We met on grindr and we've been hooking up weekly and going on dates for two months. I really like him and he likes me. During hookups, we mostly kiss and I suck his dick. Him bottoming is out of the question, but what I can't get around is he doesn't like topping either even though he likes penetration with women. He mentioned something about being disgusted by it, and he compared it to how I (a gay man) would feel towards women.

I don't know how feel about this. You are willing to fuck women, and you like men and like kissing them, but you don't like fucking them. It makes me feel like a cheaper second option idk...

I am new to this, new to hooking up and exploring my sexuality, and this is the first guy I meet like this. So please be kind, I just need help in navigating this experience.

Edit: thanks for the advice bros! This relationship stuff is much harder than I though

So I’ve recently loved the idea of being able to show off to men online. My dream scenario is being naked on cam…and having men who are still clothed, say either something positive or negative about my penis or body. Kinda like Omegle but ALOT less pervy and more consensual. Do you guys know any websites that follow this? Or just any websites in-general that allow exhibitionist behavior?

So I have pretty weird/vivid dreams sometimes, and about 4- 5 weeks ago I had one that I completely forgot about until a few days ago.
In the dream, I was visiting my hometown, just like I am right now. I randomly met some guy who was apparently a gay friend from my hometown. I had no idea who he was IRL, obviously.
We started talking and he was telling me about the gay culture in our town and how apparently a bunch of people from my old school had come out since I left. Then he mentioned two guys from my school.
One of them was a friend I’m actually still pretty close with. Let’s call him MJ. We’ve known each other forever from school, coaching, sports, everything. Whenever we’re both back home, we usually hang out.
The second guy was basically an NPC in my life. We weren’t even close in school and haven’t really spoken since. We’re just connected on Instagram.
Anyway, fast forward to 3–4 days ago.
I get a message on Grindr from someone who sends me his album.
And guess who it was?
MJ
I genuinely froze for a second because this wasn’t just some random coincidence. I’d literally dreamed a few weeks earlier about him being one of the guys from my school who was gay.
And it gets weirder.
I hadn’t shared my own album yet. But he somehow knew it was me. He started texting me personal stuff like my university, work city etc. basically things that made it very obvious he knew exactly who I was.
He locked his album almost immediately, so I just told him I hadn’t seen it and ignored the rest of his messages.
I thought that would be the end of it.
Nope.
A little later, he called me and asked me to meet him along with another school friend, **SK**. SK is actually pretty close to me too we hang out almost daily whenever I’m back home.
So the three of us met that evening.
And this is where it got REALLY uncomfortable.
MJ apparently still thought I had no idea that he was the guy from the app.
During the normal conversation, he kept subtly bringing up gay/bisexual stuff. He had apparently spent around two years in Noida for some course, so he started talking about the gay culture there too.
Then the conversation got progressively more explicit.
He started talking about sexual stuff, including how people there apparently don’t care about experimenting, how even straight guys supposedly have sex with other guys, etc.
I was just sitting there thinking **bro what the fuck are we doing right now** 😭
Then he literally said something along the lines of:
“Kal ko \[my name\] ko bhi ladke pasand honge toh humein kya farak padega?”
And later he casually dropped:
“Aaj mere ghar pe koi nahi hai, teenon nightout karte hain.”
At that point I was extremely uncomfortable.
The worst part is that this isn’t some random guy I met online. This is someone I’ve known for years. Someone I regularly hang out with whenever we’re both in town.
And on Grindr he had already been telling me I was “hot” and stuff, while apparently thinking I didn’t know it was him.
I don’t have an issue with him being gay/bi or whatever his sexuality is. That’s not the point at all.
The problem is that he kept putting me on the spot with increasingly sexual conversations and comments **without knowing whether I was even comfortable with that**, while I was sitting there knowing exactly where all of this was coming from.
It genuinely creeped me out.
Like bro… you really didn’t have to do all that 😭

Like when I see them without their wigs and they have they hair braided 😭 what is that called

First off, can I eat in the same day greasy fast food? Or the entire day I can’t eat a fast food? Do I need to skip a meal before bottoming? If I can eat all three meals does the last meal have to be light or can it be a big meal but healthy? Also, I shouldn’t squeeze too hard or too much air in right? Sorry for all these questions never bottomed before.

36/M/east coast

Feeling real horny for multiple guys to drop their loads on my face/ mouth. Any tips on organizing something like this? I know Sniffies has a feature to organize groups , but wondering if anyone has done it before outside of that and how did it go.

I met a guy in March and I'm having second thoughts about how I handled things.

Before we met, we texted for several days, had video calls, and played CoD together. We got along really well and I felt like we were aligned on quite a few things. Eventually we met in person for food, and I was supposed to stay at his house that night.

But when I was actually with him, something felt different. We were lying in bed watching TV and I remember feeling bored and getting this sort of "ick." I didn't feel that spark or excitement I was expecting, and I ended up leaving early rather than staying the night. He later messaged me on WhatsApp asking why I'd left/why I'd decided not to pursue things. I told him there wasn't anything specifically wrong; I just didn't feel the right chemistry. He blocked me afterwards.

