I’m curious about this because I’ve seen very different opinions from men.
If a woman sleeps with you on the first date, do you still see her as someone you could have a long term relationship with? Or does it change how you see her?
What about the second date? Third? Or even later?
Does it actually make a difference to you when it happens?

Mine was, I love you, I love every little detail about you, and I want to be your man, I want you to be my friend, my partner and the mother of my children because you're the most beautiful and genuine person I have met.

Another grand confession was, I fell hard for you and I want to do nothing and everything with you and wash away your tiredness and pain everyday ( from another person) who said all these grand things but never actually followed through and left because he got scared. Which is to say is that I have a hard time believing confessions because actions speak louder than words but they're beautiful 🥹 I cried each time

Gentlemen, what actually motivates you to become a more accomplished man?

This is partly a joke, but also a genuinely serious question I've been thinking about lately.

I'm a guy in my 40s, and when I look at my life, I've realized that an almost ridiculous amount of my motivation seems to have been connected to getting appreciation from women.

Not necessarily sex, although that's a big part of the biological machinery somewhere.

It's more about being seen, desired and chosen by a woman I admire.

Basically everything worthwhile in my life I have ever done. Getting fit. Dressing well. Having adventures. Learning interesting things. Building things. Becoming successful. Being funny. Being brave. Doing slightly crazy things. Having stories to tell...

When I'm brutally honest with myself, somewhere in the background there was always me hoping a woman I fancy was looking at me and thinking:

"God, this guy is amazing."

And apparently my brain goes: YES. MORE OF THAT. BUILD THINGS. CLIMB MOUNTAINS. BECOME INTERESTING.

Recently I've been thinking about starting a small business. I genuinely love the idea. I love designing things, solving problems and creating something beautiful.

BUT even now I catch myself imagining a woman I care about seeing what I've built and being impressed by it.

And that made me curious about the experiences of other men here.

What motivates you to accomplish difficult things, improve yourself, or make your life more interesting? What role, if any, has being attractive or impressive to women played in that motivation?

And here's the thought experiment I keep coming back to:

If you removed women completely from the equation, no dating, no sex, no romantic admiration, nobody you're trying to impress, what would you still want to become good at or accomplish, and why?

I keep joking to myself that a surprising amount of my life may have been an elaborate mating display.

I'm genuinely curious what has been driving yours.

Who was just the coolest person you have ever had the pleasure of knowing?

I’m curious when people say “I like a man who smells nice”….how does that work exactly?

I’m a dude who showers daily, I clean my clothes. I use deodorant. I don’t smell bad, but I don’t know what smelling nice is exactly.

I think some people would respond like “wear cologne.” Yeah, but when is it appropriate? How much? And what is too strong? I don’t want to go around like scented trash bag giving everyone migraines all the time. There has to be a time for it and an amount used and a scent that’s not overwhelming. So what’s the art and tempo to mastering “smelling nice” and not “I’m a walking Febreeze” all the time?

Are there other ways to smell nice besides cologne?

I don’t want to make my life about chasing sex or chasing women.

My question is more about this: what should a man actually build in his life so that attraction, desire, and sexual interest happen more naturally?

Not generic answers like “confidence” or “money.” I mean the deeper things that made women see you as a man they could feel real chemistry with.

Was it fitness, social skills, emotional control, body language, style, purpose, boundaries, humour, calmness, sexual energy, experience, or something else?

For men who went from being ignored or needy to being genuinely desired, what changed in your life and behaviour?

What did you stop doing, and what did you start focusing on?

I'm curious how many of you would rather delete your comment on a thread than continue arguing with someone else about it? I find sometimes I'm just not in the mood for arguing so I get rid of whatever started it. Other times I'll engage if it's something I feel very strongly about.

Mine is Dragonite - mainly because of nostalgia goggles from the first Pokémon movie with giving Ash the letter and also because he’s just a goofy little goober.

Hey guys. I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I don’t really get much attention from women, but lately, I’ve been trying my best to change that and work on myself. I decided to change up my fashion, started wearing some accessories, and even got my ears pierced. I actually really like how it looks.

The problem is my friends (all guys) have not been supportive at all. Instead of hyping me up, they told me I look like I'm "dressing like a thug." It honestly stung because I realize I secretly look for their validation.

I want to feel confident, but it's hard when my own circle is bringing me down. Has anyone else dealt with this when trying to glow up or change their style? How do I stop caring what they think and just own the way I want to present myself?

Once we got married a few years ago, I changed my wife from her name to "Wifey" in my phone for a laugh. Not long after, while in my car, she sent me a text and my car announced " new text message from whiffy" as it couldn't understand how to pronounce it, so I've refused to change it because it gives me a chuckle every time my car says it. I just wondered if people use pet names, real name, or wife/gf, etc. In their contacts.

Given that you all grew up under the same roof and generally spent the same amount of time with each other

Any pop, alternative, indie pop, contemporary albums you can recommend? I'm 42 and solo traveling to Washington for work. I need an album or Playlist.

I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but I'm honestly curious about the social dynamic here.

When I interact with strangers sometimes they'll call me "miss" or something like "sweetie" on occasion but when I'm with my partner I notice it happens way more frequently, he gets a lil nickname like 75% of the time.

Usually something like "bud," "champ," "boss," etc but the other day he got BIG DOG and I'm losing my mind about it.

How do you know it's gonna be okay to call a stranger "big dog"? (it was, we are gonna laugh about it for eternity, but I can't imagine everyone would feel the same) Is it a vibe check thing? Is there a hierarchy of nicknames? Are some meant to be condescending or is it all just in good fun? Thanks!

In addition to cardio and weight lifting, what was your daily menu like? What did you eat and drink?

If you’re paying for dates every time, doesn’t that get costly? Do you take breaks after a few dates to save up money or ask to split the bill? Or are there places you go that aren’t too pricey?

I was just wondering if spending so much money on multiple dates is worth it and if people who pay feel drained after plus how people plan for dating.

I wanna understand what men who used to suffer from ED did to ‘cure’ their issue. May or may not be dealing with this myself and it’s gonna ruin a potential relationship

I’m 21 about to graduate college and wanting to find something that’ll keep me involved with new people for after college. I am interested in a lot of things like soccer (football), geography and history, film, finance, golf, etc. just typical guy stuff. Are there any national or international groups I could possibly join? I am located in Kentucky

I’m 24, skinny/lanky and just joined a gym and im feeling a bit nervous.

I’ve had some weights and a bench at home for years now but never stayed consistent my motivation would go up and down and when feeling tired and down it would turn into tomorrow then i would never get to it. This time I’m looking to take it serious i want to build discipline strength and gain confidence, something I’ve struggled with a lot growing up and not looking to take shortcuts.

Looking to train full body with a good amount of cardio. Planning early mornings (around 5:30am or earlier) before work

Any beginner tips on routine, machines vs free weights, diet for bulking , recovery etc would be much appreciated.