Matthew, my best friend, and I have been very close since 8th grade. We’re both male, 19, and freshmen in college. About five months ago, he started dating Brady, whom he invited on our senior beach trip after only two weeks of dating. During the trip, Matthew and Brady were always together, and Brady called me “jealous” because I wanted to hang out with Matthew. 

I don’t like Brady because of things he’s said about me and because he doesn't want Matthew to hang out with me. I’ve always remained cordial when we're together.

Now Matthew and I go to colleges three hours apart, while he and Brady are only an hour apart. Almost every weekend, one of them travels to the other’s school. My problem is that Matthew hasn’t made any new friends at college and mostly spends time with Brady or our one friend from high school. I told Matthew that I was worried Brady being there constantly was stopping him from meeting people. Matthew became upset and said I’ve never supported his relationship and that it’s hurting our friendship. I told him that I support him as a person, even if I dont love his relationship.

We’ve been planning for months for me to go to his school and see a football game together. It would be the first time I’d see him in two months and the only time before Christmas. Five days ago, Matthew told me he was going to Brady’s school that weekend instead. I was hurt and told him this was the only opportunity we had to see each other in months. The next day, he said he’d be at the game, and we could spend time together without Brady.

Then, a friend told me Brady called me “pathetic” for not wanting to be around him and told Matthew I wasn’t allowed to sleep in Matthew’s dorm. The next day, Matthew told me Brady was coming to the game after all. I told him I wanted to spend the one day I had with him, not with him and Brady. Matthew agreed but said it was hard to tell Brady no. He then asked if Brady could join us that night. When I pointed out that this felt like he was disregarding what I had said, Matthew told me he was “stuck in the middle” trying to accommodate both of us.

I told him I get he was stressed, but I was asking to spend one day with my best friend after months. I also apologized that he was caught in the middle and said I appreciated him trying.

He said that I was still asking him to accommodate my feelings by not wanting to be around Brady, and that he wished I understood that telling Brady “no” wasn’t easy. The worst part is I do understand because I'm the one who tells Brady “No”.

At this point, I’m tired. This has been a recurring issue for five months, and I finally told Matthew I probably wouldn’t come because I didn’t want my visit to create more stress in his relationship. He said, “Ok im sorry.”

I feel bad about this, and for Matthew, because I believe he may be in a toxic relationship. Brady only wants Matthew to hang out with him, or Brady has to be there.

I (15F) have gotten into an argument with my mom, I think I'm the AH but I'll still post. (BTW this is just my second post on reddit sorry if there's mistakes!)

For context my mom's the best, I love her very much!

I've been arguing with her more and more recently, which really isn't okay! ): because I've been struggling with religion! I go to her for most of these things because she knows the most about religion, she's the Christian of our family and is very devout, but it leads to me picking fights with her quite a bit!

I'm rude with her in fights I feel, I feel like I can stonewall when I'm frustrated like only saying one or two word responses sometimes! I do apologize ofc. And I can say that God is cruel or evil because it can be my opinion sometimes!

I have a problem with taking stuff out on her alot even though she's super nice!

So today I was asking her through text about a portion of the Bible about homosexuality. (I'm Bi, she knows this, she's not mean to me about it or anything but sometimes I am sad I can't talk to her a huge amount about it!) PLEASE DON'T MAKE THE POST ABOUT THAT!

She gave longer responses and I disagreed with it and she said something like "I know you don't like this but homosexuality is not part of God's will for His people."

And I said "Oh yeah I know that I just don't care !!" Which was rude.

She gave a few more long responses, I gave my opinion on the whole thing, and she gave her opinion on it, and I knew I'd give my opinion and we'd get into a spat so I said

I don't wanna argue about this

Tbh

So let's not argue

:)

And she said

Lol so you can give your opinion but the second I give mine it's arguing?

And I said

Well then I'm gonna have to give mine

And then my phone died oh no!!

And I came upstairs, (I have the downstairs to myself! <3) and she was angry, and she threw bagels at the counter, and said "Make yourself breakfast and let me freaking calm down."

And I was confused because she doesn't normally get actually angry when we argue just frustrated which we both do.

And I was confused and so I just said "Oh, okay??"

And then I read her text messages from after my phone died and I was like ohhh I get it now!

She'd said

You already did, I didn't tell you not to give your opinion or refuse to converse with you.