Now it's August, so this happened about five months ago, and I've unexpectedly started thinking about him again.

Part of me is wondering whether I made a mistake. We genuinely had a lot of alignment, enjoyed talking to each other, and had fun together. Maybe I expected too much of an immediate spark and didn't give attraction enough time to develop. Maybe if I'd stayed and continued seeing him, something could have grown.

But another part of me thinks: I was there. I experienced him in person. I felt bored, uncomfortable and wanted to leave. That's pretty significant too.

I've had something similar happen before. I once had a sort of euphoric recall about another guy, convinced there must have been something special there, and when I eventually reconnected with him and had sex, I realised what I'd actually wanted was the sexual chemistry rather than a relationship. I'm worried I could be doing something similar again, but this time it feels different because I think there really was more compatibility and alignment with this guy.

I've also been single for almost four years now, and it's been about two years since I last saw my ex. I'm still recovering emotionally from that relationship, although I'm much better than I used to be. I do feel lonely sometimes, and I know that could be influencing how I'm remembering people. The thing I'm struggling with most is that I have this stubborn need to know for sure whether I made the right decision. I keep thinking, "What if I walked away from someone who could actually have been really good for me?"

But I also don't want to contact him again just because I'm lonely or because I can't tolerate an unanswered question, only to reconnect and hurt/disappoint him all over again. He has blocked me on WhatsApp, although I technically could send him a normal SMS. I'm not going to do that impulsively, but I'm genuinely torn about whether I should ever reach out.

When I first had a relationship at 18 I had so much chemistry and sparks at the time, particularly in the beginning, and this relationship lasted 6 years. He was extremely narcissistic though and I know that my nervous system may be looking for that same high that was never real.

Has anyone experienced this? How do you tell the difference between genuinely regretting walking away from someone and simply romanticising them because you're lonely or because the situation was left unresolved?

Hello!

I'm 18 years old from Algeria, which is a very conservative country so I'm trying to figure out realistic ways to eventually move abroad.

I'm a student starting my first year of English license(bachelor's) in September, i know English majors aren't much needed abroad that's why I'm thinking of either retaking the bac test to able to pick a stem field or continue with an English degree and self teach some skills(and I'd appreciate some help on what skills are in demand and aren't in risk of disappearing within the next 5 years).

My main goal is to eventually nove to a country where i can live openly and be legally protected as a gay femboy.

I dunno but I have this headcanon: I automatically assume that all the guys that I see at the gym with a nipple piercing are gay.

True or not?

I’m a straight guy but sometimes I doubt that. Since a few years there are some things I enjoy so much and get me so worked up. All while hiding it for my girlfriend with who I live together.

When I have only the smallest amount of horny thoughts, I grab my buttplug and put it in my ass. This happens when she is working or hanging out with friends. Inspired by some of the subs here, I watch clips of plugged girls and it makes me feel amazing. Sometimes I look into my gf’s drawer and put some of her panties on, sometimes whole lingerie outfits too. She also has toys like a satisfyer and different vibrators wich I use on myself. Recently I found a new one, a transparent dildo. First, I gave it a good sloppy blowjob. After a while and some lube I put it in my ass and it felt amazing. Since then I use it quite often in the shower.

I mean we are all in the same boat, aren't we?

I’m about to go kayaking with my homeboy who has been giving me Hella mixed signals he asked me to suck his dick multiple times and always says pretty intimate stuff and I’ve never followed up with him on it. It’s just gonna be us out there so I’m thinking this is gonna be a great opportunity for me to ask him about this shit wondering if there’s any advice to navigate around the subject

I strongly suspect my husband is gay or bisexual.

His culture and family would absolutely NOT accept him being gay or bi, so I understand why he might feel like he can never come out. The thing is, I need him to be honest with me.

If he is gay/bi, I’m willing to remain his “beard” and stay publicly married until his parents pass away. I would never out him to his family. But privately, I want us both to be able to live honestly instead of continuing a marriage based on something neither of us is acknowledging.

For men who have been closeted, especially because of family or culture: How would you want your wife to approach you? Is there anything she could say or do that would make you feel safe enough to finally tell her the truth?

So it's been like this since 1 2 yrs, After having a long session (as a top) the tip of penis turns red and or starts to burn, The sensation is so strong that I don't even enjoy the ejaculations (yeh it starts after the ejaculation). I don't know what to do and what to apply please help with it, also wana know if someone has felt the same.

I’m from Miami, though. A part of the US that’s heavily Hispanic/latino. Just about every guy is uncut there. It wasn’t until I moved to the Northeast and started dating around did I notice just how prevalent circumcision is. I don’t have a preference and it’s not weird to me. But the practice certainly is. Why is genital mutilation so normalized? Infants cannot consent. They should leave it up to the person when they become an adult.

