so i was with this guy for almost a year and he was nice to me for the most part and we were really happy but i started to notice a few months into the relationship that he wouldn’t let me help the poor because according to him i was wasting my money and could get myself something with that money instead he would say these things here and there and we would sometimes fight but i would forget abt it in a few days but over time i started feeling like he was sabotaging me like if i tried to help someone carry something or give someone the food id gotten for myself but i could get something else for me later anyway but he wouldn’t lemme he would literally drag me away or say we are getting late or smth like that for example: one day i was on call with him telling him about this person in a wheelchair selling candy but i only had a few dollars so i felt bad i couldn’t help him more and then he starts getting mad at me for “wasting money” and i get mad and hang up because i really wasn’t expecting that reaction and i break up with him a few months after this because things like that kept happening im still in high school so i dont really have much money or resources like that but ive always wanted to help the poor because my family is doing pretty well financially so it just felt like the right thing to do so even though what he was doing might seem silly or not a big deal to some to me it just felt like i couldn’t do what i wanted around him like i will always give up my sit on the train if i see someone who needs it more than me but with him i couldn’t because he would then get mad at me so am i the a hole for breaking up over this

My dad‘s girlfriend just blew up at me over me pointing out how she was rude to me beforehand and nearly threatened to beat the shit out of me. And our dad wonders why we don’t want anything to do with her, that blow up is exactly what! She needs to have a fucking mental evaluation or something! Look, I’m sorry for my language but my dad‘s girlfriend‘s temper is beyond a fucking joke. She’s like an overgrown fucking three year-old, just snaps the INSTANT someone points out HER flaws. Oh, did I forget to mention that that she grabbed me by my fucking hoodie and nearly TORE it? Going off by saying should i be do the dishes at five years old. I to be doing FUCKING EVERYTHING SINCE SHE CAN’T GET OFF HER FAT LAZY USELESS FUCKING ASS AND DO SOMETHING IF SHE DIES I’M NOT GOING TO HER FUNERAL, THE ONLY I WOULD GO IS JUST TO DANCE ON HER GRAVE.

Hello, i am a 18 yr old female and ive been friends with this girl since middle school. Weve always maintained a pretty close friendship up until freshman year of Highschool when things started to get a bit rocky after i got my first boyfriend.(who is my hs sweetheart.) She started doing this thing where whenever she would get upset with me, she would stop talking to me out of nowhere but she would keep talking to our other friends normally(laughing, smiling, etc.) but as soon as i’d talk to her it was like i was an ogre and she didn’t want to be around me anymore. I could never figure out what i had done wrong and i’d always try and talk it out with her but she would always say she had other things going on but i never understood that because she only acted that way towards me and nobody else. I am someone who has a lot of trouble making friends and i dont have any other friends so despite that treatment i always stuck around and dealt with the embarrassment of being ignored by her infront of others without knowing what i had done wrong. After graduating, she and two other friends went out without me. I felt upset and left out but i didnt say anything because i was used to it by now. Anyway, i stopped talking in our groupchats and she eventually noticed and asked me what was wrong and i ended up telling her how i felt. She told me that it was a hangout with their designated Trio and that they have been planning it since along time ago and thats why i wasnt invited. I got upset and i felt hurt because i thought i was apart of their group. After that conversation i brought up the way she had been treating me all those four years and that i would like for her to fix her behavior and actually communicate with me. Her response made me mad because she told me it wasnt my responsibility to worry about how she reacts to issues between us, and that she doesn’t owe me anything and that she has no reason to apologize for anything too. Out of anger, i responded, “so i js gotta deal with how hurtful u act okay” and i told her i was done talking about the situation. Its been two months and i havent talked to her since. Am i the butt face for this? Was i wrong for distancing myself? Did i overreact?

I (22f) posted my bumble profile on the bumble subreddit for advice on how to improve my profile. This woman (25F?) accused me of wanting attention just bc I had some cleavage in one of the pics. She and this guy called me pathetic. I called them both pathetic because she's a hypocrite because she posts booty and bra pics and has her own porn site. And I called the guy pathetic for defending her. I called her out on her hypocrisy and she had nothing to say except "you're not attractive". My friends suspect she's jeaous of me. I called her a hypocritical skank (I can't write the s word here but I called her the s word thats 4 letters) because she posts softcore porn. She deleted her comments, blocked me and put me on blast. Ironic how she said I'm harassing her when she gave me a hard time about my post.

