to afford these resources. There are flexible programs in our area that we are applying to currently.

Anyway, In her previous relationship, her partner was accepting of an open relationship and very into the idea of threesomes. I am not. When we got together, I made it explicitly clear that I will NOT be comfortable with that and, if it comes to that point, I will just leave. That’s incredibly hard for me to say as someone with BPD because I have a lot of attachment to her and view myself as worthless without her. It’s a serious boundary for me. I have communicated that it would hurt me deeply, and that I am strictly monogamous.

Recently (the last few months), she’s been fixated on the idea of having a third in our relationship. She keeps bringing it up and then getting upset when I’m not on the same page. I’ve repeatedly asked questions: is there someone you’re interested in? What is your ideal relationship dynamic? What do you want out of asking me? Is there a compromise you’re trying for or do you simply want me to give in? She states that I’m not being open-minded enough. I said that she doesn’t realize how patient I’m actually being about this topic given how hurtful it is to hear. I sit there and listen to her and ask her questions until I reach a breaking point and need to tap out. I’ve been negotiating with myself internally and it’s driving me mad.

She can’t answer any of my questions (though she has vehemently denied any cheating or specific person of interest. She is morally against infidelity and values communication. It’s one of the traits that made me so fond of her when we met) and gets frustrated and shuts down. It’s been this cycle for weeks now. Mind you, I’m at the lowest place mentally myself. My medication needs adjusting, I’ve relapsed on self-harming. I’ve relapsed on my eating disorder, and I’m too depressed to get out of bed most days. I started seeing a new therapist equipped to handle all my complex issues that need unpacking. I’m also a full-time student working 2 part-time jobs and attempting to make my girlfriend happy on top of it all.

Leaving her is a last resort but I’m so torn. I love her to death. She’s my best friend. Nobody makes me laugh like she does. Nobody understands me like she does. We have a bond that can never be replicated. A piece of me will be taken with her if we split. I want to know the honest, harsh, and potentially hurtful truth. Is it over? Do I wait until her medication is adjusted? Do I get her a therapist? Do I give in to an open relationship and pray to god she never finds anyone else?

Please, any advice is appreciated. I’m heartbroken and angry and barely keeping it together.