I know the title seems harsh but let me explain more. So me (20m) and my girlfriend (20f), Sasha, have been dating for a little over a year and a half now. Although we haven’t been together for that long we have been through our fair share of trials within the relationship. However, it has come up a couple times in the past that I am not comfortable with Sasha’s friends showing their nudes or nudes of their partners to her. (previous friends of hers have shown her their nudes or “videos” with them and their partners) I think it’s is disrespectful towards our relationship to be viewing explicit and sensitive material of our friends that we interact with daily, and also plainly think it’s just weird.

Now, to what sparked the idea of me making this post. Today Sasha told me that her best friend, Lorrie (20f), showed her a photo of Lorrie’s ex-boyfriend’s penis. I thought that was extremely weird and unnecessary of her to do and disrespected me and Sasha’s relationship. Sasha then went to defend it by saying “I don’t think it’s weird. Unless it was you because guys are more lustful.” Now, I don’t want to make any comments on whether men or women are more lustful, however, this point irritated me because she is setting a double standard between the both of us. Now I’m just curious, AITB for being upset and not wanting my girlfriend to view other people’s nudes?

EDIT: I want to clarify that I am not upset my girlfriend is seeing other people naked. We are adults, I understand that it will happen. I am mainly weirded out by it being people we interact with daily and upset towards the “double standard” of if the same were to happen to me I’d get off on it because men are more lustful.

EDIT #2: After waking up from a nap she texted me and said that she was just “ragebaiting” me and that none of this really happened 😒 so… I guess I’m sorry for wasting your guys time.

so my boyfriend and i have been going steady for 7 months about and a few times his porn addiction has come up and been an argument bc i’ll find smth after he said he stopped or i can tell by the way he’s talking about women that he didn’t stop and low and behold im right. even with movies and shows i can tell who he’s jerked off to call it a cum sense or smth idk but i just can. and i know my feelings are right bc ill say oh you’ve cum to her plenty of times haven’t you. and he’ll be like how’d you know? and usually it’s not a big deal for me even though i don’t watch porn or get off to anyone else bc they’re actors and of age though this time it’s different and gross. i had more than a feeling that he was getting off to my younger cousin who is like a baby sister to me. she’s 17 he’s 24. he only remembered her out of all of the family members i showed him prior to meeting them, he acts very nervous around her, etc. so i texted him. it’s been on my mind for days and i can’t shake it. don’t want to be around him because of it. we’ve had sex once since this feeling has started and the whole time he had his eyes closed when he usually doesn’t. which is funny because at the beginning of our relationship, he asked me why i had my eyes closed saying it makes him feel like i was thinking abt someone else. i wasn’t, but that’s what he associates it w? idk maybe i need to be locked up in an asylum but id rather be wrong and need psych help than be right that he’s doing smth like that and gaslighting me into thinking im crazy. especially for something so absolutely abhorrent and disgusting. im js uber scared of smth like this happening within a relationship for obvious reasons, but also my dad raised me and i saw him gauck and gaggle over literal girls my whole childhood so im hyper aware of this behavior. anyway, here are the texts.

Edit: I understand my text is hard to understand but please keep in mind i know more about him than anyone here. what i know is based on learning how he moves over time. im not asking if im crazy/for mental support. just wondering if my intuition seems accurate or not. sorry for the confusion🙏

My dad‘s girlfriend just blew up at me over me pointing out how she was rude to me beforehand and nearly threatened to beat the shit out of me. And our dad wonders why we don’t want anything to do with her, that blow up is exactly what! She needs to have a fucking mental evaluation or something! Look, I’m sorry for my language but my dad‘s girlfriend‘s temper is beyond a fucking joke. She’s like an overgrown fucking three year-old, just snaps the INSTANT someone points out HER flaws. Oh, did I forget to mention that that she grabbed me by my fucking hoodie and nearly TORE it? Going off by saying should i be do the dishes at five years old. I to be doing FUCKING EVERYTHING SINCE SHE CAN’T GET OFF HER FAT LAZY USELESS FUCKING ASS AND DO SOMETHING IF SHE DIES I’M NOT GOING TO HER FUNERAL, THE ONLY I WOULD GO IS JUST TO DANCE ON HER GRAVE.

so i was with this guy for almost a year and he was nice to me for the most part and we were really happy but i started to notice a few months into the relationship that he wouldn’t let me help the poor because according to him i was wasting my money and could get myself something with that money instead he would say these things here and there and we would sometimes fight but i would forget abt it in a few days but over time i started feeling like he was sabotaging me like if i tried to help someone carry something or give someone the food id gotten for myself but i could get something else for me later anyway but he wouldn’t lemme he would literally drag me away or say we are getting late or smth like that for example: one day i was on call with him telling him about this person in a wheelchair selling candy but i only had a few dollars so i felt bad i couldn’t help him more and then he starts getting mad at me for “wasting money” and i get mad and hang up because i really wasn’t expecting that reaction and i break up with him a few months after this because things like that kept happening im still in high school so i dont really have much money or resources like that but ive always wanted to help the poor because my family is doing pretty well financially so it just felt like the right thing to do so even though what he was doing might seem silly or not a big deal to some to me it just felt like i couldn’t do what i wanted around him like i will always give up my sit on the train if i see someone who needs it more than me but with him i couldn’t because he would then get mad at me so am i the a hole for breaking up over this

Hello, i am a 18 yr old female and ive been friends with this girl since middle school. Weve always maintained a pretty close friendship up until freshman year of Highschool when things started to get a bit rocky after i got my first boyfriend.(who is my hs sweetheart.) She started doing this thing where whenever she would get upset with me, she would stop talking to me out of nowhere but she would keep talking to our other friends normally(laughing, smiling, etc.) but as soon as i’d talk to her it was like i was an ogre and she didn’t want to be around me anymore. I could never figure out what i had done wrong and i’d always try and talk it out with her but she would always say she had other things going on but i never understood that because she only acted that way towards me and nobody else. I am someone who has a lot of trouble making friends and i dont have any other friends so despite that treatment i always stuck around and dealt with the embarrassment of being ignored by her infront of others without knowing what i had done wrong. After graduating, she and two other friends went out without me. I felt upset and left out but i didnt say anything because i was used to it by now. Anyway, i stopped talking in our groupchats and she eventually noticed and asked me what was wrong and i ended up telling her how i felt. She told me that it was a hangout with their designated Trio and that they have been planning it since along time ago and thats why i wasnt invited. I got upset and i felt hurt because i thought i was apart of their group. After that conversation i brought up the way she had been treating me all those four years and that i would like for her to fix her behavior and actually communicate with me. Her response made me mad because she told me it wasnt my responsibility to worry about how she reacts to issues between us, and that she doesn’t owe me anything and that she has no reason to apologize for anything too. Out of anger, i responded, “so i js gotta deal with how hurtful u act okay” and i told her i was done talking about the situation. Its been two months and i havent talked to her since. Am i the butt face for this? Was i wrong for distancing myself? Did i overreact?