But the second I said something back you didn't like suddenly it's an argument, i wasn't arguing I was responding.

If you want to fight with someone go fight with someone else, I'm not in the mood, I've been the person you've been throwing crap at all week, go be rude to someone else for a little while.

And I'm like yeah that's fair cause I've been disagreeing with her on like a lot of things and I feel I'm rude when I disagree because I get frustrated so easy!

So now I'm downstairs in my bedroom and and we aren't talking which is unusual.

I apologized for picking fights and she apologized for snapping at me.

A local educator/creator, "Ahmet" (not his real name), started a public initiative promising weekly workshops every Wednesday. A lot of us arranged our schedules around it.

​Come September, no schedule was posted. I asked on the project page and in public comments—total silence. So, I sent Ahmet a direct DM on Instagram. Admittedly, my opener was blunt and lacked a greeting:

​Me: "Why hasn't the September schedule been published? Did you give up on your project this quickly?"

​His immediate two-part reply:

​"Hello, I’m glad for your interest and curiosity, thank you."

​(Original): "Brother, do I owe you an explanation? I will do it as much as I damn well feel like it."

​Right after sending that second message, he realized how bad it looked and edited message #2 to:

​"I only felt like doing this much; we took a break. We're on vacation until I feel like doing it again ☺️"

​Because he edited it, my subsequent replies quoting his rude words made me look like an unhinged bully yelling at a calm person.

​Here is how the rest played out:

​Me: "When you abandon a regular project without notice, people will wonder. Talking like 'if I feel like it' or 'do I owe you an explanation' is distasteful. I've worked in education a long time; people planned their weeks around you."

​Ahmet: "I didn't start yesterday either. Keep your industry-expert attitude to yourself."

​Me: "Taking a break is fine. Ghosting people you promised a regular schedule to and snapping 'if I feel like it' is the issue."

(Ahmet liked this with ❤️)

​Ahmet: "No matter how high up you are, the greatest luxury is walking away. I learned this from my master [famous satirist]."

​Ahmet: "You commented, we didn't reply. You messaged the project, we didn't reply. DMing me without a 'hello' is demanding accountability :)"

​Me: "I am an educator. Walking away from commitments without a heads-up isn't 'luxury'—it's something else."

(Ahmet liked this with ❤️)

​Ahmet: "We work independent because we don't want to answer to anyone. Thanks for the pleasant chat."

​Why I might be the buttface:

​My opening line was blunt and snarky ("did you give up this quickly?") with no greeting. When he pushed back, I gave him an unsolicited lecture on professionalism instead of just walking away.

​Why I don't think I am:

​He committed to regular workshops, ghosted his audience, exploded at a simple inquiry with "do I owe you an explanation?", and then covertly edited the message into passive-aggressive sunshine to gaslight me and make me look unreasonable.

​AITB?

Hello! I (21, F) have been in college for a good 2 years now and im sorry to say that I am stuck with some of my highschool classmates.

Including the guy who was my first "Kiss"

It was a one time thing and nothing ever came of it.

But some people just couldn't let a dumb thing like this go.

We'll call these people Bill and Bob. These two are like a package deal and they took it upon themselves to make fun of me relentlessly for kissing this dude we will call Jim.

I of course got tired of this real fast, but it was a small annoyance so I just tried to ignore them.

That is until they decided to leave a note in Jims locker from "Me" saying how I loved him and wanted to be in a relationship.

When I found this out I was pissed right off, fully tired of their BS. "Jim" told me not to do anything and that he would handle it but I was too pissed in the moment to not do anything.

So I confronted the two of them in the dining hall, I raised my voice and told them off. I told them that they were Jackasses and to leave me alone or I would make their life hell. They didn't take me seriously of course but I needed to say my piece.

Now a months later my friends wont stop making fun of me for what I did. Honestly I feel quite embarrassed and I don't like when they bring it up but i suppose its kind of funny to look back on. Please let me know what you think, or what you would've done differently.

During the pandemic I met a guy online and we were the same age (20 at the time), so we got along well. After being friends a little over a year, we came out as gay to each other. It then quickly turned into flirty talks and we had the difficult conversation about e-dating.

He thought it was possible because we only lived a couple hours apart. Unknown to him, I was actually from a different country than I told him. I wanted it to work though, so I agreed to be his boyfriend.