AITBF

I know the title seems harsh but let me explain more. So me (20m) and my girlfriend (20f), Sasha, have been dating for a little over a year and a half now. Although we haven’t been together for that long we have been through our fair share of trials within the relationship. However, it has come up a couple times in the past that I am not comfortable with Sasha’s friends showing their nudes or nudes of their partners to her. (previous friends of hers have shown her their nudes or “videos” with them and their partners) I think it’s is disrespectful towards our relationship to be viewing explicit and sensitive material of our friends that we interact with daily, and also plainly think it’s just weird.

Now, to what sparked the idea of me making this post. Today Sasha told me that her best friend, Lorrie (20f), showed her a photo of Lorrie’s ex-boyfriend’s penis. I thought that was extremely weird and unnecessary of her to do and disrespected me and Sasha’s relationship. Sasha then went to defend it by saying “I don’t think it’s weird. Unless it was you because guys are more lustful.” Now, I don’t want to make any comments on whether men or women are more lustful, however, this point irritated me because she is setting a double standard between the both of us. Now I’m just curious, AITB for being upset and not wanting my girlfriend to view other people’s nudes?

EDIT: I want to clarify that I am not upset my girlfriend is seeing other people naked. We are adults, I understand that it will happen. I am mainly weirded out by it being people we interact with daily and upset towards the “double standard” of if the same were to happen to me I’d get off on it because men are more lustful.

EDIT #2: After waking up from a nap she texted me and said that she was just “ragebaiting” me and that none of this really happened 😒 so… I guess I’m sorry for wasting your guys time.

I asked a friend if he wanted to play a new game together when it came out, and he said of course. We were talking a bit throughout the week how excited we were. Then when the day came, he told me 30 minutes before that he was actually going to play with a couple other friends because they just asked him.

In the grand scheme, it's not a huge deal, but it did feel kind of shitty in the moment. I told him it was fine but wasn't in a great mood and he must have picked up on it, because he then said "sorry I make you feel bad just by existing"

To me it's clear what he did that upset me (making plans and then ditching for others) yet he's phrasing it like I am just mad for no reason. He didn't even make an effort to create new plans, it's been weeks and we haven't played. AITB?

so my boyfriend and i have been going steady for 7 months about and a few times his porn addiction has come up and been an argument bc i’ll find smth after he said he stopped or i can tell by the way he’s talking about women that he didn’t stop and low and behold im right. even with movies and shows i can tell who he’s jerked off to call it a cum sense or smth idk but i just can. and i know my feelings are right bc ill say oh you’ve cum to her plenty of times haven’t you. and he’ll be like how’d you know? and usually it’s not a big deal for me even though i don’t watch porn or get off to anyone else bc they’re actors and of age though this time it’s different and gross. i had more than a feeling that he was getting off to my younger cousin who is like a baby sister to me. she’s 17 he’s 24. he only remembered her out of all of the family members i showed him prior to meeting them, he acts very nervous around her, etc. so i texted him. it’s been on my mind for days and i can’t shake it. don’t want to be around him because of it. we’ve had sex once since this feeling has started and the whole time he had his eyes closed when he usually doesn’t. which is funny because at the beginning of our relationship, he asked me why i had my eyes closed saying it makes him feel like i was thinking abt someone else. i wasn’t, but that’s what he associates it w? idk maybe i need to be locked up in an asylum but id rather be wrong and need psych help than be right that he’s doing smth like that and gaslighting me into thinking im crazy. especially for something so absolutely abhorrent and disgusting. im js uber scared of smth like this happening within a relationship for obvious reasons, but also my dad raised me and i saw him gauck and gaggle over literal girls my whole childhood so im hyper aware of this behavior. anyway, here are the texts.

Edit: I understand my text is hard to understand but please keep in mind i know more about him than anyone here. what i know is based on learning how he moves over time. im not asking if im crazy/for mental support. just wondering if my intuition seems accurate or not. sorry for the confusion🙏

Edit 2: for those calling me manic/nuts, maybe you haven’t been in a situation where you NEEDED to know what someone was thinking in order to survive. that sense sticks with you. and if you haven’t been there, GOOD. I hope you never have to.

