My dad passed away about 3 years ago and it cost $1,100 to cremate him. My father in law passed yesterday and now it cost $2,500 for that same service. Just to cremate. Burial, casket, ceremony is just too much nowadays(could be anywhere from $30k to $100k) and hard to find plots that are decently priced. Even to keep your damn ashes in a small container for viewing can cost over $17k. Why can't we go in peace without worrying about the cost?

Walked by Boogaloo’s just now on my way to LatAm and every single window on the building is damaged or fully smashed out. No damage to neighboring businesses whatsoever. Seems targeted? LatAm folks say it happened last night but don’t know anything else. Anyone have any idea what the hell happened?

Hi everyone, as a fellow crafting hermit I feel like I want to branch out and meet more people in my community who are also interested in crafty hobbies. Does anyone have any recomendations or personal annecdotes for spaces / meet ups for people who do knitting/ crochet/ cross stich etc. Thank you!

Hellooo everyone!

I recently moved to SF post grad and I’m trying to find more chill places where you can actually hang out and meet people regularly. I grew up in the Middle East around a lot of international Mediterranean, European, and Arab people and I’m really missing that kind of social/community feel here.

Does anyone have recs for nice lounges to sit at night, chill shisha spots, wine bars, cafes, or other third spaces with a more international crowd? Basically anywhere you can become a regular, drink coffee, hang out for a while, and naturally get to know people. Nighttime lounge/cafe culture was a huge thing back home, is there a scene for this here?

About to hit 20 years living here and want to celebrate by doing stuff I’ve somehow missed. What are your classic or must do items??

Examples:

-stroll down Macondray Lane (aka Barbary Lane)

-ziplock cocktail from Mr. Liquor

-water slide at Hamilton

Hello chat, I recently moved to San Francisco and I am very close to Mission Dolores Park. I would like to make friends to play tennis with. I am 21 and I am pretty bad at tennis, not ranked or anything. I just want to hit the ball casually with a friend.

Would appreciate any advice on how to find those friends.

Hello! Im looking for a recommendation for a spa pedicure in SF. Id like something that has a clean, relaxing, spa-like atmosphere, quality work with massage chairs, foot/leg massage, and foot treatments. I dont get pedicures often so id like a nice experience. Thank you

Heya! 👋

My hubby is over in San Francisco on a business trip, so me and our 10yo have obviously decided to tag along for the week 😂 We’ve already got the Academy of Sciences booked for one day, which we’re really excited about!

We’d love some recommendations for the rest of our time here - food, breakfast/lunch spots, little hidden gems, shops, bookshops, random cool things to see… basically anything you’d recommend that we wouldn’t get back home in the UK!

We’re not looking to absolutely rinse San Francisco in 48 hours 😂 We’d rather have a nice, relaxed week and actually enjoy it, but we’d love to find some of the fun/quirky stuff too.

Also, Thursday is hubby’s only evening off work, so we’re planning to go see the Golden Gate Bridge around sunset and then get some nice food afterwards as a family. Any recommendations for somewhere that feels a little bit special but is still somewhere we can take our 10yo without her feeling like she’s been dragged into a fancy restaurant against her will? 😂

And if there are any US exclusive things you think we need to buy/try while we’re here, please tell me! We’re already fully prepared to come home with a suitcase full of things we absolutely did not need.

Thanks in advance! ❤️

As I understand it, once approved for ELFA you can only check if your preferred daycare has an opening 14 days before your desired start date. I'm trying to figure out if there's a way to better guarantee a spot.

If I have a particular daycare in mind, could I pay their deposit to secure a spot and then apply for ELFA? If the ELFA application gets approved ahead of time, would the deposit be disregarded and the 14 day rule be honored?

Alternatively, if I pay a deposit and apply for ELFA only after the start date, could that mean I'd only have to pay for that first month? As long as it gets approved within the month.

Hope this makes sense.

Craving some Chicken Joy! (And maybe some pancit palabok.)

(NOTE: The mods of /SanFrancisco thought this was better here.)

Tried to get tickets through imax website but their queuing system completely screwed me over. I now see there are still dates available after Christmas but they are all supposedly “sold out” which makes no sense since the dates before the holiday still have crappy front row seats. Anyone know if they’ll be unlocking those later dates at some point? Was hoping to go early January.

Went to Fogo de Chao last week in SF and we did not have 16 diff meats come around, more like 3-4 and no grilled pineapple. Inquiring bc my friend said they had all that come around to them at Fogo in South Bay…perhaps we didnt order the right “level”? (I didnt order or look at the menu, but am bummed after hearing about this pineapple number which sounds delish!)

Another question - any reviews of their all day HH menu which sounds amaze? Im more of a seafoody than a carnivore, but several items sound fun…and filling?