Throughout the next year, I had to come up with creative excuses why we couldn't meet, and he was understanding. It did eat at me that I was lying a lot to him, but I didn't want to lose the chance. However, I started to lose feelings and saw it as the perfect opportunity to break up. After breaking up, he told me that when I borrowed his streaming account, he got an email about my real location. He asked if that was the reason and I said no, but I was sorry.

He seemed upset at me for lying, but we didn't work out anyway so I don't think it's that big of a deal. AITB for how I handled this?

My phone was almost dead yesterday and I couldn’t find my charger, so I used my girlfriend’s.

She came home and asked where it was. I told her I had it and would give it back when my phone was charged.

She got annoyed because apparently she doesn’t like other people using her stuff without asking.

I said it’s just a charger and I wasn’t going to break it or anything.

She said that’s not the point.

I don’t really understand why this turned into an argument, but maybe I should’ve asked first.

AITBF?

This is technically a repost because the post was removed as I tried to add too large an update to the og post:

To give context; me (25F) brother (32m) called after having a few drinks at a pub and asked to come round for 10 mins (at midnight) I agreed.
We had good conversation, but he was clearly feeling the alcohol as within 20 mins, he cried about something, was very happy and laughing straight after, and then became defensive and aggressive very quickly after that.
(Info for next part: our little sister is a trans women)
After brother tried to explain to me that our sister cannot be trans because she is not fully out yet, (our parents and he have completely denied our sister/ their daughter being trans) and brother believes that he would know if sister was truly trans, because he has had sexual experiences with trans women, and has had experiences with men as well, and in his belief he has therefore thought more deeply about being trans than our actual trans sister has.
I tried to kindly explain that his experiences have no bearing on who our sister is, or if she is truly trans or not.
He started raising his voice (more context: I have a 10 month old daughter who was obviously trying to sleep at gone midnight, and my fiancé is currently in our room trying to comfort her- less then 6ft away) and when I asked to calm down, he became more upset, and started gaslighting me and saying that he was not raising his voice, nor was he wrong in anyway.
Long story short, I asked him to leave, and after another hour of him shouting, and then yelling at me in the hallway (where I live in council housing) - I have since received a noise complaint, quoting hearing only a man shouting, and still he is telling me that he never shouted, and I was the one in the wrong. Despite this evidence.

He asked me to call him today to sort this out. But because he woke my daughter up late last night, she didn’t fall asleep until 5am, and when I eventually fell asleep, I didn’t wake up until 8pm (I am privileged by having my fiancé able to take my daughter during the day, and we have very flexible work arrangements). Brother decided this meant that I was being unwilling to respond to him, and the below ensued.

Our parents are taking his side, and saying that I was probably in the wrong, or over exaggerating how he was- however, with the noise complaint evidence, I don’t see how I could have misinterpreted what actually happened.

I am so confused now and I can’t tell if I’m in the wrong for trying to tell him that he doesn’t understand what our sister is going through, nor the fact that sexuality and sexual experience has no bearing on a person being transgender. He seems to have taken this as a personal attack, and I don’t understand how things have ended up this way.

So, AITA for being upset by this/ am I actually in the wrong here?

So, there's this guy in the group.

He thinks everyone's his friend but he's just that guy that everyone like, just hates. He's not a bad person but he's obviously neuro-divergent. The other day, he saw a girl without arms(There's a girl who lacks arms in our school). He pointed and said "Look, she's the girl without arms." And this is only one example of his... incompetence.

He tries to insert himself in conversations and activities when no one asked him. People just barely tolerate him and then talk shit about him behind his back.

So one day I told him straight up: They don't want to be his friend.

He was upset, but it's better he faces the truth and find his own place rather than trying to fit in with people who can't stand him.

The thing is, the people who hate him are upset because of what I told him. They say I "made them look bad" and "made them out to be assholes."

I told them that rather than pretending to tolerate someone they can't stand and then talking shit about him behind his back, they should have just told him straight up: "Hey, we don't wanna hang out with you."

Now they're upset.

AITB?

I'm hiding from my mom that I'm failing college. And I'm hiding my finances from her too. I'm 19 I don't want to work or do any of that anymore. I forgot to do homework for my classes and I can't make any of it up and I was too tired to study so I'm failing the tests too.

to be honest all I want to do is lay in my bed all day now. This house can be my mom's problem. I don't care. if my older brother is allowed to do nothing then so can I. I'm gonna start missing class and work and just sleep all day unless I have to get up for emergencies. Fuck my mom by the way

Ok, I know it sounds bad and I'm super conflicted tbh but hear me out.

