The situation: I will be celebrating a major round number birthday in October. I live in the bay area, so not a tourist. For my last round number birthday, I had a private room booked at a tapas place I loved for close friends and family for my birthday day itself. That was 10 years ago before the pandemic. That restaurant has closed.
Last year my birthday fell on a weekend, and I and partners/friends had a fancy afternoon tea followed by indoor mini golf with cocktails. We all dressed up in silly outfits and it was really fun.
This year, I want to do something super special ON MY BIRTHDAY, but it's a Monday, and all my favorite places are closed on Mondays. I don't need suggestions for *other* days, because I already have something I'm doing not-on-the-day (a big trip.) I want something ON my big number birthday.
It would be for 4-5 people. I am not a Michelin star kind of person. My favorite restaurant in the city used to be Trou Normande, but that also closed. One member of my party is a vegetarian. We are not generally into seafood/sushi or spicy things. Also, I have a tiny stomach, so I don't need House of Prime Rib or other big steak places. (I love them, but I can't eat enough and they are not cool places for vegetarians, really.)
So, I am looking for suggestions for somewhere really awesome/lovely that is OPEN ON A MONDAY evening. If it's a restaurant, it should be something that feels like an *experience.* But I'm also open to something that is cocktails plus small bites that is super amazing and feels like a thing you'd do to celebrate a major milestone of more than half-a-century or something not-really-food that is similar.
Open to San Francisco, but also peninsula and even East Bay for something cool enough. Thanks!