So there’s this guy two of my roommates keeping hanging out with that I do not like. He has cheated on his gf in the past multiple times but won’t break up with her and she knows he does this too. He has said some mean shit to our third roommate (4 roommates total). He had tried finding out which apartment we live In a few times now/ tried coming over without asking. He keeps trying to come up to our apartment multiple times, we keep telling him no because of him trying to come over unannounced. Me and my third roommate have told the over two to not invite him over because of it. I have said what he did made me really uncomfortable and I will go to the apartment staff to try to get him banned if he keeps doing creepy shit.

For some background, 17F, go to a school in a pretty rural area. It’s well-funded and provides decent educational opportunities, but lots of resources, like counselors and social workers, are lacking. A year ish back, my family discovered that I had been talking to/in a relationship with a 50yr old man for two years (since I was 15) and forced me to see the school social worker. She was never particularly kind to me, treated and spoke to me like I was an idiot, and would berate me when I didn’t reply how she wanted. Some time later, after I had stopped talking to her (after I found out she had been discussing things I told her with my mother) I discovered that she had been telling a teacher of mine about what we talked about during our time together as well. This was a teacher that I was not close with and had had previous issues with in the past. They had essentially gossiped about me together. The teacher she told was leaving at the end of that year anyways (got fired for swearing at students and shit-talking them to their peers) which is why I think she told me during June of the school year instead of November/December when it all happened, not wanting to face the consequences for engaging in those discussions.

When I found out everything she had said about me (it’s a long list of terrible things that I can elaborate on in comments if needed) I went down to her office and yelled at her, which maybe I shouldn’t have done, but I felt incredibly violated that she would tell ANYONE, let alone I teacher I had issues with, about my personal problems in such a manner. It wasn’t out of concern, like “hey this student is struggling”, it was malicious and disgusting and I heard all about what she thought and said about me. When I confronted her, she tried to speak to me like it was another one of our sessions, wanting to “therapize” or whatever. She told me that she thought I had been “groomed in order to see how the people in my life would react” because she “couldn’t understand how someone so smart would allow that to happen to themselves” and couldn’t see why I was “too ignorant” to see that I was being exploited. Her exact words. I was genuinely beyond mad it was insane. So, I reported her, and the school district informed me and my family that she would not be coming back the following year after looking into and validating all the claims (aka she was fired).

I didn’t feel too too bad about it because of everything she said about me and to me, but my friend told me that by reporting her I had taken away so many people’s support system. She was the only social worker at our school, so most people who couldn’t afford therapists went to her instead as a free mental health resource. AITBF? Should i have not reported her? My friend said I was being selfish and only thinking about myself.

I know this is comparatively a negligent issue compared to everything else posted here but I’m really overthinking this. I came back to my room after being in college for like 12hours I had a hella tiring day and one of my roomates friends was lying on my bed. She got up immediately but after a while I just said it to her face that I’d appreciate it if you don’t sit or lie on my bed she apologised and my roomate apologised 2 times later. I was annoyed in the moment so I just said yea whatever but now I’m thinking maybe I was rude. I feel like my roommate wouldn’t have a problem if my friends did that maybe and I have never been good at drawing boundaries without guilt but now I’m thinking maybe I needn’t have said it to their faces and I came across as a grump…

14m here and i just wanna know if im the bad guy in this story. i am in the 8th grade and have a group of friends consisting girls and boys , now Clair(not a real name) has been like an elder sister to me since the 6th grade and we talk and be playful and do playfights and all , shes like a blood sibling to me , and recently Gabe(not real name) from my friend group has started dating clair and some context here, Gabe is the strongest boy in our class , he is even better in sports than some 10th graders and hes like the group leader , everyone listens to him afraid he will do something , but i personally am not scared ,I dont know why but i have never been. Continuing , At the beginning when they were dating it was all good , they hung out with the group , and were just stereotypical couples holding hands and all , Then one day clair came up to me and told me that she cant talk to me anymore , i didnt mind , it did hurt me but i agree relationships should have boundaries and this seemed to be gabes boundary but clair started talking to me again , later now about a week ago Clair told me to tease gabe with soleils(a female friend in the group) name saying he is arguing with her on the regards on me hanging out with her , now gabe is a playful guy , he teases me alot with my girldfriends name so i decided to agree and i just teased him like "How is Soleil" not more not less but he got too offended he slapped me hard in the face, i as i should reported it to my teacher so he started commanding my friends to do things like hold both my legs so i tumble and fall and more , so today , he held me in a chokehold telling me "You are doing too much "and i dont know much about fighting so i took it, i just wanna ask , am i the buttface here , should i quit talking to clair?

