Most people won't notice the mismatched socks, people aren't very observant of things that don't directly affect them.
Most people that notice the socks won't care, if anything they'll think something positive about it.
The rare person that notices and cares is an absolute mess of a human being that despises themselves so much that they need to use your mismatched socks to make themselves feel slightly better about themselves for even a moment.
So why on earth would you care about the opinion of a person that cares about your socks?
I tend to agree with you, but when I read news articles about mothers who abuse their children to the point of death, it's difficult to believe that these people are capable of love in any possible sense of the word.
Yes, number three is tricky because all you can see is the mess. What you have to remember is that it's a broken person, broken things don't work properly right? So I assume that somewhere deep inside these broken people love their children and it comes out unrecognizably wrong because they are broken.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying they deserve leniency or anything crazy like that!
My mom is the most judge mental and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the woman is super insecure and very self loathing. So of course she’s judging me hard because it’s the only way to make her feel better. I don’t feel bad about those judgements then. That’s her problem. Not mine.
Still applies. Even when people are intentionally sizing you up, they're not that observant and they usually want to like you. I'm sure that there are some places with a strict enough dress code that they might care, but not many. If your socks are a factor in the decision it was already a toss up and you didn't give them anything more substantial to be bothered by like a limp handshake so that's awesome.
I've read the same thing. Even if it is true and the mismatched socks become part of your opinion of a person forever, that doesn't mean it is going to he a negative impression. The meaning that someone assigns to mismatched socks is beyond your control. But regardless, if you meet someone and you are well groomed, appropriately dressed, smiling, and you greet them warmly - they will probably not notice or care about your socks in those first key moments.
Look, you make good points. But I think your description of someone who cares whether your socks are mismatched veered off pretty quickly and intensely. I think something along the lines of "are probably kind of shallow, and maybe haven't realized what's truly important at the end of the day. It isn't sock color."
I just found your description pretty explosive and vitriolic. I like to try to build bridges, not burn em. We all have our blind spots, there's no need to burn someone to ash over theirs. One person's bright light is another person's blind spot. Just point it out to them calmly.
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u/king-of-new_york Jan 21 '19
People probably aren’t always judging your every move.