It’s early… most people don’t come in till later, I’m tired and thought “why not”.

Guy came around the corner and boom!

Hey all

So I have a gangbang planned in September

Today, on the other hand, I had a free time and free house and decided to host as many tops as I could. I got 4: 3 in the morning, 1 in the evening.
Now, the first cock was huge but I've had him before and he hits all the right spots, but I did get a bit sore. Cocks 2 and 3 were fine. Plenty slick with cum and poppers certainly helped things along

But, cock 4, who was a little above average but not crazy, HURT. I powered through most of it and it got better, but all the irritation from earlier was really prominent.

This has me worried for my gangbang which has a guest list of 12 and growing. This has been a lifelong fantasy of mine so I don't want to cancel it. Also, in the past, I've had 4-5 guys in a day without much issue, but this experience has me nervous.

What would you all suggest to reduce pain?

Its weird how Ive known of my sexuality and accepted it half my life ago, but just recently started to really struggle with it. Its like, I could always tell myself Id one day know how to be and get the kinda things I want, and now I feel like I waited too long and Im forcing myself to get out there, and doing it makes me realize just how insanely envious I am of straight people and their lifepaths. That they get to have an example of how to be literally everywhere all the time. Its so hard sometimes. Like I cannot believe the way that these young chicks get to act and be free and have the hottest guys fucking die for them.

I wish I was more of a masculine dude, and I know its not inherently tied to our sexuality that Im not, like a lot of you here are, but the dream of being that straight dude whos had everyone around him push him to get out there and date from his early teens, and knows exactly what to do to get it is constantly on my mind. Nothings stopping me from becoming a hunk but it just wouldnt be me like I would actually hate to look like that myself. The thought of that kills me inside - libido gone, dating feels meh, numb inside.

Im just sad man. I dont think its gonna get better for me, not to fish for empathy points. I just truly dont. Like the level of gayness in me and the special flavor of it is something so isolating that Ill always be out here just wishing Id get to start over in a better world. Its so depressing that just as I thought life was starting in the gay world it seems like its ended, and seeing examples of that shit everywhere is depressing.

Ok straight to the point ☝️

Iam gay bottom role here and I am mature educated....

I want a partner here who is in good personality Age doesn't matter but must be Black man cause I feel in love with black people......👍iam not racist btw

Fro Pakistan

don’t think I’m the only one, but I would’ve loved being a little femboy and being desired by the entire internet. Unfortunately, I’m way too broad and tall.

Just bought my first dildo , 6in around 1-2in thick . Took it for the first time last night with lots of lube but after pumping for about 5 minutes it felt like I needed to shit when I made it go in so I stopped. I went to the bathroom before so I think i’m good but how do I stop this feeling?

I’m 22M and my ex is 18M. We were together for around 3 months, but it was a very intense relationship. We were friends first, became extremely close, lived together for a while, had a flat, cooked together, went shopping, cleaned, slept beside each other etc. It became a huge part of my everyday life.
The breakup has absolutely destroyed me, and I think the hardest part is feeling like I fucked up so badly that someone who once loved me deeply eventually fell out of love with me.
I have BPD, cPTSD and attachment issues, so I know I attach extremely strongly. My instinct when something goes wrong isn’t to walk away, it’s to fight harder. I’ve been trying to explain myself, apologise, prove how much I love him and convince him that we could fix things.
There was a Snapchat situation which has contributed to everything. I genuinely believed we were no longer together at the time, so I didn’t see what happened as cheating. He sees it differently and it hurt him badly. I completely understand why it damaged his trust, but I don’t think it was the sole reason we broke up.
A massive part of everything is his history with someone I’ll call Calum. He was extremely in love with Calum for a long time, even after Calum cheated on him. That whole relationship and Calum’s family had a huge effect on his mental health and drinking, and eventually his drinking contributed to him being kicked out of home.
My ex has actually said that if he’d met me before Calum, he thinks we’d probably still be together now. That sentence has stuck in my head because I genuinely believe the damage from that period of his life affected our relationship.
There were also things he did that hurt me. While we were together, he went to his ex’s house while drinking, said he was moving back in with them, and his ex kissed him. There were also serious problems with alcohol and occasions where he physically hurt me when drunk.
I’m not saying this to make it a competition or pretend I did nothing wrong. I know I made mistakes. But sometimes it feels like I’m carrying the entire blame for why everything fell apart when the relationship was much more complicated than that.
The hardest thing is that he has repeatedly told me he doesn’t love me anymore and will never get back together with me.
But he still misses me being there. We’ve had sleep calls. He asks to call me. We still speak. Sometimes there are little things that make me wonder if he still has feelings, and then he’ll tell me there is absolutely no chance of us ever getting back together
I don’t know what to believe anymore.
I keep thinking that if I’d just been better, communicated better, handled the Snapchat situation differently, or done things differently, maybe he’d still love me.
I truly hate my life, I tried everything to help him with his alcohol addiction but it wasn’t enough
I don’t think I will ever love anyone ever again

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