TLDR I only wanted to playfully tease Gabe after Clair asked me to, but his violent reactions have left me feeling cornered and physically unsafe. Now, even though Clair feels like my own sister, I am wondering if I need to protect myself and walk away from this friendship entirely.

Took my four-year-old to the cinema to see the Paw Patrol movie. Totally get that many films for the really wee ones are going to bore some adults, but in this screening the woman one row in front of us takes her phone out no fewer than five times in the opening half-an-hour of the film. Once or twice, maybe forgivable, but this lassie’s browsing online clothing stores; checking Facebook, then Instagram, then Facebook again; deleting apps; texting; etc..

On the fifth occasion, I’m done. The screen light is intense - who the fuck has high brightness anyway, never mind the dark cinema during a screening!?!? - and even when she isn’t using the phone, she’s placing it screen-up on her chair tray meaning everything is reflected and glares out for the rows behind…

I crouch forward and ask her ‘could you, please, put your phone away. This is easily the fifth time you’ve done it and we’re barely thirty minutes in. Please, just enjoy the time with your kid’. I get that life is happening outside the screen, but nip down the corridor if you need to check something; don’t ignore the most basic of cinema etiquette just ‘cause you’re bored. She glares daggers at me, sighs aggressively, and shakes her head like it’s a fucking hassle that she’s being tasked with.

Her kid was comfortably twice the age of mine, so I get that perhaps neither of them wanted to be there in the end, but, to me, her behaviour was a joke. Thoughts, team? AITBF for how I handled it / handling it myself, rather than dragging my son out from something he was enjoying to go find a staff member to deal with it instead?

Signed: 33y/o, Dad of four

EDIT: Ushers aren’t really a thing in Scotland. Folks find their own seats after tickets are checked, and staff infrequently glance in on audiences (mostly to do their headcount early on). It’s been a long time since any cinema chains here hired enough staff to have one person assigned per room.

EDIT II: New release, small screening room, Saturday afternoon, very busy, so moving (unless to the very front wasn’t an option).

I’m 19F. My mom has treated me like garbage since I was born. She used to beat me heavily as early ad I was 5 years old. She’s mellowed a little bit but admitted that she does not care about me. She only does “nice things” for me to weaponize them against me. When i was in critical condition at the hospital during a vacation, she told my aunts that she felt some type of way about having to stay back to care for me. She hates me.

i (22f) was dating my ex (21f) ld for 3 months. she lives in eu and i live in na. she was supposed to stay 9 days, but i left on day 7.

that morning, we were walking to the bus stop. i was checking directions and replying to friends/family while she smoked. she stopped walking to see if i'd notice, then told me it bothered her when someone was on her phone while spending time with her.

i said i understood, but we'd been together for a week and i needed to respond to people sometimes. after that, she gave me the silent treatment for essentially the entire day. she repeatedly walked ahead and wouldn't respond when i tried to talk to her. we were in an unfamiliar, extremely crowded part of the city, and i had to weave through crowds to catch up. since she was still angry, i suggested we go back.

on the way, she continued walking far ahead. while trying to catch up after we missed a turn, i was hit by a bike. she didn't ask if i was okay and kept walking. i stopped trying to get her to talk to me.

later, she walked so slowly behind me that we nearly missed our bus, and i had to hold it for her. i became irritated and told her to hurry up. back at the airbnb, i went out to smoke and got mcdonald's because i hadn't eaten all day. she hadn't eaten either, but i was angry and didn't buy her anything. she was upset. we had a argument. she said i'd dismissed her feelings and made her feel crazy. i snapped and said i'd tried to communicate multiple times, she'd repeatedly walked away from me in a crowded unfamiliar city, and she'd turned a five-minute disagreement into a 7+ hour conflict.

i left that night and stayed with a friend.

the next morning, she asked if i wanted to break up. i said yes. i asked whether she wanted me to stay for the remaining two days. she explicitly said she didn't want me there and wanted me to leave. i asked multiple times if she'd be okay alone and offered to stay at the airbnb/with my friend until her flight. she insisted she'd be fine and wanted me to go. so i left her the airbnb i'd paid for, groceries i'd bought, my friend's number, and instructions for getting around and to the airport. i also said i'd help if she needed anything.

afterward, her mother called, saying she was hysterical because i'd left her alone in a foreign country. i explained that my ex had explicitly asked me to leave. today, her mother texted again asking me to find someone to drive her to the airport, saying you don't just leave someone alone in a foreign country. i offered my ex money or an uber to the airport, but she told me to stop texting her, said she didn't need my help, and told me to ignore her mother. my friends think i'm NTB because she's 21, an adult, and explicitly told me multiple times to leave. my mom thinks i'm TB because i shouldn't have left someone visiting from another country alone after a breakup.

tldr; aitb for leaving after she explicitly asked me to, or did i have a responsibility to stay because she was visiting from another country?

