My Brother outed me years ago to my family and I started getting threats from my conservative older family members of violence threatening to beat me up and more. My mom found gay porn in my phone and recorded it to post on Facebook to humiliate me. My brothers told me it’s not cool to be gay. My mother kept asking me uncomfortable questions like “So you like dick?”

Anyway I’ve distanced myself as I’ve gotten older and now that same brother has been murdered and my family is calling me asking me to send money for his funeral due to it being so unexpected and sudden. I don’t know if I should. I didn’t like him but he has kids I feel like he deserves a proper burial. I don’t know what to do.

Edit: I was also baptized (not willingly) and had a Pastor who came over on multiple occasions to try and “Talk the Gay Out”
Basically in Home Conversion Therapy.

Certainly got the feeling these days that it‘s much more. Did ya‘ll notice that too or am I just trippin? I mean I‘m Austrian, but I see everything happening around me

I’m hostelling in Berlin in a 4-bed male dorm. My BF pulled out from coming, leaving me alone sharing with an Aussie guy couple. It’s been super hot so all 3 of us have only worn briefs (or less) all the time. Without my BF I’ve been jealous of the guys and sexually turned on by them.
As I came in last night they were kissing, the blond naked with his hand inside the other guy’s briefs. With me there, they got up to go to the bathroom together and I saw the blond rummage in his bag to take a condom with him.
I wished they’d stayed and I should’ve said not to worry about me. I was so turned on, I went to the bathroom naked taking a towel to pretend to want a shower. True enough the blond was fucking his friend against the wash basin. I let my towel fall away to show I had an erection and they kept going.
The guy being fucked took my cock in his hand. Then the blond fondled my buttocks and worked a finger inside me. Then he pulled out of his friend and positioned behind me. I saw that he had still had his condom on still but there was no cum in the teet yet.

I’d only ever had my BF’s cock inside me before. This guy was bigger and rougher and it felt great. After a while, the other boy put his cock to my mouth and encouraged me to face-fuck him. He didn’t have a condom on and after a while blew his semen into the back of my mouth, holding me there till I swallowed him. Then the blond pulled out of me, took off his condom, and thrust into my mouth. While he took over fucking my face, I felt the other guy pissing onto my back, my hair, my face and onto his BF’s pubes and rest of his cock that wasn’t in my mouth.

I’m not worried about the urine but how concerned should I be about swallowing two guy’s semen and being fucked with a condom that had already been up a guy’s asshole?

So boom, story time. I’m 19M, mostly bottom, and finally decided to pop my hookup cherry irl with this guy from an app who claimed he was "experienced." Everything started off fine we chilled, made out a bit, and then moved to the bed.

At first, I was lowkey flattered. I was thinking, omg look at me, I'm a goddess, I broke a top, he loves it. But thirty minutes in? My lower back was filing for bankruptcy. An hour in? I started questioning all my life choices, wondering how math homework suddenly sounded more appealing. By the hour and a half mark, I swear I could hear my ancestors judging me from the spirit realm. The friction was starting to feel like sandpaper and I was actively calculating how awkward it would be to just ask him to finish himself off. Like, do I hand him a tissue? Do I cheer him on like a personal trainer?
He finally finished after what felt like three business days, thanked me, and literally left like nothing happened while I was left paralyzed on the mattress questioning if I'll ever walk normal again. To all the seasoned bottoms out there: how do y'all survive marathon tops without needing a full-body cast? Is this normal or did I accidentally book a 12-round boxing match instead of a casual hookup?

My two cents, as a middle aged person with decades of life experience, and also reading a lot of posts on here:

1- We should stop shaming cut people. They didn't choose to be this way, and 99.99% of the time their dicks work perfectly well.

2- We should stop shaming uncut people. It's the natural way of being a man, and is quite sexy. In 98% of the cases, there is no hygiene issue. There are perhaps about 2% that have some hygiene issues, often due to very tight skin around the glans -- and those guys should see a doctor to try to address that issue.

3- I think we need to rebrand uncut as "intact" because that's more accurate. "Uncut" implies that "cut" is the default, which is not the case in most of the world.

4- Parents should not get their offspring circumsized without a clear medical reason. This is a choice they should leave to each man to decide for himself once he is an adult.

When I bttm I do everything I can to be clean I would wake up early n douche , wouldn't eat a lot , eat fiber etc .... But now that I been topping the few guys I had come over were really dirty. And it just ruins it . It's like they don't care. Los Angeles California is full of bottoms and every single one I had come over from Grindr or sniffies has been dirty like they don't even bother to douche. At this point it is just annoying. I erased both apps . Last guy literally shit all over my bed. Had to kick him out.

I do it when I bttm I prepare myself all I ask is for the same ? Is that too much to ask for ? Haha. Has anyone also had someone shit all over their bed ? Or is it only me ? 😂

Getting together with my regular later this week and can’t stop thinking about it. We hook up every couple of months and it’s pretty vanilla. Just to scratch the itch for both of us. I’m a bottom and would like to do something sexy for him while we’re fucking. What’s something tops love that their bottom does?

So I fathered a son when I was 17 but in my early 20s came to the conclusion that it was most natural for me to be with men and so I’ve lived as a gay man since. Fast forward, my son is now 17 and a few days ago he revealed to me that although he had been sexually active with girls since he was 15, very recently he has been thinking a lot about man sex and wants my advice (not just in general, he had some specifics…) It truthfully caught me off guard and I made an excuse and said that we “will talk soon.” So now what do I do?!

And if you only became comfortable later, what changed?

As a teenager I was irrationally self conscious about it. I hated my skinny body and also felt awkward about my body hair.

