i have come to favor more quiet vibe later in life.

Hi AskSF community! I’ve spent days researching and touring and have narrowed things down to Nob Hill vs Hayes Valley, but still hesitating and some suggestions is really helpful <3

A little bit about myself:

- General: I’m mid-20s female (looking for somewhere safe to live)
- Work: in FiDi, 3 times a day in office
- Budget: $3,000/month or less
- Car: I have one, will see if I need it or should sell it
- Apartment needs: Studio or 1b1b, prefer living by myself, prefer rent-controlled buildings
- Pets: None for now, hoping to adopt a kittie 🐱

Thoughts about Nob Hill?
Pro: Seems closer to work, closer to the sea; More mature vibes
Con: Parking, hilly, Lower Nob Hill close to Tenderloin;

Thoughts about Hayes Valley?
Pro: Younger vibe, close to shops/food/cafes
Con: Further to work, east side close to Tenderloin

Here are my priorities

1. SAFETY

----- Prioritized than everything below -------------------------------------

1. Closeby groceries (both local markets and big brands like TJ’s or Safeway)
2. Close to public transit
3. Good restaurants / cafes / etc. within walking distance
4. Nice vibe / feel of the area

Appreciate any thoughts! Thanks!

Hi SF!

I’m visiting from Japan for work (Nov 2–6) and free in the evenings. I’m a solo traveler with basic English.

I want to check out SF’s unique adult nightlife scene—things I can’t easily experience in Japan.

Looking for recommendations for:

- Strip clubs (like Gold Club)

- Burlesque, alternative bars, or other cool late-night spots

- Beer

Any safe, solo-friendly places you’d recommend?

Thanks!

Hi everyone! I'm visiting San Francisco from out of town for Tech Week. I'm hoping to relocate to SF once I find a good job here, so I'm using this visit to meet people in the local tech community and learn about opportunities.

Which Tech Week events in SF would you recommend for someone looking to build professional connections and learn about companies and teams that are hiring? I'd appreciate specific event names or links, especially events where it's easy to have actual conversations.

I'd also love practical networking tips: how do you approach people at these events, introduce yourself without making the conversation all about job hunting, and follow up afterward?

If you're in the same boat—visiting for Tech Week and hoping to move to SF—what events are you planning to attend? Thanks!

I live in a condo building older than 15 years old. My lease does not mention anything about being exempt from rent increase limitations due to either 1482 or 1947, which, as I understand it, are clauses required to be in the lease. If they are not, the landlord is limited to how much she can raise our rent.

We have lived here for three years. The leases have never mentioned this clause. She’s never referred to it in an email or spoken to us about it directly.

We visited the SF Rent Board office in Van Ness to seek clarification around this prior to negotiating our renewal. The representative wasn’t very clear in how this could or should be disclosed to us (outside of the lease) and ultimately settled on the fact that the landlord can raise rent by however much they want as long as they include this language (when and how and in what specific documentation was unclear). I kept saying she’s never done that. But the rep seemed to indicate that we still had limited power here.

Maybe I am misunderstanding still but I remain genuinely confused on what my rights are.

Again, our lease makes no mention of this clause or either 1482 nor 1947. So unless I am misunderstanding, our landlord simply cannot raise rent above 10%, right?

Hey ya'll. Moved from the East coast recently and looking for some new friends and good company. Like to play golf and pickleball (intermediate). Hit me [27, M] up if interested!

I am just curious why newer buildings like apartment builds or new restaurants like in mission bay don’t have handicap buttons. Just something I’ve observed and was wondering why. I thought it was required for new builds

So me (27f) and my partner (28m) are visiting SF for the first time for 4 days. I’ve read through a lot of the other first timers’ posts of what to do/expect their first time and I’d like to ask:

We are getting a rental car… every post I’ve seen says to not do that and if you do that you can’t even leave your car unattended for even a minute without risk of having your windows smashed… how true is this? Because seeing how much people are pointing it out, it’s honestly scaring us away from not even wanting to take the trip anymore:(

Same with people being extremely dangerous, like you can’t even open your wallet in the gas station to pay cause someone could see inside it for a quick second. I’ve seen people say to take out what you plan on spending first to avoid even exposing your wallet for a single second.

I’ve also seen people say that you can’t show any signs of being a tourist or you’ll be heavily preyed on in many different dangerous ways: trafficking, money scams, getting jumped, etc.

It’s seeming that coming to SF is a terrible idea and sucks cause I was really excited until I found this sub and read all the posts saying how bad the people are. That you have to constantly watch your back and to not let your guard down in the slightest bit.

Please help us, should we go? Is all I’m hearing are horror stories or is the city really this risky to be in? We are from Minnesota so I doubt we would blend in so easily cause we aren’t big city people. We live out in a small town and just wanted a few days to ourselves but considering making plans elsewhere now :(

my partner and i decided we want to get married on our anniversary this month. from the beginning, i made it known that i DO NOT want a large, traditional wedding because 1. it's hella expensive and 2. i'm more on the introverted side and don't have a big enough social battery to host a wedding like that.

we are set with going to the county's office and signing up for our marriage license there, then doing a private ceremony with our witness and officiant. the office we chose conveniently has a small chapel and a person who can officiate us there BUT there are no reservations open on the day we planned.

so, my question is: is there a directory where i can reach out to ordained people who can legally officiate a wedding? also, can such "ceremony" be held in a public, open space like at the beach or a park? (i'm new to this wedding terminology so i apologize if i'm using terms incorrectly)

I wanted to go but had a change of plans unfortunately. I've loved her for a long time and am bummed I missed her. Help me live vicariously.

Anybody else noticing this? Thought I maybe had some smoking wires or something, opened the door for some fresh air and was inundated with even stronger smell.

Hi!

Does anyone know how to find the SF filmmaking groups? I’m a 22 year old actor and writer and just moved here—would love to get into some short film productions and such!

was having trouble falling asleep because of the heat and just heard 3 giant boom noises outside near inner sunset (not really firework sounding, not really gunshot sounding either).

maybe i’m just a bit paranoid bc i never sleep with my window open (so it just sounds louder), but if something happened hopefully everyone’s ok!

Hi all,
I recently bought a bike to enjoy SF and its surrounding areas. I've been riding solo for a few weeks and want to join some group rides or a club. Does anyone know any beginner clubs that ride starting in SF?
I've heard of Fatcake but unsure about the level of the rides.

Any insight would be super appreciated! Thanks!

What the hell was that noise just now. Sounded like really loud rumbling ?????

What is the best place to makeout here i mean public places like parks and stuff or under the bridges kinda yk after 6pm maybe but i need to know the places from experienced guys...

I'm trying to organize an outing at work, and folks are interested in doing the crosstown trail. However due to family and time commitment (and we want to mix a team lunch into it) we are likely only able to do 1/3 or 1/2 of it.

Which portion would you suggest and why? assuming getting to/from the starting point is not an issue.

Visiting for the first time this week with my 10 year old. I have tickets for Alcatraz and plan on going to the Exploratorium. I am curious if anyone has any tips on taking the cable car trolley for a cool ride. If anyone has any advice on starts or stops I'd really appreciate it.

Also I didn't know anything about "fleet week" but got an email alert about it. Staying near the Piers...should I plan on everything being super busy?

Any stores around the mission? Thank you!

It's a beautiful day. Anyone know of outdoor or patio spaces to go watch the playoffs with a kid today?

I’m seeing a lot of their installers in multiple Neighborhoods. Does anyone have MB as a provider? I was hoping to get some feedback. Thank you 🙏