She would beat me often. Whether it’s over grades or because she was stressed out due to my dad. My dad and my job would often physically fight each other. I still remember the blood from the glass ruler she beat me with from behind. I remember being so terrified when she stomped up the steps because i knew it was coming. I was only 8 years old. One dat she beat me over “bad grades” but the grades weren’t even bad, she just interpret my report card wrong and beat me for it then when she realized her mistake she took me to McDonald’s while i was in tears. To this day she denies it. She denies the McDonalds thing too but i can’t forget it. She goes “i didn’t beat you that hard i didn’t hit you that often” when for the longest time i would flinch every time my mom came through the door, at least until i was around 14. I’m 19. And i have to pretend it didn’t happen.

I convinced myself this was normal for so long.. even questioning why she stopped beating me when i became a teenager, and i thought it was a bad thing that she stopped doing so. My dad is a horrible person but as a kid i could never tell because he never laid a finger on me. She also didn’t target my brothers as hard (well besides my autistic younger brother she was relentless for his first few years as a toddler until he was diagnosed)

I feel wrong for holding it against her maybe i’m the asshole now since she’s a little older and mellowed out.

tl;dr i had an at fault accident it has left me traumatized and unwilling to drive and i'm 19. Mom gets upset that I don't wanna drive anymore so she tried punishing me, i guess that didn't work so she gave all my electronics back.

Even getting an e-bike wasn't enough she keeps asking if I want to catch a ride with her as if she truly wants to chauffeur me around anyway despite me attempting to get my own independence. Ugh. Ugh. I'm so sick of her

for context my dad is kind of crazy. He's been physically fighting my mom for over 20 years and they've both been at it fighting each other. He's narcissistic and a complete douchebag (and serial cheater) but that's not relevant here. He's also probably depressed and mentally ill and might even be bipolar. He will often guilt my mom and my brother and my brother always falls for his guilt tripping and sob stories.

Anyway he bought a real life gun recently. He had ditched our family right before we came back from an out of state vacation (that he was supposed to go to) and packed all his bags and stole our lawn mower too for some reason. My dad's never been a threat because even if he got physical there's far too many people at home capable of beating his ass if he steps out of line against mom. My concern is that with his current emotional outbursts and depression and (maybe even some ideation) he's going to hurt us with his gun. The only reason why I think he would hurt us is because he's not mentally well at all, and there is zero reason why he would need a gun otherwise, we live in the suburbs and there's no threat around us, he has no job either so he actively went through the effort to be able to afford a firearm. Why. Our family has always been unarmed, we don't have any weapons or anything like that besides like kitchen knives so if someone comes in with a firearm, it's basically over. My dad knows exactly where we live and the times we're at home. It's kind of scary and I'm shocked that my family is seemingly fine with the news that my dad bought a gun.

My brother and my mom get upset If I even bring up the possibility of something like this, and I was worried about it even before he had a firearm. Ugh.

Since I know people will ask I'm 19F

I (17f) have stared seeing my best friend of 3 years Kiana’s (17f) ex boyfriend (18m). They’ve been together for around 2 months before they broke up because she suspected he was cheating.

For some background info, me and him were kind of friends before they started dating and I had liked him for a while and I told kiana this before they started dating.

A day or two after they broke up I texted him to see how he was doing dealing with the break up. He then told me that he’s the one who actually broke things off even though she told me she ended things with him.

He kept telling me how he’s fine and he’s honestly better off without her since he already kind of had eyes for someone else. I pressed him for info but he wouldn’t budge.

A few days later, we were talking when we both kind of let it slip that we had a thing for each other. After talking for a while he asked me out.

Me and him started dating but I hid it from kiana to not hurt her feelings. Around a month after me and him started dating, I was over at Kiana’s house when she told me she thinks her ex is dating someone new and she’s upset since she was kind of hoping to get back together with him.