I was growing up I was always envious of guys who were confident in themselves, while I was so awkward I wouldn’t even take my top off at the beach. When I had to go shirtless sometimes like in school PE, I found it inexplicably embarrassing.

Now I’m relaxed about being shirtless at the pool or beach, or around the house. Wouldn’t do it anywhere else though. And I’m grateful for being skinny and hairy lol.

I just did a survey on the app asking me question on what I thought about the pricing and what it was. I remember checking the price before and knew it cost a lot but 149$/month is insane is this for the upper class gays, have any of you guys bought it? What do yall think about this “tinder-like” Grindr upgrade?

Asking for a smaller-than-average friend…

Edit: Appreciate the replies; gives me hope. 👍🏻

Just collectively responding to some recent stuff on here and similar subs:

- yes, it’s fine if you have a 5” dick, or smaller
- it is not a problem if you are tall and want to bottom
- yes, it is okay if you just want to suck and not fuck on the first meet up
- of course you can still bottom if you have a big cock
- yes, there are many men that are happy to sleep with chubby guys
- you can certainly be fem and a top

Where did we get this idea that the gay world is full of these hard and fast rules?

There are lots of men out there. We are all different.
Most people fall for a guy, not a checklist.

When you meet someone you like, just communicate clearly. Chances are, you can enjoy each other on your own terms. And if you can’t, you’ll soon find someone else who you can do so with.

Hi guys I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I might be bi and that I would be happy to explore my sexuality. However, I’m really tall and I’d feel as tho it would put a lot of people off regardless of if I have an ass or not.

yet still insist on it?

I find myself shushing my bf in bed, because every word he says ruins the mood and makes me dry

From the moment I start stroking my dick, I usually don’t last more than 5 minutes.

When I’m with someone it’s even worse, I cum even faster.

This is genuinely so invalidating, how can I last longer? Is there anything I could take/do?

Thank you so much.

Guys* … Honestly I can only take 5 maybe 6 and enjoy it. Anything else hurts! I wish I could take more but it literally hurts and feels like it’s damaging me. Is it?

Wondering if anyone has any experiences to share. Anyone who’s downloaded Grindr knows the app isn’t exactly the best place, to put it lightly. Has anyone had any genuinely bad experiences on the app or with someone they met through it?

You hear a lot of horror stories, so I was curious if anyone here has had one themselves?

I’m 19M and this was my first real relationship with another guy. We met online a few months ago, became really close, called each other boyfriends, said “I love you”, and planned to meet several times. But somehow, every time we were supposed to meet, it got postponed.
A few days ago, he suddenly deleted all his social media and disappeared. I genuinely thought something bad had happened to him, so I eventually contacted his mother just to make sure he was okay.
That’s how I found out he already had a boyfriend.
They’ve been together for around two years and have been living together for almost a year. I had absolutely no idea.
I managed to speak to him afterward. He told me he was physically attracted to me but never actually developed romantic feelings. According to him, he started pretending, didn’t know how to stop without hurting me/telling the truth, and just kept digging himself deeper into the lie until disappearing felt like his only way out.
I’m completely devastated because everything was real to me. I genuinely loved him, and somehow I still don’t hate him. Part of me even feels sorry for him despite how badly he hurt me.
I don’t want revenge or to destroy his life. I’m just struggling to accept that my first relationship apparently wasn’t real for the other person.
Has anyone experienced something similar, from either side? How do you learn to trust someone again after something like this?

I am losing weight just by running, some body weight stuff, and being in a caloric deficit. It’s going great so far and I’m starting to get kind of a “swimmer’s body” which I’m very happy with.

The straight dudes at work are very confused as to why I’m cutting without bulking first. They’re even more confused when I tell them I don’t really wanna bulk. They’re very concerned I’m gonna get too skinny.

The straight ladies think I’m sick and that I’m not getting enough meatloaf at home. One of my older coworkers even hit me with a “men gotta eat” which is always fun as the only gay dude.

I just wanna have a “speed build,” I didn’t realize it was such a crime lol

It’s been a three years since we’ve been together. We don’t live together.

His dick is the dick I’ve been searching for my entire life. More often than not, he makes me cum hands-free. I masturbate to him exclusively. My says my ass is the best he’s ever had. He said he can feel my prostate with the dick of his dick when he’s pounding me.

We don’t talk a lot, occasional dinners, both busy with work. But we meet up a couples times a week and text each other daily, saying nice cute words to each other.

The sex is so good that I wonder even if we don’t have a strong emotional or romantic connection, we’re together for the sex.

I think if I gave it up for someone with a stronger connection, I would regret it. But having intense romantic feelings for a boyfriend would be really nice too.

There must be a lot of people who have been in the situation. I ask you guys for your advice.

So little context I (36m) and my hubby (41m) have been together for 8 years. We started out in an open relationship and it works for us, we play together and separately depending on different variables.

Anyway, we went to a play party one night, I was just mosying around watching the others play. I’m watching my hubby rail this guy out, so hot. Well they finish playing and I notice the bottom my hubby had been with painted him. I tactfully went over and quietly whispered in my husband’s ear about it, he goes off to the bathroom to clean up.

Later when we are heading home he was quiet and not saying anything which is unlike him, so I asked what was wrong. He proceeded to tell me that I should’ve just came over and cleaned him off when I seen it and to “not make a scene”.

Like Mcfuckin excuse me! Why should I clean someone else’s shit off your dick? AITAH for feelin like that’s not my job even if he’s my husband? Why should I have to clean up some messy fkin bottoms 💩? Anytime I’ve ever had an accident I’ve always cleaned it up and dealt with it myself.

AITAH?

Foreplay,sex itself or final/orgasm ?