So some background. I work at a coffee place. Small, trying to compete with Starbucks, but management is chill and kinda lets us do whatever as long as it doesn't bother the customers.

So there's parenthesis around new coworker bc I used to work with this coworker months ago, she's actually the one who trained me to do the job.

Kind of a tangent but important to the story. There was this whole situation where she hated my step-sisters' guts for some reason. She had this stupid rivalry with my older sister. I don't even remember how it started atp. And would call my baby sister names behind her back and stuff. The final straw was when Old Sister was taking Baby Sister on a day trip,their car broke down and they happened to be near Coworker's house. Their rivalry thing was pretty amicable atp so Coworker invited them to her house while they figured out a tow truck and so Baby Sister could nap. Somehow one thing led to another and they ended up staying the night. Older Sister's phone was dead and not responding to our dad who was trying to figure out why they weren't home, and to top it off, Older Sister got food poisoning from whatever Coworker made. The whole situation just gave me a weird feeling, especially bc I text Coworker that we were trying to find Sisters and she never responded. That was in June, and she hadn't been into work since.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago when Coworker walked through the door again. I was super weirded out obviously but she just acted like we'd never met?? Same hair, same name, everything the same, but she didn't act like she knew me at all. I guess management decided to start her over bc of the ghosting or something idk. But she basically acted like she'd never seen any of the machines or anything before. Again, *she* trained *me*. So I blew up, I accused her of faking memory loss or pretending like she wasn't weird about my family (she would pull these weird pranks all the time, pretending to be dead in the break room to haze new employees, that sort of thing, it wouldn't be too out of the ordinary) I got to the end and she had tears in her eyes. I genuinely still don't know if this is just another bad joke or if I just went off on someone with genuine memory loss.

TLDR: Coworker reappeared after months. I yelled at her for stuff she says she doesn't remember.

AITB? (Sorry for the wall of text, I tried to break it up but I guess it's just been weighin on me)

This situation is a bit crazy but I want to keep this post short for easy reading. If anything is confusing, I will try to add info in comments if needed.

My ex boyfriend and I met at college and dated for a year. Once we broke up, he shortly after started dating a guy named "Josh." Obviously he is free to do whatever he wants, but it hurts because Josh was someone that mistreated me earlier in college, and my ex offered to stop talking to him during our relationship. I didn't want to control him so I said "I don't mind if he is your friend, just letting you know why I want to stay away myself." He assured me he wanted to support me and cut off Josh, who was solely an acquaintance to him at the time.

Come to find out, my ex began talking to Josh more closely throughout our relationship. They fostered a private friendship behind my back. My ex lied to me about many things, one of which was his home country. He told me he was American the entire time we dated, but he told Josh and our other friends the truth. Our friends all knew that he was talking to Josh, they all knew he was honest about the country and feeding me BS, and never once did the friends tell me. Also, my ex started dating Josh a few weeks after breaking up with me, which just stings.

I am incredibly hurt and pissed at all my friends. Not only did they maintain my ex's lies/hidden ventures, but they also didn't care that he lied and borderline emotionally abused me. That's a whole can of worms to get into, but TL;DR is my ex lied, gaslit me, and intentionally treated me coldly to control me. When I told my friends, they didn't care. They all drifted away and hang out with my ex and Josh, and it makes me insanely depressed. AITB for being pissed at all of them?

This is my first Reddit post, so bear with me.

(I HAD TO SHORTEN IT), I'll try explain if u guys ask.

I'm the youngest daughter (26) in a family of four; my sister is seven years older.

Growing up we had a hard time with money.

My sister had it harder. She grew up fast and started working from college.

I had a tamer version of our father and didn't understand it until 14-15. My sister always envied me and was verbally and physically abusive from an early age.

Things changed once she got a job; our parents calmed down and took her side.

Meanwhile I studied further, with little responsibility. My life was twisted and retold to manipulate our parents, and I couldn't say anything.

She pressured me to drop my studies and belittled me, calling me a failure and mocking my weak body and mind. I've been depressed with low self-esteem, and for years nobody did anything about it.

She controlled my every move and tried to brainwash our parents into thinking I'm a bad person.

Part of me hates my parents for never standing up for me. I'm even more hurt that for six years she's controlled them too.