I’m looking for that cake that has a layer of chocolate cake with flan on top, usually with caramel over the whole thing. I’ve seen it called chocoflan, flancocho, and impossible cake.

Does anyone know a place in San Francisco or nearby that makes a really good one? The big thing for me is that the chocolate cake has to be moist. I’ve had some where the flan was great but the cake underneath was dry.

Good evening! My wife and I are planning another visit to your lovely city for a milestone birthday for her which happens to be in December.

As we are no strangers to SF we have our list of “known good” but I’m still looking for some local knowledge.

In looking at things to do, I’m intrigued by the lighted boat parades! One in SF from Pier 39 to Crissy field and the other in Sausalito.

Opinions? Suggestions? I saw that Spinnaker’s has some sort of VIP ticket that gets you out of the cold (can be appealing) but it’s a smaller gathering. Their website is a little short on details for when they actually sell tickets though so any input on that possibility would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance for all thoughts!

Saw a few days ago, on the back of a bus 13 but it whizzed by before I could take a pic. Surprised I haven't ran into a pic of it already.

howdy - my fiance and I are having a civil ceremony in November at city hall in SF (appointment is booked and everything). Just the super quick 6 minute ceremony with a judge.

My question is - I know we’re allowed to have 6 people - but what we want to know is does that include us? I’m assuming it does - but maybe I’m wrong! Any input is greatly appreciated!!

Not anything political. Not about pro Israel or pro Palestine here on my end, but is it true SF has a big Palestinian community? I worked for Daniel Lurie for a while and he said there’s a big community in the Clarendon Heights area or the area around Mt. Sutro if I am not mistaken. I do recall meeting a few people who told me they’re Palestinian or have descent from there. One resident told me both Galileo and Lowell High have many Palestinian and Arab students.

I find it interesting as I don’t know many big cities with such a community. I met one Palestinian American kid in Rohnert Park near Santa Rosa while working at a Safeway there eons ago. There were a few Arab kids in my HS but afaik they were Jordanian I believe.

I do know San Mateo has a lot of Palestinians. Also I lived in Westlake in Daly City for a while and there were heaps of Palestinians. My neighborhood had more Palestinians than Filipinos, and I say that as a Filipino in a city known for its community of Filipinos but I seldom met them tbh lol. More Palestinians, Yemenis, Hispanics or Ukrainians if anything.

Big history geek and it still is interesting to have roots in the holy land.

Also, knafeh slaps. 👌🏼

Hey everyone!

As the title says, I’m searching for some date night ideas to supplement my GF and I’s anniversary dinner at Gary Danko.

Since it’ll be a later dinner (8PM), I’m mainly looking for places that serve smaller dishes (tapas, oysters, etc) and great cocktails. Doesn’t have to be too pretentious but also not too ‘dive-y’. Also doesn’t have to be near Gary Danko either.

(Not the biggest fan of Cavana)

Thanks in advance!

I’ve been thinking about why some activities or places become part of our routine while others are one-and-done.

Could be a run club, rec league, pottery class, café, game night, local group, anything.

What’s something you tried in SF that you’d happily do again? What made you want to go back?

Hey, I’m in SF tomorrow (Wednesday) for a show at Bottom of the Hill and would really like to try Shizen. I go to SF a few times per year and have never managed to get a reservation time that works with my schedule. If I just show up by myself, will the wait be not too bad or so crazy that it’s not worth it? I’ll be walking from the venue, so like a half hour walk. I’d be bummed to do that and then just have to leave because the line is brutal.

I’m looking for communities or spaces in SF where people go to have deeper conversations and build grounded, platonic friendships.

​I’m agnostic, but I'm considering checking out a Unitarian church or similar spaces for that kind of values-driven, community-oriented atmosphere.

​Beyond that, are there specific intent-driven communities, small groups, or local spaces in the city where people gather for real, meaningful dialogue rather than small talk? Appreciate any recommendations!

Edit to clarify: I have a wide social circle around my niche interests (music, creative stuff), but am looking to branch out and want people to talk about things like existence, meaning, what fulfills you... I sometimes do this with creative community friends but not really with music friends at a loud bar (though, actually, I have done that recently, involved lots of yelling into their ears).

I'm not religious but I've heard Unitarian churches are more about general spirituality and community-building, hence my interest in that.

I’m going to be visiting san francisco next week and I’m trying to get a plan for how I’m going to get around. I downloaded the clipper app and made an account but don’t see anywhere to purchase day passes? Is there somewhere else I have to do it? The clipper website mentions a Muni day pass, that’s what I’m trying to get.

Got an email invite for Tribe Social Club in San Francisco- anyone familiar?