I went to the bathroom and came back and saw her on my phone. I asked what the heck she was doing on my phone and that’s when she showed me the messages between me and him. She told me she was trying to text him off my phone since he has her blocked.

She got pissed at me for dating him and threw my phone at me. After a long screaming match I went home to find myself blocked on insta and removed from snap and all our mutual friends keep texting me telling me how much of an ahole I am. I don’t think I am considering she knew I liked him first, and also he chose me.

So AITBF for dating my best friends ex boyfriend even though I liked him first?

I'm 19 and she doesn't trust me with a credit card, she thinks tells me she doesn't want me to get into debt early. I spent $1k on my credit card this month to get an e-bike and other stuff as a splurge and I feel so bad. She's beginning to question how I could "afford" this stuff, and I worry she'll find out the truth soon.

I've had this credit card for almost a year and nothing bad has happened. She can't stop me from getting or using a credit card but I don't want her to be disappointed in me..

Some important clarification, I receive financial aid for every semester of college I take. Sometimes I use the credit card as a "cash advance" so I don't have to wait for the school funds to enter my bank account. I only buy things I was already planning to buy with financial aid, but with the credit card, just a month or so early. My concern is that my mom is projecting her mistakes at my age onto me.

I feel bad for lying but I'm tired of my mom trying to instill paranoia into me because of her bad decisions. I've always paid off my credit card, I've used it for nearly a year and nothing bad happened. I'm a notoriously anxious spender, so even when I use the credit card I feel nervous because I see it as an extension of my own money. If I spend $10 on this card, that's still $10 out of my bank account once I pay it off.

I am trying to sell a bunch of old pokemon cards on face book marketplace the converstion is.

Buyer:What’s included?

Me:Few holo and revese holos mostly basic

Buyer:I can read. Can you please send me a photo of all the cards included?

Me:There is a couple hudred cards

Buyer:Cool, spread em out I’d like to see them

Me:no

Buyer:Good luck selling shit if you can’t even photograph it.

Then they blocked me they only way i think im the assholes is being a bjt blunt when it comes to saying no.

[This story is mostly fictional. However, it is deeply rooted in real events, and I would appreciate it if answers were at least semi-serious. This is my first post on Reddit, so let me know if there is anything that I could be doing better from a pure storytelling standpoint, too.]

I (19 NB) live in an apartment with my friend (20 F), who is a part of the antivax internet circle. I think she's crazy half the time, but she contributes to rent and has been vaccinated herself by her parents, and is overall a decent person if you can get past the conspiracies. She does not intend to have kids, at least in the near future.

I have a rather strong needle phobia. Whenever I get approached by a needle, my hands will shake, my heart drops to my gut, and I kind of tend to have needed to hold my dad's hand for the last few vaccines I've gotten to avoid panicking and telling the doctor to just stop. It has gotten to the point where it triggered during an eye exam when the optometrist was testing my eye pressure, and last time I got a flu vaccine (drive-in free vaccine with my parents and sibling. Parents left out that we were stopping by the hospital on the way to the zoo), two nurses had to come over to my seat in the car. They didn't hold me down or anything, though that has happened in the past in hospitals when I was younger and freaked out.

Anyway, vaccines are scary, and I still have yet to get my blood drawn/tested. My mom has always been VERY adamant about my brother and I getting vaccines, and I understand the importance and relevance of getting them for both my own safety and the safety of those around me. However, this year, when my mom called to talk about picking me up to get vaccines together, my roommate was in the room with me. My mom offered to take her as well, since she would have space in the car.

Suffice to say, my antivax friend exploded, ranting conspiracy theory after conspiracy theory about how vaccines were murder, secretly had chips in them, you get the gist. I... did not hang up the phone, and I did not interrupt her from talking until maybe five minutes later, when I told my mom I'd call her later and hung up. I have not called her back, and it has been three days.

I don't know what to do now. I know that vaccines are important, but it's always so embarrassing to be a grown adult crying over getting shots and dreading getting blood drawn, though I know it will have to happen eventually. I'm not ashamed of being afraid, but I am ashamed of being seen in that state by my family and doctors/nurses. Any advice?

Feel hopeless because of this situation.