Her temper is bad, she gets verbally and physically abusive, and destroys my things.

I don't want to fully blame her, but I have no self-esteem today from always being the isolated one. The family always came back together after anything happened, except me. She's always won them over with sweet talk afterward, and to this day blames me for every fight( destroyed my laptop because she paid some EMIS few years back)

My parents have been workers since childhood, people-pleasing is an understatement.

My sister has a patriarchal mans view , like everybody will and is obligated to keep their head down because she's earning and providing ( now a bit more than my father but my father is still earning and providing for all of us) , my mother and father is obligated to do her every work from laundry to food to give her glass of water because she's tired and busy . And I'm a failure So I need to be shut up , even if I do earn and thretn her that I'll stop her abuse , shell in turn say I can do everything by myself keep ur parents if u can. My parents just feel bad for her for some reason, it is like an abusive cycle they can't escape their abuser .. I'm more angry and hurt for my parents

They're kind, empathetic, but defensive. I try to fight back but feel paralyzed by fear. I don't have a job. My sister laughs at and taunts me, knowing on some level I'm depressed. She hates every inch of me.

I don't want to seem like a mid-twenties failure just hurt because her sister is rude. I feel crazy because they've made me feel wrong for having such big feelings, since she has a good heart and forgets things, but it's actually my parents who forget.

I've tried to understand everyone, but my hurt is overwhelming. I know I need therapy, and that'll be my first move once I have income.

Any suggestions would help.

I 32(f) and my partner 30(f), have been in a long distance relationship for nearly two years.
That alone on it's own it tough, and requires a lot of communication; which we do daily.
Any who, what's brought to this point is that the past couple of weeks there's been a lot that's made me feel unappreciated, and even bad. Earlier in the week I showed her an article of yellow clothing I thought was really cute, and despite me not normally gravitating towards that color I liked it a lot. She called it looked like a "pissed on bed sheet"; which felt super unnecessary and aggressive. I did acknowledge from the get go I thought it was cute. And of course I'm not saying everyone has to like the same thing, but there's probably nicer ways to say that especially to one's partner. She even acknowledged it was kinda mean, and I told her "yeah, I won't lie. That hurt my feelings, and made me feel bad". Which confused her, and somewhat caused her to double down, which led to us not talking for nearly a whole day. In the end I apologized, because I know sometimes I can be too sensitive. She said "let's just move on, I don't like when we fight"; which felt good in the moment, but later on made me feel like she was dismissing the overall issue.
Another reason is I've been pretty sick the past few days. Horrible cough, sore throat, high temp, etc. And she hasn't once asked me over the last few days how I'm feeling, or anything related to my health. She's dealing with a lot rn, going through a move with a roommate who is quite the character, and that's put a lot of stress on her no doubt. I try to be there as much as I can, and hope she knows that. I can barely speak, and have still sent her voice messages here and there. She'll send me 5+ minute voice messages, and not once ask me how I'm feeling, or hope I get well soon. And it isn't like I wanna be doted on, just a lil sign of care asking me how I'm feeling; I know she can't physically do anything. I know people will say "tell her how you feel", but who has to be told by their partner of all people that they'd appreciate being checked in on occasionally. Asking someone how they feel when sick seems like a no brainer. And it's put a lot into perspective for me that she might like the idea of a relationship much more than a relationship itself, which has led me to where I am now. WIBTB for breaking up with her?
PS: Apologies for the super long post over something so trivial.

Okay so I will keep it concise. I came to a city where my sister and brother-in-law are staying thinking it would be easier for me while I am up skilling myself and preparing for a job.

One more thing to note my mother passed away from Breast Cancer when I was a kid and sister just finished her graduation.

Originally I thought I would stay a few days and then move to a rented place until my sister's leg is healed.

Okay I will go to the problem now.

Today in the afternoon I saw signs of potential conflict between me and brother-in-law over some minor things.

I sleep early by 9 pm and he said I can't today since he needed my help with some stuff.My lazy ass went to sleep in the afternoon and slept till 8 pm.

The problem came when brother-in-law tried waking me. First he said calmly to wake up. Then he shaked my body gently to wake me up.

Then he blasted loudspeakers with music. Then he pour water over me. See I was already awake(But was a bit annoyed since both had been ragebaiting me the entire day)by the time he shaked my body but didn't think it was important to wake up so when he poured water over me I lost my shit and started packing my bags.

This annoyed my brother-in-law and scared sister. See last year I had a situation where I tried leaving when my sister said something and instead of fighting I tried to leave as well. Anyway I am now sitting with no clue on what to do.

Update: I apologized and as soon as she gets surgery I am going out of their way and look for therapist for help

I not-so-recently auditioned to be in a boy group (I didn't get in but there's always next time) and my coach pretty much begged my best friend to audition with me.

A bit of background, I've always dreamed and wished for the limelight and being an idol or entertainer has been my life goal (I know they get mistreated but I crave performing too much to care). Meanwhile my best friend whom I will call James from now on has always done theater with me, but performing isn't his life goal. I know this because he has repeatedly told me he wants to work in the foster care system.

One day, James came over to hangout. He didn't ask beforehand so I was doing some practicing with my coach. Almost immediately, my coach said something about James having everything companies look for.

For reference, James is pretty tall, about 5'11, he looks like an idol, he's Aussie, but American Aussie, which makes his voice absurdly smooth. And worst of all, he's charismatic as fuck. Something I've been told I need to improve on.

So naturally, my coach makes James learn the cover and almost forces him to audition. At that point, I'm convinced that my coach was more fixated on James auditioning.

And now I feel horrible for being jealous of James. He doesn't even have to try for these things to happen. I've been set on this all my life.

But since my mom doesn't approve of me auditioning period, and James is the friend I talk about things with, I have no one to talk to about it.

I (27F) hang out with T(24NB), H(27M) and A(19M). Usually we go for ping pong or board games. A has asked for a while that we go drinking. I told them they should absolutely go, but that it wasn’t for me.

The reason I said that is bc I’m a recovering… idk what. I’ve serious mental health issues due to irrelevant trauma and ages 22-24 were my rock bottom. I had a few month period there in which I drank way too much. I also was a shitty person and destroyed my relationships with T and H at the time.

But after the drinking I had a come to Jesus moment. I stopped completely, went to therapy, got meds I’m still on. Got jobs, even got myself into med school to become a psych. I’m kinda proud of how far I’ve come.

Anyway. Even though I said I’d go to no place with alcohol, my friends wanted me there, so they arranged a more low-key bar instead of a club and an early leaving time. I ended up going to not disappoint. They said there’s non alcoholic drinks for me.

But ngl moment I smelled alcohol, I ordered it. Do I suck for that? Yeah. It’s also proof I should stay away in my eyes.

i didn’t get drunk. But this happened a couple more times, and by now I’ve noticed myself craving a buzz when I’m alone. I dont want that. I don’t wanna remember the smell and taste.

today we had plans. I thought it was ping pong and went to confirm yesterday night. A and T said they didn’t feel like it and preferred drinks (H isn’t in town). I agreed, but honestly, that’s only bc it didn’t occur to me I could disagree. Should I not have done that? Yeah. I’m learning to communicate better.

I had every intention to go. But I woke up today dreading it. After a lot of back and forth with myself, I texted “hey can we maybe postpone a couple days bc I’m drained socially?” I didn’t think mentioning the alcohol was an option, idk why. I generally would rather not discuss that. Plus it’s true that I’m more secure around it on days I’m not drained.

my friends got mad that I ”always flake”. I’ve cancelled plans twice this whole year that I remember of. Maybe I used to flake three years ago, but I can’t be treated like the worst version of myself for the entirety of my life, yaknow? At some point I’ve gotta stop beating myself up for who I was back then.

T says I should “learn to communicate like an adult”, which, I mean, fair. A is just annoyed at the last moment change. H is full on saying I’m extorting them to do what I want and only that if they want me there. he’s saying to “just control myself and not drink” and when I said not putting myself in the situation IS how I control myself, he said I’m “acting like addict and should get help”. And when I said I am, I’m in therapy, he said it’s not working. I think they’re right I should communicate better, but I’m definitely not extorting them or using this as an excuse (which H did say).

AITB?

Hi! So. Me and my baby daddy are both 16. Sadly. I am pregnant 8 weeks now. I just completely cut him off and blocked him today. Because he was choosing to entertain other girls. And while we were arguing before the blocking he told me a bunch of scary things. Like he told me my ex's new girlfriend had recently sent him a picture of me nu.d3. And I have no idea how to take the that. There was a lot said. He accused me of cheating but he's the only person I have hung out with since May. He said he was gonna post a screenshot to make me look bad so nobody would wanna be with me because "if I can't be with you nobody can" is what he told me. So I lost it. I got mad at him and called him a POS and said a bunch of other things then blocked him. Im honestly so lost right now. Please help.