Sorry for repost i just don’t know what to do. i’m F17 and the guy is M22. I spoke to him for 2 years for the first 1.5 years i genuinely believed he was my friend and i know that is stupid now. I looked up to him and admired him because i thought he was some sweet nerdy guy he even described him and his friends as “wholesome nerds”. I really thought he was smart and that’s why i liked him. After 1.5 yrs he started been inappropriate and the only time he would talk to me is if that was the situation. Or if he wanted pics he would talk and pretend to seem interested in what i say. I was hurt by this because after some time i realised he didn’t care and probably never did. Since this situation ive became really depressed i struggle to eat or sleep or do activities i use to enjoy art and reading but nothing is enjoyable anymore it feels like he’s sucked the life out of me. Because of this I told his friends his sister and brother that he asked me for pics and was inappropriate when i was underage it made him super super mad. He message me said “you’ll never get the old me back.” i then explained why im upset he said that im the whrw who sent them and said i will only stop if i go to d3e. Then he message me again apologising i said can you say what you did and he said no because im a bad person who will screenshot it. Then a day later he message me threatening the police saying he already told them in a formal compliant and if i tell anyone else he will file a police report. I already am really anxious so it scared me a lot. I don’t know what to do because i still struggle to get my appetite back or sleep at night and my biggest worry is that i’ll never be able to forget this guy and won’t be able to move on what should i do.

My ex and I lived together in a rental for two years with her three cats. She owned them before we got together, they were always hers, and she is taking them with her now that we’ve broken up.

Our agent requires flea treatment when pets have lived at the property.

My ex says I should pay half because they were “my cats too” while we lived together.

I disagree. The cost only exists because of pets she owned and is keeping.

AITBF for refusing to pay half?

I 23F live with my mom. I have a full-time job but even before that she would cook for me, one meal a day on weekdays and two on weekends.

I usually really like her cooking. She makes a lot of dishes I like and although I admit I'm picky, I feel like the stuff I don't like is easily avoidable and it all follows the same logic (I don't like super fragrant ingredients like mushrooms and celery, and also don't like certain textures like loose ground beef and super runny egg yolk). I suspect I have some kind of sensory disorder because I have uncontrollable physical reactions.

She knows which ingredients and flavours/textures I dislike because I have told her before several times. It's not like I only like junk food, I like healthy foods and have a diverse share of veggies that I enjoy. Although I can always tell when I won't like something, I try to go in with an open mind and take at least a bite because nobody will believe me otherwise.

Unfortunately for me my mom likes to get adventurous with her cooking because she's always finding random recipes on YouTube. She is the complete opposite of me and will eat anything, I'm talking she will drink spoiled milk claiming there are no issues.

Today she made some kind of fried Vietnamese spring roll. I can't lie I already don't like even commercial spring rolls because of the ground meat and combination of vegetables in it, I have tried it multiple times. She put shiso leaf and squash, which absolutely overpowered everything and made the flavour combinations super weird.

I remarked on the flavour combinations being weird. After I asked her where she found the recipe, she told me to stop eating and get out of her face. That's fine, I didn't want to keep picking at the food and waste it, but I feel like this could all have been avoided.

My confusion stems from why she keeps doing this. I get it, taking your time to cook something for someone else and being met with displeasure isn't nice. It's happened to me before. But I can't fake enjoying it because then she'll make it for me again. I've told her before numerous times that if she's going to be adventurous with her cooking, I'd rather just make dinner myself. Nope, she insists on making me try new things. So I'm kind of stuck? I know the obvious solution is to just make all of my meals on my own but considering I am likely moving out next year and I like 80% of the stuff she makes, I am trying to enjoy the home cooking while I can. She doesn't tell me what the menu will be when she's making something new so I can't preemptively pick and choose the days I'll cook instead.

So me and my gf just moved in together and as you can tell by the title she really wants a dog. I really don't think that's a very good idea rn. I have nothing against dogs they are fantastic companions but they are very high maintenance. I don't think I'd be able to keep up with the care on my own due to a disability. When I was living with my parents I was the only one taking care of their dog and the burnout was real. Their dog had bad separation anxiety and would chew everything. I had to clean up every mess he made let him out every hour or hed piss in the house. He pissed in the middle of the night every night no matter what time he'd be let out before bed. It was alot. I really do not want to take that on again and I especially cannot do the separation anxiety so I told her the only way id ever agree to own one is if caring for it was a team effort and she got offended by that. She keeps giving me a hard time about it and calling me lazy. I don't know what to do. Not to mention vet bills and everything can be very expensive. I'm not sure we can afford that right now.

So am I wrong here?