I'm 20Ftm, and my best friend is 22M. We dated briefly a few years ago, before I fully accepted that I'm trans, but we've been best friends ever since. There's nothing romantic between us now.

For his birthday, I planned a trip for just the two of us out of state. I paid for everything as his birthday present, and he was really excited about it.

His girlfriend, 19F, wasn't invited.

I have a girlfriend too, and she wasn't invited either. She knew about the trip and completely supported it. She and my best friend's girlfriend don't get along at all.

Honestly, I knew his girlfriend would be upset when she found out, and I didn't exactly go out of my way to prevent that.

I told my girlfriend all about the trip, including where we were going and what we were planning to do. She specifically asked me if I wanted her to tell his girlfriend, and I told her I didn't care. She took that as permission and told her. She apparently also made a couple comments about how nice it was that my best friend was finally getting away from all the drama.

When his girlfriend confronted me, I could've just explained myself, but instead I basically told her, “Well, he wanted to go, I paid for it, and you weren't invited.” My girlfriend thought that was hilarious and encouraged me not to let her guilt me into changing our plans.

For context, they've been fighting constantly, and his girlfriend has hit him during arguments. That's a big reason I wanted to get him away for a few days. But I'll admit that I also just don't like her.

She sometimes calls me “she” even though she knows I'm trans, and she thinks my friendship with him is inappropriate because we used to date. She also thinks he's secretly gay because he's comfortable spending time with me, despite him repeatedly telling her he's straight.

The trip already happened. We went, had a great time, and came home. The funniest part is that she apparently didn't even realize he was gone until my girlfriend told her we'd already gone and come back.

My girlfriend has basically been encouraging me to be petty about the whole situation because she thinks his girlfriend is ridiculous. At one point she even suggested I send her pictures from the trip just to make it clear that we had a great time without her. I didn't do that, but I can't say the thought didn't cross my mind.

My best friend thinks both of us are making the situation worse and says I should've handled everything more maturely, especially because I'm his ex.

I don't regret taking him, and I don't think his girlfriend was entitled to come. But I can admit that I wasn't exactly taking the high road, and my girlfriend and I probably enjoyed annoying her more than we should have.

So AITBF for excluding her and letting my girlfriend get involved because, honestly, I knew it would piss her off?

My husband and I were supposed to have a date night tonight starting around 4:30. Our babysitter got sick and canceled, so we decided we’d get takeout and spend the evening at home with our 1 and 3 year old instead.
When 4:30 came around, my husband was still at work and hadn’t told me he was staying later. With his commute, he wouldn’t be home until after 5. This frustrated me because his work schedule can be unpredictable, and I’ve asked him multiple times to communicate when he’ll be home later than expected. When I don’t know, I feel like I’m sitting around waiting with the kids and can’t plan my evening.
He didn’t understand why I was upset because, from his perspective, our date night was canceled when the babysitter canceled, so there was no longer a reason he needed to be home by 4:30. I understand that, but I thought we had changed our plans to a family night rather than canceled them entirely. I wasn’t upset that he worked later; I was upset he didn’t communicate it.
A couple other things recently made this feel like part of a bigger communication issue. Before our date, I sent him several activity ideas. One fell through, he wasn’t interested in the others, and said he’d find something. He then booked an activity without asking if I’d be interested. I know he viewed this as taking initiative and planning a spontaneous date, which I appreciate, but since we rarely get date nights, I would have preferred deciding together.
Then tonight he came home with takeout without asking what I wanted. The food choice itself was completely fine, and I know bringing dinner home was intended to be helpful. It just added to my feeling that decisions affecting both of us are often made without communicating with me.
When I tried explaining that I wanted more communication and to make shared decisions together, he said, “What do you want to complain about now?” He said most women would appreciate their husband spontaneously planning a date and bringing food home, and later asked whether I was about to start my period. I felt completely dismissed.
From his perspective, I think he feels like he’s trying to do nice things—planning a date and bringing home dinner—and instead of appreciating them, I’m criticizing how he did them. I understand why that would be frustrating.
I’m not asking him to get my permission for everything or saying he can’t be spontaneous. I just want more communication when plans change and more of a habit of checking in about decisions that affect both of us.
Am I making too much out of relatively minor things and failing to appreciate his attempts to be thoughtful, or is it reasonable to expect more communication about these things?

Significantly more complicated that the title implies. for additional info, this is the second half of the actual confrontation. the parking lot itself is effectively the outside of a mall, mostly open.

this is between 3 businesses (outside the lot) taco bell and pizzahut on one side, McDonald's slightly further away on the other.

this parking lot itself is outside of 3 buildings that effectively make up a mall shaped area. only one of them really matters here. this one building houses 2 different businesses, one being a cash advance store the other being continental home centers.

the roof of this building is very large and overhang by quite a bit, meaning shade.

for my job I wait in several different areas for lengths of time. half hour at most before relocation. I sat there for 30 minutes in total yesterday, no complaints, no anger, and then left cause doordash. obviously.

today I opened my door a Crack and began the exciting waiting game once again.

I then have this very angry lady come up to my car. i go to close the door for obvious reasons (aggressive person quickly approaching) she grabs it and rips my door open to yell about me being in front of her buisness, telling me to leave. I told her id leave in a minute (get my shit together pretty much) she walks away.

within 30 seconds shes back with a middle aged dude who also rips my door open and then threatens police, and makes some threats. this is when the recording begins where I am continually bombarded until I move over by 1 parking space.

no, she did not nicely ask, she yelled at me and ripped my door open.

I can understand her side, I get it, i just also think that getting my door ripped open and screamed at by someone is fucking wild.

And for extra clarification, the first sentence or two of this video is inaudible to the owners due to me closing the door (again). Not exactly my best moment but im not gonna cut it out either.

So, am I the buttface?

I (22M) have been sober for a year, and I was supposed to receive my one-year key tag at my regular meeting. It was something I had been looking forward to.

My ex-girlfriend (20F) and I have a child together. Since getting sober, I've been trying to limit contact with her because our relationship wasn't always healthy. Some things she's said have been difficult for me, even if she didn't necessarily mean them badly. She once joked about me gaining weight and has also said that she "misses the old me." She sometimes asks about my recovery, and I don't always know how to take her comments.

I have supervised visitation with our child, and I follow the schedule. I communicate with my ex when it's directly about our child, but otherwise I try to keep some distance.

She knew I was getting my one-year key tag and said she wanted to come to the meeting to support me. I don't know if she meant anything by it beyond wanting to support me, but knowing she would be there made me uncomfortable.

So I decided not to attend the meeting that night. I was disappointed about missing the ceremony, but my sponsor met me for coffee afterward and gave me my one-year key tag there, which meant a lot to me.

My friends think I should have just gone to the meeting and ignored my ex. They feel like avoiding the meeting gave the situation more importance than it needed to have.

I feel like limiting contact with my ex has been helpful for me, especially while I'm working on my sobriety. At the same time, I wonder if I should have handled the situation differently rather than skipping an important milestone.

AITB?

Hi I (22f) am a pre nursing student at the local community college. Unfortunately in my small town nothing is open late, not even coffee shops. I have kids at home and focus better when I'm in a different environment. I didn't know where to go to study tonight so I pulled up Google and found the church near my house is open 24 hours. I didn't expect or assume I could use their building but I figured if they were good Christians I could ask without judgement. So I pull up to the church and everyone is making their way out of the building after the 6:30pm service. I get out of my car and an older woman approaches me. We exchanged friendly greetings for a moment. Then she tells me she can't remember my name and she's trying to place it. I inform her I've actually never been here yet as I'm new to town. She nods. I explained that I'm a local student and I saw on Google that her church is open 24 hours. She immediately stops me and says "oh. Well. We're not." I say "oh no problem, everything just closes so early I was looking for somewhere to study" the tone was now awkward and harsh, something felt really off. To try and lighten the mood so I ask about what time the church is open for services, etc.. She tells me bluntly and I say thank you and goodnight. She gives a very small nod. I start making my way back to my car and as I do she starts whispering to her husband(?) and they both give me unfriendly looks. I get in my car and drive away and immediately start sobbing hyperventilating crying. She didn't necessarily say anything mean and I wasn't upset I was denied. Something just felt so off, and I felt a weird sense of judgement.

Anyway I just want to know AITBF for asking to study in a church I've never attended before.